it keeps on getting better

Just a heads up

It seems the Sherlock fandom rapture 2k17 that I predicted would happen regardless of how s4 went is beginning. BNF’s are trolling on Twitter. Ben Caron, the director of e3 has deleted his Twitter even though there are not threads bashing him. I can see hate being thrown around tumblr in bits and pieces.

I hope it doesn’t get worse. Maybe it won’t? I have no idea. But I implore you, if you think this will affect your well-being in any way shape or form please take a break. black list tags or block people. Even though I have never met any of you in person, I care about your well-being and mental health. I have been affected by wank and I’ll do everything in my power so that it doesn’t affect you.

thegodofturtlenecks  asked:

I am writing about someone who has recovered from a past abusive relationship, who now must learn how to open up to people. Any advice?

I had to think about this.  Anything having to do with abuse is really hard for me to deal with, so just a couple general things.

Read up on experiences from people coming out of situations similar to your character’s.  Understand that not everyone experiences abuse and recovery the same way.

Understand that recover is not a straight line up.  It doesn’t just keep getting better over time.  For most of us, we have ups and downs.  Things might seem really great for a while, and then something can happen that will bring back all the depression, anxiety, and fear again.  The idea that your character is “recovered” in the past tense, as if there’s no work left to be done, doesn’t match up to most abuse survivor experiences.

I dislike the phrasing “must learn how to open up to people.”  Abuse survivors don’t have to do anything that isn’t helpful to our recovery.  Forcing ourselves to interact with people who make us uncomfortable (even if there’s no “logical” reason for us to be uncomfortable) is not helpful.  Like I said, recovery is different for everyone.  We may depend mostly on a therapist, or on close family and friends, or on online friends.  We might not be able to work.  We might not be able to go shopping.  People in general may feel like a threat to us, and forcing us to ignore that is not good.  

If the character has decided that they are ready to open up to people, then it must be done on their time, at their pace.  Don’t let others force the situation.

Just, don’t write another rendition of “traumatized person doesn’t think they’re ready to open up but then the perfect person comes along and makes them realize they’re wrong and then they’re magically better forever.”

That episode was….just so good! I swear if I hear people tearing it apart I’m going to cyber slap someone! I loved the books(but had a couple big problems with them) but I didn’t want the tv show to be the exact same and I am so glad it’s not because it’s keeping it interesting for me. I get the people who wanted a full book to screen adaption but honestly it just wouldn’t have worked. They are doing what they said they would and are getting the main big plot points correct, they are just getting there differently and I’m not mad about it. I WILL be mad if this show doesn’t get renewed because of all the stupid people complaining about stupid shit. The actors are amazing and working hard to bring characters we love to life and they are doing a fantastic job! The difference between the 1st season and this one is incredible and it just keeps getting better as the episodes go! Sorry, excuse my ranting, that episode stirred up all my feels. I am emotionally unstable right now and I have no chill at the moment. I loved and hated that episode so hard. I’m gonna go watch it again.

anonymous asked:

we were so worried this year and especially january was going to be bad but 2017 just keep getting better 👏🏻

i’m so????? why has this month been so good?????

Please believe this :))

If you’re scrolling through tumblr trying to distract yourself from something you don’t want to think about or you’re looking for a sign that everything will be okay, this is it. So, breathe. Relax into this moment. You’re alive & that’s all that matters.

So what? You had a bad semester. You gained some weight. So what? You’re single again. You lost your job. So what? What now? You live. You try again. That’s what.
—  never give up
things to remember:
  • there will always be a tomorrow
  • nearly all problems are fixable
  • even your smallest achievements are something to be proud of
  • being alone can be exactly what you need sometimes
  • always get back up, no matter what it is that pushes you down
  • new opportunities will come along
  • you are not alone
  • you are valid
  • you are loved
  • and you are going to be okay.

“Rose made me feel… Like I was everything.” 🌹🌹🌹

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Everything heals. Your heart heals. Your mind heals. Wounds will heal. You may be sad right now, but your happiness will always come back. Bad times don’t last.