it makes me feel like i should be some kind of mature person who can look after themselves

anonymous asked:

Hey, you're awesome, thanks for existing, basically ^_^ Anyway, I wanted to know if you have any tips on how to write different personalities? My characters (all of them) always end up with the same default personality that I fall back on. Thanks!

Thanks for your question, darling!  I think most of us have struggled with this – after all, we’re conditioned to one way of thinking, feeling, and acting for as long as we live.  That doesn’t necessarily mean we write characters like ourselves, though.  In fact, many of us have a “default character” that’s sassier than we are, sweeter than we are, or in some way different enough from us that we still feel like we’re writing a character.

The problem, then, isn’t that we can’t visualize a different personality than ours.  On the whole, we can.  What we’re missing are the small details that make it feel whole – otherwise, it’s like painting the same room six different colors and trying to pass it off as six different rooms.  Different dominant traits can’t hide the fact that you’re working with one template!

So the question we’re left with: what are the traits we’re missing?  And how can we change them to create a unique and whole personality?

Three Types of Character Traits

There are, as the title suggests, three major categories of personality traits as I see it: fundamental traits, acquired traits, and detrimental traits.  A well-rounded character needs some of each to be three-dimensional and realistic.

Fundamental Traits

The fundamental traits of a person’s character are not as simple as interests and preferences; they are the very base of all decisions and desires.  They are either learned in early life or developed over a long period of time, rooting deeply into the personality.  A few examples of fundamental personality traits include:

  • Upbringing – The word choice here is conscious, as upbringing encompasses many different aspects of a person’s development.  Consider who raised them, and with what morals and practices they were raised to adulthood.  Consider their influences, both familial, social, and in media; consider the relationships that were normalized during their development, as well as the living conditions (financially, emotionally, environmentally, etc.).  The people, places, emotions, and conflicts made common during a person’s developmental period are essential to their personality in adulthood.  This is why psychologists often draw present-day problems back to a person’s childhood memories – because those formative years can subconsciously dictate so much of a person’s future!
  • Values – These may not coincide with the values a person is raised to hold, but upbringing certainly has an influence on this. A person’s values will direct the course of their life through every decision, large and small.  You don’t need to outline everything your character believes is important – every moral and every law they agree/disagree with. But those values which stand above others will give your character purpose.  A few of my favorite examples are: Jane from Jane the Virgin (whose initial storyline is heavily based on her religion and desire for a beautiful love story, as well as her childhood influences who inspired these values) and Han Solo from Star Wars (whose character development rested upon his values shifting from money and gratification to more honorable things).
  • Beliefs – Different from values, beliefs are a more general set of guidelines for how a person believes things are supposed to be.  Beliefs can also be a source of great conflict, as a character tries to stay aligned with their beliefs despite other values or desires.  These beliefs can be established systems, like religion or politics; they can also include more personal belief systems, like nihilism or veganism.  A characters beliefs, like their values, can change over the course of the story – but even if a character is questioning one system of belief, like religion or pacifism, they should have other belief systems in place to govern some of their activity.
  • Reputation – A lot of human activity, whether consciously or not, is dictated by how others perceive them (or how they believe others perceive them).  There are two types of reputation: personal and passing.  For instance, a woman named Sally who gains a personal reputation of sleeping around will behave in reaction to this reputation – either sleeping around because everyone already expects it of her, or specifically not hooking up because she wants to shake this reputation, or developing a thicker skin to deal with the rumors until it passes.  A man named Billy who, because of his tattoos, bears a passing reputation as an intimidating man will either try to soften his demeanor with strangers, own up to the image, or at least learn to expect judgment from strangers as a consequence.
  • Self-Image – Also relevant to a person’s behavior is the way they perceive themselves, which can often have little to do with their reputation.  A lot of self-image is based on definitive moments or phases in the past.  For instance: for several years after I started wearing contacts and cutting my hair, I still saw myself, in dreams at night, with long hair and glasses.  One of my friends, similarly, could not seem to notice when boys would flirt with her during sophomore year – because she still saw herself as an awkward middle schooler with braces, and not as the charming cheerleader with the great smile.
    Inversely, self-image can be inflated, causing character to behave as though they are funnier, smarter, or more prepared than they truly are (see: the rest of my sophomore acquaintances).  This can be an overlooked character flaw opportunity – or flawportunity…

Originally posted by alliefallie

Acquired Traits

Now we move on to the acquired traits of personality, which are the ones you’re more likely to find on a character sheet or a list of “10 Questions for Character Development”, alongside a million other things like their zodiac sign and their spirit animal.  But the traits I’m about to outline are a little more relevant to a character’s behavior, and more importantly, how to make this behavior unique from other characters’ behavior.  The following traits will be learned by your characters throughout their life (and their story), and are more likely to shift and grow with time:

  • Interests – I know, I had to reach deep down into my soul to think of this one.  But it’s true!  Interests, both in childhood/adolescence and in adulthood, are an important part of a character’s personality and lifestyle.  Childhood interests both reveal something about the character (for instance: my nephew loves trains, Legos, and building, suggesting a future interest in construction or engineering) and create values that can last for a lifetime.  Current interests affect career choice, social circles, and daily activity for everyone.  Forgotten or rejected interests can be the source of pet peeves, fears, or bad memories. There’s a reason I’ll never play with Polly Pockets again, and it 100% has to do with bloody fingertips and a purse that wouldn’t open.
  • Sense of Humor – This can be a little hard to define, understandably.  If you were to ask me what my sense of humor is, I’d probably start with a few stupid memes, pass by Drake & Josh on the way, and somehow wind up telling you bad puns or quoting Chelsea Peretti’s standup comedy. A person’s sense of humor can be complex and contradictory!  Sometimes we just laugh at stuff because someone said it in a funny way.  But anyway, to help you boil this down to something useful: take a look at a few kinds of comedy and relate it to your character’s maturity level.  Do they laugh when someone lets out a toot?  Are they the kind of person to mutter, “That’s what she said,” or simply try not to laugh when something sounds dirty?  Can puns make them crack a smile?  Do they like political humor?  Do cat videos kill them?  Is their humor particularly dark?  Can the mere sound of someone else laughing make them laugh?  Figure out where your character’s sense of humor is, and you’ll feel closer to them already.
  • Pet Peeves – For every interest a person may have, and everything that makes them laugh, there’s something else that can piss them off, large- or small-scale.  Are they finnicky about their living space and neatness? Do they require a lot of privacy? Do certain sounds or behaviors drive them crazy?  What qualities are intolerable in a romantic interest for them? What kind of comments or beliefs make them roll their eyes?  If you need help, just try imagining their worst enemy – someone whose every word or action elicits the best eye-rolls and sarcastic remarks and even a middle finger or two – and ask yourself, what about this person makes them that mortal enemy?  What behaviors or standards make them despicable to your character?  That’s all it takes.
  • Skills – Everybody has them, and they’re not just something we’re born with.  Skills can be natural talent, sure, but they’re also cultivated from time, values, and interests.  What is your character okay at?  What are they good at?  What are they fantastic at?  Maybe they can cook.  Maybe they have a beautiful eye for colors.  Maybe they have an inherent sense of right and wrong that others admire. Maybe they’re super-athletic or incredibly patient or sharp as a tack or sweet as a cupcake.  Maybe they know how to juggle, or maybe they’re secretly the most likely of all their friends to survive a zombie apocalypse.  Where do they shine?  What would make someone look at them and think, “Wow, I wish I were them right now”?
  • Desires – A good way to “separate” one character from the next is to define what it is they want, and then use every other detail to dictate how they pursue that goal.  Every real person has a desire, whether they’ve defined it or not – whether it’s something huge, like fame or a family of five with triplet girls and a beach house on an island, or something small, like good grades for the semester.  These desires can cause a person to revise their values or forsake their morals; and these desires can conflict with other people’s desires, influencing how people interact with each other.  Remember that every character is living their own story, even if it’s not the story you’re telling.
  • Communication Style – A majorly overlooked character trait in pop fiction is unique communication styles.  Having every character feel comfortable arguing, or bursting out with the words, “I love you,” is unrealistic.  Having every character feel paralyzed at the idea of confronting a bully or being honest to their spouse is also unrealistic.  There should be a healthy mix of communicators in a group of characters. Some people are too softspoken to mouth off at their racist lab partner.  Some people wouldn’t see their girlfriend kissing another guy and just walk away without saying something.  Some people just don’t react to conflict by raising their voice; some people enjoy sharing their opinions or giving the correct answer in class.  Boldness, social skills, and emotional health all have a part to play in how people communicate their thoughts – so keep this in mind to create a more realistic, consistent character.
  • Emotional Expression – Along the same lines but not the same, emotional expression is more focal on feelings than thoughts.  If you’ve ever heard of the fight-or-flight response, the different types of anger, the stages of grief, or the five love languages, then you’re aware of different “classifications” of emotional expression and management.  Read up on some of those things, and think about how your character handles emotions like happiness, sadness, fear, anger, loneliness, paranoia, and so forth.

Detrimental Traits

While acquired traits are certainly more enjoyable to brainstorm during the creation process, detrimental traits are as important – or even more important – to the character’s wholeness as well as their role in the story.  Not only do these negative or limiting traits make your character realistic, relatable, and conflicted – they create a need for other characters and their strengths to move the plot forward.  A few examples of detrimental traits include:

  • Flaws – Character flaws are probably the first thing that came to your mind while reading this, but they’re the essence of the category.  Flaws in a character’s personality, morality, or behavior can be a source of character development; they set an individual on their own path and provide a unique motivation for them.  Having Character A struggle with sobriety while Character B learns to be a more patient mother can do a lot to separate their stories and personalities from each other.  Even if certain flaws don’t reach a point of growth, they create a third aspect to personality and force us, as writers, to be more creative with how our characters get from Point A to Point B, and what they screw up along the way.
  • Fears – Everyone has fears, whether we’re conscious of them or not – and I’m not talking about phobias or “things that give you shivers”.  Just like everyone has a primary motivation throughout life (romance, family, success, meaning, peace of mind, etc.), everyone has a fear behind that motivation (loneliness, failure, emptiness, anxiety).  We all have something we don’t want to happen places we never want to be and things we never want to do.  We’ve all been in situations that mildly bothered others but wildly affected us at the same time.  For me, it’s a lack of autonomy, or in any way being forced to do something or be somewhere against my will.
    What does this mean for me?  It means that when other people have nightmares about being chased by an axe murderer, I have nightmares about being kidnapped and locked up.  It means that I’m continually aware of my “escape plan” if something goes wrong in my living situation, and I’m hypersensitive to someone telling me, “You have to do this.”  It means I struggle to follow rules and usually don’t get along with authority figures because I have to assert my independence to them.  It’s irrational and continual and doesn’t just affect me in one situation; it subconsciously directs my steps if I let it.  That’s how real, guttural fears work. Phobias are only skin deep, and they don’t make you feel any closer to the character.

Originally posted by giantmonster

  • Secrets – Even goody two-shoes Amber from the swim team, with her blonde blonde hair and her good good grades, has a secret.  Everybody does, even if it’s not a purposeful, “I have a deep, dark secret,” sort of secret. We have things we don’t tell people, just because they’re embarrassing, or painful, or too deep to get into, or they don’t paint us in a good light.  While the secrets themselves tell a lot about a person, so do the reasons a person keeps a secret.  Hiding something out of shame suggests a person is prideful, or critical of themselves, or holds themselves to a higher standard than they hold others.  Hiding something painful suggests that the person struggles to handle sadness or regret, or that they feel uncomfortable showing raw emotion in front of loved ones. And so on and so forth.
  • Conflict – Whether internal, interpersonal, legal, moral, societal, or what have you, conflict will limit your character’s actions at every turn.  A story is nothing without conflict driving the plot in different directions and causing your character to rethink both their plans and their lifestyle.  Without Katniss’s moral conflict over killing other tributes, The Hunger Games would be the story of a girl who entered an arena, killed a lot of people, and lived the rest of her life rich and comfortable.  If Luke Skywalker didn’t have interpersonal conflict with Darth Vader, Star Wars would be the war-story of a guy who joined a rebellion and then… yeah.
  • Health – Physical, mental, and emotional health is a huge limiting factor for characters that often goes untouched, but it’s valuable nonetheless.  Not everyone has a clean bill of health and can jump off trains without pulling a muscle, go through a traumatic life experience without any hint of depression or anxiety, or watch a loved one die in gunfire and shove right on without emotional repercussions. Consider creating a character who’s not perfect – who isn’t perfectly in-shape or abled, or neurotypical or stable day-to-day, or completely clean and clear of residual heartache, unhealthy relationships, or bad emotional habits.  Don’t define them by these traits, of course – but don’t feel that you can’t write a character with health issues without writing a “sick character.”

