it kind of changed my life

One Year Ago

Has it only been a year? It feels like another lifetime ago. THIS post is the first time ever that I posted fanfic for Outlander. Heck, it was the first time I even WROTE for Outlander. The mods at @imagineclaireandjamie are amazing and were so sweet to me, even though the work I submitted was not my best.

I’d intended to write something for all of you, something special for this day but I just didn’t have the time. I have so many active series going that I couldn’t keep my promise. Instead, I’ll do this.

My life has changed so much from a year ago. Because of some of you, I wrote my senior thesis on fan fiction, which got a solidly good grade. I’ve (virtually) met some of you and talked to many of you. I’ve grown in my writing skill and my confidence in what I do and who I am. I’ve made SO MANY FRIENDS because of this. (and this kind of friendship is an introvert’s dream!) I mean, just think about it. I’m planning a trip to the U.K. because I know people there now! 

So THANK YOU. Thank you for your support and encouragement through my real life craziness. Thank you for loving my work so much, because it’s a part of me that I give to you. Thank you so much for following me into these crazy AU’s and going on these journeys with me.

I cannot wait to see where this next year takes me. @thatwetwomaybeoneagain is my U.K. mum and my tumblr mum. @thescarlettpeacock knows how to make my mouth water with her amazing food descriptions. @outlanderedandoverhere is an amazing friend who also comes up with brilliant story prompts (and quite a few visuals too!!!) @diversemediums is not only a sweet person and great friend, she’s also an incredible writer. @outlandishchridhe is my never-ending source of sarcasm and witty retorts, followed by (not so) subtle requests for more SMUT (never including Fred because “ew”). @internallydeceased is another wonderful author who is so fun to talk to. @akb723 is a FABULOUS editor and a fantastic person to bounce ideas with. @tammywt has some of the greatest comments and discussions about my works. @shortiemcbealle is another great person who I’ve become good friends with. All the mods at Imagine have talked to me at one point or another and I get giddy every time. I had a fic-off with @mybeautifuldecay, watched @bonnie-wee-swordsman craft some incredible stories, and SO many others. But some of the biggest thanks has to go out to our queen, @gotham-ruaidh. It was through her prompting and encouragement that I posted anything at all. She talked me through the emotional roller coaster that came after everyone’s responses. Writing is who I am, not just what I do. So when people accepted/wanted/loved the stuff I posted, I felt accepted/wanted/loved.

I know there’s probably a lot of you I’ve forgotten to mention, and if I have, I’m sorry. It isn’t because I’m leaving you out, but because I’m tired and had a long hot day at work. But each and every one of you who reads my writing and comments, reblogs, or likes it makes my day. So thanks again!

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paralyzingpotterhead  asked:

Natsu seemed kind of,, like a dick in this chapter. Like I get he's never been romantic and that's fine but that doesn't mean he's emotionless. So when Lucy's crying "thank you for changing my life I'm so glad I met you!!" and he completely ignores it I just ????? what?? I didn't care if they were going to canon and I'm kind of glad they didn't but this scene was still pretty poorly written in my opinion Also: where is Natsu's face scar?? Can Hiro seriously not handle even the slightest change?

I mean, he could’ve not been interested in Lucy, that’s fine. But she was hungover and crying on him and he immediately shut her down and dragged her outside so they could go on a job. He’s officially gone beyond oblivious and straight into dickhead territory.

The NaLu fans are angry Lucy got friendzoned? I’d be angrier that Natsu shut her down, didn’t let her finish the conversation and unceremoniously changed the subject without so much as a “you changed my life too, Lucy!”

(oh my god. the scar’s gone. what the fuck? what the fuc-)

crystalheartsthings  asked:

Good news! Two of what I assumed were anons, came off anon and apologize. They apologize! Because of my message! I'm happy right now and proud of them! Anyway, all the people that supported me yesterday, they are lovely. And I'm greatful for having them and you in my life <3

!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I’m really really glad they did, what they did before was uncalled for and not okay. But yeah, I’m proud of them too - people can change and I’m glad that they realized that they were wrong and owned up to their mistakes^^ Annnnd I’m also really proud of the people that sent you a nice message, you guys are great!!!!!!!! :D <3

Who cares if One More Light goes out?

I still can’t believe Chester Bennington doesn’t walk this earth anymore today.
Yesterday I fell asleep crying, after taking pain killers and sleeping pills, so that I could sleep in the first place, and today I woke up still crying. Still in disbelief.

I don’t know where to start with this man.
I grew up listening to Linkin Park, like so many others did.
He is the voice of a Generation.
He was the one, who got me into that kind of music.

I listened to Given Up when I was 8. And that little screaming part Chester does in it probably changed my life forever. I don’t know what exactly happened to me in that moment, but I was fascinated and so amazed. It felt so right and like something finally made sense.
I heard something I’ve never heard before and damn did I like it. Because of this song, I listened to more of their songs and fell so in love with them.

After a while I started discovering some more bands in and around this genre, which I still do 10 years later.

