“Lets all love each other” is the fandom code for “i confuse legitimate discourse for fandom wank”. SOMETIMES THINGS ARE DISCOURSE BECAUSE THEY NEED TO BE CALLED OUT. Im sorry your ship of a teenager with his mentor or a woman with her enemy made people mad, Janet, but sometimes people get mad when you twist the things they love into real life Bad Things. Or people love something and dont want it tarnished by pedophilia or incest or abuse just bc you think 2 characters are hot.
And im sick of the “ugh the discourse” when THE DISCOURSE EXISTS FOR A REASON. MAYBE LISTEN. Do people take it to far and threaten people and start petty fights? Yea. But that doesnt mean “lets all just get along” is a good excuse. It often paints over marginalized voices’ concerns.
Theres a difference between “i think your ship promotes harmful ideas” and “i dont want them to kiss bc i think it’s dumb”.
anyway, lets reinvest in the value of discourse and stop painting a wide brush over problems and just saying “well thats fandom for ya!”