it isn't okay. not at all

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Day 18! This took longer than I thought, but it’s all good! Here we have The Sides™ all dressed up for Halloween! And yes! I seriously believe Patton would dress up JUST to say a dad joke!! (Thanks for the idea, Sammy) I had multiple ideas for Virgil, but at the last minute I decided to go with his own version of Jim’s Halloween costume from The Office, 3 Hole Punch Jim! Since Roman is a diva I figured he’d go all out for his costume and go as Winifred Sanderson Sister (and yes he’s upset none of the other sides wanted to dress up as the other sisters) and lastly we have Logan, I had multiple ideas for him too, but in the end I decided he’d go as a jar of Crofter’s! The costume isn’t sponsored, he’s just a fan. The only jelly he’ll put in his belly. Crofter’s.

you’re so good at making others feel good. always there when they need you. excellent for a joke or prepared with the right kind of distraction. good at listening. an arm to hold on to.

and you tell yourself it’s just that you’re trying to be a good person, but maybe it’s that you feel good for a second only when you make other people feel good. so you do things like go to their parties you won’t dance at and make them pies you won’t eat and kiss people you don’t love and drink things you don’t want and tell them advice you won’t follow and laugh, always.

and that makes you feel like a bad person, because sometimes when you’re sitting there, and they’re raw and spreading, you wonder why they don’t see your blood too

and gosh, isn’t it selfish when you open your mouth and say the truth: nobody wants that from you. everybody just wants you to listen. and be good. and swallow the knuckles off your pointer fingers and wrap yourself in muslin and follow the river into the deepest parts of the ocean. 

you’re so good at making others feel good. there’s always a better rug but you’ll lie down for them anyway. there’s always a better highway but you’re already driving. and who cares that you need help. who cares if you’re dying. it’s all you, and you’re all good, and it’s okay, because you can floor the gas and people will just think you’re unafraid of dying.

but you are unafraid of dying.

People who slam doors and stomp their feet to show how much they want to physically hurt you shouldn’t be trusted

  • me, an autistic: I can't proceed until condition x is met
  • some allistic: but you don't need x to complete it. you can do it right now!
  • me, an autistic: ...you don't understand,
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All around smooching to end the night on a happy note (。・ω・。)ノ♡

  • Valentine/Magnus: Nothing a good night sleep won't fix.
  • Inner Alec: Oh good sleep huh? I bet he wants the cuddles. Why don't we offer the cuddles.
  • Alec: I can come home with you if you want.
  • V/M: no! no
  • Inner Alec: he doesn't want the cuddles, he always likes the cuddles. I'm amazing at the cuddles
  • Alec: *confused*

This is sketchy as hell.

For people who see this post… why? Why would anyone like this?
This is a weird invasion of childhood moments that weren’t released by choice.

You don’t just get someone’s yearbook. 
You either go to the school those years, or you hunt this down from someone else that has one.

Everyone wants to know whatever they can about Ryan’s past, but can we at least let him decide when he releases or okays pictures from his own childhood?
It’s exciting and fun to know more about someone!
This is not one of those times.

Leaving out the name of the school makes no difference.
It’s still creepy and weird.

“For the sake of his privacy”
If there was any care at all for his privacy this wouldn’t have been posted.
Especially not on a side account with no other posts than to reblog this same thing.

I blacked out the name just for the fact that they shouldn’t get more named recognition for this kind of negative digging.

If people out there care for Ryan’s actual privacy and life, please…
Please.
Give this post no notice when you go by it.
Don’t encourage this kind of hunting stalking behavior.

Ryan should mean more to this to any true fan who cares deeply for his well being and privacy of his life.
If he wanted it released, it’d be out on an Extra Life or a stream.

Fuck.

  • my ship: *isn't canon*
  • me: oh they just haven't realized their love yet it's okay
  • ship: *get together with other people*
  • me: they'll get it eventually
  • ship: *get married to different people*
  • me: haha they're so dumb they sTILL don't realize
  • ship: *literally don't know each other* *hate each other* *don't like the gender of the other*
  • me: it's all fine they are in love anyway

MOVE BITCH, GET OUT THE WAY!
Listen………. I’ve been laughing at this for 10 minutes now, okay? That time Merlin straight up murdered someone for dramatic effect. The guy wasn’t even in his way! He’s just a maniac. Running around throwing people off archways… #averagemonday 

The funniest thing is everyone around him just acts casually like this is an everyday event. there’s a pileup of bodies in the courtyard.  

Oh, you and I? Darling, we survived.
—  in another universe, softly, kindly, without question | p.d(via lostcap)
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my favorite thing about byun baekhyun (birthday series):

“one thing i love most about him is how he always makes sure to make his fans happy. he always smiles for us and makes jokes even when he’s not feeling well. he tries to be strong for us no matter what and idk how to say it but he makes sure to include his fans in whatever he does? like he shared a few things from his childhood with us, which no one asked him for but he wanted us to know and that’s the cutest thing ever.” - @byunchen

Stages of Grief

Denial - marked by shock and an inability to face reality; helps the individual to survive the loss and keep from being overwhelmed with their life and obligations

Anger - frustration at the injustice of the situation; the individual may be prone to extreme overreactions and must work to avoid assigning unwarranted blame to keep from damaging other relationships 

Depression - distinct period of sadness and reflection which may feel never ending; an individual will often look back on the past and think of memories with the lost love one 

Acceptance

Note: Not all grievers go through all stages