Harry Potter “You can only lose what you cling to.” Hermione Granger “You are unrepeatable. There is a magic about you that is all your own.” Ron Weasley “It’s always darkest before the dawn.” Neville Longbottom “Courage cannot erase out fear, courage is when we face our fear.” Luna Lovegood “Everyone seems normal until you get to know them.” Ginny Weasley “Though she be but little she is fierce.” Draco Malfoy “I never wanted to be different. I just wanted to be me.” Cedric Diggory “And the only solution was to stand and fight.” Oliver Wood “Success isn’t something that just happens - success is learned, success is practiced, and then it is shared.” Dean Thomas “I’m in love with cities I’ve never been to and people I’ve never met.” Seamus Finnigan “Curiosity often leads to trouble.” Lavender Brown “There I just said it; I’m scared you’ll forget about me.” Parvati Patil “She’s got lions in her heart, a fire in her soul.” Pansy Parkinson “It would be too easy to say that I feel invisible. Instead, I feel painfully visible and entirely ignored.” Blaise Zabini “I’d like to remain a mystery.” Fred Weasley “You have a choice. Live or die. Every breath is a choice. Every minute is a choice. To be or not to be.” George Weasley “I’ll be alright. Just not tonight.” Lee Jordan “It’s better to cross the line and face the consequences than to just stare at the line the rest of your life.”
James Potter “We’re all just stories in the end.” Sirius Black “Nothing scares me anymore.” Remus Lupin “We accept the love we think we deserve.” Peter Pettigrew “We’re all just kids who grew up way too fast.” Lily Evans “We’re forever, aren’t we?” Alice Longbottom “It hurts me to think you’ve ever cried.” Frank Longbottom “Be by my side.” Amos Diggory “That day, we lost to fate.” Marlene McKinnon “Life’s tough. Get a helmet.” Regulus Black “All my friends are broken toys.” Severus Snape “I am the monster you created.” Lucius Malfoy “If I tremble, they are gonna eat me alive.” Narcissa Malfoy “She’s gone, but she’s everywhere.” Bellatrix Lestrange “Everything she does comes from this dark impulse. That’s what makes her so thrilling to watch.”
Albus Severus Potter “This one’s for the lonely child, broken hearted, running wild.” Scorpius Malfoy “I spend way to much time in my head.” Rose Granger-Weasley “She’s going to set the world ablaze.” Teddy Lupin “Nothing is what it used to be.”
Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them
Newt Scamander “Your awkwardness is adorable.” Tina Goldstein “I noticed everything. I just acted like I didn’t.” Queenie Goldstein “Yes, I like the way you smile with your eyes.” Jacob Kowalski “What if it’s not everything I dreamed it would be?” Creedence Barebone “How many times can I break until I shatter?” Percival Graves “The storm is coming but I don’t mind.”
“Every once in a while you come across someone whose style is so clean and manners are so refined that you realise the power of the word Gentleman, in the most classic sense of the word.”
His style is the personification of cool and elegant sophistication; an unapologetic embrace of discreet polish and natural confidence. Shrouded in a tapestry of unpretentious swagger, the long awaited re-emergence of the distinguished modern gentleman is almost upon us.
We are living in a cold, digital and cynical world, where values, virtues, manners and behaviour don’t seem to matte anymore. The reality is that even human interaction is overwhelmingly supported by and through digital technology. Human kind seems so bent out of shape, where facts are no more relevant and are considered optional, where black is white and where up is down. People seem to know the price of everything and the value of nothing. -Oscar Wilde Celebrities who stand for nothing and everything run and influence the world. Society has become so fake that the truth actually bothers people.
The interesting thing about human society is that whenever - lets call it a phase gets out of control a so called counter movement arises. In this case it is the rise of the gentleman and with it the resurrection of virtues, values, manners and behaviour. In a society without role models who reflect for what humanity stands for and by what it’s normally kept together, the call and the search for a deeper purpose in life gets louder and broader.
The rebirth of the cool is also the birth of the modern gentleman who is not defined by birth or age but rather by choice. It’s a conscious and personal decision made by individuals to frame their way of life with gentlemanly values. In my opinion there is no higher accolade than to call a man a gentleman.
