it helps them in some way

GOT7 - You’re a foreigner.

Request: Got7 reaction: you being a foreigner but dating them


Mark: That would never be a problem for him, because he’s American too. You two would get on very well and always speak english together. “Baby, let’s speak english around members so they get confused?” He would say excited. “But… They speak english too.” You looked at him laughing. “Oh… Yeah,shit. Forget it." 

Originally posted by thekpopquartet

Jaebum: "Baby … Speak slowly or I will not understand you” You said to him, that spoke without stopping. “Sorry, sorry, I forgot.” He laughs. You weren’t fluent in Korean and he knew it, but sometimes it was difficult to talk to him. But this has never been a problem for any of you. He always helped you and taught you when possible. “Great, that’s the correct pronunciation, you deserves a kiss.” He says when he was teaching you some expressions.

Originally posted by wangpxppy

Jackson: OH MY GOD HE WOULD LOVE THAT! He would ask you about your country all the time, ask about the culture, about music… EVERYTHING! “Princess, you HAVE to teach me to speak your native language so when I visit your family, I can talk to them.”

Originally posted by thekpopquartet

Jinyoung: In the beginning, it would be kind of strange for him, it took him a while to get used to your manners and your way of speaking. Even if he loved it all, it would be a little stranger for him. But he loved the fact that you were different from the others and that’s what made him fall in love with you.

Originally posted by umma-jy

Youngjae: Sometimes, in interviews, some people tell some bad jokes about you for him. And he definitely hated it. Because to him, it was totally normal that you were a foreigner and he loved it. He loved to know about your culture and whenever you could, you were going to visit your country and your family. Youngjae always posted pictures of you in the instagram, telling how beautiful you are and always defending you from stupid and silly comments.

Originally posted by tuanpumpkins

Bambam: Actually, he would be so pround to everyone the fact that you are a foreigner. “So, my girlfriend is from another country and she’s so HOT!” And you thought that was very funny, he always said he’d never seen anyone as beautiful as you.

Originally posted by tanjhent

Yugyeom: Like Jackson, he would love to know about your culture and about your family. Sometimes it took him a while to understand what you were saying because you were not totally fluent in Korean and English. So you wrapped up in both languages so you could talk to him. But he was always understanding. This was never a problem in your dating, and he loves it, he really did.

Originally posted by chichangyu


MAN! FORGIVE ME IF THAT WAS SHIT, I REALLY DIDN’T KNOW WHAT TO WRITE

The issues with the recovery vs. anti-recovery discourse in a nutshell.

First problem: Nobody knows what anyone else is talking about (but they keep arguing like they do).

no one actually defines recovery the same way.

  • when we talk about ‘recovery’ half of y'all use that word to mean “doing what you can to manage better in your day to day lives” and the other half use it to mean “being totally cured, completely and utterly mental illness/neurodivergence/disability free” so we constantly end up with 2 or more people arguing about recovery thinking the people they’re arguing with are defining it the same way as they are but in reality everyone involved is talking about a different thing entirely.

whether you define recovery as managing better or being cured there’s also an issue of interpretation there because different people have different ideas about what managing better and being cured mean as well.

  • does 'managing better’ mean simply doing what you can with what you have? or are we defining it as nothing short of getting out every day and living some 9-5 job, white picket fence sort of life? i’ve seen people define it both ways and a thousand ways in between. when you consider recovery to be about being 'cured’, how do you define that? how do you see it happening? are you acknowledging that there are people who cannot or do not want to be cured and saying this shit anyway or are you only thinking about say, only depression, but simply not naming that thing in your post which brings me to

when we talk about mental illness, neurodivergence, and disability, people are STILL hopelessly vague.

  • take a sentence like “if you’re mentally ill recovery is possible” and ask yourself what mental illness are we talking about? what is your definition of recovery? because we’ve already established that 'recovery’ could mean any number of things and 'mental illness’ tells us nothing. are we talking about depression or anxiety? or are we talking about personality disorders? psychotic disorders? what? saying you can be cured from depression is not the same as saying you can be cured from a personality disorder - tips people share to help manage anxiety are not going to be applicable to all mental illnesses. y'all are constantly saying 'mental illness’ in posts when you’re actually only talking about depression or something and people with mental illnesses that are not depression are reading that and thinking “what the fuck” because what’s true for depression is categorically false for plenty of other shit.

people are constantly ignoring physically disability and chronic illness in discussions about recovery.

