it continues into his adulthood

John Winchester and Child Neglect:  A Comprehensive Study.

It’s been a somewhat divisive subject within the fandom as to what kind of a parent John Winchester was.  Frequently, I see posts pop up on my dash defending John, claiming that he loved his sons and did the best he could under the circumstances.  Others claim John was blatantly abusive.

Well, I think it’s pertinent to lay the matter to rest once and for all:  he undeniably was.

And we needn’t look to subtext for signs of physical abuse, either (though as many others have pointed out, there is plenty there): child neglect is the most common form of child abuse, and it is textually evident throughout the series.

The NSPCC defines the basic needs of children as follows, all of which John gratuitously neglected:

1.  Basic physical care.

The NSPCC maintains that children should be provided with “warmth, shelter, adequate food and rest, grooming (hygiene) and protection from danger.”

Whether or not the various motel rooms they frequented could be equated to proper shelter, John routinely left his sons without enough food to share between them:

Young Dean is shown giving his portion of cereal up for baby Sam, and is later shown to have been forced to resort to stealing in order to feed him.  

Even in his adulthood, when asked if he had ever been “really hungry.  Like, not eaten for days hungry,” Dean emphatically replies that he had. 

The signs of hygienic neglect are slightly more subtle, but also present: after spending the summer without Dean, for example, young Sam is shown in clothes that are obviously too big and unbuttoned at the sleeves.    

And as for “protection from danger?”  Well, unless you count giving your small children loaded firearms, sufficed to say it was nonexistent. 

2.  Affection:

As the NSPCC puts it, healthy affection “includes physical contact, holding, stroking, cuddling and kissing, comforting, admiration, delight, tenderness, patience, time, making allowances for annoying behaviour, and general companionship and approval.”

Obviously, there was a point at which John would have provided his sons with adequate physical affection, but after Mary’s death it appears to be basically nonexistent.  

He is shown to criticize Dean fairly consistently (”I wouldn’t have given you that car if I thought you were going to ruin it”), was unreasonably harsh in response to his childhood shortcomings (e.g. failing to protect Sam from a monster when he was ten), and “leaving him to rot” for the summer at a boy’s home for stealing food at the age of sixteen.

3.  Security:

According to the NSPCC, security constitutes as “continuity of care, the expectation of continuing in the stable family unit, a predictable environment, consistent patterns of care and daily routine, simple rules and consistent controls and a harmonious family group.”

John constantly moved his children from one motel to another for the duration of their childhood.  This prevented his children from formulating any lasting friendships with people their age, the effects of which are most evident in “After School Special:”  Sam is left feeling like “a freak” in comparison to his peers, whereas Dean has already carefully developed his hypermasculine public image.

Moreover, John is predominantly absent in their lives, routinely missing holidays and disappearing for days on end.  Hardly a stable parental figure for the boys to fall back on.   

4.  Stimulation and innate potential: 

The NSPCC defines this as “praise and encouragement; curiosity and exploratory behavior. By developing skills though responsiveness to questions and to play, by promoting educational opportunities.”

Even disregarding John’s blatant discouragement of Sam’s pursuit of higher education, this is most evident in the characteristics of the boys themselves:  

Sam is ambitious, motivated, self-disciplined, and academic.  He prides himself on his ability to succeed in scholastic environments and conduct research, which got him a free ride to an ivy league university at the start of the series.  

These are all characteristics typical of a firstborn child, whereas Dean’s laid-back persona is more typical of a second or third born.  

As others have pointed out, this is because Sam WAS a first born child…to Dean.  

The reason first-borns are typically such high achievers is because their parents treat each success as a momentous occasion, whereas their successors typically garner less attention.  Dean was never praised for his accomplishment by John, whereas Dean provides Sam with a surprising amount of support and encouragement. 

Even John’s journal takes note of this, stating that when Sam took his first steps, he immediately went to Dean.

5.  Guidance and control.  

“To teach adequate social behaviour which includes discipline within the child’s understanding and capacity and which requires patience and a model for the child to copy, for example in honesty and concern and kindness for others.”

John taught Dean how to perform various illegal activities, including credit card fraud and hustling pool. 

This makes it doubly ironic that he reacted so violently to Dean stealing food or getting drunk as a teenager, considering he didn’t exactly set the best standard for upstanding citizenship.  Maybe he was just upset he got caught?