It is also displaying diversity in terms of preexisting stereotypes and the perception of gentlemen in general. A gentleman is not perceived anymore as a monolithic block of people. Not every man in a suit and tie is a gentleman and not every gentleman wears suit and tie. The modern gentleman is no longer defined by the content of his wallet or the cut of his suit, he is defined by his manners and the content of his character. Never forget, a monkey in a suit is still a monkey.
In every aspect of life respect yourself enough to know that you deserve the very best. Never wake up to be mediocre. The mindset of a modern gentleman in terms of business, lifestyle and sports.
A gentleman takes pride in how he presents himself.
Whether it is how he dresses or how he speaks, a gentleman understands the importance of a first impression and how he is perceived. No, this does not mean he lives his life on other people’s terms or is always looking for validation from them. What it means is, he understands the importance of making a good impression and expanding his personal and professional network. A man who takes pride in who he is and how he presents himself will find more opportunities coming his way, as he is desirable to spend time and engage in conversation with.
A gentleman treats everyone with respect.
Regardless of race, gender, sexual orientation, or any other involuntary characteristic a person can have, a gentleman does not categorize. He sees those around him as human and treats them with the respect that he would expect them to treat him with. Since a gentleman does not discriminate, there is no basis for unfair treatment towards others in his mind, everyone is equal. He understands that his kindness towards others is not based on who they are, but on who he is. Because of this, it is unwavering.
A gentleman does not allow himself to be walked on.
There is a difference between showing kindness towards others and letting yourself become a doormat. Part of having respect for others is also having respect for yourself. A gentleman who has respect for himself will never let himself be taken advantage of. Give others the benefit of the doubt and the gift of your kindness, but if they do not do the same, a gentleman will understand they do not meet the standards of those who he accepts into his life, and he will move forward.
A gentleman will always be improving himself.
As an extension to the previous point, in order to get respect from others, you first must have it for yourself. This means taking care of both your physical and mental well-being. In a photoshop-ridden society, our generations certainly appear to value surface over substance, but a gentleman understands the importance of what goes beyond the outer shell. Whether it is reading books, listening to lectures, watching documentaries, or any other education medium he prefers, it is important to not lose sight of improving the mind while also working on improving the body.
A gentleman values his family and relationships.
More important than professional accomplishment and success, is cultivating the relationships with the people whom you will share it with. A gentleman will understand that no matter how far he makes it in life, it is better to be in a cottage with people he loves than it is to be in a mansion by himself.
A gentleman isn’t afraid to be wrong.
Many people in today’s day and age seem to have an incredible avoidance to being wrong. They will take a stand on a position and never allow new information or evidence to change their mind. This puts up a stone wall around your current base of knowledge and allows no room for expansion beyond it. The only way to learn or grow, is to be wrong. Only when you are wrong do you absorb new information, change your stance, and subsequently become “right.” Without the ability to admit a mistake, there will be no lessons to take from it.
A gentleman is cool, calm, and collected.
In a fast paced, constantly-changing world, it is an asset to be able to slow down the mind and keep things in perspective. A gentleman will have (or work to develop) the ability to not be perpetually stressed out. He will take life’s ups and downs in stride, and understand that night is always darkest before the dawn. Even when problems arise, he will work through them with determination. This will prevent him from becoming overwhelmed and making poor decisions or treating others badly.
A gentleman always keeps the woman in his life happy.
It is important for a gentleman to hold high standards for how he acts when he is in a relationship. This includes never mistreating her or taking her for granted. Always valuing her and showing her that he does (not just telling her). He will understand that the effort it took to get the type of woman he wants, is the same effort it will take to keep her, and that a lady would never accept being taken for granted any more than he would. He will never lose sight of doing the small things that make her happy.
Gentlemen are a rare breed and an endangered species in today’s society. It is important for men to strive for these ideals as well as for women to show the men their efforts are appreciated and recognized. While many men reach for these qualities without any need for outside influence, I can also assume that more would put in effort if they knew how much of a difference it would make in their life.
But if they don’t, gentleman cannot be afraid to separate themselves from the crowd. The effort they put into living the best life they can comes with a reward that many others will never receive: The accomplishment of that goal.
These days, becoming a modern gentleman isn’t easy. It goes far beyond the simplicity of what clothes we wear. Something has to be said about men’s grooming and its importance in achieving the gentleman look we strive for. Times have evolved and getting hold of that look has now become not just desirable, but believe it or not, there’s an art to it. Brushing your teeth and splashing some water on your face just won’t suffice anymore, we got away with it long enough. It’s time to go the extra mile!