So this post got ridiculously long, but I hope it works as a reference for you when creating unique characters.  Remember that you don’t need to outline all of this information to create an individual, realistic character.  These are just some relevant ideas to get you started!  It’s up to you, as the writer, to decide what’s necessary and what’s excessive for your creative process.

Still, I hope a majority of this is helpful to you!  If you have any more questions, be sure to send them in and we’ll get back to you :)  Good luck!

- Mod Joanna ♥️

If you need advice on general writing or fanfiction, you should maybe ask us!

I watched Joe’s live stream so you don’t have to (play by play reactions)

- announcement is a 24 hour livestream on ThatcherJoeVlogs on Friday starting at 6:00pm UK time (1:00pm EST) ft guests and Joe signing a lot of Username:Uprising

- I wish I had friends I could have a sleepover with and watch the livestream dude that would be so fun

- throwback to #1Dday I couldn’t even last seven hours with One Direction how the hell am I gonna do 24 hours with YouTubers

- just kidding I’m about to be dedicated as fuck

- Jack and Joe from 12:00-3:00 am

- #unpopularopinion I like Joe’s mustache

- my poor baby and his infected gums he was so ill he almost passed out whenever he ate cuz the pain as so bad fuck I want to hug him

- Joe speaking foreign languages is my aesthetic (and it reminds me that I really need to brush up on my spanish)

- “I’m trying to set up other things for the future cuz, you know, you never know how long this whole YouTube thing is gonna last before I’m back on the ol’ roof”

- “it’s getting to the point where I really do want a girlfriend”

- well I’ve always been at the point where I want to be your girlfriend so I don’t understand why this is such a predicament for you when I’m always available so quit complaining and hit me up

- no but really I want him to be happy and I think he would be so happy in a relationship so he’s just gotta get someone awesome

- (like I wasn’t mad when Caspar got with Maddie cuz she’s great so Joe needs someone great)

- main channel might become a lower priority in the future

- “And I’ll see you in the future with a Sugg Sunday Special. Who knows when it’ll be. I don’t wanna say that there’s gonna be an end to Sugg Sunday but… I don’t know. I’m not as fussed about that channel as much, which is a shame cuz that’s my main channel. I don’t know it’s been so nice to have a week […] where I haven’t thought about that kind of stuff”

- obviously the idea of irregular Sugg Sunday Specials is sad but the idea of Joe putting out things because he feels obligated to and not because he enjoys them is even more sad

- “Wow that was deep whoa I went off! That’s what happens when Harry Styles starts playing music I start talking about proper stuff that I don’t normally speak about”

- yes, Harry Styles’ album was playing in the background throughout the entire livestream

- Kiwi is his favorite song (I shit you not that’s my favorite too it’s such a bop)

- serious Joe makes my heart feel warm

- he wants to raise a family in the countryside omg raising kids in the countryside he’s a country boy at heart

- “No iPads, no YouTube, no YouTube until you’re 12″

- “The dream is be able to have a lake and my dad can live in a little cave in the garden and look after the lake”

- honestly I love Joe wow


- “We started it as like a little internal thing that we called ourselves and it spread and people call us the buttercream squad and I’m just like ugh it makes me like cringe out a bit whenever I hear it even though it’s what we call ourselves I guess. I don’t really call it that anymore”

- he starts the story of how they started to call themselves that at 28:38 of the video I’m not even going to try and summarize it ya’ll should just watch that bit

- okay but him, Conor, Caspar, and Mikey were the original four and that is so fucking random to me

- for some reason I just got really bummed out that he doesn’t like that name like okay Joe I literally have a blog dedicated to it so what the fuck am I supposed to do now

- he said none of them expected anyone else to start calling it that

- literally you’re all Internet sensations you should’ve known it was gonna get blown up when you gave yourself a name so honestly you brought this upon yourself lmao


- also Byron is a member of their squad and literally none of us even talk about him/know him

- (side not Byron is hot as hell)

- I’m dead at how we all cling to whatever they say like the SECOND they tagged #buttercream on a photo we all went off

- I’m have an existential crisis wow

- “I just miss Jaspoli. That was my favorite, back in those days”



- he wants a pet pig ??

- he’s gonna hang out with Brit soon !

- I ship him and Brit I have since the Jaspoli Coachella days (#unpopularopinion ??)

- literally the second I typed that he made a comment about it oh sorry sorry didn’t know that was a touchy subject

- reminder once again that I am single and available

- okay but they FaceTime every week for hours and that’s goals ???

- my jaw dropped at this bit he said he wants to stop going on nights out and start going to dinner parties and such, that he’s done with the night scene

- I thought he was joking but he was dead ass serious oh my god he’s growing up that felt weird to hear him say that

- “when the time’s right and it’s the right person” he’s a romantic person

- 52:58 through 53:05 is a joy

- “I’m a giver, not a receiver, take that as you will”

- he keeps getting shaky and he thinks it’s because he hasn’t eaten all day and it really worries me

- he’d like to live with both Oli and Josh (separately) and says that they’re both very mature

- his favorite YouTubers are the Sidemen and Caspar

- someone told him to collab with Kian and JC and he completely ignored it lmao


- “I feel like I’ve watched him grow from like a little baby seed to like an oak tree. To see him do so well for himself now and he’s in a position where he’s just loving it and I’m so proud of him. I feel like a proud older brother and he’s said he sees me as like an older brother. We’ve had a lot of heart to hearts and stuff and he’s so good for advice. Even though he’s like my younger brother I go to him for advice a lot of the time cuz he’s been doing YouTube longer than I have and he’s just very knowledgeable about everything and he’s very sincere he cares about people a lot he puts others before him a lot of the time and he’s a genuine friend for life”


- it takes him a long time to open up to people, he’s usually quite shy when he meets people for the first time unless there’s that instant “chemical spark”

- he talked about being nice to people and compared life to climbing up a tree and how you should be nice to everyone you pass on your way up because if you’re not and then you start to drop, the people you pass won’t be there to grab your hand and stop you from falling

- in girls he looks for someone who doesn’t take themselves too seriously, not too obsessed about themselves

- obviously first attraction is important but ultimately it’s about the personality (said every guy ever tbh) and then mentioned how if looks are that important to you it means you probably care more about how other people perceive you and your girlfriend than how you feel about your girlfriend herself

- “I want to find someone who can only add something to my life. Someone who improves my life and makes me a happier person. At the moment I’m a really happy person so anyone who has that affect to make it better is the one for me”

- reminder once again that I am single

- like I’m not drop dead gorgeous but I’ve got some stuff to offer I have nice eyes and good hair and my personality is great aside from the occasional down periods due to mental illness but you know we all have our flaws

- he talked seriously quite a bit in the stream and I’m really digging it I like serious Joe

- someone asked for advice on having a crush on your ex and he talked about moving on because it’s probably not good for you but then he said “unless you think they were the one”

- one of the best relationships he’s ever been in has been with someone older than him

- “Maybe I need to go for a cougar. Any 40 year old ladies?”

- *awkward laugh* “I’ve just admitted to a live stream that I’m after a mum. No I’m only joking. Imagine that I could end up being your dad”

- Poop Scoop with Brit on Friday

- he’s in no rush to have children

- “I’m fortunate enough to act like an immature child and get away with it a lot of the time”

- he doesn’t really want to settle down/get married anytime soon because he meets new people everyday and the idea of getting really settled down scares him because he never knows who he’s going to meet the next day

- “that’s why I’ve never- well not that you know of- had any public relationships”

- what the hell does that mean Joseph

- “I’m very good at keeping it all under wraps”


- he’s literally so hungry he’s shaking Josh hurry up he needs food

- “I hope Caspar’s there cuz I haven’t seen him in bloody ages and I miss the ol’ boy. I miss the bloody weirdo”

- he loves livestreams because it’s the closest we can get to all sitting in a room together and “having a good ol’ standard chit chat”

- reminder of the 24 hour live stream on ThatcherJoeVlogs starting at 6:00pm UK time (1:00pm EST)

- “New vlog soon. New gaming video soon. I’m back. Don’t worry I’m not going anywhere. I’m still loving life. And more importantly, you’re all bloody legends.”

that was a lot there you go (or you could just watch the live stream idk)

also I wish I knew people who lived near me 😭 I would so fucking love to have a sleepover and make good friends and watch Joe

the law of attraction: my smol volley squad.

In response to Aki’s previous ask here, this is my small opinion/character analysis on what kind of person they’d fall for, how they would fall in love, and what kind of person would be best for my volley squad, based on what little i know about human beings and relationships in real life. Here goes!

Kuroo Tetsurou.

How They Fall: We can all agree that Kuroo’s pretty adept at reading people, picking out their underbelly and prodding at the right places. But it might be because of that acute observation that he doesn’t really listen to his gut very much (when it comes to attraction, he cares about rationality less when it’s with friends- when he doesn’t have a motive or goal). I feel like Kuroo would be the type who thinks he knows what he wants and goes for it, but somehow it doesn’t really click until it’s too late that he’s missing something, or he made a mistake (usually about himself, not the other person), and then he’s in a pickle, because he also doesn’t seem like the type to be able to discard people easily because he’s decided in his mind that this person is someone he chose, and he should bear the consequences.

However, I think Kuroo would be the wary type. He might find himself attracted to people easily (probably because he seems such an easy-going/flexible person), but it’s just a small electric shock kind of feeling, or a ‘oh, wow, they’re cute’, and because he knows himself to some extent, he brushes a lot of these feelings away because he thinks that it might just be a false alarm. But that’s just for attraction. I think for someone like Kuroo to really fall in love with someone, he’s level headed enough for it to be a slow and deep process. They’re more than just a significant other, this is someone he’s trusted in, he believes to have his back. I think they’d start off as friends, then very good friends, and perhaps after some soul searching, they become actually intimate confidants and perhaps one day Kuroo will realize that the reason why he hasn’t particularly been interested in other people lately is because everything he needs, he already has fulfilled in this one friend, one person. Precisely because Kuroo doesn’t seem like a fickle person, to me, he would fit the slow to trust, yet incredibly trusting and loyal once he opens up to you.

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hypocrisy in the air; a tire fire verse fic

title: hypocrisy in the air

pairing: unfulfilled percabeth, references to luke/annabeth, a hint of luke/percy, the barest whisper of percy/nico

rating: T - sexual references, canon level violence

word count: 1,417 words of manfight

premise: Luke survives the Battle of Manhattan. Percy and Annabeth intercede on his behalf despite a Complication of Feelings, and the gods agree to let him live on the condition that he remains tied to Camp Halfblood. Due to another Complication of Feelings, Percy and Annabeth are not together. 

rest of the verse can be found here or read on ao3

summary: where last we left off, Annabeth had just boned Luke (because that’s definitely how you stop yourself from thinking about your person), and Percy had just happened upon her leaving Luke’s house.

This is approximately 30% of the emotional fallout from that

The first thing Percy thinks when he sees Annabeth standing in Luke Castellan’s doorway is, oh. Because her hair is rumpled and falling over her face, and her shirt is like three sizes too big and slipping off one shoulder, and she looks relaxed in a way he can’t quite put his finger on, but hasn’t seen from her in too long.

She’s gorgeous, some part of him sighs wistfully, as the rest of him realises that she’s staring at him in horror, and starts to put the pieces together in a different fashion.

“Morning Percy,” she mumbles, ducking her head as she clutters down the stairs. Their shoulders brush when she passes him, and he thinks that she almost stops, half-turning towards him.