  • 'recovery’ is not only a term used in discussions WRT mental illness but also with physical illness and disability so when a person who is chronically ill or physically disabled sees a vague “recovery is possible” post even if you did not intend for it to be about them they have no way of knowing that when you’re being vague as fuck about what you’re actually saying and who it is your post is about. and i shouldn’t need to explain to y'all why telling a person who is physically disabled and has zero chance of that ever changing that they can be 'cured’ is on a whoooole other level than telling someone with depression they can be cured.

Problem Two: Y'all can’t tell the difference between personal anecdotal posts and posts that are specifically addressed to/for other people.

raise your hand if you’ve been victimized by regina george had some “we can’t all be neurotypical karen” comment added to a post you made about your own experience with some kind of coping mechanism or something you did that helped you with whatever is going on with you?

  • a lot of people involved in these discussions see a post that says “i tried yoga and it helped with my depression” and they think it’s the same thing as “you need to try yoga because it will cure your depression” but…they are totally different. personal anecdotes are not personal recommendations, a person talking about something THEY did to help with THEIR self =/= a person telling YOU what to do to help with YOURSELF.

y'all also constantly misconstrue posts that are brainstorming different potential coping mechanisms and positive things to do with posts that are specifically instructing you to do something and assuming that these posts are guaranteeing you 100% that all the things on them will work or your money back.

  • example: y'all see a post that’s like “here’s a list of some positive things you can do to help with your anxiety” and you think the OP is specifically saying that all of them will work for everyone…but that’s not what those posts are about. they’re not instructions, they’re ideas. they’re not meant to tell a person what to do or even promising them that any of that shit will work, they’re for brainstorming and coming up with something that might be helpful.

Problem Three: Some of y'all think too narrowly.

a lot of people on this site have an issue with black and white thinking.

  • nuance who? y'all don’t get that not only are all mental illnesses, neurodivergencies, and disabilities the same but that people who have the same thing are not going to experience that thing in the same way. example: two people with bpd can have a WILDLY different experience with it and can have wildly different methods of dealing with it. what works for the one can have the absolute opposite affect on the other.

y'all assume that you can see one post a person made or even a couple of posts and you think you know everything there is to know about them and their experiences.

  • but a person’s blog is only just a SMALL window into their life (even when they run a blog specifically about their mental illness, neurodivergence or disability you STILL don’t know even the half of what there is to know about them). you can’t see a couple of negative posts and assume that that means the person making them is “doing nothing” to help themselves or that they’re “anti recovery” because those posts are just a small fraction of who they are and what they’re doing. this is also even more ridiculous of an assumption because plenty of people use their blogs specifically FOR venting their negative shit and who someone is IRL is never going to be a living, breathing personification of who they are in their vent tag.

as much as people talk about “the mental illness community” or whatever, the fact is we’re not actually a community.

  • we’re a bunch of people with one common thing posting in the same tags and occasionally we form little connections when we all follow some of the same blogs and we see the same familiar usernames but we’re not a community in the sense that there’s a community leader or a set of community rules or a list of things unifying us together or, for that matter, any actual interaction between us. the fact is that tumblr is a website with MILLIONS of users and the view you have of certain groups of people on tumblr (the mentally ill, neurodivergent, or disabled for example) will depend radically on who you follow and what tags you’re viewing. if you hate being exposed to negativity and people who are negative about their lives, you can prevent that from happening by simply not following those people, by blocking them, and perhaps by finding other tags to post in. saying “tumblr is anti-recovery” is much like saying “the city of new york is anti-recovery” just because you stumbled across some people in a back alley complaining about their anxiety. you can leave the alley and go somewhere else that’s more suited to you, you don’t have to stay and tell the people there to shut up because they’re not being positive enough for you.

And problem four: Some of y'all are just assholes.