Healthy skin, maintaining the beard, manscaping and don’t be fooled manicures are manly.
The way men look after their appearance has
undergone a revolution in the last twenty years.
Where once a moisturiser might have been
considered outré, it now seems to be the bedrock
of every man’s grooming regime. It’s easy to fall
prey to anxiety and insecurity on these fronts,
especially in the face of advertisements and
Photoshopped media icons.
So yes, it helps enormously to enjoy your
grooming routine; but our long term aim is to use
the confidence that comes with looking good to
feel completely at home in our own skin.
BE WELL GROOMED, NOT OVER-PREENED
Good grooming is like a magic trick: people
should be impressed by the results, but in the
dark about how you achieved them. Overdo the
fragrance, teeth whitening or eyebrow taming
and you just show the world your sleight of hand.
CREATE YOUR OWN RITUAL
Many cultures (from the ancient Greeks and
Jews to the modern Japanese and Scandinavians)
practise bathing as a ritual. Hot water is relaxing,
yet invigorating like little else – that’s why some
of our best thoughts can come to us in the shower.
But take the time out from here on in to really ‘be’
in the shower, to quell the monkey mind and to
really feel the water on your skin and the scent
of the products you use. It’s not just the female of
the species that’s worth it.
Health And Wellbeing
Todays modern gentleman lives his life
holistically. He understands that how he treats
his body affects his mind, and vice versa, that
there’s no real separation between the two. An
improvement in one area is often what unlocks
improvement in another. Some say that exercise is the new religion – that
gyms are the new cathedrals. Perhaps this is a bit extreme. But it reveals a larger truth: physical
fitness can be very important, partially because
it’s always a subset of a much bigger theme: living
a good life.
PRACTICE YOUR OWN SPORTS PSYCHOLOGY
Playing sport doesn’t just build muscle and lung
capacity. It helps you to refine your ability to
strategise and practise collaboration and fair
play. By observing your knee-jerk emotions and
choosing to respond rather than react, you can
change your behaviour on and off the field, court
It seems odd that we often stand on the escalator
on the way to a gym class. Exercise begins the
moment you get up in the morning. The ‘active
living’ movement helps us to understand this.
Man was never meant to be sedentary. Walking
up the stairs, washing the car, and having sex can
all increase our fitness without a sweaty gym bag
The 30 steps to being a modern gentleman
Negotiates airports with ease.
Never lets a door slam in someone’s face.
Is aware that facial hair is temporary, but a tattoo is permanent.
Knows when not to say anything.
Wears his learning lightly.
Owns one well-made dark suit, one tweed suit, and a dinner jacket.
Avoids lilac socks and polishes his shoes.
Turns his mobile phone to silent at dinner.
Carries house guests’ luggage to their rooms.
Rises and says his name when being introduced.
Breaks a relationship face to face.
Is unafraid to speak the truth.
Knows when to clap.
Arrives at a meeting five minutes before the agreed time.
Is good with waiters.
Has two tricks to entertain children.
Can undo a bra with one hand.
Can sail a boat and ride a horse.
Never kisses and tells.
Cooks an omelette to die for.
Can prepare a one-match bonfire.
Seeks out his hostess at a party.
Believes in chivalry.
Has read “Pride and Prejudice”.
Can tie his own bow tie.
Sandals? No. Never.
Wears a rose, not a carnation.
Swats flies and rescues spiders..
Demonstrates that making love is neither a race nor a competition.
Knows that there is always an exception to a rule.
Chivalry alive Is chivalry dead?
Chivalry isn’t dead, but it’s certainly in shorter supply these days. Likewise, gentlemen still exist, today, although they may appear slightly different. The “old school” gentleman, who pulled out chairs and opened up car doors, has since been replaced with the “modern” gentleman, who can maintain a stimulating conversation outside the realms Facebook Messenger. Given the social norms of today’s society, being a gentleman will prove itself to be quite difficult – but not impossible. And while media outlets love to glorify the male icons who tend to mistreat women, and ignore the more chivalric ones who don’t generate headlines, this should have no bearing on how you choose to conduct your own lifestyle. Just because certain behaviors aren’t considered “cool” or “popular” by mainstream standards doesn’t mean they’re correct by societal standards. Being a gentleman is timeless, and mainstream trends will phase in and out. Notice this, and focus on the long-term. While being in your 20s and carefree may discourage all intentions of acting “gentlemanlike” – recognize the longevity of certain good habits. These will never “go out of style,” and are telltale signs of maturity.