Bands I fell in love with.
Bands, that started doing music, because of Linkin Park.
Bands, that maybe wouldn’t even exist, if it wasn’t for Linkin Park.
Bands, I wouldn’t know, if it wasn’t for Chester’s scream in Given Up.

Music became such an important part in my life. It helped me through a lot and I’m still alive because of it. It made and shaped me and I always knew that Given Up and Linkin Park are the roots of it.


So when I heard the heartbreaking news yesterday, the first song that came into my mind was Given Up and all it gave me.

Then I thought of I’ll Be Gone.

I was listening to music from a playlist with over 50 hours of playtime and hundreds of songs and artists in it on shuffle play earlier yesterday. In German time, so it was either shortly before.. Or around the time.. It happened. I can’t bare to think about it, it hurts me so much.

I listened to this playlist and out of all the songs in there, I’ll Be Gone came up.

“And tell them I couldn’t help myself
And tell them I was alone
Oh, tell me I am the only one
And there is nothing left to stop me

When the lights go off and we open our eyes
Out there in the silence I’ll be gone”

I had these damn lyrics playing, while he killed himself, I can’t.


After that, all the songs and memories crashed into my mind like a Tidal Wave.
Especially Leave Out All The Rest.

I binge listened to that song some years ago. I can’t tell you how often I sat in class and wrote down the lyrics to it.

It made me feel some kind of way every time I listened to it, because it gave me hope in some way I can’t explain, but I always felt like he’s talking about him being dead.

I didn’t expect it to happen that soon.


My head hurts so bad trying to somehow realize that this is really happening.
And my heart hurts as if a bullet just shot out a piece of it. A piece, that belongs to Chester and everything he gave and gives to me. He took this piece with him but left all the songs and memories of him.


It’s sad that someone who saved so many people, is the one, who can’t be saved after all.
Tho we couldn’t save him, I so dearly hope he knew how much we all did and do love him.


After all, I hope he finally got rid of the pain he felt so long and found somewhere he belongs.


…Well, I do.

We all do, Chester.
We all do care about your shining light, that went out yesterday.

You left behind a billion reasons to be missed.

Goodbye, Childhood Hero.
Rock on in Paradise.


Chester Charles Bennington
03/20/1976 - Forever

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ROBINS + LABELS (Happy birthday, @henwick aka my sweet smol child!)

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Keiynan Lonsdale photographed by Storm Santos for VULKAN Magazine

“I like to change my hair, I like to take risks with how I dress, I like girls, and I like guys (yes), I like growing, I like learning, I like who I am and I really like who I’m becoming. Spent way too many years hating myself, thinking I was less valuable because I was different… which is just untrue. A couple years ago I was able to accept myself, and it saved my life, but now I’ve gotten to a new road block and I feel kind of lost. I gotta take the next step and actually embrace who I am, which is pretty exciting. Not faking shit anymore, not apologizing for falling in love with people no matter their gender. I’ve become bored of being insecure, ashamed, scared… no one should feel like that about themselves, especially when there is so much good life to live. Ya know more and more I see so many young people being their best / truest selves, it’s fucking inspiring… so what have I been waiting for!? Who knows. Everyone in their own time. I hope we can all learn to embrace who we are and not judge people who aren’t exactly the same as us. The truth is we are all family, we’re all one. Just love.”

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Keiynan Lonsdale, who stars in The Flash on The CW, came out as liking girls and guys in a lovely Instagram post a few days ago. He wrote:

I like to change my hair, I like to take risks with how I dress, I like girls, & I like guys (yes), I like growing, I like learning, I like who I am and I really like who I’m becoming. Spent way too many years hating myself, thinking I was less valuable because I was different.. which is just untrue. A couple years ago I was able to accept myself, & it saved my life, but now I’ve gotten to a new road block & I feel kind of lost. I gotta take the next step & actually embrace who I am, which is pretty exciting. Not faking shit anymore, not apologising for falling in love with people no matter their gender. I’ve become bored of being insecure, ashamed, scared… no one should feel like that about themselves, especially when there is so much good life to live. Ya know more & more I see so many young people being their best / truest selves, it’s fucking inspiring… so what have I been waiting for!? Who knows. Everyone in their own time. I hope we can all learn to embrace who we are & not judge people who aren’t exactly the same as us. The truth is we are all family, we’re all one. Just love. Keiy. ❤

Welcome to the family, Keiy. ❤ (via the Huffington Post)

Cosplay, Fanart and Plagiarism

(gif curtesy to Mel)


TL;DR: An artist traced (!) my cosplay photo without permission, gave me zero credits, sold the prints at a con and denied she’s ever seen my photo.

First, both of us, the cosplayer and the photographer, want to say that it would never have come to this if the artist would have immediately apologized to us in person, instead of being extremely rude to us and letting things escalate. A simple sorry and taking down the prints would’ve sufficed.

In the beginning of January, being hyped with the new SU episodes, I immediately fell in love with Blue Diamond and cosplayed her. Two months ago, a friend let me know that an artist she saw drew a fanart based on my photo. I was extremely flattered and happy, but also kinda sad the artist gave me zero credits. Us cosplayers and photographers work really hard to get a nice result, and everyone is happy when their photo serves as an inspiration for another artwork. I wrote a letter to her stating that I love her art, but I’d like her to credit me as a source of inspiration (adding the screen shot).