  • i think the majority of the recovery/anti-recovery argument could be solved if we were all a little less vague in our posts and made an effort to word them as specifically as possible and if we were all just a little less narrow-minded in both our thinking and listening but there are still people on this site who are just jerks because they will always assume that they know better than anyone else and, worse, that they know other people’s experiences and minds better than those people do and will absolutely lose their shit if anyone tries to tell them otherwise.
  • this goes back to more black and white/no nuance thinking and it’s a problem on this site that goes well beyond recovery discourse. the solution for this is for all of us to try and think more critically, listen more carefully, and consider other people beyond just our initial reactions. most of being an asshole comes down to not caring about other people—not caring about how they feel, what they think, what they have been through—and the rest comes down to caring so much for ourselves and what we personally feel and think about any given thing that it makes us ignorant to everything else, so obsessed with our own opinions that we’re happy to fall face-first into the pond and drown in them. we all have to be cautious that we don’t fall into that and that we don’t end up creating our own little bubbles where our voices are the only ones we hear and we can do that by talking (not vaguely) and even moreso by listening to others when they speak.
the art of chasing ♔ billy hargrove [two]

concept: steve has a female best friend and billy has taken it upon himself to flirt with her just to piss steve off. that’s it. that’s the plot. [vol. 2]

a/n: holy moly, i did not expect so much feedback for this! i’m totally blown away by the response the first part got so soon and i’m so happy you guys are enjoying this so far, thank you for all the positivity! here is part two my lovelies xoxo

[part one]


kids were laughing in my classes

while i was scheming for the masses.

who do you think you are

dreamin’ ‘bout bein’ a big star?

#3

Annie was starting to see a pattern.

Ever since Billy gave her the orange at lunch she’d been keeping an eye on him. It surprised her just how true Steve’s words had been – “He’s fucking everywhere,” – because, really, Billy Hargrove was everywhere.

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Tough Guy - Bughead + Serpents drabble

A/N: So I saw a post on this and thought it was super cute and wrote this small little drabble. Hopefully it does the post some justice even though it’s definitely not my best work because I wrote this in such a short time but some fluff for you guys! Thank you to my bbs @bughead-is-riverdale and @festivebetty for helping out!

“It was The Ghoulies again. For fucks sake, I thought they would stop after we trashed them the last time,” Sweet Pea groaned as he held an ice bag to his swollen eye, blood still gushing from a small slash across his eyebrow.

Jughead sighed as he listened to Sweet Pea recount what had happened to him on the way back to the White Wyrm. The Ghoulies had ambushed him out of nowhere and no one was there to save him, leaving him helpless against three rival gang members. These attacks have been coming at them randomly after The Serpents and The Ghoulies had a fight which resulted in a large triumph for The Serpents and a huge loss for The Ghoulies.

“Hey!” A familiar voice rang out but soon trailed off when she realised a huge crowd gathering around a seat in the White Wyrm.

She took in her surroundings, this being only the second time she had stepped into the White Wyrm to hang out with the Serpents.

“What happened?” Betty asked, concerned as she approached her boyfriend who was in the centre of the large group beside Sweet Pea.

“Ghoulies attacked again. This time it was Sweet Pea who had to endure their wrath.” Jughead sighed, pinching the bridge of his nose in frustration.

Betty gasped as she caught sight of Sweet Pea’s beaten up face and immediately rushed to the drawer beside the bar of the White Wyrm where the First-Aid kit was stored. As Jughead had become increasingly involved in the Serpents, she also had to help him more often, nursing him back to health while her heart broke each time she cradled her boyfriend’s wounded face in her hands. She rushed back to Sweet Pea and set the First-Aid kit on the counter Sweet Pea was leaning against, laying out all the necessary items to clean up the gash on his eyebrow. The whole time Sweet Pea was staring at her with wide eyes, his cocky attitude lost.

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Oh my god I’m soooo happy for BTS and all their success but how y'all gonna really sit here and say they “"PAVED THE WAY”“” for kpop artists in America as if groups like SNSD and Wonder Girls ain’t do it years ago and WITHOUT the immense effect of social media that has been a huge help for BTS agshdjdjd like Okay support them and be happy and excited but this girl group erasure is wild like at least do some research before you speak LMAO

anonymous asked:

How do you think Bra would take it if she found out about Vegeta's past as well, an evil space prince?

Ummm…

I think both of Vegeta’s kids will find out eventually about their dad’s past, but I’m guessing Vegeta and Bulma will wait until they’re old enough in order to understand certain things a lot better.

I could see them being shocked in some ways, but Trunks and Bra will grow up having their father by their side, and knowing that he’s been a good man for many years now, so I think they won’t judge him too harshly about his past and they’ll love the man who raised and took care of them, as well as loving and protecting their mother.

Vegeta has come a long way, and I believe Bra and Trunks will certainly appreciate that and love him even more for the massive changes and sacrifices he made in the end, including giving his own life during the Buu era and helping save the Earth on many occasions.