6.  Responsibility. 

“For small things at first such as self-care, tidying playthings or taking dishes to the kitchen and gradually elaborating the decision making that the child has to learn in order to function adequately, gaining experience through his/her mistakes as well as his/her stresses and receiving praise and encouragement to strive to do better.”

This one is a little different, considering John arguably entrusted too much responsibility to children his sons’ age.  Nevertheless, the fact remains that he gave almost no encouragement to the boys for performing these tasks, leading Dean to realize John was possessed when he told him he was proud of him.   

And finally…

7.  Independence. 

“To make his/her own decisions first about small things but increasingly about the various aspects of his/her own life within the confines of the family and society’s codes. Parents use fine judgement in encouraging independence and in letting the child see and feel the outcome of his or her own capacity. Protection is needed, but over-protection is as bad as responsibility and independence too early.”

John militaristically handles his sons, expecting them to be basically subservient to him and to obey his orders at all costs.  He forcibly cut Sam out of his life when he chose to become independent in his adulthood, electing to attend college instead of continue hunting. 

Moreover, Sam is visibly surprised that John let Dean go hunting alone at the age of twenty-six.

In conclusion, the reason I find John Winchester defendists so irksome is not that they demonstrate any real ill will, but that they demonstrate society’s fundamental understanding of what abuse looks like and the forms that it can take.  

Moreover, they demonstrate the popular misconception that because someone is well-intentioned, likable, or even sympathetic under some circumstances, that they cannot be abusive.  

I’m not saying John wasn’t worthy of pity.  I’m not saying he wasn’t without redeeming qualities.  I’m not even saying he didn’t love his sons.

I’m saying that he was, by definition, canonically abusive.  And we, as a fandom, need to acknowledge this fact once and for all.    

akaialaska  asked:

Here's a Sakuya headcanon I thought of~ It's to do with.... THE HAIR CURL. Okay, so imagine this. Little Sakuya having a habit of twirling his hair with his fingers whenever he got nervous. This habit continued on to adulthood, resulting in the hair curl, and when it was not curly enough for him, you ask? BRING OUT THE HAIR CURLERS. But, my point is, imagine Sakuya asleep and TWIRLING HIS HAIR FLICK. Tsubakyun and Belkia probably bully him for this lmao

ppfffttt yes, and I also remember all the jokes headcanons that I bought up about Sakuya using only ONE hair roller/curler thing in the discord chat awhile ago…. but I like the idea of him twirling his hair outta nervous habit. haha that’s kinda cute~ Tbh I twirl my own hair out of nervous habit so I RELATE.

Liar liar pants on fire. I’m sorry.

but I also had these other hair curler “doodles” done, from when we talked about it awhile ago. :> so I guess I can finally just post them here too. These were supposed to be doodles but I got carried away as usual lolol.

Look Mido, I even did the “older sister influence” headcanon because I mean ITS A PRETTY CUTE IDEA. 

Now he thinks he’s cool. :D But what if his sister was responsible for the hair curl???? I MEAN. COme ON. I seriously wonder what Sakuya’s opinon is on his own hair. Is he really okay with it??? Does he really wake up in the morning and is like, “This is fine.” Probably just give up one day. lol

DRAWING LITTLE BABU SAKU IS SO MUCH FUN I CRY. These silly hair headcanons weren’t supposed to MAKE ME EMOTIONAL.

thanks for sending Midori~

Dilettante

Noun

[dil-i-tahnt, dil-i-tahnt, -tahn-tey, -tan-tee] 

1. a person who takes up an art, activity, or subject merely for amusement, especially in a desultory or superficial way; dabbler.

2. a lover of an art or science, especially of a fine art.

Adjective

3. of or relating to dilettantes.

Origin:
1725-1735; Dilettante comes from the present participle of Italian delittare, “to delight,” from Latin delectare, “to delight,” frequentative of delicere, “to allure,” from de- + lacere, “to entice.”

“His writings, which began as a schoolboy’s jottings for the amusement of classmates, continued into adulthood, although he describes his youthful work as the musings of a dilettante.”
- David Gonzalez, New York Times

rinaxlen02  asked:

I just wanna throw this out there that yes, Jefferson did have slaves, and if you didn't know, he also raped one of them. His concubine when he was in France. He brought her back to America with him and she had his child. She was 12-14 at the time, different sources say different things. This continued on to her adulthood, and she had 6 of his children, two of which survived to adulthood. Sally Hemmings. Learn your #BlackHistory guys!