For two months, there was silence. I tried it again a few weeks ago, but again, no response. Okay, what can you do…



Last weekend we had a big con in Germany with a huge artist alley and both of us, the photographer and the cosplayer, attended. Suddenly, a friend came to us and said that there’s a girl selling this exact drawing. We were puzzled and decided to go to her booth and look at it ourselves.

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the bold type was so unprecedented like i watched that first episode n kat is all “ahhh im a proud hetero u kno :-)” and i rly thought that was gonna be the end of it! i thought it was gonna go the exact way of all “str8 woman meets a lesbean n thinks she’s being hit on” content where theres clear chemistry that every queer on earth picks up on but str8s cant see and that would be it! and i just kind of resigned myself to the fact that this was just gonna be another feminist=str8 girl power shows

but then the intro to the second episode was like “no kat is entirely smitten! this plot line is not only ongoing but going to take up a third of the shows action!” yall i was YELLING and im really not exaggerating when i say i have never seen this kind of queer female rep….ever

this relationship. is btwn 2 woc. one of whom is a practicing muslim lesbian who wears the hijab (and as the sapphic love interest of color for the questioning main is everything that uhhhh floriana LIAR wishes she/sanvers ship was and thats the tea!)

and one of whom is a biracial Black woman who very realistically questions her orientation and its just…..the thing abt it is she’s so excited to figure this out! She’s confused and doesn’t rly know how to handle these feelings but she’s still havin fun on the journey! shes just havin a good time! and i have NEVER seen that before. the coming out process is always framed as this painful horrible excruciating sad process and at times yeah it is but other times? it’s nice. sometimes it is really truly just Good and (for the moment) untouched by all the sad parts str8 society forces on us.

and when kat tells her friends that shes questioning they just…support her? sutton says “we have to unpack this!” all excitedly bc she rly just wants to help! she wants to help kat figure it out bc she’s just a genuinely good friend! she’s! not! trying! to! label! kat!

jane lets kat fish a yoni egg out of her vag in a scene that WASN’T framed as a “haha were all just So Straight this isnt even weird! Like I love straight we can act so gay and just Be Straight u kno :)” like literally 3 seconds before kat was talkin abt how she might be into girls n jane still asks her to take it out AND doesn’t make any “haha don’t enjoy this TOO much :-)” type jokes or seem uncomfortable abt anything besides the fact that her friend has a hand inside her vagina like….in this age of Bad allyship where “”“”“"friendly”“”“”“ homophobia has kind of? Become? A thing? hell nope this scene and this friendship changed my whole ass life!!

Sadie has been trained for two years, and working actively for almost 2 years now (her second year being marked when she turns 5 this summer officially)
and in all this time, never once had someone off the bat assumed sadie was for me. (despite some very obvious hints)

Typically I don’t mind though, I use the opportunity to educate those willing to listen, along side the importance of understanding not all disabilities are visible.

TODAY HOWEVER, i walked into dunkin donuts, and instantly the employee said, “what a beautiful service dog.” Praising her for sitting neatly besides me. Taking the time to speak to me, not her.
“I’m sure you’re very happy to have her in your life, they can make outstanding differences”.

I thought it was easily the sweetest thing that could be said to me this morning. Not, “you’re so lucky i wish i could have a dog with me all the time”, not “so isn’t it hard to give them away”, and not the invasive question: “so what does it do?” 

I am very happy to have Sadie in my life, she’s changed my world entirely. He wasn’t glorifying the dog as a pal or pet, but respecting her as a working dog. He wasn’t glorifying the idea of NEEDING a dog, or the idea how “cool” and “lucky” I must be to take my dog everywhere with me.
He respected her job for the difference she makes in my life.
Some kind soul could see she was for me by taking the time to observe her vest, patches, and actions. His careful use of words meant a lot to me to hear.

I really do appreciate people like this, because as many horror stories as there are in the SD community there are glittering people like this who respect and understand a working dog as more than a fluffy “friend” to lug around, and not every dog you see with someone appearing able bodied means they are being trained to be given away. 

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saturday, june 24 — i received my journal few days ago so i already started to play with it! i’m waiting my order from 2 different shops and one of them delivers in 12 weeks… i’m sincerely gonna cry. i wanted to wait for my supplies to arrive but i am obviously not that patient, so i started my bujo/journal/death note with the things i have!
i wanted to start my bujo with something i like and kind of represents my soul, and that’s how gilmore girls got featured in my first page! i’ve written the first script lines of the tv show because they literally changed my life (i’m getting boring here haha). i used my gel-ink muji pen and a faber castell brush pen! i’m quite sad tbh because i really had great ideas but since i have to wait for my orders i can’t really do cool things, oh and btw i ordered hella cute washitapes, stickers etc!

so yea, here is my “july page”, as i said on one of my previous post, i’m not gonna use my bujo in the “formal” way, i really want to be able to do everything I want with it so i’m not gonna use the standard key thing or calendars and stuffs, i’m still gonna use it for weekly to-do lists and stuffs but i’ll be featuring some other cool things as well, i can’t waaaaaait! hope you like it tho and do tell me if you use a bullet journal or a journal in general!

obsessed with boy.study (on instagram) spotify playlists, my favorite one is the apr / / 2017, and my current favorite song is crowded places - banks!