But then she’s gone and he’s left staring after her back and wondering what the fuck just happened.

You’re being paranoid, his brain supplies helpfully. There’s a perfectly reasonable explanation for all of this, you just haven’t had enough breakfast to figure it out yet.

“Sorry,” a voice says from behind him. “Would’ve warned you I had company, but you know Iris. She’s not exactly a fan of me these days.”

“Who is?” Percy snaps, resolving to put the whole incident out of his head. He’s not Annabeth’s keeper, he doesn’t control where she - okay, Luke isn’t wearing a shirt, and even from this distance Percy can see the red marks on his shoulder.

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Nunchi’s Trip to Exo’rdium

Buckle yourselves in guys this is a chaotic mess of emotions. 

The entire thing seemed to pass in a blur because it was just so surreal. 

It was definitely a journey.

Suho: “New York… Thank you for waiting for us.”

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On callouts, positivity, and fandom

I have spent most of the day (and night- I even slept on it) mulling over whether to post this or not- but in the end I feel like I should say something.

To those who don’t know, a fanfiction writer in our Miraculous Ladybug fandom, deleted her fic due to a callout post which caused a lot of people to swoop in and make vicious, nasty, downright rude comments- a callout post which was made before the OP even contacted the fic author to discuss her work! Luckily I saw some rational, kind arguments from both sides, so I haven’t lost all hope. But I will be addressing the negative sides of this debate.

I am not here to talk about the fic itself, I’m not here to discuss “but Midnight! It was problematic” nope. That’s not part of the discussion. I don’t give a damn because at the end of the day, all I saw was a kind person- trying their best- being bullied. One person against hundreds of people. That’s not fair. That’s not right. Imagine how you would feel if that were you? It should not be happening in our fandom. It would be different if this person was deliberately and willfully spreading vitriol and hatred, spreading problematic ideals with the kind of “eff off I do what I want, I’m right and you’re wrong” mentality I’ve seen others possess- and they had a large enough following to essentially “protect” them. That was not the case here. 

This was a case of someone with a large follower count not thinking through the consequences of their words or actions (but has realised as such now and somewhat apologised) and as a result of their callout, discourse, drama, and bullying happened.

I’m here to take a different approach- one of sympathy and compassion. You all know me, it takes a lot for me to get angry and I scarcely ever comment on things like this. Because I despise drama, discourse, or any other version of “shit stirring” as we Brits like to call it.

But this person? The fanfic writer who was vilified by certain people in fandom? Yeah. She happens to be someone I know- and I had to watch her be utterly humiliated in a public, shameful fashion. That- to me- is completely unacceptable. She is a sweet, kind, caring person new to the world of writing, who was trying really hard to improve despite the fact that English is her THIRD language. She is devastated. Ask yourself how you would feel if something like this happened to you?

And now she’s traumatised enough to feel like she never wants to try writing again, despite the fact that I knew full well she was trying to improve the story (talking to actual people who experienced the content she was trying to write) so she could handle the story in a more realistic way- before she was quite ruthlessly called out and became so upset and embarrassed that she just ended up deleting the whole thing, believing that nobody would like her work ever again and that her fanfic writing career is dead.

The sheer hypocrisy of this website astounds me sometimes. How we can so desperately want to “set a good example” for the young people who follow us, and then proceed to do something as thoughtless as starting a witch hunt against one person? How is that better? How does that improve things? How does it “set a good example” to the young people who follow us? You think something in a community is wrong so you proceed to bully someone until they run away? Great job! What ever happened to constructive criticism? That really made this a safe space didn’t it? NOT.

We, as a fandom, are better than this. We should be lifting each other up, not tearing each other down. See something problematic? Critique, discuss, educate. For the love of god we owe it to each other! The world is a shitty, scary place enough as it is without turning on someone who had good intentions but whose execution was skewed.

Lord knows I’ve been triggered by things before in the past. Horrendously triggered- back when trigger warnings weren’t a thing and there was no way to prepare myself. But I didn’t do anything like this because I was always aware that there’s someone on the other end on the screen. There’s a person there.

And that’s what some people forgot yesterday I think- that on the other side of the screen there was a human being- a human being with different experiences to you, different levels of what they find acceptable, a human being looking at the world from perhaps a different lens to yours and their writing reflected as such.

Fanfic writers, by nature, are an island to themselves. We very rarely have anyone filtering our work. It makes sense to call out films, tv shows, media meant for consumption, because those things were seen by tens, if not hundreds, of people before they went to the viewing/paying public- they had a chance to be edited/problematic points considered. Fanfiction writers don’t have that luxury- so perhaps we should be a little more forgiving no?

Fanfiction writers, just like fan artists, are a part of this community too. They are real people. And, as mentioned before, we should be DISCUSSING and critiquing problematic content like rational, mature adults, setting good examples for the generations after us.

This is the last I’m going to say on the matter before I drop it once and for all. Like I said in an earlier post- this blog is a blog of positivity, of sharing love and spreading happiness to all! I believe, and will ALWAYS believe, in making the Miraculous Ladybug fandom a place where people can feel safe, where we spread joy and lift each other up, where we help each other improve in ways we could never possibly dreamed. I didn’t see that yesterday and that’s a shame. But I know we can keep getting better guys! I know we can make it so something  like this doesn’t happen again. I’ve already talked to the OP of the callout post and it was nice and friendly, and civil in the way I expect this fandom to be. OP has publicly apologised for the nature of the callout post and I’m glad for that! See? It doesn’t have to be so drama-llama-ding-dongy! It can be talky-talky-good-good! ^O^

So let’s all take a deep breath, move on, and continue to make this fandom the best one on tumblr ok? ^_^

For @skiretehfox’s Siblings AU do I even need to explain myself? It’s three different Max(es) and they’re all related. I mean, I already love them individually but ALL of them TOGETHER? Fucking amazeballs and Max galore.

Triple Max

They’re triplets separated only by time or at least that’s how they introduce themselves to new acquaintances whenever they’re together. They could pass off as identical triplets if it weren’t for the differing hairstyles and height. But if you look closely, you’ll see the telltale freckles speckled on each of their faces, incriminating evidence of their bloodline. That and their inherent passion for photography.

“Always take the fucking shot.”

There’s Maximus, the eldest, she’s the prodigy who doesn’t give a shit. She’s a double major at the age of 22 who dabbles in law when she’s not cutting classes. The only perfect attendance she has on official record are all of her photohraphy classes but even then she zones out in class if it’s a lesson she’s already figured out on her own ages before. Maximus is not the most responsible academically but she makes up for it with pure talent and skills that make her formidable even outside of university.

She also holds the title for messiest hair among the siblings. It only adds to her handsomeness or so her admirers say. She has this aura that just naturally exudes power and authority. Just as much as she is dashing, she’s also intimidating and with good reason. She’s pretty much chill unless you piss her off. Do not piss her off and double do not mess with her sisters. She’s scary as fuck and with her skills, she will destroy you. The other two sisters look up to her as the protective bodyguard that has probably, if not already, killed a man.

“Ready for your close up, sweetheart?”

Up next is Maxine, second oldest, she’s the smooth talker who’s friends with everyone. She’s a theater major and a film producer at the age of 20 with an already bursting portfolio of indie films. Unlike her solitary sister, Maxine prefers to surround herself with people and genuinely enjoys their company. She’s the most fashionable out of the three but only because managing her wardrobe is part of the cinematography package or so she says.

She’s also the only sibling who grew their hair and without competition, her hair is just as smooth as her people skills. She could befriend even her worst enemies with just her suave charm. Although she comes off as easygoing, she can raise hell when pissed off. Again, do not piss her off and double do not mess with her sisters. She’s powerful as fuck and with her connections, she will destroy your reputation. The other two sisters rely on her as the social butterfly that can talk their way out of any situation.

“Wowsers, that’ll make an awesome photo!”

Lastly is Max, the youngest, she’s the doe-eyed pup who’s just trying to get by and get good photos. She’s in high school just like any other teenager but at the age of 18, she already shows enough promise for her to earn a scholarship at Blackwell Academy. Naturally, her course is photography, what else? Personally she thinks she doesn’t have anything that special when compared to her high achiever sisters but she doesn’t let that discourage her. She’s still young so maybe she just still hasn’t discovered what her specialty is yet.

Although if there is anything that comes close then maybe it’s her penchant for candid shots. Max can take the most ordinary selfies and candid shots of people and bring out a quality that’s normally unseen by any other photographer including her sisters. Two out of three vote that Max gets the best shots out of them and it would have been a consensus if she voted for herself. She’s not good with confrontations so she doesn’t fight but make no mistake, there are people willing to kill for her. She has two sisters, two! Do not piss her off and double do not mess with her. She’s innocent as fuck and with her sisters, she will unknowingly destroy your life. The other two sisters see her as the pure cinnamon roll that’s too good for this world.

It can get a little confusing when all three of their names are variations of Max but they’ve worked out a nickname system for themselves.

“Xim! Your shirt’s inside out again.” Maxine pointed out with a disapproving frown.

“I think it’s kind of cool how you don’t give a fuck.” Max comments from the sofa chair across them.

“See? Max gets me.” Maximus smirks while lazily sprawled on the couch.

“Don’t encourage her.” Maxine lightly chides the youngest and then turns to the eldest. “And you, try to be more presentable.”

“What’s the point? It’s just us at home and it’s not like you judge or I care. Mostly the latter.” Maximus simply shrugs off the reprimand.

“The point is that you should set a good example.” Maxine admonishes sternly and then sighs. “It’s bad enough that Max has already picked up on your swearing.”

“Hey, I kinda like how… liberating it feels to not hold back.” Max adds in her own thoughts.

“You heard the kid.” Maximus seconds the motion with her thumb up in Max’s direction. She then smiles smugly at Maxine who’s scowling. “She’s old enough and besides, it was going to happen anyways.”

“It’s alright, Xine. I promise I won’t pick up Xim’s worst habits.” Max says tentatively and even crosses over her heart for good measure.

“Don’t promise anything you can’t keep.” Maximus quickly quips.

“Oh, hush you!” And Maxine is quick to shoot her down. “Don’t corrupt our baby sister any more than you already have, Xixim.”

“The darkness is a free choice.” Maximus corrects her and then adds on, “It’s more fun on the dark side and everyone knows that for a fact. Plus people fear you. Afraid people means less social interaction, something your extrovert species won’t understand, Xinnie.”

“That is a pretty convincing sales pitch.” Max nods all too enthusiastically.

“Darkness is overrated nowadays.” Maxine huffs with crossed arms and refuses to be beaten so easily. “Why would you want to scare people away when they could be worshipping you? And with just a few words, they’d be at your beck and call.”

“And another convincing sales pitch.” Max nods again at the rebuttal. This is some high level argument ongoing and this is intellectual entertainment at its finest.

“See, that’s the deal breaker right there. Talking. Words.” Maximus airily retorts. She doesn’t even hold back as she openly mocks her own sister, “You’re the only person in this room who enjoys that, Xine.” She pauses just so she could turn up the smugness in her smile. “Face it, I’m Max’s favorite because I get her.”

Maxine’s eyebrows twitch slightly at the sudden redirection. Oh, it’s on. “Puh-lease, don’t even get me started.” She casually flips her luxurious hair and scoffs, “Who’s the one here who actually goes with her and has never missed an event? Well you’re right about me enjoying talking and that’s because I talk to her more than you do.” She gestures with her hand with the sassiest flair the house has ever seen. “Move over, we’ve bonded more.”

The two continue to bicker back and forth while the youngest watches silently, seemingly forgotten. Max isn’t sure at what point did this argument became about which sister is her favorite but she’s sure that she has to end it before it blood spills. Literally. She does not want a rerun of the bloodbath of 2010. As amazing as it is to see her two sisters duke it out with their incredible wits, it’s also deadly as fuck. Bloodstains are a pain in the ass to remove from the carpet.

So before it escalates from just bruised egos, Max plays it cool as the peacemaker. Again. It’s kind of ironic how her two older sisters act childish sometimes and she, the youngest, has to be the mature one.