Okay so I was joking earlier because I figured everyone knew this, but seriously now— Thomas Jefferson was a fucking awful human being. He owned hundreds of slaves, and what he did to Sally Hemmings was appalling. He raped her repeatedly, of course never admitted the children were his, and never freed her. I realized some people might’ve thought I was serious when I called him an abolitionist, which… no.

Motivated (Mycroft x Reader)

Title: Motivated

Summary: Mycroft hasn’t been enjoying exercising, so the reader decides to help motivate him creatively by working out with him
Author: Maddy @laterthantherabbit
Words: 1950
Characters/Relationships: Mycroft x Reader
Warnings: None I think, a bit of swearing. Sexual implications

Author’s Notes: A big thank you to Vanessa for allowing me to write this idea of hers! I loved it and I hope you guys enjoy this fic!

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Mycroft had always been a bit self-conscious about his weight. After being teased relentlessly in his early childhood and having that teasing continued into his adulthood by his brother, he had always maintained a strict regime of exercise and diet. When you two had first started seeing each other, you had made sure he became comfortable enough around you to not be so occupied by how many kilojoules was in a meal and about how many minutes he needed to exercise to keep his weight constant. Eventually, his insecurities seemed to become faded in your presence, even if they resurfaced when he wasn’t with you.

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anonymous asked:

hi omg I love your blog! could you guys maybe do some daichi headcanons? i need soft daichi in my life!!

Soft Daichi is my jam, Anon… He’s a perfect husband and I love him. I did some Childhood and Fatherhood headcanons; hope that’s ok!! Sora is Admn Ellie’s brainchild, though, and she helped me with the childhood ones a lot.
~Admin Emma


Childhood:

  • I’ve mentioned before that Daichi was the wee-est of wee babies, but just because he was small didn’t mean he wasn’t healthy… and he was definitely a bit of a trouble maker. He was an inquisitive little bean, exploring everything–the instant he was mobile, he was into everything. No one really minded because he wasn’t overly destructive, but his older brother certainly minded when Daichi got into his Weekly Jump collection.
  • Daichi has two brothers–one a few years older, one a few years younger. Kaiyo is his older brother–taller, stoic, muscular and went into police work; Sora is his younger brother–also taller, obscenely popular in school, kind of a pretty boy, good at sports… Daichi has always low key felt inferior to both of them, even as a kid.
  • When Daichi was about five, he fell out of bed. It sounded like a sack of bricks hitting the floor, and his parents nearly had a panic attack. Child was still sound asleep, curled up with his blankets and pillows and his stuffed Pikachu, and didn’t even stir when his mom tucked him back in. He was fine (kid’s built like a brick house even then) but his mom installed safety barriers on the bed the next day. They didn’t come off until Daichi was almost in high school (and only then because he begged her)
  • Daichi was never a kid to cry a lot. He tried really hard not to when he hurt himself or he felt disappointed with something. It got to the point that, even when he fell out of a tree when he was eight and broke his arm in three places, he only whimpered. His mom only figured it out before he went inside because Sora started screaming.
  • Daichi has always had problems with really vivid night terrors. He experienced sleep paralysis for a brief period when he was young, and to this day he still needs a small light in the bedroom with absolutely zero mirrors. Before Sora was born, he would climb in bed with his parents, but once he was a big brother, he tried to deal with it on his own.
  • He was an artistic child. He was that kid who always had piles of crayons and colored pencils; the fridge was always covered in his drawings and paintings, and he was really serious about it. He even had a little sketchbook most of his life. He continued this habit well into his adulthood–he’s always needed that creative outlet. It’s how he’s so steady, even at a young age.
  • Daichi wanted to be a firefighter when he grew up. He was always really interested in helping people, and he always really admired them. Even after he started to play volleyball really seriously, he was looking at it for like, a real job and everything. As he got older, he started reconsidering because his parents really wanted him to go to college, but it’s still a low key dream that he has.
  • Daichi had a stuffed Pikachu growing up; he was always a big gamer as a kid, and Pokemon was his favorite. It was his fifth birthday present, and he literally carried it everywhere for about two years. It was always the one toy he took on school trips, it stayed in bed with him always, and when it had to be washed, he either had to be at school or he parked in front of the dryer until it came out.