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Actress, Aussie and philanthropist Eliza Taylor talks 'Thumper'
Eliza Taylor on her new film "Thumper," career, body-image positivity and why she's a huge fan of her fans.

“It was a crazy time to be on social media,” Taylor said of the fans’ response [to Lexa’s death]. “This affected people so deeply, but being able to portray the first lead of a show on network television who is bisexual is an absolute honor. The life of Lexa completely changed my career and my fanbase.”

Eliza is kind of the best. I can’t even lie about that. 

anonymous asked:

What if Stiles and Derek's first kiss is post-nogitsune? Would he feel like a thief? Would he mourn the body that Derek never held? Would each brush of fingertips or kiss to his temple be a betrayal? They'd probably talk about the scars too. Derek would understand-- to an extent. But he grew up not without his history on his skin so he'll never understand how it feels to have that ripped away.

Their lips brush and Stiles turns away a second later, breaths shallow, hands twitching against the folds of Derek’s shirt. There’s warm breath on his cheek, the ghost of beard still so close and all Stiles can think is that he wants this. He wants this. And…

It’s wrong.

Those fingers, twitching against Derek’s shirt, smooth and uncalloused. The scar that used to live above his third knuckle just a burn-hot memory in his mind.

Everything still feels off in his body, out of balance, and he remembers the way Derek used to look at him. All tension and frustration in ways he couldn’t start to make sense of. And now Derek’s lips are in reach, a short turn away, and he’s murmuring out “Stiles…?” and all Stiles can think is…

“Do you want me?”

He can feel the stall in Derek’s thoughts like a physical reaction, and he wonders if there was a subtle tell or if… if he’d just felt it, inside, the confusion a flicker of chaos in Derek’s chest. Can he do that? Feel chaos? The Nogitsune drank it in and Stiles…

“Stiles,” Derek breathes again, a quirk of amusement in his tone. Thumbs smooth down his hips and Stiles fights the urge to rise into the contact. “Thought I’d just answered that question.”

And Stiles could leave it at that, asked and answered. Except…

There should be a scar on his hip, long and thin, from a fence he’d scaled once and dropped down five times faster. Derek should be feeling that right now, that piece of Stiles’ history, that stupid ten year old adventure laid out across his skin. But the skin’s smooth. Blank slate.

He shivers, gripping tighter into Derek’s shirt.

“No, I––” He can’t think of how to explain it. The thoughts are a choked feeling in his throat, a twist in his gut. Something like guilt and fear and he doesn’t even know what answer he wants when he leans back enough to find Derek’s eyes and say: “Since when? Did you… I mean, before…”

He’s not sure Derek knows what he means, but there’s a hint of flush under that dark beard suddenly, and Stiles gets a little bit lost in the contrast.

“Last summer.”

“Last––?” It pulls Stiles back, his eyes startling up. That was… most of a year, that was before…

A sick lurch sets him falling back out of Derek’s grip. Too-smooth fingers (uncalloused) slip too easy from Derek’s chest. His sneaker-covered feet might as well be walking over glass and he’s being dramatic except that he’s really not. Because if Derek wanted him last summer…

“That wasn’t me.” It sounds wrong as he says it, stupid, because… he was there that summer. He remembers every moment spent with Derek, researching the Alphas, searching for hints of Boyd and Erica. Charged smirks and snark and quiet moments that felt more comfortable than they should. He remembers the moments before summer too, when the thought of Derek made his heart pound and his body thrum in a way that could have only meant fear, except it hadn’t only been fear. He’d been scared of the Alpha too, and the hunters, and that coil of electric heat only sparked through his gut for Derek. He remembers that, like he remembers the scars that aren’t there anymore, and he can’t help running his too-soft fingertips over the smooth flesh of his knuckle as he breathes out, faint and lost, “…Was that me?”

There’s a too long pause while the question burns back into his throat, buzzing through his limbs like a current until he realizes he’s shaking from them. Was that him? Helping Derek track the Alpha pack? Helping Scott learn to control his wolf? Sitting by his mom’s hospital bed, watching her lose the long war to her illness, pieces of her flaking away like old scars, like a whole identity, like––

A warm hand closes over his, large and gentle, grounding.

“It was you,” Derek says, simply. Like there’s no question, like nothing’s changed. Like Stiles hasn’t changed. 

But that’s wrong. He’s not the same person he was before the Nogitsune, and he’s not talking in the experiences change you, huh kind of way. He’d had scars before. He’d had… a whole life written on his skin. And then he’d crawled out from inside his possessed body’s throat, spawned out like some alien parasite or… clone and––

“My body died, back there.” Four months past, and he still can’t wrap his head around it. That he’d watched himself bitten and impaled, spasm and cracking and shatter to dust.