Everyone can be a gentleman. That title is earned, it’s not something you’re born into.
Some people wait a whole lifetime for their happy ending. Others find theirs sooner and yet find themselves bored and wondering, is this it? Princess Emma of Misthaven is luckier than most. She finds her happy ending at just six years old.
She just doesn’t know it yet.
“Who dares trespass on the fearsome Captain Hook’s ship?”
Emma freezes at the rough words despite the evidence of all her senses clearly showing that she is far from harm. In a forest, in fact, not more than a few miles from her family’s summer home and miles away from the sea.
But, in all her six years she’s never known anyone to take such a tone with her. People usually don’t when they talk to a Crown Princess. She should know that this is but a game of make believe, but she’s a lonely child and not used to playing games. And so, these words are enough to strike fear into her heart.
“Oi! Are you deaf or are you defying the Captain, lass?”
The voice comes from much closer now and she jumps, unsure of what to do or say. Instinctively she raises her hands in surrender and turns to face the pirate.
1. Get angry the correct way. Don’t yell, scream, and blurt obscenities. Calmly, and firmly, approach the wrong that’s been done if it is in your power to do so. If not, paint, or write down your feelings. When angry, be the opposite of destructive.
2. Forgive, forgive, forgive. Not only is it the act of accepting an apology you will never receive, it is taking back the power away from the one who hurt you to continue hurting you with no more effort on their part.
3. Always be grateful for anything done out of love or selflessness, whether you like what was done or not. It feels better than getting upset over something you may not want in a year.
4. Love without expecting anything in return. You can’t be let down that way, and you never run out of love to give anyway.
5. Look for the silver lining, the positive in every bad situation. There exists a positive in all bad things, even if you have to create the positive yourself. (The negative instance gave you the inspiration to make something positive)
6. In all that you do, do your absolute best. Even if it is doing something you hate, you will be able to take pride when it’s finished.
7. Always be polite. It doesn’t hurt, and it’s nice when you receive it in kind.
8. Smile more. For any reason, or none at all. Smile when you get your morning coffee. Smile at your waitress, or barista, or the person at the ticket counter. Smile at your coworker, your boss, strangers, and your mother-in-law. Just find some time to smile.
9. Don’t give up. No matter how hard it is, don’t give up. Just keep going. It’s always darkest before dawn, and the climb is the most steep just before you reach the mountain peak.
10. Greet everyone you meet with no preconceived notions or expectations regardless of what you heard about them from others. Talk to them like an old friend, and they may become one in spite of any differences there may be.
Okay I'm totally going to need you to convince me how this is going to be okay because right now I actually feel pretty sick. I don't see how they have enough time once they leave the framework for Fitz to deal with this trauma. Fitz has killed a woman now, even if he wasn't aware he was doing it. And if he tortures Daisy, I just don't think I can watch that. To come out and have their happy engagement would be wrong and rushed. When do they get to heal? Where is the payoff???
Hi Anon! And anyone else who needs this…
Its Going to be Okay!
This story isn’t supposed to be happy or fun, we are in a reality built by a crazy, evil book influenced, programmed by the questionable Dr. Radcliffe, and obsessed with becoming a real girl AIDA here. She has twisted each and every single character. Fitz and May more than anyone else.
I’m just going to run down my major points here. I hope it helps. Again I am not ashamed to say that I am still enjoying this arc. Its uncomfortable and frustrating as all get out. But it has me rooting SO HARD for Fitzsimmons right now. For the entire team right now.
Fitz partly a distraction:
We all know that something the writers do is the fake out. They have us looking at and focused on one thing so we literally don’t see the truck that is coming at us from left field. Season 2 for example. When Real Shield made their move it looked like they were our big bad of the season, that would be the arc. When in fact it was Jaiying and the Inhumans that were the bigger threat. So right now they have the fandom so wrapped up in Fitz….that we are ‘missing’ that thing over in left field about to hit us. A betrayal is coming guys and its going to hurt.