Fatherhood:

  • When Daichi finds out you’re pregnant, he’s elated. He sweeps you into this gentle hug and there are tears in the corners of his eyes. He can’t believe how happy he is, and how lucky he is. He is super protective, though, almost to a fault. He will literally do everything for you without being asked. It’s great in the early months when you’re sick and tired, but by the end, you’re probably ready for some of your independence back.
  • Everyone sort of expects him to step into his role as a husband, caregiver, and father no problem, but he has a lot of anxieties and doubts. Researching gives him panic attacks, but not researching keeps him awake at night. He’s caught somewhere between wanting to be supportive and wanting to be supported. He feels guilty about it, though, because he’s always been your stern and stable Daichi, and you’re the one growing a baby, not him. Reassure him, though. Once you remind him that you’re nervous too, and that you’re a team, he’ll feel better.
  • The day his children are born are literally the happiest days of his lives. He worries the whole time you’re in labor, but the first time he holds his baby in his arms, he’s gone. He’s in love, and he’s so fucking proud. No victory, no goal reached, no obstacle overcome compares to the feeling of his healthy, tiny baby in his arms. He cries–like, real honest-to-God gut-wrenching sobs–when his first grabs a hold of his finger with those tiny, tiny hands. He thanks you profusely, and refuses to leave your side for a while.
  • He is literally your rock in the early months. He pulls more than his weight around the house because he knows you’re up every hour on the hour for feedings. He tries to get up too, especially for the things he can do like changing the baby or rocking it back to sleep when it just needs to be soothed. As a result, you and him both bond pretty thoroughly with your children, and neither of you is too exhausted because the other is always picking up slack and taking turns.
  • He loves blowing raspberries on their cheeks and tummies because he lives for their laughter. He does it to them until they’re about four or five, and when that doesn’t work, he tickles. He just wants his kids to be happy and feel loved at whatever cost, and if a few tickles from Dad is what it takes, he’s more than willing to deliver.
  • Daichi encourages wide varieties and arrays of interests. He wants his kids to try intellectual, artistic and creative, and athletic pursuits to their abilities and desires. He encourages trying new things, even if they aren’t very good at it at first, because he wasn’t born an amazing volleyball player. He’s also that Dad who will absolutely look into stuff his kids are into, but he’s not into or doesn’t know anything about. If his kids obsess over a game, he’ll try and understand what’s happening and ask them questions if they’re ok with it. If they get into playing a musical instrument, he’ll always ask them to put on little concerts for him, even if they’re awful at it. He always encourages and praises them, though.
  • He is literally the most supportive dad. If his kids ever came out to him, he would be so loving and supportive, no matter what. He also goes out of his way to make his house a safe space for all of his kid’s friends, unless they are legitimately bad people. Daichi has always been a good judge of character, though, and his kids trust his good word.
  • He literally takes to fatherhood like a fish to water. Everyone jokes about how it’s because of all the practice he had in high school, but he also knows that he would literally do anything for his kids. He’s just the best dad–stern, but fair; supportive, but always pushing for them to do better. He cries at every milestone, and makes them smile when they’re down. He’s just literally the best father any kid could ask for.
This will be fun

I think that one of the reasons why Daryl is looking forward to attacking the Saviors and taking the fight to them is that the Saviors are abusing these communities by extorting food and servitude from them, by randomly killing them for any minor infraction, and by literally trying to torture people into obedience.

And while Daryl, as a child, was unable to get out of his abusive relationship with his father (and his mother who neglected him and apparently was unable to protect him from his father’s verbal abuse, and later Merle, who continued his emotional abuse into adulthood even though he clearly loved his younger brother), he did make the conscious choice to leave Merle and instead return to the prison, to people he knew cared for him and his well-being and didn’t express their care by abusing him.

As an adult, he was finally able to actively choose to leave his abuser behind, and he must have felt empowered by making this choice.