“Well I think you’re both awesome!” Max cuts in between them like a samurai or so she imagines herself as one. She turns to the couch where Maximus is still lounging on. “Xim has this cool lone wolf vibe. She can get things done on her own and power through anything.” She looks at the doorway where Maxine is fashionably leaning on. “Xine has this amazing social butterfly gait. She can get people together and even create collaborative projects.” And then she addresses them both, “You two are awesome at what you do respectively. There’s no use comparing each other when what you do is unique. It’s not a competition. You’re both my favorite sisters in the whole world.”

The room falls silent after Max’s impromptu speech. Her two sisters are still staring at her and she’s starting to get self-conscious with every second passing. Until finally they move again but instead of talking, they’re clapping. It’s a slow clap that sounds full of approval and admiration. It makes Max blush with embarrassment.

Maximus wears a toothy smile. “Safe answer. Smart choice, kid.”

“Good call. Excellent show of conflict resolution skills!” Maxine beams brightly.

“T-Thanks…!” Max ducks her head shyly and they only clap harder. She has the faintest suspicion that they’re teasing her and she too can play this game. “But if I had to pick a favorite…” She lets the sentence hang in the air long enough for her two sisters to latch onto it. Hook, line and sinker. She smiles impishly when she continues, “Then maybe, just maybe, I’d probably— definitely go with the one who takes out the trash.”

Her two sisters smile back and they have this moment where it’s almost as if their minds are in synch. Then the moment collapses in on itself when the two burst out into laughter.

“Sorry Max but you’re on your own in this.” Maximus waved the offer. “It’s your turn today and I ain’t touching that crap unless you’re dying. Even then the only trash I’m taking out are the scumbags who hurt you.”

“Yeah, that’s not our call to make. The rules are meant to be followed.” Maxine states matter-of-factly. “And same. I’ve already handled last week’s filth and it’s only fair that you deal with this one. Although I could manipulate someone else to do it, I’d rather not.”

Max joins them, giggling. “Eh, it was worth a shot.”

Meet the Caulfield sisters, despite their differences, they get along pretty well. If it isn’t obvious from the freckles and their passion for photography, they’re basically triplets separated only by time.

myutsukushiifandom  asked:

Infpxintp relationship thoughts?

Well, INFPs and INTPs as friends are an interesting subject to me. I’ve done some reading on INFPs in long term relationships, because I’ve had a lot of people asking about INFPs + INTPs, and it seems to me that it would be a difficult relationship to pull off. 

Certainly an INFP/INTP friendship is hard to maintain. That is, INTPs don’t feel a need to communicate or keep talking with someone in order to maintain a relationship. To us, simply knowing that the person exists and is a friend is enough, and while we generally enjoy talking with our friends, we don’t have a deep-seated need to be in constant communication with them.

On the other hand, INFPs want their friends to confirm friendships. I think there’s a little bit of “I need confirmation!” in an INFP, and they can be hurt by perceived coldness.

Obviously the way to remedy this is for the INTP to be careful to communicate with the INFP. They should be talking to each other enough so that the INTP understands the INFP’s need for communication, and the INFP understands that the INTP simply doesn’t always get it. Basically, they really need to meet half-way on this issue.

Also, INFPs are focused, because of dominant Fi, on knowing themselves. They want to know who they are emotionally especially. INTPs aren’t so great at helping them get there. While INFPs and INTPs share many superficial interests (especially since both of them tend to have broad areas of interest), these interests are rarely enough to fuel a long-term friendship or romantic relationship. And since INFPs and INTPs are both slow to open up to others, it’s easy for that friendship to peter out before it gets deep enough to last a lifetime.

Generally speaking, INFPs are also very good at meeting people and making friends. They need plenty of alone time, but in company they are warm and friendly and a bit quirky, and that makes them fairly popular with just about everyone. INTPs, on the other hand, tend to be dry and dull in company unless they’re with their closest friends, and forming new relationships is one of their lifelong struggles.

This difference can be hard to work through, because the end result of it is that INTPs tend to be much more attached to the people they love than INFPs. That is to say, INFPs are very close, but INTPs are very close for a very long time. Because it’s hard for them to form relationships, they treasure the few they have all the more.

The thing is, an INTP and an INFP can only have so many friends at once. We are introverts, after all, and neither of these types can divide their time among everyone. Which means that as an INFP makes new friends, he allows old ones to slip away. This isn’t always the case, and a lot of younger INFPs would probably even deny this. However, as INFPs grow older they seem to invariably move on, and if they have been close with an INTP, that is going to be very hard on the INTP.

Conversely, the INTP may come across as too cold and logical. Even though we’re hopeless romantics (let’s face it; we are), INTPs struggle to show this, and our attempts to be emotionally open can look really childish, especially to someone as emotionally mature as an INFP. This can be difficult on INFPs, because after a while all that cold logic and childish antics just grates on their nerves. It would be kind of annoying to have to put up with a three-year-old all day. And that’s what INTPs come across as a lot of the time.

Now, I personally believe that any pairing of two personality types can work out, but some pairs work out easier than others. (I’m starting to think that an easy pair for an INTP would be another INTP, but I’m not sure yet.) Anyhow, INFP/INTP is a harder pair. It can work out, but the above things I’ve mentioned can all become issues and have to be addressed by both instead of avoided (as both types would probably be most likely to do).

I hope this helps, and thanks for stopping by.

Strive Pt. 10

{PART 1} {PART 2} {PART 3} {PART 4} {PART 5} {PART 6} {PART 7} {PART 8} {PART 9}

Pair: Tomarry

Rating: M-E(depends)

Tags: Mild Language, Homosexuality, Sexism, Obsessed Tom, Time-Travel/Dimension-Travel, Teacher/Student, Eventual Romance, Teacher-Harry, Grey!Harry, MoD(sort of),

Tom was staring very intently at the individual patterns in the wood on Professor Potter’s desk.

Honestly, he wasn’t sure of what to feel at the moment. On one hand, his entire class had just learned of what was apparently his greatest fear, and on the other, his professor had just learned of his greatest fear. He didn’t know which was worse, and found himself hating both thoughts.


Looking up at the unexpected calling of his name, he found himself staring Professor Potter in the eye. Yet there was no pity to be seen there, nor did Tom find any mockery. His eyes, green as the Killing Curse, simply held knowledge. Knowledge of what though, was still up for consideration.

“Tom, you know that it’s perfectly natural to have fears, correct? No person is without some form of fear.”

Well obviously. That didn’t mean he had to like it.

“To fear a bomb isn’t foolish. Especially since you reside in one of the cities that were assaulted by them. You know the danger they possess. It’s actually prudent of you to realise how dangerous they are.

“Your classmates are blissfully unaware of the true dangers that lie outside of Hogwarts. They sit here in their luxury, content to know that life is fine for them, whereas in other parts of the world, both magical and Muggle, people are being slaughtered for their beliefs and ancestry. It’s a gruesome situation, and while I’d prefer it that no child should learn about that kind of thing, I’m happy at least some of the students are emotionally and mentally prepared.”

Potter looked down, fingers twisting his wand around. “You have an advantage over most of the school, Tom. You know first hand, what is out there. You know that Muggles aren’t as stupid as your Pureblood acquaintances claim they are. And you know what they are capable of now, and what they might be able to do in the future. After all, since when does anyone ever just leave a creation of theirs as it is? Since when does the creator, or someone else, not come along and try to make it better or stronger?”

Cold dread trailed down Tom’s spine at the thought of bombs better than the one that his Boggart had become.

People were always refining potions and spells to make them more effective, so what would stop the Muggles from taking apart a bomb in order to learn how to make it better?

He almost shivered at the thought.

“The fact is, Tom, you never got a chance to wear the rosy glasses of innocence that so blind your fellows. Without all that red blocking your vision, you can see the warnings signs flashing before you, and act accordingly. I have faith that should something bad happen, you’ll escape to safety pretty easily. The rest of them… not so much.”

While minutely flattered at having the man’s faith, Tom was confused.

Potter smiled. “In the Muggle world, warning signs are usually red, to caution you. Children are raised to adhere to those signs simply by identifying the colour. However, if they are too busy in their rose tinted world, where everything comes across in various shades of red and pink, they’ll miss the warning signs and meander right into dangerous territory.”

Oh. A strange metaphor, but an interesting one nonetheless.

“Now, as for fears, I don’t think you’ll have to worry about your classmates poking fun, especially after the explanation I gave. However, I’m sure that if you are being bothered by anyone, you’ll know how to handle it maturely and without drawing attention.”

Tom’s smile could fell angels. Professor Potter was giving him permission in a roundabout sort of way, to deal with any potential bullies however he saw fit, so long as he didn’t make it obvious that he did it. The man would have been a perfect Slytherin.

“Now, pop on off to lunch. I’m sure you’re famished after such a grueling class.”

Tom stood and shouldered his bag. He turned to leave, but a thought came to mind.

“Sir, why do you fear Dementors?”

Potter removed his glasses and set them on his desk.

“I was almost Kissed once.”

Tom’s stomach dropped.

“They weren’t supposed to be there though. But they kept coming after me, because opposed to my schoolmates, I had experienced horrors that none of them had ever even thought of. So the Dementors were drawn to me. And if the feeling they bring isn’t bad enough, it was what they made me remember.”

Potter looked away for a moment, taking a deep breath. “My professor insisted that I was simply fearing fear, but that’s not really true. I fear them because they make me relive my mother’s murder. Every word, every sound… her screaming most of all.”

There was a sort of morbidity in that revelation. Professor Potter, at whatever age, had been forced to witness his mother being murdered. And when Dementors were near, he had to relive something traumatic like that, over and over.

Tom was never a normal child and he’d never really considered much about his parents beyond hating them for not wanting him, but he’d seen what happened to other children who had to witness the death of a family member or friend.

Some of the orphans at the orphanage were very quiet and kept to themselves because they’d seen things.

Interestingly enough, none of those orphans had ever bothered Tom once. Because they understood to some extent that the other children didn’t. They were no better than he simply because they got to live with a family for awhile.

So he could understand to an extent how bad it was for a child to see something like that, and how it could shape their character. However, traumatised children were a lot smarter than their peers and were more determined to be better, so if Potter was anything like that, then maybe his trauma helped shape him into who he was currently.

A man to respect.

“Thank you for telling me, sir.”

Potter’s bland smile didn’t leave his mind for the rest of the day.

“Professor Potter is walking beside a handsome man!” Abraxas Malfoy said in a hushed tone, though he was pointing like a fool.

Still, the group of Slytherins all looked over anyway, finding that their favourite professor was indeed walking beside an unknown man. An attractive, unknown man.

Said man had a hand placed on the center of Potter’s back and was guiding him through the throngs of shoppers.

“I wonder who he is,” Tom heard Greengrass murmur.

“Let’s find out,” Abraxas decided, already moving to approach the two men.

Nott sent Tom a nervous look, knowing very well that Tom hated it when they acted out, especially when in public.

However, Tom was also curious and decided to spare Abraxas this time. Simply because the other’s foolishness would work to his advantage.

“Hello, Professor Potter!”

He was too chipper. It was annoying.

“Hello, Misters Riddle, Malfoy, Greengrass, Nott, and Carrow. Doing any holiday shopping?”

Tom barely repressed the urge to preen at how his name was mentioned first despite the fact that Abraxas was the one who greeted the man. He had dignity after all. He wasn’t some rambunctious child.

“I intend to,” said Abraxas. “Honeydukes is great during this time of year and allows me to plot ahead of time without spending too much.”

Not that he was struggling with money or anything.

Potter merely quirked a brow and looked to his companion, whose angular face was set to a blank expression. “I want chocolate,” the professor said to his friend.

His face brightened suddenly.

“Oh, right! This is Mortimer, he’s a good friend of mine and will be visiting me a lot, so don’t be alarmed if you see him around, okay? Headmaster Dippet has been made aware of his presence, but just in case you see him lurking about and find him questionable, you will say the following phrase. ‘I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.’ If Mortimer does not respond with ‘Mischief Managed’, it is not Mortimer and you need to get a professor immediately.”

