Hello friend! So my friends have decided to hang out this weekend BUT they invited this girl that I absolutely cannot stand. Just being in the same room as her makes me want to scream! If I tell my friends about how I feel it's not like they would uninvite her or anything. Should I hangout with them even though I most likely won't have a good time or just not go?
If the wisest person, the most enlightened person came to you and say: I’ll show the way to peace and how to awaken, if you just spend time with me, would you? Would you take time out of your day to hang out with that person and learn what they had to teach you? That girl is that person. That girl is your teacher and how to love and deal with your anger and frustration is the lesson, peace is the reward, awakening is the reward.
Let her drift away and just be with how she makes you feel. Feel it fully, you don’t have to scream, you can if you like, but feel. Feeling is the most important. Try to get the sense that she is just there and these feelings go are being pulled out of you by her. She is the catalyst for them, she is not the cause.
So, be with her and feel. Yes, your mind will come in and speak, that’s ok, yes it may not be easy, that’s ok too. Honor and respect those things that come up and bring a warm embrace to them. Doing this you’ll be show something new, something will begin to open up and things will start to shift, maybe not right away, bit it will plant a seed. And that seed can grow.
If she is abusing you, you can stand up for yourself, you can always stand up for yourself and if she is abusing you, she isn’t your teacher and you should give her physical space and not be with her.