Carol, who felt unable to actively get away from Ed for good before the apocalypse and “only” managed to do so temporarily by staying in the shelter in Atlanta and then returning home, very probably experienced relief (among other things) when putting that pickaxe to Ed’s head at the quarry, but she has yet to experience the rush of power Daryl likely felt on turning his back on Merle in mid-rant.

Now, the communities being abused by N€gan and the Saviors are making the conscious choice to fight back, and Daryl is looking forward to this feeling of empowerment again at deciding his own fate and no longer allowing an abuser and a bully to control his life - and Carol, after a moment of hesitation, agrees when he says that this will be fun.

It’s not about killing other people. It’s about ending their abuse.

anonymous asked:

Headcanons on how Teba, Revali, Kass, and Sidon would react to a SUPER self-conscious s/o?

Self conscious S/o (Sidon/Teba/Revali/Kass)

Sidon

  • To be honest, he really doesn’t get it at first
    • Feeling down about one’s self? Even if they know it doesn’t make sense?
  • It takes a deep and very serious conversation for the pair to bridge that gap of misunderstanding, but once he understands where they’re coming from, he decides to do everything in his power to show them they have nothing to be self concious about.
  • PDA goes up by a lot.
    • More cuddly
    • During cuddle sessions, he praises them a lot more than before, pointing out every part of them that he loves about them
      • He never runs out of topics.

Teba

  • Also someone who doesn’t get it at first.
    • If they were so awful, then why would he be with them? Can’t they see the logic?
  • Quickly learns that it’s not that simple, and after that, he does his best.
    • “You um…. You…you smell good.”
    • I said he does his best, never said his best is any good.
  • Despite his terrible compliment-giving skills, he does find that the best way he can cheer them up without looking or sounding like a moron is by constantly shutting down crap others might say and being more physically open about the relationship.
    • Holding hands more often, an arm (wing?) around their waist, etc.

Revali

  • Understands this the best out of literally anyone else on this list.
    • Nobody works that hard to have skills worth being arrogant over unless they have a good reason to.
  • As someone who grew up being self-conscious, and continues to be a little bit well into his adulthood, Revali knows that it’s not an easy thing to overcome, or even come to terms with.
  • Talks to them more, listens to them more.
  • Interestingly, one night he gifts them a bow, and informs them he’ll be teaching them how to shoot like him
    • When asked why, he says “While you think your skills aren’t worth anything, I think they are. I’m just giving you another skill that is worth being arrogant over.”
      • His way of saying “I stand by you.”

Kass

  • “Darling, no-!”
  • He gets why they might be self-conscious. Everyone has quirks or parts of themselves they can’t stand, and some are unfortunately given reason to believe they are far worse for them than others. 
  • Gives them several reasons why they shouldn’t be self conscious, loving them every second of their time.
  • He starts telling more stories of how they met at bars, boasting of them to anyone who listens.
  • And one night, when its just to the two of them, he plays them a song that is meant for them and only them, to be hummed whenever they can’t find a reason to love themselves.

anonymous asked:

What do you think about Credence/Real Graves? I find it creepy and wanna know how you feel about it?