‘Mortimer’ nodded.

The Slytherins nodded in understanding, and allowed their professor to get on his way with his companion. The two stalked away, Potter’s head moving from side to side as he started talking about chocolates.

The five Slytherins shared a look of interest.

Life at Hogwarts was suddenly more intriguing.

A/N: Woo! Anyone guess who Mortimer is?

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guessmonsta  asked:

Hello there, what kind if s/o do you think the karasuno boys would want? Thank you so much!

there’s like nothing canonically known about kinoshita and narita so i went with some of my own headcanons about what they might be like to help me out here

I GOT SO CARRIED AWAY WRITING THESE. makes me want to get my butt back into gear and write some prose-poems!

Daichi would definitely like someone who has an air of maturity about them, but also has playful/teasing side to them. They’d be a person he’s known for a long time, but he hasn’t seen them for a while. Or they might give off that vibe to him even if he’s just meeting them for the first time. They might also be somebody’s who’s grounded, and very in-tune with reality.

Suga wouldn’t mind someone who, whenever you see them, makes you feel like you just came home after a long trip. He really likes the idea of an S/O having the ability to remember very small things about the people they care about that most others might not notice, and somehow being able to turn that small thing into something memorable.

Asahi likes someone who dotes on him a little, but also someone he can dote on as well. Someone who would be sympathetic about his anxiety is a must, but also somebody who can give him a positive push to overcome it is really important. He wouldn’t mind a whole lot if they teased him from time-to-time, as long as they do so in a loving way; he actually quite enjoys it.

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anonymous asked:

I get that the Ackerbowl is exciting, but I hope Levi apologizes to Mikasa, frankly. Not for making the decisions he did, but for hurting her and Eren. Then I think Mikasa can apologize for hurting him as well. I dunno, I just feel like for there to be any hope of trust or friendship, Levi has to be the one to extend the olive branch after this, as an elder and as a captain. He has to be the bigger person or I'm not down for him anymore. I've had it with his reliance on being a bully (1/2)

(2/2) as a substitute for maturity. He’s not in the underground anymore and his subordinates aren’t thugs he has to viciously hit to control. I don’t blame Mikasa for being triggered by that, and I don’t want her to be okay with him until he shows he’ll change his ways. 

Hello dear anon, I was about to reply but it was very late where I live and chapter 84′s full translation wasn’t out yet. Now that it’s here I can reply without being too biased.

First, I completely feel you about this. Yes, everyone should sit their asses down and apologize. Not only that, but share a group hug and have some tea and cookies while keeping themselves warm with blankies.

Before the full translation was out it clearly seemed that Levi was the big bully - hitting Eren for no reason, denying Mikasa the serum - but the full chapter clarified some things for us:

Levi only hit Eren because he was about to snatch the serum box from his hand. He was negotiating patiently with Eren until it became clear that it would come to this.  

(Notice the “pulling” SFX)

And, well, it’s Levi. Remember this scene?

Levi can’t help who he is. Sometimes he can’t help but respond to things with violence. It’s part of his upbringing. But we can’t deny that his method didn’t work before, such as when he bailed Eren out of the trial. And now it’s no different - if he hadn’t hit Eren to keep him away, who knew what’d happen then? The serum bottle and syringe could break and be lost forever.

That brings us to Mikasa’s assault. 

What’s missing from this scene? What could’ve kept her from doing this? Oh yes, Armin. 

He’s the voice of reason, the one who could stop her from kicking Levi’s ass back then (and during Eren’s TRIAL to boot. Bad, bad idea). He’s not in any condition to tell her to stop, and there’s barely anyone else able to stop her.

But the crux of the matter is, thanks to @fuku-shuu​‘s translation, we now know that Levi didn’t resist Mikasa! 

I mean, what the fuck? We know that Levi’s exhausted from fighting Zeke and the other titans, but he’s not weak. His punch knocked off almost half of Eren’s front teeth!!!

So why didn’t Levi force Mikasa off of him? 

1. Their struggle could break the serum kit. He had to tread carefully.

2. He knew Mikasa didn’t have it in her to actually hurt him with her blade. He knows she’s desperate and that’s how she usually reacts to this kind of situation.

3. He’s trying to tell her something. By not resisting, Levi threw Mikasa for a loop.

Mikasa: His strength…is that lacking!?
Levi: …!!
Mikasa: In that case I’ll…just grab it from him…

But she didn’t! She could’ve told Levi to shut up and taken it, but she listened to him. THIS IS IMPORTANT and shows her character development while still being true to her emotions.

After hearing Eren and Flocke’s arguments, she didn’t try to grab the box yet - she asked Levi for it in a formal tone.

Mikasa: Please give me the serum.
Levi: …!!

And then, when Flocke interfered, it looked to Levi like Mikasa was seriously intending to hurt him. 

Levi knew Flocke had no chance against Mikasa, and that while pinned by her he couldn’t possibly stop them without risking breaking the serum kit, so he looked desperate and yelled for them to stop. Thanks to our angel, Hange, that didn’t happen.

After this analysis, I think that…

Mikasa should be the one to apologize to Levi first. From a military perspective, she needs to be punished as well. Levi won their “fight” the instant Mikasa noticed he didn’t resist and actually tried to talk her to make her stop, which is absolutely surprising coming from Levi, who usually resorts to violence, and speaks volumes of how much he knows Mikasa and her weakness. Levi couldn’t have handled her better - he won by being the bigger person all along.

Yes, he shouldn’t have hit Eren, but that was after they had their own argument and it didn’t go anywhere and so it could jeopardize the serum kit

The difference between Eren and Mikasa in this case is:

- Levi was forced to use violence against Eren when his words didn’t have any effect on him;

- Levi knew violence would only spur Mikasa even more, so he acted passively and used his arguments to try to stop her. And it worked, even if he could only stall her for a little while. 

Levi doesn’t need to apologize to Eren or Mikasa any more, because his apology…

…was already accepted.

Ouran As...

Hogwarts Students!

I’ll back up my thoughts here with quotes from the Welcome Letters from Pottermore and some HP meta as well as character traits from canon, and if you disagree/have any thoughts, please feel free to message me!

Tamaki: Gryffindor! “Gryffindor people tend to be very emotionally driven as their primary function, and work with their hearts first and their heads second.”, “Gryffindors can be very quick to flip outlooks, mostly trying to keep a positive outlook on everything until their own mindsets or goals are threatened, at which point they can turn quite negative and “doom and gloom”’ Personally I think that this describes Tamaki to a T - His plans are in fact often emotionally driven, and when they are sometimes shot down with another’s bit of reasoning, he often draws in on himself - or in a corner - shrouded in black lighting used to show his sadness. He also gets rather fiery whenever his plans are “attacked” so to speak. His flair for dramatics is also a Gryffindor trait - “A secondary characteristic of Gryffindors would be showboating, I’d say. They love seeming impressive to a crowd…”, and we all know how much Tamaki loves impressing the crowds.

Honey: Hufflepuff! Honey was actually the hardest for me to “sort”, so to speak, because he has this sort of duality about him - the sweet, childish Honey, and the more intense, brutal Haninozuka. But reading through some meta, this actually is why he’s in Hufflepuff. Honey tried for a very long time to be someone he isn’t, denying himself the things he truly wanted and essentially denying every aspect of his truer self. “… their habitual tendency to try and be what they think others need them to be. They will try and form themselves to what they think someone wants them to be in order for the other person or peoples to be happy. This is not something they should try, as expression and their free spirit is what makes the Hufflepuff who they truly are.” Honey is definitely a free spirit once he lets go of his restrictions. Honey’s loyalty to the club and his family is also a factor - it’s often said that of the houses, Hufflepuff is the most loyal. Although they are also seen as exceedingly kind, Hufflepuffs become brutal in regards to being betrayed or hurt - while Honey generally becomes more emotionally upset by this sort of thing, the only “betrayal” I know of is when Mori won’t allow him to have sweets and Honey only lashes out at him once and it’s definitely not pretty, his most violent reactions are when the Club, his family, are threatened. “If a Hufflepuff likes you, which generally they will give you the benefit of the doubt, they will be empathetic and try to use this to help you. If, for some reason, you betray or upset a Hufflepuff, do not think they will just go sulk, this is simply how their darker and more negative side comes out.” Honey tends to avoid conflict, and even tries to act as a peacekeeper on several occasions, another Hufflepuff trait.

Kyoya: Slytherin! Kyoya’s as cunning as they come - which doesn’t make him a bad person by any means, just like being placed into Slytherin wouldn’t. He’s very loyal, even if he does choose to present that loyalty as coming from a place of, well, his desire to be “connected”, even though I(and I’m sure many others) feel that Kyoya’s loyalty to people, especially the Host Club, is entirely genuine and has nothing to do with their familial ties. “For instance, we Slytherins look after our own.” When it comes down to everything, the Host Club is more than a club - it’s a family. “Loyalty is not automatically granted because of your title, you must earn it, and once you have their trust they will do anything for you, and protect you through any means that is necessary.” Kyoya is willing to go endless miles for the club - especially Tamaki - because they are his friends, his family. Slytherins are naturally ambitions and seek control - “A Slytherin in complete control and well on their way to their goals is likely to appear relaxed or even smug.” I mean, that sounds just like Kyoya, doesn’t it?

Hikaru and Kaoru: Gryffindor! Due to the similarities between the houses, I almost put the two of them in Slytherin, but I believe Gryffindor to be a much better fit for them. They’ve been consistently likened to the Weasley twins - mischievous, red-haired twins who are well-liked among their peers. Both boys are emotional, although Hikaru is notably more emotional and less mature than Kaoru. Personally I see there being two types of Gryffindors - the outgoing, popular with everyone type which is clearly Tamaki, and the more withdrawn, rough around the edges type which I where I see the twins. “They try to keep their emotions at bay and just show how strong they are, how incapable they are of breaking. These are the Gryffindors that put up a wall, and if you can connect with them, this wall falls easily.” It’s well known that before the twins joined the Host Club, they spoke almost exclusively to each other, and were incredibly emotionally withdrawn. The twins have slowly transitioned into more Type 1 Gryffindors thanks to the Host Club. They are also incredibly loyal, even if to each other first and foremost, and like the others, regard the Host Club as their family. The twins as well as Tamaki are also chivalrous, a noted trait among Gryffindors.

(truthfully I was hoping to put them into separate houses, but their personalities and drives are honestly so similar I don’t think even the Sorting Hat would have)

Mori: Hufflepuff! “Hufflepuffs are trustworthy and loyal. We don’t shoot our mouths off, but cross us at your peril; like our emblem, the badger, we will protect ourselves, our friends and our families against all-comers. Nobody intimidates us.” Mori has proven himself, on multiple occasions, to be resoundingly loyal to both his family and the Club - even ‘protecting’ Haruhi from Tamaki only after just meeting her!(I use the term ‘protecting’ loosely of course). “Overall, Hufflepuffs are much stronger than they are ever given credit for, and most of this stems from the fact that they do not act for themselves, but for the people that they love.” Mori only speaks when he sees fit - he is by every measure the strong, silent type - and is not boastful by any means, which is certainly a trait the other houses occasionally have issue with, whereas Hufflepuff is known for their fairness and open-mindedness. Mori is also incredibly kind, and is described as being “too kind-hearted, so he could never break a girl’s heart”(in reference to Valentine’s day but most likely a general statement concerning Mori).

Haruhi: Ravenclaw! The most obvious thing I can think of here is Haruhi’s strive for knowledge with a goal in mind - she had a goal she wanted to achieve and only the most elite academy could help her get there. She’s the top of her class, so the intelligence is clearly there. Haruhi actually reminds me a lot of Luna, for some reason - she’s very smart, indeed, but this isn’t her most important quality which is what most people expect from Ravenclaws. While it’s known that Haruhi would often rather be studying than engaging in Host Club activities, this is only due to her focus - she must remain at the head of the class or otherwise lose her scholarship. Ravenclaws often have an intellectual niche of sorts, and I see this a lot in Haruhi and her gift of reading people: she can tell the twins apart regardless of the tricks they try to pull, she sees through Kyoya’s facade, and understands that Mori is trying to punish himself before anyone else(save for maybe Kyoya). She also seems to hold back her own emotions - she doesn’t really express a lot of emotion other than general annoyance with the club, “Ravenclaws are fantastic at hiding their emotions.“ While Haruhi is clearly at least somewhat comfortable in large groups, she’s definitely more of an introvert and you have to remember that most often, even during club hours, she most often only sits with two/three girls at a time, and while I don’t think she minds spending time with the all of the Hosts, she generally seems to side along with one or two specific Hosts at a time, “if you are looking for someone jumping at any and all opportunities to spend time with you or have fun in big groups, then you are not looking for a Ravenclaw“.