The scarred body. His real body.

And he was left in… this.

Long fingers uncurl, stretching out slow. Thin, pale digits fitting strangely perfect between Derek’s, and Stiles can only wonder what it would have looked like before.

“…What if I’m not real?” He watches Derek’s fingers twitch, barely perceptible, tightening like they’re fighting to hold onto him. And Derek’s lost enough in his life, too much. It’s a dick move to say this, to take anything else away from him, but… “What if the guy you wanted last summer… what if he died inside the Nogitsune, and I’m just––”

No.”

The sureness of it has Stiles’ throat clenching. He tilts his head, challenging. Finds Derek’s eyes again.

“You don’t know that.”

“I know you.”

Which is just… it’s stupid how that makes Stiles’ heart jump. Flutter around like it’s fighting to leap the distance between them and plaster itself all up against Derek’s stupid, muscled, secretly sweet as hell chest.

Which… yeah, that’s nearly a gross enough visual to stomp his fondness boner in the bud. He sets his jaw.

“Did you know I used to have a scar on––”

“Your right hand? Just above the third knuckle, a burn.”

Stiles’ argument stalls out. He blinks, finger shifting to rub over the space, but Derek’s is already there, soothing the phantom mark over his skin.

“I… was eleven.” Because silence has never been safe for him. Because noise distracts from the too-easy pleasure rippling up his arm. “First time I tried cooking dinner for me and dad. Mac and cheese, it… didn’t go great.” He wets his lips. Looks away “Or… the other me did, I don’t––”

You did.” And Derek still sounds so damn sure. Stiles wants to believe him. He parts his lips, can’t. Because––

“Stiles, I’ve never had scars on my skin. I… can’t relate to what it’s like to lose them. But the things that have happened to me… they’re not any less real because I can’t see them. Every bullet, cut, punch I’ve taken…” He might sense the wince forming on Stiles’ face, and shakes his head, shrugging that off like it’s not important. But that’s an argument for another day. “Every scar life gave you… they’re still there. You’re still carrying them, inside you.” He flits his eyes down Stiles’ frame, then away, finger soothing over the ghost burn. “There are plenty no one would have ever seen anyway. But they made you. Who you are, and who you are…” He shakes his head, looks back to meet Stiles’ eyes squarely. “You recognized me when I was a teenager. That’s the same person who recognized me in the preserve.” Stiles feels his face heat because… even knowing Derek’s a werewolf now, he’d never put together that Derek would have heard his fangirl moment to Scott after Derek had walked away.

Before he can speak up, though, Derek’s going on. “You tracked me to Mexico. Faced down the Calaveras to save me. That’s the same person who stared down the Argents, drove a Jeep into a kanima, who hit an Alpha with a wooden baseball bat––”

“Two Alphas,” Stiles cuts in, because props, ok? “Two, that were…” His free hand mimes squishing, and Derek’s lips twitch.

“Two,” he agrees, and Stiles can’t not smile back. Just for a second –– fond, helpless –– then he’s ducking his head. Derek sighs, catches his chin. Guides it up until their gazes lock again.

“That was you,” he says, so firmly Stiles can’t help believing this time. “Was the man who clawed his way out of his own possession. Followed Scott’s howl back to the real world. And whatever happened to your body, whatever… magic gave you a new one, Stiles came out with it. Your scars are still there, just…” His fingers trail to Stiles’ chest, and something thumps out eagerly to meet them.

“Inside,” Stiles breathes, and the way Derek’s eyes warm makes him shiver with a proud ripple of pleasure.

“Inside,” Derek echoes. Runs a thumb light along Stiles’ lip. “You could have come out of the Nogitsune looking like anything. Wouldn’t change who you are.”

And damn, Stiles has fallen for a goddamn poet in a grumpy wolf’s body. …But then, Stiles is pretty sure he’d known that already.

His fingers go up, curl gently into Derek’s shirt.

“But… you like this body,” he prompts, and Derek gives an exasperated huff, pulling him in.

“I like this body,” he confirms, and it doesn’t feel wrong to hear that.

When Derek kisses him this time, Stiles doesn’t pull away.

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Meet the first baby in the world with a genderless ID card
Their parent, Kori Doty, believes doctors should not have the right to assign a baby's gender at birth.
By Brianna Sacks

A baby in Canada was issued a health card with no specific gender designation, possibly the first such case in the world. 

Kori Doty, a nonbinary transgender person, gave birth to Searyl Alti in November. They gave birth at the home of a friend, and therefore Searyl did not have the genital medical inspection that usually leads to either a male or female sex assignment on a birth certificate.

Doty fought to get Searyl a health card with a “U” (unassigned) gender marker and won, though the government refused to give the baby a birth certificate without a binary gender. Doty is still working on that. 

Doty, who is still going through the arduous experience of changing their birth certificate, told the CBC that doctors chose an “incorrect” gender assignment that “followed me and followed my identification throughout my life.”