I want to start by saying that all discussions below are simply how i feel, not a moral judgement of the pairing or its’ shippers. I personally don’t like this pairing, and can’t see it working out. These are all my personal opinions, i respect others decisions and reasons to like the pairing. Beware, a long ass psychological talk and character analysis of sorts.
Let’s start with Credence. Credence is a victim of child abuse that’s continuing into his adulthood, so i’m pretty sure that he was experiencing post traumatic symptoms way before meeting with Fake!Graves. We don’t really get into detail with Credence in the movie, but the psychological impact of the abuse he’s endured is very evident. Low self-esteem, feelings of shame and guilt, social withdrawal, passivity, anxiety, depressive symptoms, repressing emotions and memories, self-destructive behavior (obscurus), these are clear signs of post traumatic disorders. When Credence meets Graves, he appraises him as safe and forms a close attachment to him. He sees Graves as his escape, his protector and someone who truly cares for him. This makes Graves’ betrayal and abuse even grander. Credence already had attachment issues due to his continuous abuse, we can see this by his unhealthy dependence to Graves. Graves’ betrayal shatters Credence’s sense of safety, trust, faith in intimate relationships and attachment patterns all over again. This type of continuous abuse has a cumulative effect on the person, it’s making the stress symptoms he’d feel double in regards of magnitude and effect. It’s sort of like… this building didn’t have a solid base, and now fake Graves came and knocked the weak points down. This is why Credence snaps and lets the obscurus fully take over. He’s at his breaking point. Now, i know what you’re thinking, “but it wasn’t the real Graves who did that!” I know, i’m getting there.
Let’s nerd this out a little. The functioning of brain is impacted when it’s exposed to trauma, all cognitive functions operate differently and a whole a lot of neurological stuff happens. You probably don’t care much about that. What i’m saying is, brain in the face of trauma works differently. Our brains are prone to generalization under traumatic circumstances. It sort of lumps stuff together, makes associations, and rings alarm bells when it sees them again. This is an effort of brain to recognize the danger in order to protect itself.
Real Graves might not be the one who’s abused Credence, but his appearance is still a trigger. It’s a fight or flight response, he sees Graves and his mind immediately makes the connection with pain, hurt and betrayal. He feels unsafe and threatened. It doesn’t matter that it wasn’t this Graves who hurt him, the associations is still there. Exposure to cues that are related with his trauma should be gradual. Credence needs time and space away to fully heal to break that association. Social support is very important for his recovery, but the doubleganger of his abuser is not the right person for this job. There’s also the fact that it’s very likely for Credence to be experiencing cognitive difficulties in the recovery period, it’s really unfair to expect him to fully grasp and internalize the fact that two Graves are different people.
I don’t find it healthy for his healing process to be involved romantically with someone who looks exactly like his abuser. In fact, in a real life scenario, i’d regard this as a self-destructive behavior even. Credence needs to unlearn his old behavioral, social, cognitive and emotional patterns and form healthier and more functional ones. He needs to regain a sense of safety, control and trust to be able to do this. A relationship with Grave’s compromises this. Personally, i think he needs a healthy period of recovery before even considering a new romantic relationship, and when he does he needs his partner to be someone he can trust, feel safe, and move forward with.

TL;DR I’m way too interested in Credence’s psychology and recovery to be able to like this pairing. I can’t make both the pairing and a healthy recovery work in my mind, so i’m not interested.

Something that fascinates me: the junkrat and roadhog timelines

Age 1: omnic crisis is OVER, jamison throwing up and pooping himself as is expected of babies
Age 5: mccree, prominent gang member, busted by passed-over leader of blackwatch gabriel reyes and joins the covert ops organization. Jamison probably learning to ride a bike with training wheels, Australia might be a wasteland or is on the cusp of becoming one
Age 15: crime prince hanzo attempts to murder his brother genji, while meanwhile in the apocalyptic outback junkrat has successfully survived puberty and is currently developing his mushy adolescent brain in the nurturing environment of junker town
Age 20: Overwatch has fallen after being beleaguered for years by corruption and misconduct charges, while junkrat has lived his youth through the golden years of overwatch without receiving much of its benefits in the outback. From now through the next five/six years his unchecked nature will develop him into an unstoppable force of chaos as he becomes an adult
Age 25/26: SMILE!!

And for comparison roadhog:
Age 13-18: after growing up during a period of peace, technological advancement and optimism, the Omnic Crisis begins and will continue throughout Mako’s formative adolescent years into his young adulthood
Age 23: The omnic crisis ends, leaving the residents and former residents of deeply affected areas in an uncertain state
Age 28: Repercussions affect the world - a huge omnic emerges from the ocean to attack South Korea, while omnic tensions in Australia come to a head - The outback is or may be on the cusp of destruction and irradiation due to Mako and other members of the ALF destroying it.
Age 38: Somewhere in the world, environmental effects are spiking - climatologist Mei enters cryostasis. In Australia, the tragedy of the Outback’s destruction has forced Mako to witness life and home lost. He becomes a Junkertown enforcer and slips down the path to becoming Roadhog.
Age 43: Mako is gone, and over the next five/six years, Roadhog sinks into a routine of wanton destruction and murder that eventually develops into an international crime spree.
Age 48/49: we’re all animals

anonymous asked:

The more exercise and stimulation my dog gets, the more he misbehaves inside (marking, destroying things, harassing the cats, whining). Can you think of any reason for this? He is intact, and marked A LOT when we adopted him. With a lot of training, it's improved drastically in the past year. Now that we've found somewhere he can go off leash, everything has degraded badly (thought he seems happier). Could suddenly marking off leash lead to marking indoors? Do you have any suggestions?