Fitz has been brainwashed:
This is not our Fitz. Period. Iain said at Wondercon that they were two different people. Two different characters. Radcliffe said when talking to him, he talked about our Fitz as a different person, because he was. We saw over and over throughout the episode AIDA manipulate him. I see things like taking his hand, asking for him to protect her, of vocalizing they are trying to take him from her as the triggers. You know how we know he’s been brainwashed…how down right TERRIFIED AIDA was of Radcliffe talking to him. That Jemma was taken out of the picture even before she could be a factor in his life. That AIDA boasted that she had manipulated this world and those in it to meet her needs and wants. Yes, she fixed a regret but each regret built on her fantasy.
With Fitz this goes well beyond fixing a regret. I still believe that initially making him the son his father wanted was just step one in AIDA’s process. AIDA took him as her own.
Everyone is Dark:
We’re not done yet here guys. We have more oh please no moment coming with everyone coming. And yes, Fitz is one of the most drastically different and one they are making sure to highlight but I am uncomfortable with everyone.
Coulson: Yes he’s breaking thanks to Tahiti but he still let Hydra take off with one of his own students. The big reason I think we have Coulson back is he is getting that “you did make a difference/Shield needs you arc here”. Mace is not the leader that Shield needs…he wasn’t in the real world and he won’t be here.
Mace: I am really worried about this version of Mace. While he is doing the right thing I’m afraid he’s going to do some things in that quest that aren’t good. Not to mention that he is a massive threat to the lives of May and Fitz. He will kill either one of them given a chance. He almost reminds me of Jaiying a little here with the “One of us” comment from the promo especially makes me thing of this.
Mack: He will do ANYTHING to protect his daughter (and low key worried how he found the Resistance so easily here guys). He sold out Daisy. But what was very interesting was his view on Inhumans. When we first met Mack he was ‘against’ them for lack of a better word. It was work with Daisy, Coulson, and Shield that helped him change his mind and become one of their greatest protectors.
May: Has been twisted as much as Fitz has. She has been in there the longest. Gone through the most ‘reboots’ of the Framework. It was her team that beat up Daisy. It was her that manipulated Mack using Hope. She is number 3 in Hydra and is a huge threat to her own team as well as a target.
Ward: So leery of Ward. I really fear Jemma will be who he betrays again. And its also interesting he could have gotten a shot on Madame Hydra there…#1….instead aimed for Fitz Hydras #2. Just saying guys…our master manipulators might be at work again here. For him if it comes down to giving up Jemma to save Skye…he’s going to give up Jemma to save Skye. Just as Mack gave up Daisy to save Hope.
They are their own worst enemies:
AIDA is likely the worst villain they have gone up against, a horrid culmination of everyone they have faced before. She isn’t dumb she built this world for HER. She is using loopholes to her advantage. Otherwise I firmly feel that everyone but Fitz would already be dead. So since she had to keep them alive she manipulated (even bragged to Radcliffe that she’d done it) those regrets for her gain.
She also has been in everyone’s heads. She’s been around the team before. She knows they are the biggest threat to her when they are working together as a team. So she either split them up or turned them on each other.
She has also made them each others dragons. It is clear now AIDA is in Madame Hydra. She knows right where Mace and the Playground is but allows the Resistance to continue because it feeds into the manipulation. Especially with Fitz, its another thing he has to protect her from.
I discussed in my meta last night that AIDA seems to be trying to make it so the team won’t ‘want’ to save Fitz (more lies, more manipulation). Here he’s The Doctor, Mace won’t bat and eye if he can kill him Isn’t going to give Jemma the resources she needs to get him alive. AIDA has painted Jemma as the villain. Leaving Jemma pretty much alone now in trying to save him (oh look another parallel). She has Coulson for now but I’m betting he will be pulled away too soon by saving Daisy or getting to May.
She took Fitz as her own:
A lot of what AIDA has done was to build this world how she wanted. To get who and what she wanted, and she wanted Fitz. Someone who would love and protect her. Made her happy. Her interaction with Radcliffe very telling. We said that Fitz treating her like a person would come back…and boy has it ever. She also wanted someone that loved and protected her like Fitz did with Jemma…so she took Jemma’s place. May too, she’s ‘rewarded’ May with a high position because I believe May respected her, liked her, called her brave.
But in taking Fitz in so many ways we really do have an epic love story set up here. Jemma is going to have to fight to get him back. I feel like part of that whole spectacle on the island with Agnes was for show. That AIDA knew Jemma was there set up that whole thing with Agnes so Fitz would see it. Try to shake Jemma, make her think that he was too far gone,. It also took away the little support Jemma had found. Leaving her alone in trying to save him. AIDA is scared as heck of Jemma and her saving him.