Originally posted by msdbzbabe

Originally posted by mandykot

anonymous asked:

Hey, just wanted to ask some advice: What do you think about deleting comments? Because I've been writing fic for a while but I only recently rejoined the Naruto fandom after taking a long break on it because the fandom wasn't particularly pleasant (to the point that I abandoned a couple of writing sites). And i've been getting quite a few nice comments, but some of them just rub me the wrong way or are upsetting, but somebody told me that it was rude to delete comments?

I think a lot of it is what feels good to you. If the comments are killing your inspiration to write, delete them. Maybe put a note at the beginning saying you’ll be doing that? It might help people realize they’re being rude. Or if you’re on AO3 there’s an option when you publish to moderate comments, which means you can approve them or delete them before anyone else sees them.

As for it being rude, i wouldn’t worry about it. You’re the author. You’re writing for free and on your own time, and people can adapt to however you WANT to write.

anonymous asked:

I have been admiring your gorgeous artwork and brilliant fan fictions for a while now. I will admit that I was wondering if you have written Cullen finding out his wife/gf is pregnant. There are so many bad fan-fictions and I have yet to find a truly excellent one. (I just lost my husband and we went through a miscarriage before he passed, so I have a soft spot for them. If you wouldn’t wish to write it, perhaps you might help me track some down?) I am a sucker for “Man finds out.” Ff’s. Thanks!

Jesus, Nonny. I feel like I should acknowledge the tremendous shit you’ve been through, but anything I can think to type just feels like empty platitudes. So just, a thousand hugs to you –– a thousand heartfelt, full body hugs. 

I’ll for sure take a crack at this, though excellence is in no way promised, (I usually aim for not terrible). In the meantime, does anyone have any Cullen finds out he’s gonna be a dad fics to rec?

anonymous asked:

i don't understand 'influence.' i must be missing something in the past. help!!!

Oh gosh, I don’t keep up with which cons/panels are which, but at another Mishalecki panel at some point in the past (JiB? Last year? Maybe?) someone asked about how they “influence” each other, and the two of them went straight to the gutter with it. The two of them were practically in tears laughing about it, and it was hilarious. And “influence” became the euphemism of the week.

ETA: Mel has found the links:

From JiB7 and JiB8:

https://justanotheridijiton.tumblr.com/post/167686944059/magnificent-winged-beast-unbelievable-they

And going all the way back to 2013, JiB4:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FUm6hX_sYrs&feature=youtu.be

ETA again because Mel is still sending me links…

https://storify.com/SPN_sil/jensen-and-misha-sunday-panel-jib7

http://cas-misses-moriarty.tumblr.com/post/148020652273/influence

http://bubblemish.tumblr.com/post/144800188320/misha-if-they-had-incest-fan-i-used-the-word

http://weallneedcastiel.tumblr.com/post/161018254600/water-influence-x

Enoy your influence!

anonymous asked:

Do you think there is hope for Nygmobblepot?

Well I mean…they will definitely become a part in each other’s life again, you know? And from what these past interviews with Robin sounded like…Oswald will indeed have a bigger part in helping Ed to get his personality back in some way? And aw I’m just so happy and thrilled to hear him talk about their relationship that way - you know mentioning how they define each other, how they each are able to bring out the other person’s true self and I really hope this will lead to them becoming somewhat friends again. 
I’ll be fine if it won’t be that sugary sweet friendship they had during Season 3, there can be a bit of banter and rivalry even, but deep down they’ll care about each other and admire the other. That’s all I want <3. 

Of course the best scenario would them both realizing they’re in love with each other (still) but i dare not to hope </3

I usually keep this to myself: but I try to not post negatively, saying stuff like “i dont have confidence” or I “i dont like my art” or “its bad” or “im bad”. I see some people I look up to posting like this about their art I really admire and I’m just like… dood.              And no matter how many times I tell them that I like their stuff or support them they still think bad of themselves and keep posting negatively about their stuff and it gets tiring. Its 100 percent okay for them to feel that way about their art since they have their own opinion, but it drains me when I try to help and it has a small effect but then later there’s another “im bad” post.

Saying that,  I hope I’m not like that when I post about stuff because I try to keep these feelings, if there are any (usually they’re only like,crap i can’t produce my usual stuff today or I need to improve something feelings), to myself and away from my audience. This is because I don’t want them to feel like how I feel when people that I look up to make amazing stuff but keep saying negative things about their art constantly, and then fans come and try to help and the artist continues to post negativity despite others trying to help and I wind up feeling irritated.