In short, you’ve created a monster. It’s very important for dogs to get the exercise and physical stimulation they require, and that can range widely from “content with buzzing around the yard for a few minutes” to “must run at least 2-5 hours per day” depending on the dog in question, breeding, general activity level, intended use, and more.

However, where a lot of people make a mistake is that they only ever provide physical stimulation and just keep upping and upping the exercise without doing anything else. This is great for getting your dog used to long hours of intense exercise and not so great for teaching your dog to settle in the house. Over time, the dog simply gets used to all of this running around until you end up needing to run your dog hard for 5-10 hours every day and your dog is still not overly satisfied with its life.

There’s also such a thing as over-tired. Those in childcare see this a lot with children- the kids are exhausted and so they act out in increasingly frustrating ways until someone finally wants to throttle them and puts them to bed for a nap (and a breather). A lot of people also call this behavior “tired-hyper” as in “so tired that they get a rush of adreneline and go nuts for several minutes”. This is actually a fairly stressful state of mind to be in, for both the owner and the dog, and so when puppies and young adults in my class start acting like this my first instinct is usually to tell the owners to take their puppies home, crate them, and let them sleep for an hour and see what happens. That usually solves that problem as the increasingly poor behavior effectively disappears after the nap.

The last thing you want to consider is teaching your dog how to settle in the house. Some dogs get this right away with no help, other dogs need to be shown that it’s okay to relax and just chill in the house. Also remember that mental maturity does play a part in this, and that this is not a replacement for giving your dog the exercise he needs (just maybe helps you prevent overdoing it and having a monster on your hands). Creed as a puppy was a wild thing that I had to take outside and work for 2-3 hours every single day before he was willing to settle in the house. While Creed as an adult would like this to have continued into his adulthood, he was able to learn that if I want him to settle then I want him to actually settle, not pace and whine in my room. If I correct him verbally for it and he still does it, then I have one of two options. I can either crate him (which I have done) or I can take him out for more exercise (which I have also done) depending on how much exercise hes gotten that day. Today, for instance, he has let me have a good 5 hours to myself for my Japanese courses, but has become bored and is whining from his position on the floor where he’s surrounded by all of his toys. He hasn’t had a good run today, so it wouldn’t be fair for me to correct him for feeling bored when I haven’t met his requirements. Yesterday, however, I ran him for a good hour in the yard before settling into my lessons, then he worked all day at my job either as my service dog or as a demo for my clients, and so by the time we got home from work he was more than willing to simply hang out with me sucking on one of his favorite toys. If he had protested that I was not still being active with him at that point in time (and sometimes he does), then I crate him for a little so he can have a nap and settle in there.

Teaching your dog to settle requires a good amount of work from you, and patience as he has never been asked to lower his emotional arousal in the house before. Teaching a place command, supplying good chews and toys for him to amuse himself with, rewarding the good behavior you see, and understanding that sometimes putting him up is going to be the best way for him to learn not to stress himself because he isn’t being exercised 24/7 (not for long periods- 30mins to an hour maximum) when pacing and whining after already having his physical stimulation requirements fulfilled are all methods towards the same goal.

anonymous asked:

What do you think needs to happen in RTTE to make Hiccup as self-doubting as he is in HTTYD 2?

I’ve chatted about this before in depth, but because it’s been several seasons since I’ve done so, I’ll bring up some new points and thoughts, too - it’s about time to do that! First, though, mentioning the prior analyses:

One of the things I think is important to consider is that Hiccup is not self-doubting everywhere by HTTYD 2 times. I have seen some people write fascinating analyses about Hiccup’s overconfidence in HTTYD 2, and I think there is a point to that: Hiccup is very confident that he can diplomatically reason with Drago, despite the fact Stoick says they must go to war.

So there’s a very fascinating nuance to Hiccup’s character by HTTYD 2. He lacks confidence in the respect that he doesn’t believe he would make a good chief. He has confidence in the respect that he believes he can convince a man without reason to reason with him… believes he can stop a war before it starts.