AIDA also doesn’t have him fully yet. Fitz says he would cross the universe for her but he HAS done it for Jemma.
Fitz is in there:
In the horror of feels that was last night we saw Fitz peeking through more than once. And every single time we saw it it was because Jemma was in the mix either in person or in a picture. And only with Jemma, May, Daisy, and Radcliffe had no effect (though Radcliffe planted seeds, very important seeds).
Aside for Coulson who is aided by Tahiti we haven’t seen anyone else ‘break through” at all.
May: Came into contact with Fitz, Daisy, and Mack…nothing.
Mace: Came into contact with Jemma, Mack, and Coulson…nothing.
Mack: Came into contact with Daisy, May, Mace, and Coulson…nothing.
Engagement is Endgame:
When we look back at interviews from Loeb, Jed, and Mo they have been hinting at this arc all season. And they have been setting up an engagement for Fitzsimmons all season too.
“This young man as you have never seen him before” that was what Leob said at SDCC and also where we first heard the ‘reward’ talk. And we have seen them pay off everything so far. And coupled with the timing of Jed’s quote in EW, engagement coming up in 15, hints all season, and getting their middle names. I think once they are out they aren’t going to risk it again.
“It could happen. If they ever get back together, that’s something that could happen in their future.”
And I’m sorry to say this but this is TV, A drama at that, we have to jump through all sorts of hoops to get this kind of pay off. That is part of why we are now tearing our hair out and crying until Jemma gets him back. And when she does the pay off will be worth it. Look at what we got after Hogface.
AOS has never ‘dealt’ with trauma and recovery very well. Even Daisy’s recovery a victim of the Ghost Rider Arc. It is often done over hiatus or “off camera. Now we have a situation where its the whole cast that will have things to deal with. So yes, we will miss seeing it but because we don’t see it doesn’t mean it won’t happen.
We can also have the healing ‘begin’ in the Framework, especially for Fitz as he helps get everyone out or plays a part in stopping AIDA once as for all.
Sorry that was a lot but I hope it helps. Just remember its always Darkest before the Dawn and our Sunrise is coming guys.
I just watched 5x15 and saw the meltdown that followed. I remember the exact same meltdown 2 years ago when Felicity went back to Ray after he found out Oliver was the Arrow and the fight with Oliver and Roy. Helix is Felicity's LOA. The mirroring is not even subtle anymore.
Exactly, @sadfangirl05. Around this time it’s always the darkest before the dawn on Arrow. Always.
In 315 Oliver and Diggle traveled to Nanda Parbat while Felicity was all caught up with Ray.
In 415 Olicity are broken up and in the next episode they do the fake wedding thing, to rub salt in our wounds.
These characters have always done shitty, painful, careless, distracted things to one another at different times. I know, people will say it’s worse now because of all that Olicity have been through - they were almost married. Well, I can guarantee you you’ll be saying the same thing when they’re married - it’s worse now that they’re XYZ because they’re married.
The premise of Arrow has always been the characters making a LOT of wrong moves and choices throughout the season, and then at the last moment, they pull their act together and sort it all out for the most part. Usually there is one thread that continues onto the next season.
I know this feels worse then everything that has come before, but honestly, this is Arrow. They’ve always had Oliver be dumb and oblivious about things until it’s time for him to get smart and on point about things. Is it the best way to write a story? Probably not at this point of 5 years in, but it’s what Arrow has always done. It only feels worse because you’ve got nearly 5 years of investment in these relationships. And next year whatever angst is being thrown at Olicity will feel even worse because you’ll have nearly 6 years of investment in them.
Right now, in the story, they need Oliver to be chasing after Susan. They didn’t want him chasing after Felicity back when they broke up, because it wasn’t his place to. He broke her heart and the one thing she asked of him was to let it go. There was dysfunction on both sides of their relationship, but it was Oliver’s dysfunction that ultimately was the straw which broke the camels back. So, no, he couldn’t have run after her and tried to get back together. That wouldn’t have been right after the betrayal that ended their relationship. Felicity has to show herself willing to trust him again, and Oliver can’t pursue her into that.