Then again most tumblr blogs are really not professional and these are personal blogs, so maybe I take these things too seriously and think about it too much.. o.o;;;

What are your thoughts?

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I was sketching up the Ugly Christmas Sweater picture yesterday and the next thing I knew this popped into my mind. Because mistletoe X3 Also Tiffany trying to “help” Deborah and being a bit unsubtle in her ways of trying to get them together. I guess mostly the whole thing’s inspired by the thought that while Tiffany might act like she’s going to steal someone else’s crush to motivate them, she’s actually a weirdly supportive friend. (Emphasis on the weird sometimes.)

Meanwhile Deborah’s embarrassed (though the kiss wasn’t all that bad really) and Tommy’s more surprised than upset. (And probably getting some ideas about that mistletoe honestly :3)

SECRET SANTA IS ON!

THE NAMES HAVE NOW BEEN DRAWN. (Randomly by a machine so it wasn’t me!) You will get the name of your gift-getter via the email you gave me. When you have that name, message me and I will pass on that person’s address. If you have not already, please add a whishlist on the SneakySanta site to help your Santa know what you may like. As always the gift is up to the giver but some guidance helps! If you don’t know your person well, and snooping around their blog doesn’t help, please send any questions my way and I will ask them on your behalf or have a friend on here do so, whatever you prefer. Whoever got me, please ask @jessinthesky for my address, she will give it to you for me. PLEASE REMEMBER THE GUIDELINES LINKED HERE. But the most important rules are: Gift budget is 10 pounds or less, keep your parcel light so you don’t spend too much on postage, you must use airmail or your parcel will take months to arrive, and you’ll need to provide me with a receipt showing proof of postage by December 1st. We want everyone to get a gift, and if you can’t go ahead please don’t be shy and tell me as soon as possible so someone can replace you. If you have any questions or struggles or concerns let me know and I will help you out! I ran international swap groups for years (nerd alert) so I can give you any advice you need on postage and packages and fees, you name it. This is gonna be so much fun and I can’t wait to see all your gifts! Everyone has been so sweet and humble and begged people not to spend too much with their requests, you’re all so awesome. Yeah sorry I can see those but dang you’re all cute x 

@albionsolutions @aliskirenn @upthebrackets @babyscrambles @severallargegins @memberofthejazzclub @getaddictet @ohsososophisticated @madfermusic @jessinthesky @azurfemme @shhshjsss @punk-rat @dothecoral @leftsomethinginmoscow @crazyjomarch @ilritmosecondario

On a different (and more brighter note) ;-


I’ll be opening up a PayPal account in the next few days! It’s for different reasons but here’s one of em’ 😊

• I’ve been thriving with my drawing practice, and I plan on dedicating some time solely to do one really nice drawing! Which if all is good, I’ll print so many of them and have them available for purchase 😄

• I plan on selling prints for around £15 a piece (incl. Shipping)! My father owns his own business so I have him to help me with shipping & packing etc

• Induvidual commissions are a long way off as I’m not feeling a whole lot confident just yet with my drawing, But I’ll be sure to update you all when I am!


• Also, So I can get commissions from other artists or buy prints etc. I’m so excited for that & @mushroommamamaximus …. I’ll be coming to you in the future so watch out! 😉😂

( Jee belongs/drawn by @blesstale! )
( Adre @me! )

anonymous asked:

The way you draw hair. Is. Amazing. Can you do a tutorial? (Or draw some more space princesses, I love them)

Thank you!! <3 I suck at tutorials, i don’t know how to explain anything, but I have this one I tried to make for an irl friend of mine ( @atoupik ) about a year back!

I translated it quickly, I hope it helps :D (there are some sad inside jokes in there so sorry, it was originally meant for a specific person)

And there are more space princesses on the way! ^^

anonymous asked:

Hey uh.. not to bother you by any means.. but can I get a link to those tips for drawing people crying you did once?? I looked through all the tags and couldn't find it myself, sorry..

Oh, it’s no bother! http://whatisthiscutenonsense.tumblr.com/post/147379834506/eruhamster-retroautomaton-some-crying-tips 

But honestly, I’m not actually too happy with those anymore. They’re pretty old. I still sort of hold the same value when I draw them, but here’s some more updated tips, if that’s alright. 

One of the biggest complaints I got with those tips was that just a single tear is good enough. Well yes and no. Tears are just a helpful tool, and of course not everyone cries the same, so yes, a single tear can be just as impactful, as long as your emotion and context carries the message. 