They, along with eight other people and the British Columbia Trans Alliance, have brought a case before British Columbia’s Human Rights Tribunal demanding the right to change their birth certificates, arguing that the document encapsulates personal information that cannot change.

As a parent, Doty wants to spare their child that kind of stress and frustration.

“I’m raising Searyl in such a way that until they have the sense of self and command of vocabulary to tell me who they are, I’m recognizing them as a baby and trying to give them all the love and support to be the most whole person that they can be outside of the restrictions that come with the boy box and the girl box,” Doty told the CBC.

This is huge, y’all. Thoughts? Current, future or maybe-one-day parents, would you opt for birth documents without an assigned gender? Nonbinary friends, would you have wanted that for yourself?

Brutally Honest Venus in Houses

Venus in House I
Aren’t you miss Marilyn Monroe? You present yourself to the world with charm and cuteness and get stuff on your way like that. You’re very flirty and love to play dumb so stupid people thinking they’re too smart will lecture you and you will even get out of the situation pretending you’re a good learner when in fact you’re just being diplomatic and shady. You like to be sexually admired and know how to use it in your favor without being obvious. How not to like you? Not even you know that.

Venus in House II
Here comes Lana del Rey in her Sugar Baby phase. Maybe is not even conscious but your love life has to be luxurious and you will probably fall for rich people - not that you are actively looking for this kind of thing. To you, romantic means financial effort, and if they care enough they will do it for you, right? Also you’re pretty obsessed with stability. Love comes with a price, and you won’t marry and put your being in the hands of someone who can’t even pay its own bills. Maybe you have a heritage or come from a wealthy family, and you will keep at least the same pattern of life you already have with someone stable that knows how to $ enjoy $ life.

Venus in House III
You probably fell in love for a teacher once. You just can’t resist a sweet talk and somebody that can share stories, knowledge, with good humor and a mind sharp… you’re so done. You also like to be with someone that can talk about anything without making a big deal of it, and if they don’t have anything interesting to say anymore you get bored and that’s it, the end. Also because of your endless need for new information and learning you may feel polyamory is something considerable, maybe even desirable. So many people with so many stories to share! Or maybe not, if you date a true nerd with a good heart. Is very likely you will find romance in school or college, or any study group, and maybe inspire you to follow an academic or scholar career.

Venus in House IV
You are very, very, very romantic and sentimental. Love means marrying and children, or at least marrying and having loving pets to raise. Sometimes both. You like the traditional bound - you may even say is not for you but honey, you don’t fool anyone. You like the idea of having a ring in your finger and showing off your sweet partner while making up names for your future children (or pets). You probably came from a family that gave you this traditional view - or from a so fucked up family you desired your whole life yours were better than that and decided to make your new family the closest thing possible from a traditional one. Either way, you will look for someone that can handle your family or be among the other half’s family as it were yours. And you are a hard worker to keep things as perfect as a butter advertise.

Venus in House V
You are so in love… with yourself. And everything you create. You are expressive and people love your presence - they better do, you’re a fucking genius - and you know how to attract people, how to flirt, how to keep them interested. Is like they say: work on your garden and the butterflies will come to you, and geez, your garden is a stage with high quality lightning while Mozart plays in the background to make the flowers grow more beautifully. You work on your appearance, on your expressiveness, you know exactly what you’re doing and those who don’t know how to appreciate it are not worthy of you. Your partner is someone you picked from your fans, they must admire you too - better saying, they have to understand what you are and what you do. Otherwise why even bother to lose your time with them? Losers.

Venus in House VI
You love someone who is responsible and hard working. Love to you is something a bit colder than others, you have high standards for what you want in your life and need someone to help you achieve it. This someone must work as hard as you do, must cooperate with you and stand still facing critics because you’re really mental, and your relationship is one of the things you will analyze more than feel it. The problem is you might over analyze it and ruin things when they were supposed to be ok. Chill, man. You do a good work, trust your standards, you will do fine. And so will the person you coldly chose to be with you. You will probably fall in love for a competent co-worker, maybe even your boss, or someone with a very practical view.

Venus in House VII
You’re the Venus itself. You’re a social butterfly and diplomatic af, everybody likes you and you don’t even give them the chance to not like you. You’re so fucking nice and loving, how can they not like you? Unless you have a stellium in aries or something, geez, you’re good at attracting people. You will probably fall in love for pretty people, be pretty yourself and want pretty things surrounding you. You’re all about beauty - inner and outer, but c'mon, everybody likes the outer more. You’re well behaved, gentle, you talk looking into people’s eyes and genuinely asks if everything is ok. You will probably marry and be very happy since the person that will be attracted to you will admire every piece of you, and feel lucky to have you around. Just run from people that use other people (they might perceive you’re too nice and use the shit out of you) and creeps (they might see your kindness as openness and try to do creepy shit).

