it makes me feel validated in my life choices

LIFE AFTER SURGERY:

As I sit here with my hands hovering above my keyboard, I’m realizing that I’m not entirely sure what I should say.
I’m honestly not certain that I could say anything that would adequately summarize what this surgery has been like for me.
I can, however, state (with some certainty) that one can never be fully prepared for this sort of thing.
Regardless of whether or not you want it to occur, genital reconstruction and surgical castration are both immensely difficult things to cope with.
Giving up any chance of having your own biological children can be devastating even if you don’t foresee it in your future. Surgery doesn’t fix the problems you experience in your day to day life, nor should you expect it to, and in a strange sense, I have found that surgery can feel an awful lot like trading one set of insecurities for another.
This isn’t to say that surgery hasn’t been a positive experience. I have always personally considered bottom surgery to be the “ending point” of my transition, and thus I have found peace in feeling as though I finally get to move forward with my life. Oddly enough I find myself leaping eagerly toward the option of a life of “normality”.
When I first came out, my goal wasn’t to live a life surrounded by the transgender community and it’s media.
I never really wanted to live my life with the added label of being transgender, I simply wanted the world to see me as I saw myself.
Now more than ever I feel as though I get to live the life I always wanted. I feel as though a tremendous weight has been lifted and I know I am incredibly fortunate to have reached this point.

TL;DR
Sometimes making the right choice and making the hard choice are one in the same. I have never felt more validated in my life, but I have also never experienced anything nearly as painful.

Almost Adults Fanfiction Update

Progress as of September 28th, 2017: Hello, fellow creampuffs! How was everybody’s day? Did you talk to that cute barista you’ve had a crush on for a while? Or failed miserably on a test? Or made a new friend? I hope it was well! I have news! Exciting, wonderful news! I have officially written the first draft of my fanfiction!! Whoope! *throws confetti*  I have a pretty clear goal with what I want to portray to you guys after listening to you all and writing down your requests for the story.  Shout out to @fuck-you-i-am-spiderman and @carmillaisabottom for listening me rant about this for hours on end. 

I also suppose now would be an appropriate time to reveal the title for this lovely story! The title is… drum roll please… 

Originally posted by gaming4leukemia

**CASSIE’S CHOICE!**   

    Yup! While I’m glad you all adored the other two titles I had in mind, Cassie’s Choice won the popular vote. So yay! I’m so grateful you all are excited! So am I to be writing this Fanfiction! 

Originally posted by phannerd35

So here’s a few things I’d like to share with you to give you a good idea on what I’ve come up with! 

I’ve decided to have the fanfiction be set in Toronto, Canada, in January of 2016. Since the characters are in their senior year of college, so Cassie is 22, Mack is 22, Elliot is 21, Levi is 23, and Mathew will be 26. 

Also, side note, I’ve decided to have Levi be asexual for some ace representation! I hope ya’ll are okay with this! And Cassie, as mentioned previously, will discover that she’s bisexual! Mackenzie is our baby lesbian :3 

Also, also, Elliot will not be a romantic interest for Mack. She’ll simply be there to help her get together with Cassie, and be a good friend so they could bond over their coming out experiences. Cassie will start to get jealous because she thinks something is going on with them, when there’s no romantic feelings what so ever XD 

I feel like I need to reiterate this again as a closing note: I am in no way writing this to insult the creators and the movie, Almost Adults. This is in no way “re-writing” or “fixing” it. (Please, please don’t take offense; this is purely for me to challenge the way I write and improve). I am writing this for the fans, for the community, because ya’ll are amazing and I want to give something back to you for everything that you’ve done for me. Think of this as my giant gift to you for being awesome! I love you all, and you deserve to have something like this that we’ve all worked together on. 

Think of Cassie’s Choice as a parallel universe to Almost Adults; any coincidence between real life people or characters are purely coincidental. ((I’m just glad to be the one to make it significantly gayer, haha!)) 

Welp, that’s all I can gather from my brain right now, I just thought I’d keep you folks updated! I’m so grateful for all the love and support with this new project of mine! 

Originally posted by litafire

I hope you’re having a lovely day, evening, night, wherever you are in the world! Know that you are loved and valid. Message me whenever you feel like it! I love being bothered :) 

anonymous asked:

Hello I was just wondering how u found out ur aromantic cuz I think I might be aro but I am not sure

I found out about aromanticism sometime around February or March of last year, soon after researching asexuality. I couldn’t find many articles about it, or information beyond the “doesn’t experience romantic attraction” definition, and that was a real problem for me. “Romantic attraction” is so subjective and hard to define that it’s unhelpful for a lot of people, especially since aro folks have no internal experience of it.

What I needed was discussion about aromantic people’s experiences, what it’s like to live as an aro person, and an aromantic community that I could hang out in and learn from. There’s not much out there yet, and even the Tumblr aromantic community is small and disorganized. But I highly suggest reading aro bloggers’ posts about their feelings, problems and experiences. I’ve also contributed a few articles on this topic.

But I didn’t have those things available at the time, so here’s what I did instead: I spent several months going “???” and waffling about it. Like many people, I was reluctant to “label myself” and wanted to be absolutely sure that an identity label was right for me before I started using it for myself.

But in reality, I never developed certainty about an identity label until after I had been using it for a while. I needed the experience of thinking of myself as an aromantic person in order to figure out that this identity felt right for me. So I encourage people to take labels “for a test drive”—try privately identifying as something for a few months, then you can re-evauate it and see if it still fits. If it does, great; if not, discard it and don’t worry about it.

Below the cut: discussion about different kinds of attraction, past experiences, and identity labels as a way of exercizing your autonomy.

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