I can honestly say I didn’t expect this to get so long and detailed(Honey’s is really long whooeee.)

Tomorrow will be ATLA! I’d like to do these once a day for a week, although maybe not so detailed. So if you have any suggestions for other fandoms, please feel free to shoot me a message!! :)

I really hate it when Western "feminist" writers downplay, dismiss, and insult Sailor Moon

I ranted plenty about this earlier today, but I still have some unfinished business.

I think my main issue with this type of posts/articles/whatever is the constant bashing of Usagi. Oh, Usagi cries too much. Oh, she’s such a bad role model, what with the way she fails in school, dreams about being a bride, and is such a stereotypical teenage girl. Oh, Usagi isn’t nearly empowering enough, look at the way she doesn’t want to fight!

Guess what?

Usagi is a fourteen-year-old girl.

At the beginning of the series, Usagi is your average, run of the mill fourteen-year-old. She’s lived a very sheltered life, with a warm, loving family and close friends. Unlike, say, Ami or Rei, who pretty much had to grow up early because they had to take care of themselves, Usagi was given the chance to grow up at her own pace and take the time to enjoy her childhood/adolescence (an opportunity which, ideally, should be afforded to all children). So, when Luna appeared and Usagi transformed into Sailor Moon for the first time before being thrown into battle, she was understandably pretty unprepared for the responsibility she was thrust into.

And, before I go on, I have to say that I think Usagi handled becoming Sailor Moon extremely well. When she heard Naru in danger, she didn’t even hesitate to rush to her aid. Usagi even tells Luna that, although she has no idea what’s going on, she does know that her best friend is in danger and she’s willing to do anything to save her. 

That’s right, Usagi's very first act as Sailor Moon is to put aside her fear and confusion and go help her friend. If that doesn’t perfectly encapsulate Usagi Tsukino’s entire character, I don’t know what does.

And yeah, Usagi is understandably scared and freaked out during her first battles. She cries, she says she wants to go home, that she doesn’t want to fight anymore. Once again, Usagi is fourteen. She’s barely a teenager and yet she’s being dragged into battle against hellish monsters that have the ability to murder her without a second thought. What the fuck do you expect her to do? Crack witty one-liners as she picks them off like some action movie hero? Usagi’s reaction to being thrust into the role of Sailor Moon is very realistic. When I was 14, there’s absolutely no way that I would have been able to take on the responsibility of being a Sailor Senshi without some bumps along the way. Hell, I wouldn’t be able to do that even now, at 19.

But Usagi adjusts. And when her teammates begin to join her, she finally grows into her role as a capable Soldier of Love and Justice. Usagi, like every other human being, needs support. She can’t do everything by herself, she needs people she can trust and depend on. And that is yet another example of the great messages that Sailor Moon sends out: “It’s okay to depend on other people. You shouldn’t try to do everything by yourself, you need to be open and willing to accept help if you need it.”

And Usagi matures. She is the complete opposite of a static character. In fact, Usagi undergoes some of the best character development I’ve ever seen. By the end of the series, she’s two years older (16 instead of 14) and much, much wiser. Being Sailor Moon is no longer a chore. Sailor Moon is her, an integral part of herself that can’t be ignored. She fights, not because she particularly enjoys doing it, but because wants to use her powers for good, to protect the world (and later, the entire galaxy) and those she loves from harm. She’s gone from a scared, confused young girl to a veteran warrior who still possesses the enormous capacity to love and forgive, even extending those feelings to her enemies.  

However, not only is their assessment of Usagi just flat-out wrong, it’s actually offensive. These people exaggerate the hell out of Usagi’s negative traits (which, by the way, every well-written character should have) and act like they completely ruin Usagi as a character and as a role model. Yeah, Usagi’s a crybaby, but she’s also the most loving and kindhearted person you’ll ever meet. She’s not that great in school, but is undyingly loyal to her friends and family, willing to sacrifice her very life to keep them safe and sound. She’s lazy and gluttonous, but goes out of her way to be friendly and kind to people and makes them feel wanted and accepted. Usagi may be a klutz, but she’s also pretty much the embodiment of love itself. If you ask me, those traits are nothing to sneeze at.

But, most importantly, Usagi is us. She’s someone we can relate to. When I started watching Sailor Moon at age 13, I immediately connected with Usagi. She told me that it was okay to be very emotional, because that just meant that I had a big heart and a lot of love to give. It was okay to be sensitive, because that meant that I could easily relate to others and understand their feelings. It was okay if my grades weren’t the best, because I was a good person and that’s way more important in the long run than my grades are. Basically, Usagi told me that I was okay being myself because, after all, we were similar and she was doing just fine!

Usagi’s very important to me. She’s important to all of us. That’s why seeing her get bashed and insulted for not being the Perfect Western Feminist Role Model™ really sets me off. And that’s why, whenever that happens, I’ll fight to the death to defend her. You can count on that.

Digimon 30 Day Challenge ★ #09. Favourite friendship

Taichi and Yamato’s, of course! They’re the very reason I’ve been into this series all this time. :X There’s a lot more to these two than it meets the eye.

I always find the casual fan wondering how can they be such “good friends” after all fights they got through. xD Allow me to ramble about my favourite digimon topic.

A big “WTF” was kind of my reaction back then, I’ll give you that, but this doesn’t take a lot to figure out.

Taichi and Yamato have always been presented to us as “polar opposites”. Whenever Taichi wants to explore territory there’s a Yamato to hold him back. Back in the first episodes of Digimon Adventure, there’s a moment Taichi suggests they climb Mugen mountain to figure out their surroundings so the group can decide what decisions to make at a time everybody’s tired of looking after signs of human civilization without success. Yamato however thinks of the welfare of the group instead: it’s dangerous for children their age to climb and the mountain is known for wild monsters living there.

This is a pattern we see in many other later episodes up to the Dark Masters arc. Taichi encourages the group with his determination, tells everybody to not give up and to keep looking ahead, to defeat the next Dark Master. This is when Yamato tries to slow him down, going along with Mimi’s need to look back and mourn all friends who have sacrificed themselves and died to protect them.

Taichi wants to ease the pain by making sure their friends didn’t die in vain and the group can go home as soon as possible (the sooner they finish their misson, the better)….. Yamato wants to ease the pain by making sure the group has enough time to rest and to pull themselves together (their situation puts a lot of stress on them and people like Mimi who feels like crying all the time).

Behind the mask of apparent rivalry, Yamato and Taichi actually help and guide each other all the time. If you pay attention you’ll notice one always inspires the another to work harder. 

Yamato’s complaints and protests actually help Taichi know how and when to control his natural reckless decisions. As soon as the first leaves the group one would expect Taichi to enjoy the freedom of doing things as he pleases. But he doesn’t. When the group suggests to attack Pinnocchimon’s base, he finds himself taking a little bit longer than usual to make his decision instead. “What would Yamato say in this situation?”, he wonders. He clearly misses Yamato’s voice, his filter. 

This also works the other way around: Yamato’s so intrigued by Taichi’s sheer optimism and encouragement he feels he should be more like him. “Maybe Takeru would still need me.” Without Taichi around, he starts to overthink his problems and falls into depression, he sinks into believing noone needs him anymore, not even his brother - which is just not true. Taichi does. 

(Remember episode 51 Taichi decided to wait for him and didn’t falter; Yamato literally came to his rescue).

Yamato was also the first to react to Jou’s decision of trusting Taichi Gennai’s cards. Yamato’s actually the one who calls Taichi a leader, then compliments his personality and qualities right away. 

I think Taichi and Yamato’s rivalry and casual fights are more circunstancial than based on sheer pride. Rather than pride or ill intent, I think they’re both honestly confused as to why the another can’t understand their point of view.

Both really believe they’re doing what’s best for the group. They’re still children who have some hard time knowing how to deal with opposite points of view, and it’s Yamato who eventually figures it out:

This is the same episode we’re introduced to the concept of Yin and Yang.

When I was 12~16, I used to take Taichi’s side and think Yamato liked to contradict him out of pure stubbornness. Now I realise my POV was just as naive as his.

It’s impressing how mature (and perhaps too aware of their situation for his age) Yamato was. He isn’t stubborn - he actually presents valid points. Yamato’s only problem is he doesn’t know how to put his emotional wreck into words (unlike Taichi, who is always so vocal and extrovert to a point he may even sound nonchalant at times).

And I’m sure there’s digimon fans who must have gone through the opposite process. 

There must be fans who have always agreed with Yamato instead, and I believe some of them learnt, eventually, to admire Taichi’s ability of making decisions and taking risks at times nobody quite knows what to do and the whole world seems to conspire against them. There’s times we need to act in unknown territory and figure things out as we act. The path to adulthood is filled with moments like this; it takes courage to leave our confort zone and do what we must.

In the sequel “Digimon Adventure 02”, Yamato is still the guy who worries about his friends, but he has become less shy, even relaxed about it. We see him express many of his emotions and thoughts without much filter. 

Taichi has also changed thanks to Yamato. In 02, he seems to listen and to think (and to put himself in other people’s shoes) before he jumps into rash decisions. He manages to listen to Daisuke’s plea to go to Ken (who lives in Tamachi) while the whole world is being attacked (Episode 39, many gates are open in France, Russia, USA, and they need to deal with the digimon). Taichi tries to reason with Daisuke and make him understand they need to act asap, but when the young boy insists he can’t leave Ken behind to matter what, Taichi eventually understands and lets him go. His leader skills have been refined.

When we pay attention to this kind of character development, is it really that impressive to see Taichi and Yamato’s relationship escalate from “rivals” to “best friends ever”? 

Isn’t this exactly what friendship should be about? Perhaps friendship isn’t all about having similar personalities or similar likings, or having two people getting along all the time. While this can exist in a good relationship, anybody with minimum social skills can do it.

True friendship should be more about being honest and straightforward - it should be about learning with our friends… (we will struggle and fight as we go through this learning process) and - in the end - still manage to listen and to respect each other. It’s about getting over our different opinions and still manage to be ourselves as we get along.

Taichi and Yamato weren’t my first contact with “the hero and the lonewolf” trope (the Yang and the Yin) that gives life to most Japanese shounen fiction, but they were the first to catch my attention and to make me learn what it really means.

anonymous asked:

Honestly just wondering, why do you like Keladry? Because to be honest with you, I kind of found her annoying, and I don't really like her as much as the rest of the tortall characters

Ahaha YOU ASKED FOR IT, I guess it’s time to dedicate (yet another) love letter to Keladry of Mindelan. If you’ve been following me since my Tortall-only days you’ll probably have heard these arguments before, so bear with me.

Primary thing I love about Kel is actually also (like Nico) the contrast between her outer appearance and her inner personality. Kel is always described with her plain mousy hair and her “dreamer’s eyes” and she’s known for her “Yamani Lump” expressionless face (which to my thinking is the best “fuck you” gesture of all time, holy shit? The opposite of love ain’t anger and hate, it’s apathy, and Kel knows exactly what pisses her enemies off most: showing them she doesn’t care) but Kel is honestly so, so passionate. I don’t understand when people have trouble placing Kel in a Hogwarts house because she is Gryffindor to the core. She’s brave and righteous and is honest-to-god angry as all hell when injustice is done to people who can’t protect themselves. And that’s what makes her such a fun subject for me to draw - you have to try to capture this passion and determination behind these “dreamer eyes” which I picture as sort of sleepy-looking.