On the opposite end of the spectrum, there’s heavy crying. And this can take many forms. Again, the face has to carry the intensity of the emotion; the tears are just there to emphasize it. More intensity, (for some people) does tend to include more liquids and leaking. 

And of course none of it has to be perfect or even. As I love to touch on, crying is messy and ugly. It brings out the most strained emotions. So none of it has to be symmetrical to get the point across- if anything, it gives it more movement. 

I of course draw in a more cartoony fashion, so if you did want to go on the more realistic end of the spectrum, you can focus on the actual physics of tears and how they act and react on the face. More realistically, they come from the inner eye, and are much smaller. They tend to fall in wayward paths, slowly, but  sperraticly, and in droplets or thin streams. You can also add streak marks and flush up the face, depending on the subject. 

I’m glad you liked my old tips, and I hope these new ones help! 

I see a lot of writing advice, particularly about giving characters flaws. The main advice is “everyone has flaws! make sure to give your character flaws or else it’s not realistic!” And after thinking about it… I would like to challenge this.

It essentially posits a view of human nature that there are good and bad traits, and that these traits can be neatly diagrammed into separate columns, one set of which can and should be eliminated. It tends to go along with a view that posits character development should be about scrubbing away of “flawed” traits until the character achieves more a higher level of goodness, or else the character doesn’t and falls into tragedy. This is not untrue, necessarily. There are definitely some “flaws” that are 100% bad and sometimes a good arc is about slowly losing them. However, I could call this advice incomplete.

Consider thinking about it this way. Characters have traits and often whether or not that trait is a flaw is purely circumstantial.

For instance, fairy tales I read as a child. In some, when an old beggar asked for money on the road, it was a secret test of character. The prince who gave the old man money or food would be rewarded. But in other folktales I read, the old beggar would be malevolent, and any prince who stooped to help him would be beaten, punished for letting his guard down. Now, in a story as well as in real life, either of these scenarios can occur–a stranger who asks for help can be benevolent or malevolent. So which is the flaw? Is it a “flaw” to be compassionate? or is it a “flaw” to be guarded? 

Trick question–it’s purely conditional. Both traits are simultaneously a strength and a weakness. Either has an advantage, but either comes with a price as well. And whether the price is greater than the advantage depends on circumstance. The same can be said for most character traits, in fact!

An agreeable character who gets along with everyone will be pressured into agreeing with something atrocious because it’s a commonly held viewpoint. A character who’s principled and holds firm even under great pressure will take much, much longer to change their mind when they are actually in the wrong. A character who loves animals and loves to shower them with affection will get bitten if they try the same on every animal. As the circumstances change, flaws become strengths, and strengths become weaknesses. And even a trait that’s wholly virtuous, such as compassion, comes with a price and can be turned for the worst.

You don’t have to think about inserting flaws into your character. Your character, even the most perfect “Mary Sue,” is already flawed the moment you give her any traits at all. The problem with Mary Sue isn’t a lack of flaws, it’s a lack of circumstances to challenge her properly, to show her paying the natural price. Your job as an author is to create circumstances in the narrative that 1) justify why these traits exist in your character 2) show what your character gains from these traits and then 3) change the circumstances to challenge her. 

Make your character pay the price for their traits, for their choices. And then, when challenged, you can make a hell of a story by showing us how they adapt, or why they stick to their guns anyway.

my advice to anyone reading this: if you ever feel disconnected from yourself, write down your fears on a piece of paper or in a journal. write down all of them that come to mind, even if they are “stupid” or seem to be redundant. just do it, because you are forcing yourself to face them. it reassures you why you might feel off, and it reassures you that you can face these things and make a change. it makes you connect to yourself again. it gives you perspective. it’s scary to face your fears, but writing them down is a start. once you see them in front of you, something clicks again. you realize you are afraid of a lot of things and how they are impacting small things in your daily life. it makes you aware of them and how that might explain why you don’t want to go to the grocery store, or why you are afraid of affection or why you are truly afraid of love. write them all down and keep them somewhere to look back at. it seems scary, it seems like it would be bad to have them constantly there reminding you of what is holding you back. but as you face them, you can cross them off. you can see your progress, and you can become aware of how to make them disappear. you can’t change anything until you face yourself, and the best way to face yourself is to realize every little fear you have. admitting your fears to yourself is brave, and if you are afraid you’re not, you can check that off your list first thing. you will regain control of yourself again, i promise.