Venus in House VIII
The more complicated, the better. Not because of drama, you just like… intense things. Normal relationships bore the shit out of you, you need something that will change your life completely, change the way you see things, you feel things, someone that can divide your life in “Before my partner” and “After my partner”. Someone to do new things, develop new dreams, and someone to take care emotionally and trust completely. You’re not the type of going around telling everyone you’re in love - sometimes you don’t even feel it coming. Is just there, and then you want that person all for you, in a very possessive way, and do everything to mark your territory without being obvious. You like mysterious people, or just really different people, because they will make you feel beyond the obvious and share dark secrets - the ultimate love proof for you. You may have a thing for people you shouldn’t - be the other person, or even cheat. You also are a bit traditional… but a darker version, like Morticia and Gomez - to die and kill for it. Partners in life, partners in crime. Usually in life, though, if you’re healthy.

Venus in House IX
You want to PaAaARtYy. Woohoo. You have energy, passion, attitude, and you fall for very optimistic people that will take you out of your comfort zone and go beyond with you. You might fall for college teachers and researchers, maybe people that traveled the world, or even high knowledged religion leaders, like priests. Or just a parter for crazy ideas. To you, a relationship must be something to add flavor and spice to your life and make it something incredible. Make you do incredible things, go to places you never - or always - dreamed of. The ultimate romance is to take you in a trip where you will experiment so many new things and cultures. You’re all about expansion and your love will take you beyond, make you learn something new, master a new technique… love is something almost religious that will bring you salvation. The problem is when you notice the patterns of things and get bored, or if your beloved is passing through dark times of regression. You feel lonely and that energy becomes irritation, and you may go alone with hope to find new love since you have no time for sad people.

Venus in House X
You’re the boss here. You know exactly what you want for love, and this comes with traditionalism, effort and a good status. You like the idea of marrying and having kids but indifferently from your gender you will be the “man” of the house, the boss. You will lead the relationship, take the initiative, ask to go on a date, decide when to marry, choose where to live, what to do, how to do. You are very hard working and security is important to you - and if the person doesn’t give you enough of it you will just fire them and leave the spot open to better candidates. You may seem cold but you don’t play with your life and love is something strong for you, so you just don’t give it for anyone that messes with your head. You actually know very well the difference between love and lust and are able to have lustful relationships without love, just to relieve your carnal needs. Cold, right? But real. You take responsibilities and obligations very seriously, and if you decide to bond with someone you will do it in the right way.

Venus in House XI
You’re popular and care about everyone. When it comes to love you have to find someone that will bond with your friends and coworkers. You go along with everybody and important people tend to like you. You may get involved with someone very political, or with strong political views, particularly with the power to actually do something for the masses. Or maybe a technologic nerd that is developing solutions for daily problems. You’re all about improvement and will want someone to share this view, and work together to something that will help others somehow. You’re here to make things better and your partner must recognize this. You don’t fall a little tiny for selfish bastards, even if they look pretty af - at this point you’re probably questioning the beauty standards and laughing at people that tries too hard to look good. You’re different, unique, and sometimes this is a blessing, sometimes a curse. You know you’re out of the place and fall for smart all of the place people like you. And if your morals and political views matches you will probably going to die together, holding hands and shit.

Venus in House XII
Your love is unconscious. You’re dreamy and imagine a life together with an ideal you’re afraid it doesn’t exist. This may indicate your love is in a past life too, someone you’ve bond so strongly you miss him/her and don’t even know its face. Your love makes you better as a person, grow and learn more about you. You might feel you’re infantile and this is so strange for you, while it seems so obvious for others, and will want to hide and never try. You’re too ashamed to show your feelings and always expect the worst, sometimes making a self fulfilled prophecy, and then going after easy escapes such drugs, games, porn. Bonding is specially hard for you because that’s what you need most to grow, and growing is never easy. You might break up as soon as you realize the person is not what you wanted it to be, not wanting to deal with their problems. Don’t run. You’re lovely and you can make your big dreams come true if you stay and keep on trying. Or at least the closest thing to true, which is fantastic anyway, because you’re a fabulous dreamer and that’s a great gift.

skam messages

“I became insecure and desperate. Your opinion meant more to me than my own and that’s not how it should be. I have to find out what my opinion is. And I have to do it on my own.“

“But I can’t continue having regrets for the rest of my life… I wish I could do it all over again, completely different. But I can’t. I’m just going to have to accept it and move on.”

“Everybody is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.”

“You are strong and independent when you can change your opinions. No matter what gender changes you.”

“War doesn’t start with violence. It starts with misunderstandings and prejudice.”

“If you say you’re in favour of a world of peace, you have to try to understand why others think and act the way they do.”

“People experience horrible things everyday and still manage to be nice to others. Being an asshole is not something you’re born with, or something you become. It’s a choice.”

“Hate doesn’t come from religion, it comes from fear.”

“Whether you believe in Allah or Jesus or the theory of evolution or parallel universes, there’s only one thing we know for certain. That life is… now.”

“Do you know how many people I know who say they believe in Allah? But they still drink, steal and vandalize. What’s more important? Saying you believe in Allah or live like you believe in Allah?”