I love that Kel never complains, even when things are unfair, and this is a testament to her efficiency and practicality in the field of battle, too. She knows what obstacles are in her way and she knows what she has to do to overcome them to achieve her goal - complaining doesn’t do anything but hold her back. If something has to be done, she’ll do it, even if she hates it (she’s willing to retake ALL FOUR YEARS of page training because she knows the punishment for being late, and she never even thinks of using her very-legitimate-reason as an excuse). Kel is totally muleheaded about not being treated specially, whether it’s in her favor or not.

I love that Kel loves being a girl, and wears dresses to supper to remind them that she is one rather than trying to be “one of the guys.” I think it’s great that she’s shown growing into and out of crushes but never lets it get in the way of her duties. Her practicality is something refreshing to read in YA fantasy - she prioritizes her sense of duty to the people she’s responsible for rather than another person (and I love that she doesn’t ride off into the sunset with some dude the way all the other Tortall protags do).

This might be personal taste but I also really love it when characters operate on cold anger. Hot anger sort of makes the character lose their minds but cold anger can be turned into something useful, and that’s what drives Kel a lot of the time. I will forever be in love with the scene in Page where Kel finds Vinson trying to sexually assault Lalasa and she realizes for the first time (paraphrased) “the kind of rage that might drive some men to commit murder.” Just - that level of care and protectiveness for Lalasa, the moral outrage she feels, makes me swoon every time. Kel may have a reputation as the quietest of Tammy’s protags (hint: this should actually go to Beka), but she takes no shit from other people, especially people in positions of power. She may follow orders but she isn’t shy at all about speaking her mind (her confrontation with King Jon is pretty great as well).

I love how Kel commands respect from the people around her, by virtue of how very hard she works. She’s so disciplined and dedicated to learning as much as she can, to overcoming her own weaknesses, that people naturally start to trust her and even people predisposed to hating her start begrudgingly respecting her anyways. Wyldon’s gradual acceptance and eventual admiration of her is one of my favorite character development arcs in the Tortall universe (in any universe, really).

Kel’s relationship with her yearmates (+Owen+the older boys in their group) is always a joy for me to read because they all look up to her so much for her maturity and the way she naturally looks after people (every time one of them calls her “mother” I sigh at the page). And this deep friendship is completely earned - people don’t just magically love Kel (Merric absolutely didn’t at first, which is why Merric/Kel is my second fave Kel pairing, haha…). Because Kel is always compassionate and tactful and understanding of different people’s situations, and when she acts she acts for herself, not to be thanked. Remember Kel saving Merric from Joren that first time, and Merric shoving her afterward? That’s actually one of my fave exchanges between the two of them because Kel completely understands how humiliated Merric is feeling, and lets him have it. She doesn’t need others to be grateful to her - she just needs to act in a way where she won’t be ashamed of herself for doing nothing when she could’ve helped. Even in Lady Knight, Kel is sensitive to the fact that Merric might bristle at being under her command, only by that point he trusts her enough to follow wherever she leads (my heart).

Kel’s entire series is something of an exercise in competency porn (actually, all of Pierce’s protagonists are hypercompetent in what they specialize in, but Kel in particular stands out to me because she rises to the top without any magic or favor of the gods to help her along). Every single thing Kel earns (her shield, the respect and love of her comrades and commanders and refugees) is through hard work. And all of those traits combined - the tact and understanding of people, the fact that she takes no shit when there’s work to be done, her practicality, her cool head, the way she commands respect by being disciplined and never holding herself above anyone else - all of those things shape her up to be one hell of a commander. And I love her for it.


Iwaizumi should have expected this.

He spent the first three weeks at university worrying about Oikawa: whether he was sleeping enough, whether he was getting enough to eat, whether he was resting enough between practices. Oikawa is a walking invitation to crises of all sorts, Iwaizumi knows that too well from experience over all the years they’ve known each other, and while he knows the other is technically capable of taking care of himself that doesn’t mean he’s actually acting on that capability, especially if he’s feeling anything like the levels of stress Iwaizumi encounters in the first few rounds of classes and homework and practice. Iwaizumi’s the one who calls every night, late, after volleyball practice is done, while he’s still sweat-sticky and overheated from the exertion, and Oikawa always answers, even when his voice sounds low and exhausted in a way Iwaizumi can’t entirely blame on the phone connection. It twists Iwaizumi’s heart in his chest, feels like a pressure crushing the air out of him, as if Oikawa took a part of Iwaizumi with him and Iwaizumi is feeling the pull across all the miles between him and the other. For the first few weeks it’s only exhaustion that lets Iwaizumi fall asleep at night, and then it’s only to topple into half-made nightmares of missed deadlines and injured knees and Oikawa, always Oikawa, just out of reach, just beyond his help. But then Oikawa’s voice gains energy, and Oikawa’s stories gain more life, and by the middle of the second month Iwaizumi is looking forward to his first in-person visit just for the pleasure of seeing an old friend and not from the need to check up on every aspect of Oikawa’s life. There haven’t been any crises that the other has told him about, nothing to occupy Iwaizumi’s thoughts with worry on the long train ride to bring him to Oikawa’s university; by the time he arrives he’s looking forward to the first adrenaline of greetings, to the rush of hellos given in person instead of over a phone line, maybe to the satisfaction of a long-delayed dinner in Oikawa’s apartment or out at some cheap restaurant. The weeks apart have been good for them, he thinks as he climbs the stairs to Oikawa’s room and knocks against the door; Oikawa will have learned to take care of himself, to handle problems with some of the calm maturity that Iwaizumi has so often provided in his stead. It will be nice to see him calmer, more composed, more–

“Iwa-chan!” The voice is shrill, skidding up into the heights of panic even before Oikawa has dragged the door open to actually see Iwaizumi standing in the hallway. “Thank god you’re here, I need your help!”

Iwaizumi should have known better.

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Growing together, a defense of Jess Mariano and the Literati ship

I’ve seen a lot of different opinions about Jess Mariano and about his relationship with Rory. Some people think that Jess and Rory were meant to be, that Jess was a nice guy under all the attitude. Others think Jess was a complete jerk, hate him with Lorelei-levels of passion, and think that his relationship with Rory was borderline abusive.

Now, I definitely disagree with the abusive bit, but there are valid points to each argument. Personally I think that Jess and Rory could have been perfect together. Eventually. I say this because I loved them in early seasons and I loved Jess in his later seasons, but when they were actually together, they were kind of pretty terrible at it. And that’s the key word there: “they”. They were both pretty terrible at it; they couldn’t balance out their issues enough to make the relationship work. Fair enough. They were only 17-18.

Let me be clear, I’m a Jess fan, but I try not to be a Jess apologist. I don’t agree with a lot of Jess’s behaviour; he acted badly. I do understand his behaviour, however. Grow up with a flighty mother who does drugs and is apparently no good at the whole breadwinning thing, who brings home guy after guy who may or may not steal all of your furniture when he leaves in the middle of the night, and I think a lot of people would be mistrusting and unreliable too.

Jess’s family life was a mess. I’m not saying this to blame his behaviour on his mother - he still behaved badly in his own right - but come on. He was a child raised in an environment that taught him exactly how precarious a situation being a child is. And he was not old enough to fix it for himself. Human beings don’t just do that - they don’t just raise themselves and come out mature, functioning adults. Not without work. Not without time. Especially not at that age. And even ones who do function reasonably well, often do it half off an imitation that can lead to one hell of a case of Imposture-Syndrome. There is truth in fiction when those characters who “grew up too fast” grew to be simultaneously competent and immature adults. (This is known as “adultification”, including “parentification”, “peerification”, and “spousification”, which is a kind abuse in which an abuser makes children take on roles they are physically incapable of undertaking because their brains have not developed enough to do so.) That kind of abuse can have a tremendous impact on a person’s development. And make no mistake: it was an abusive environment. The way he acted, the fact that he had such very low levels of trust in anyone, makes me think that he rarely felt safe. I mean, just consider how he got to Stars Hollow in the first place: he was shipped off against his will. He had no control over the situation. He was a powerless teenager and he knew it. But that doesn’t mean he stayed that way. The reason I liked Jess’s character so much is because he showed so many signs of some very real, very serious abuse. And then he grew out of it. Jess is an amazing character because he took control of his life.

So it’s very true when Jess detractors say that Jess needed to grow up, but I wholeheartedly disagree with the note of derision implied in that sentiment. Yes, Jess needed to grow up more to take control of his life, but when a fan says “he needs to grow up”, the implication is not that he literally needs more time, space, and independence in order to take control of himself, but that he should have already, and that he has failed in failing to do so. This, I believe, is supremely unfair. Jess never had the stable environment needed to learn responsibility gradually, or to safely make mistakes, or to explore his identity, or to learn to trust anyone, so he kind of started behind the ball. And as a teenager, he was old enough to know it, and to know that it was unfair. Personally, I think he had a right to feel a little bit cheated. So yeah, he made a few mistakes as an angry teenager, but most of those boil down to unreliability, being insensitive, or his lack of long term planning. These are not character-killing flaws. He also didn’t stay that way. He turned himself around and got himself on track and stabilized himself and seemed to let a lot of that crap go. And he did, in the end, do it himself.

And let us not forget that Jess was a teenager sent against his will to live with an uncle who had no idea how to deal with another human being, much less how to take care of one. I mean, let’s face it, Luke ended up swinging wildly between being over controlling and judgmental, and being so ignorantly laissez-faire that he never noticed when something had gone wrong. He was also always suspicious of Jess, didn’t listen to Jess’s side of the story - ever - and if he found out that Jess hadn’t done anything wrong he laughed at him! So either Jess was probably doing something illegal or was hilarious; even if Jess had been hurt in the process. Luke never told Jess when he did something right, or checked to see how his school work was going (unless he’d been pulled in by the principle or it was too late), or told him he was proud of him, or asked if he was okay, or talked to him about his mom (especially if the conversation was going to be at all on Jess’s side), or told him he was worried. And every time we saw a rare moment of bonding or a frequent failure of discipline there seemed to be an undercurrent to absolve Luke: Jess was being difficult/irreverent/disrespectful/obstinate/short-sighted/what have you. Basically, Jess was a difficult kid, so no wonder he wasn’t being raised like any of the other teenagers, he was a delinquent who obviously would never listen to anyone no matter what anyone tried. Which to me, fairly reeks of Victim Blaming.

Luke was also, quite obviously, not around much when Jess was a kid. I mean we know he knew something about what went on, because he was always exasperated at Liz, and we know he sent her money, but he never, never looked at it from the perspective of a child. Consider, for example, when Liz showed up with TJ, and Luke expected Jess to help him manage her love-life. In that situation Luke saw Liz as a child and it somehow then made sense to him to ask her child to look after her. As if it was not supposed to be the other way around. As if that was never supposed to be Jess’s job. (Also totally not sexist infantilization, no siree.) And then consider the wedding and how Luke acted like Jess was a huge, ungrateful, spoiled, jerk for not wanting to go. As if he wasn’t allowed to look at someone and say “you are too poisonous to be in my life. I’m not going to be in contact with you anymore”. As if that wasn’t his right (yes even if it’s family. I mean, Lorelai did it). I’ll be honest - the “ungrateful” thing is kind of a trigger for me. I was raised by a parent who told me often how ungrateful I was for all the things done for me. I was told I was mean and selfish all the time. So let me make this clear: Jess did not have to go to his mother’s wedding. He did not owe her respect simply for being the being that birthed him. Telling him that he was a bad person for not wanting to go is not okay. And yes, I know that Jess’s ultimate reasons for not wanting to go were not about his mom. But that doesn’t matter. Because Luke didn’t know that. And turning it all around on Jess like it was some terrible flaw in Jess’s character or a failing on his part that he might hate his mother? No. Just no. Fuck you Luke.