This situation with Susan is totally different. Oliver wasn’t at fault for what happened to her. That was Thea and Felicity. Him pursuing Susan and trying to make amends is not remotely in the same ballpark of what was required for him and Felicity to reconcile. Trying to get back with Susan is a much easier ask. And does anyone think that maybe a lot of this drive of his to ‘make things right at any cost’ for Susan comes from his total inability to do that for Felicity? That in trying to reconcile and make up to Susan for the problems which came to her as a result of dating him, that he’s doing it as a kind of proxy for not being able to do that for Felicity.
And as for him going to Felicity for love advice, yeah, that sucked. But I think it was there in part to show us how much Oliver completely believes Felicity is done with him. Because if he thought there was the slightest chance for him and Felicity, there would be no Susan. But Oliver is convinced it’s hopeless. He broke Felicity’s heart, destroyed her dreams, then killed her bf. Oliver figures it’s beyond repair, accepting what Felicity has told him finally. Hence Susan is even around.
And I think that scene has another purpose - just like the balcony scene was Oliver’s ‘holy crap, we’re really done’ moment, this could well feed into the same for Felicity. Holy crap, Oliver is 100% on board with us being done otherwise he wouldn’t come and ask me this kind of stuff. Felicity has to have this kind of reality shoved in her face to push her further into her dark spiral. Oliver is all distracted with Susan right now, (hence the kidnapping) because he has to be for Felicity to continue to spiral down. He has to have reasons not to notice stuff going on with her until the story is up to the part where they need him to notice something is really going on with Felicity.
Felicity has to feel like all her options are gone. Then she has to choose what she wants to fight for. Just like Oliver has done in the past. Is she going to fight to find a way to trust in Oliver emotionally again? Is she going to fight for the kind of legacy she wants to leave? Is she going to let actions be defined by tragedy?
Basically this is all typical Arrow fare. Oliver has to be obtuse until he works it all out. There is conflict and distance and drama all over the place. And we’re in for a long haul until the end of the season when it all comes together. I understand people being upset, I really do. It’s not a fun episode for Olicity fans. But it’s done now. The plot points have been laid down, and now we’re onto the next part. I think it’s just worthwhile to remember that the more invested you get in something, the more you’ll feel every twist and turn of the angst knife. And if you’re mainly in it for Olicity, the angst knife is squarely in the back of that couple atm, so it’s going to seem like the horror has overtaken the entire show. But then we’ll move onto the next episode, and the next and each one will bring us closer to Oliver and Felicity wising up and learning their necessary lessons.
Growth is painful and ugly and has some pretty inexplicable bits… puberty anyone? But in the end you get through it, and maturity is a wonderful thing. Olicity are maturing, and yes, we’ve grown out of the cute baby stage, past the tween years and now we’ve run full face into puberty. But puberty passes, and we’ll be gifted with a grown up Olicity at the end of it. I’m used to crappy things happening with my ships. We’re still way better off then the angst thrown at the O/L shippers. No sister sex for us. Sure, there have been some less fun parts, but there hasn’t been anything which crossed a line for me. They’ve been careful not to have them cheat on each other, which I appreciate. That’s a really hard one to come back from realistically. Not impossible, but very hard.
Anyways, that’s my take on things. It’s unlikely I’ll be answering any other asks about this episode, unless something else occurs to me, because that’s pretty much where I’m at with things right now. :)
Ok so this one is sweet and cute, but does dance around the
issues of alcoholism and addiction. It’s fluffy though! Also I don’t own ‘Shake
it out’ by Florence + The Machine, just using some lyrics! So enjoy!
Warning: mentions of drug and alcohol abuse
Anon Request: Could i please get a Jacob trouba and Rick
clune one please! Thank you lovely (sorry for 2 im in love lol)
PS- I took this as two separate requests, but if you wanted
one with both of them let me know!
dancing around the kitchen, making Rich’s favorite dish. Your iPod was on
shuffle and blaring throughout your apartment.
Additional Tags: Alternate Universe - Still Have Powers, Alternate Universe - College/University, Erik has Issues, Erik has Feelings, Charles Xavier has a Ph.D in Adorable, Established Relationship, Idiots in Love, Jealousy, Angst and Fluff and Smut
Erik always knew that being in a relationship with Charles was never going to be easy, he just didn’t realise quite how difficult it would be, or how his own tendency for self-sabotage might make him run the risk of losing the most important person in his life…