I love that skam can place important and meaningful messages within the show not just through actions and events but also in the dialogue without sounding cliché or slipping from the narrative voice. These are legitimate things that teenagers think about and say. Yes, they’re mature but it comes from reflection, observation, and learning about how the world works and who we are. It’s never dumbed down to the point that it sounds cheesy or discredits teenagers’ ability to genuinely think, and it’s not so elevated and structured that it sounds fake or forced. It’s raw and real and beautiful

anonymous asked:

SHOULD I WATCH GUARDIANS OF THE GALAXY

okay listen. 

listen. 

idk if u have seen the first film. 

and u need to watch the first film to understand the second, which is, arguably, the better story of the two.

now, the first film. it’s. its a film, okay. its a movie. its ur typical bad guy is gonna destroy the world protagonists enter in STAGE LEFT & whilst they have a couple bumps at first they TEAM TOGETHER and SAVE THE WORLD bc they are Good Folks despite their questionably legal professions!

great!

like, it’s a decent film. it’s funny, it’s action packed, there’s a lot of heart to the characters. it SETS THE STAGE real well.

but the thing is it leaves u feeling kind of “eh whatever” UNLESS U FOLLOW IT UP WITH THE SECOND MOVIE.

film 1 is genuinely very good for worldbuilding and character setup, and, imo, not that great if you’re looking for a film with powerful emotional heart and a strong narrative message. like dont get me wrong, it’s good. it’s fun, it’s entertaining, and u get some warm fuzzies at the end. it’s originality is decent, considering the inherent originality of the setting of the film, but in terms of “wow, that was so creative, i never saw that coming” content … it’s average. like, “wow, that movie changed my life, i’ve got so much to think about now”, it’s …. okay. like it’s good, but it’s not genius, u know? it ain’t art.

vol.2, on the other hand? KNOCKS THAT STUFF OUT OF THE BALL PARK.

this film is ART.

u got character-centric storytelling. u got powerful narrative metaphors w strong and Good life messages. u got excellent character relationship growth, u got genius in the creativity department, u got originality, u got unique and complex villains, u got some TOP NOTCH JOKES, u got bammin’ slammin’ action sequences, u got GORGEOUS visuals, u got the most incredibly incorporation of song into story that i have EVER SEEN.

and. AND. on top of that, it takes so many of the vague attempts at subversion of Generic Superhero Tropes in film one and REALLY GOES TO TOWN WITH THEM, in that it is one big Think Outside The Box. the whole story subverts, deconstructs, and rebuilds some of the most problematic trends in superhero – or in fact, most generic action-y – storytelling.

PLUS, on top of all that, it explicitly shows characters on screen engaging in some really healthy behaviours. it has three separate female characters with three separate independent arcs, none of whom are sexualized. it allows male characters to be emotional and vulnerable and it delves into complicated heavy issues like breaking the cycle of abuse, or the many insidious layers and effects of toxic masculinity.

the entire story is about deconstructing and subverting toxic masculinity. and it is told so well.

and, on top of all of that Excellent Content, u literally, my friend, feel as though u are immersed in a particularly colourful gotg comic book for 2 and a half hours of your life.

WHAT an icon, tbh 

and so u see, anon, guardians vol.2 takes all the excellent premise content that vol.1 set up – rag tag gang of criminal losers accidentally become a family and save the world bc they’re Good people – and really expands on that beautifully. it takes the universe its built for itself and it tells a genuinely Good and complex and emotional story within that universe, about the characters that it’s set up for itself. 

and it is, truly, in every sense of the word, an ensemble superhero film. every character has their own individual arc, which are simultaneously independent of each other but also strongly interrelated bc the whole point of the story is that they’re a family whom loves each other. EVERYONE has an arc. and they’re all satisfying. they’re all important. they’re all powerful, even if they’re humorous or cute or kind of ridiculous at times.

and then, u know what happens, anon? u know what u get when u have a whole film, a whole 2 hours, that explores its characters in such depth?

u get a whole new perspective on vol.1, on that first, mostly decent generic-ish superhero film, and then u have the TIME OF YOUR LIFE re-watching the first one. bc u are invested in these characters now! u know where they’re going! how much they’re gonna love each other! how much they’ve dealt with in their lives! u have so much emotional context. so that first movie? it becomes important. it becomes relevant and poignant, when juxtaposed to the narrative of the second one, to the arcs in the second one.

truly? truly? what a way to write a story. what a WAY. i wanna do that someday.

so.

SO.

u should., ,,,, imho … in my humblest onion ….. Please Watch Guardians of the Galaxy. bc if u havent seen the first one, u cant understand the second one, and personally, i think that guardians of the galaxy volume 2 is genuinely one of the most important films that marvel studios has produced to date.

Am I in love with him? I guess I never really know. I just know I felt things I’ve never felt before. The kind of wrenching feelings, and I didn’t know what it was, but it just tore at my heart. Have you ever felt that way? I tried to save him, but I think I was the one who was saved.

Throughout my life, I haven’t been afraid of dying. I thought that if I died, that’s fine with me. But then I met this certain boy and he changed me. I started to think that I wanted to survive. It was the first time the idea of death really began to scare me.