Also, think about this for a moment: Jess was a seventeen/eighteen year old working two jobs in season 3, and he never even thought to tell anyone. When do you think that kid started working? And no one asked why he might need to work two jobs? I mean sure, they started asking questions when they learned how many hours he was working (full-time plus the diner plus Rory plus school sometimes), but did no one think it was odd that a supposedly full-time high school student with a girlfriend might be working two part-time jobs? Is that just me? I mean I admit that I’m working off the assumption of the impression that I got that Luke, being the thrifty sort, was not financially pressed enough to require Jess to be working that much. So maybe that is my privilege showing, but I would think that Luke would have thought about it, would have discussed it with Jess. Did Luke never wonder when he found the time? Did he ever talk to Jess about making sure his school work or social life wasn’t going to be hindered by the fact that he was working two jobs? Did he never even check with him to organize his work schedule? I mean come on.

So I believe that Rory and Jess could have been good together, but that he was just too messed up to be a good boyfriend at the time. He didn’t trust other people. He didn’t know how to be reliable. He didn’t want to be reliable - he didn’t want the expectation. He believed everyone when they said he was no good, when they said he would never amount to anything, so he stopped trying. Rory’s expectations were new and unexpected and he believed he’d never be able to live up to them, so he ended up being distant and unreliable and the kind of jerk that would rarely do anything he didn’t want to do, even if it was for Rory. And the one time he tried? With the prom tickets? He failed. And that ended up being a confirmation and breaking point for him. He couldn’t deal so he didn’t deal.

Contrast to Dean who was so unassuming as to do whatever Rory wanted whenever she wanted. You know, as long as it was with him (“what do you mean we can’t hang out because you have plans or school work or don’t feel like it?!?! I want to hang out now!!”) or wasn’t around other men or in the company of other men or anywhere where another man might look at Rory and OH MY GOD RORY WHAT WERE YOU THINKING BEING IN THE SAME 10 MILE RADIUS OF A MALE WHO MIGHT CONCEIVABLY FIND YOU ATTRACTIVE?!?!?!!? HOW COULD YOU DO THIS?!?!!? I MUST BEAT THIS MAN WHO LOOKED AT YOU! GOD RORY, HOW COULD YOU LOOK SO ATTRACTIVE AS TO HAVE OTHER MEN THINK YOU’RE ATTRACTIVE?!?!?!!? I DEMAND THAT YOU STOP DOING THIS IMMEDIATELY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  

(If any boyfriend was abusive it was Dean. She even used the language - “I don’t want you to be mad. Please don’t be mad.” - and body language, including hunched shoulders and crossed arms. She even flinched away from him a few times when he got angry and started really looming or kicked something!)

This leads us to my other point, which is that Rory was not inculpable in the fact that they just weren’t good together when they were together. Firstly, she never trusted him. Now, as I said above, Jess was unreliable, so it’s not like she didn’t have reason, but she always thought he was getting into trouble or picking fights or whatever, even after being proven wrong several times. She never stopped being suspicious, and she kind of stopped asking about the whys behind his behaviour. She also never stopped comparing him to Dean and Dean’s unassuming ways (completely forgetting Dean’s anger and his kind of triggery, borderline-abusive behaviour).

Of course, it could be argued that a lot of these problems actually stemmed from Rory’s issues and the insecurity fostered in the unhealthy aspects of her relationship with Dean, which lead her to take Jess’s every bad mood as a personal failing, as if his every mood were her fault. I think this was part of a larger problem for Rory in that she stopped standing up for herself as soon as they got together officially. She stopped setting boundaries, she stopped challenging him, and she stopped holding her ground when he did something that upset her. Part of what made their interactions so fascinating before they got together was that Rory was the only one who balanced calling out his bullshit with actually listening to what Jess had to say. She was the only one who said, “listen, I respect your opinions, but this particular behaviour is bullshit, so why did you do it?”. I think she may have even been the only one to ever explicitly ask “why?” But independent-Rory outside of relationships was not the same as relationship-Rory, and apart from Dean, I’m pretty sure we can all guess where that came from.

Now, don’t get me wrong, Lorelai Gilmore was a very strong woman. She was self-possessed and resourceful and confident, and she taught Rory to be just as opinionated and confident as her… Except where it came to dating. Rory’s father was a flake, let’s all just acknowledge that now. He was rarely there, and when he was it was sporadic and unreliable. She never learned to claim her space or demand Christopher’s time because it was never up to her. She never had any power in that relationship, and was probably very resentful. She may have been angry and felt that she wasn’t worth the effort that Christopher could have made to be around more often. Christopher let her down and that kind of early disappointment can have a lasting impact on a person. Jess’s own behaviour had to have hit far too close to a very sore spot. (Especially given the timing, Rory and Jess got together just shortly after Christopher’s girlfriend Sherry’s baby-shower. You know, the one that found out she was pregnant just after Chris promised Rory and Lorelai that it “would work out this time”. And the disastrous Grandmother dinner meeting? Episode after Sherry gives birth.)

What this means, however, is that Rory also had “some growing up” to do. This is not to say that being unreliable is ever okay in a relationship you actually want to make work, but having your mood and self-worth hang on someone else’s behaviour is never a good sign. Would the fact that Jess didn’t call her all the time have been such a big deal if Rory had been more stable in her own self-worth? Maybe, maybe not. But the point is that Rory had no idea how to hold on to her confidence in the face of a man she cared about, and he ended up walking all over her.

Now this obviously sounds horrible. Like, he was distant and she couldn’t stick up for herself, how could they possibly be good together? But here’s the thing. Both show the potential to not only overcome these things in themselves, but also in each other. Jess may have been unreliable, but he always tried to encourage her independence. While he was not one for scheduling, he repeatedly encouraged her to keep doing her own things and was never upset if she did end up doing things independent of him. He told her to go to the Stars Hollow town-things, for example, if that was what she wanted. And yes, perhaps a better boyfriend would have gone with her simply because she wanted him there, but Jess was in no way restricting her ability to go, and rather than offering an ultimatum, offered a compromise instead. And in the episode “Face-Off” (3x15) where he shows up at her house after not calling her for a few days, Lorelai might have been angry that Jess would assume that Rory would home on a Saturday night without prior planning, but Jess himself did not seem upset that Rory wasn’t home. He wasn’t angry that she wasn’t available when he had time free, he wasn’t even surprised that she was out, he was only confused that Lorelai was making such a big deal out of it. So yes, Jess didn’t make plans, but he always offered alternatives and he tried to bolster Rory’s confidence. In turn, she made him participate a little more and attempted to inspire him to try - an endeavor which eventually succeeded; she planted that seed. She was one of the few people to tell him he was worth it. She was the first one he believed.

One of the most telling things is that Jess was one of the rare few people to call Rory out on her own lack of communication. During the course of their relationship, for example, Rory practiced many of the habits she developed through her relationship with Dean - namely hiding things that she thought Jess might not like. Instead of getting angry and making the situation worse, Jess usually confronted these issues right away by attempting to open the lines of communication. Jess asked Rory about Dean directly and listened when she told him. And yes, he did brush some stuff off, but he told her when something made him uncomfortable (like Rory and Dean being friends) and accepted her decisions, even while making it clear that a big part of the problem was the fact that she had hidden it. Now, this issue didn’t go away over the course of their relationship, and a lack of active communication often contributed to Rory feeling that Jess’s every mood was her fault, but that stemmed as much from Rory as it did Jess.

The biggest obstacle to their relationship, however, was Jess’s inability to communicate with regards to himself. Most of the change in this instance happened after their relationship because the issues involved had nothing to do with Rory or their relationship, and everything to do with Jess’s psychological state, his crippling mistrust, and his outlook on the world. The changes there had to come from Jess achieving a healthier mental state. But even still, he talked to her more than almost anyone else. Think about what little Jess ever said about his mom, his background, or his feelings, and then think about how much of that was with Rory. She touched something in him that woke him up. He couldn’t turn himself around at 18 - unfortunately he had to hit bottom for that - but she made him believe he could. Comparably, he understood her in a way that meant that he was the only one who could reach her when she quit Yale. As teenagers they were horrible at communication but it was obvious, even then, that they were on a similar wavelength.

Jess and Rory liked a lot of the same things. They had differing values because of their vastly different upbringings, but they liked similar books and similar music. Now, many people stop there, with Literati shippers expounding on their shared love of books, and non-shippers rightly affirming that you can’t base a romantic (or even platonic) relationship solely on that, but it’s not just that they both loved to read, or even that they both loved to read similar books, it’s that they found similar things stimulating. Not only did they love to read, but they also both loved to talk about the stuff they read and they valued each other’s opinions. They challenged each other mentally and stimulated a lot of intellectual excitement and could talk for hours on end. They got each other’s sense of humour (for the most part), and they liked to tease one another. There are even hints in there of them being very “married couple-eque”. (Take, for example, the movie planning conversation in “Happy Birthday, Baby” (3x18).) And the most important part? The ways in which they were similar as teenagers, the ways they fit together, were exactly the directions they grew in as adults. They grew up moving towards more books, more literature, and more discursive lifestyles. They grew up striving for similar principles of art and they taught each other values along they way: Rory taught Jess to dream, to try, to work hard, and to prove others wrong, and Jess taught Rory that you can come back from behind, that life isn’t going to hand you things, so sometimes you have to fight for it. And then they reaffirmed these lessons within themselves and to each other, and reminded each other as they grew.

So maybe Jess and Rory were not any good for each other as damaged, stupid teenagers, and maybe they wouldn’t have worked during the series at all, but there was a spark there that could have been great, and, more importantly, they grew in ways that made them more compatible, not less. So yeah, they weren’t really a good couple when they were on screen, but Literati is still my ship because they helped each other grow, because they reached one another when no one else could, because they shared passions and goals and because in the end, I think they could have been amazing together.

My Son’s Boyfriend Can’t Be This Cute: A Solangelo Fanfic

lol if anyone gets the really terrible reference in the title you get a cookie.

I haven’t written in Apollo’s POV before, and this story takes in a very unspecified time, but who doesn’t want a fanfic of Apollo fangirling over Solangelo because I know I wanted it and you do too.


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            “What is it that you like about that kid so much anyways? I haven’t figured it out yet and I pride myself on my general prowess when it comes to love,” I asked him absently. Will looked up from his charts, something twinkling there in his blue eyes.

              “You mean Nico?” Will asked, clicking his tongue. “I like how cute he is.”

              “Cute,” I couldn’t help but repeat. I mean, I pride myself on staying relevant. But I’m pretty sure cute wasn’t the new slang for ornery, dark, brooding children of the underworld with a penchant for monster slaying and sulking.

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Aggressive Caretaking 101 pt.1

huge thanks to @whoareurl​ for bouncing this idea back and forth with me (seriously, adrian, you are the gr8est and ilu <3). 

a reluctant yuri p. does a fretful yuuri k. a HUGE solid and checks on victor, who’s hella sick. unlike my other fics, this will be a multi-chapter project so keep an eye out for the other parts! c: btw, i watch the dub for the lolz but that’s definitely the yurio voice i hear when i write him lmao.

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The Summertime Sickness

Here it is, my Ereri Secret Santa fic.

Title: The Summertime Sickness
Recipient: @we-are-paper-boats
Contents: The prompt I was given was: hanahaki disease au! i want Levi to be the one that falls (The Hanahaki Disease is an illness born from one-sided love, where the patient throws up and coughs of flower petals when they suffer from one-sided love. The infection can be removed through surgery, but the feelings disappear along with the petals.)

So, content warning for vague description of vomiting (but petals, not actual vomit.) No other warnings apply. 2.2k

Summary: It’s pretty common for teenagers to come down with Hanahaki a few times, as if adolescence wasn’t awkward and embarrassing enough. Eren suffers it every summer, but Levi seems to have escaped it entirely, at least until now.

Eren woke up feeling better than he had in weeks. Not a cough. Not a twinge. He lay in bed for a while, cautiously probing his own emotions. Thought about his rippling muscles, his kind smile, his sheer height, and …


Well, Mike was still fucking hot but Eren no longer felt like his life was empty now he’d hooked up with Erwin. Huh, how about that.

Good. Nothing worse than wasting your summer coughing up flowers, he thought, and he swung himself out of bed and went to go and get breakfast.

He texted Levi to make sure he wasn’t stuck working in the sweltering heat of his uncle’s garage, and grabbed his surfboard before going to meet his friend at the beach.

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