I say this kindly, but if you wanna land in my inbox and ask me questions that lead me to think you even remotely might be looking for ammunition to use against me, or someone else, or that you are trying to feel out my position on some problematic Tumblr personality, I’m gonna just delete it. Doesn’t matter what my actual opinion is.
No lie, I have three of these kinds of messages in my inbox and IDK what’s up with that, but I’m not getting out of the car.
There is some interpersonal drama on this site I will not come near for love or money because it is absolutely savage all around. It doesn’t matter what “side” I’m on, I’m still not putting my foot in that mess just to satisfy someone else’s curiosity about where I stand, because there is no “side” that doesn’t come with the inconvenience of getting attacked by mostly perfectly decent people and the lessening of my faith in humanity that ensues.
Y’all can probably surmise where I stand on most things based on the sorts of things I reblog. My blog is a pretty accurate instrument with which to gauge my outrage and my sense of humor. You shouldn’t use it to draw conclusions about what I think of individual Tumblr people.
Reblogging something doesn’t mean I agree with all the politics of every single person who contributed to the thread, even if I agree with the point they made on that post. Saying “soandso is trash but this thread is good” and proving myself virtuous by denouncing sinners every time I open my mouth is just not a thing I’m prepared to do anymore. I’m old now, and I get tired.
“Do you think smacking beehives with sticks is good or bad?” is a valid question I would probably be willing to answer, although I really think you should probably be able to guess where I stand (Nazis are bad, abuse is bad, bigotry is bad, cats are the best pets, etc.) and if you disagree with these basic things, in the words of @elodieunderglass, I do not think you will like my blog very much.
“Soandso is a terrible person who smacks beehives/does not smack beehives, jsyk,” is something I prefer not to have to deal with because wow, do I ever not have the spoons for drama. I will take action if I think I need to, though I probably will not respond, nor should you ask me to. Leave that up to me.
“Soandso has taken part in problematic bee discourse, and just now I saw that they were in a thread you reblogged. Would you care to make a comment?” is … not a thing that gives me good feelings, whether I agree with beehive-smacking or not. “Did you know about Soandso’s beehive-smacking? It bothers me that you would support/denounce them/their act by reblogging this thing!” makes me kind of annoyed because wow, that hostility isn’t necessary. “Stop defending/denouncing Soandso/beehive smacking! You’re awful!” makes me angry, because usually I haven’t defended or denounced anyone. The content is just there among other content, and I’m interacting with some other aspect of it. (Like, I’ve actually never gotten a message about this over any of the times I’ve actually done such a thing. It’s all been jumping to conclusions based on proximity. That’s kind of fucked up, when you think about it.)
If you want to know what I think of beehives, ask. If you want to warn me about bees or sticks in general, warn me. If you think I need to know that Soandso specifically is Team Free Bees (or Team Smack Those Hives), tell me. But don’t make me feel singled out, and don’t ask me to single anyone else out, publicly OR privately. I understand why you are doing what you are doing, but it’s disturbing to be asked, even in a roundabout way, to shun someone publicly when they are not a public figure, or to be expected to pass/fail some weird ideological purity test I didn’t even consent to taking in the first place.
If you take issue with how I run my garbage blog, and suspect I might be on the “wrong” side of the bee/stick equation, and this is really troubling you, please unfollow and block me so you aren’t bothered by having to wonder. I promise I won’t be offended. There are tons of other really cool blogs to follow.