Hiccup’s lack of confidence in himself in HTTYD 2 is related to him transitioning into adulthood. We actually see some of that hesitation in the first episode of RTTE; Hiccup is bummed that his companions appear to be settling into more adult roles, and that there are fewer dragons he can hunt after and study for funsies. But the thing with RTTE is that Hiccup finds new dragons to study at the Edge… and thus can prolong his questions of rising adulthood. Hiccup can continue to be a bit of a kid on Dragon’s Edge. He doesn’t have to tackle the sobering question of “Who am I?” just yet in the show. But by the time of HTTYD 2, Hiccup must face the reality that he is going to be an adult, he must have a place among the people of Berk, and he’s not sure what that place is.

Now, it’s not to say that Hiccup is all games in RTTE. As we’ve seen, Hiccup can get rather serious when he’s confronting dragon hunters, enemies, and antagonistic dragons. Hiccup acts as a responsible leader and asks the other dragon riders to be responsible individuals, too. But there is something to be said that chasing after dragons is what inspired Hiccup in his childhood, and it’s what is inspiring his stay on the Edge. Hiccup is willing to be a leader in situations where he’s with a small, core group of companions - the dragon riders - and where he’s handling something that he voluntarily studies - dragons. He’s happy to pursue dragons and fight for dragons and help dragons… even if it’s dangerous and serious, it’s his personal choice of where he wants to be. And it’s where he’s been since he was a teenager, still a child among the Hairy Hooligans.

Hiccup doesn’t see leading Berk as the same thing. It’s not just chasing after dragons in his free time with his friends like he enjoys doing. Being a chief, as he points out at the start of HTTYD 2, involves giving speeches, handling all the people of the tribe… things Hiccup doesn’t feel like he’s done. Especially, it’s to note that, from HTTYD to ROB to HTTYD 2, Hiccup feels like “a good chief” is equated to “someone like Stoick.” Hiccup doesn’t think he has what it takes to lead Berk because he’s nothing like his father. It’s what he says at the start of HTTYD 2:

Hiccup: It’s not me, Astrid. All those speeches, and planning, and running the village… that’s his thing.
Astrid: I think you’re missing the point. I mean, chief. What an honor. I’d be pretty excited.
Hiccup: I’m not like you. You know exactly who you are. You always have. But… I’m still looking. I know that I’m not my father… and I never met my mother…. so, what does that make me?

Dean DeBlois made Hiccup wander throughout the Barbaric Archipelago to try to search for answers about who he is. Hiccup is restless about being an adult and what his future identity will be. Note that Hiccup going around traveling and searching is something he’s done when he was younger to have fun. But now, Hiccup realizes he cannot do that forever for fun… and he has to start seeking out a real, solid answer about who he can be for Berk.

So Hiccup lacks confidence in HTTYD 2 about being a chief because 1). he thinks he’s not appropriately “chiefly” like Stoick and 2). he considers his time on Dragon’s Edge child-like free time rather than being a responsible adult. We audience members see Hiccup has developed responsibility and leadership skills during his time at the Dragon Academy and Dragon’s Edge… but Hiccup doesn’t see it that way. He sees himself as staring into the wide, scary world of adulthood, leaving behind everything he’s been comfortable with, and forging into something he doesn’t think he has the nature or background to do.

All of this is already set up and developed decently enough in RTTE already. Ideally in the last season we might see Hiccup realizing he needs to transition into adulthood in Berk. At this point, Hiccup realizes that his fun vacation chasing after dragons is done. Just like the start of RTTE where Hiccup worries about his future and what he needs to do as an adult, so may RTTE’s end lead to HTTYD 2. Hiccup prolonged the question “Who am I?” when he went to adventure on Dragon’s Edge. But now he’s back on Berk and needs to figure out his place as an adult… not a kid going around having fun with dragons.

In truth, I think what RTTE has to do moreof is develop Hiccup’s confidence by HTTYD 2 times. We have to get to the point where Hiccup is confident about his diplomatic and peacekeeping abilities. Hiccup has to be so confident that he can change peoples’ minds about dragons that he believes he can convince Drago to halt an army.

There are multiple ways we can go about this. One of the things I have suggested in other posts is that we can write the story such that Hiccup receives experiences that make him more averse to violence. Hiccup actually becomes increasingly peaceful in his solutions with enemies from HTTYD to ROB to DOB to RTTE to HTTYD 2, which is in line with who he becomes by the second movie. But this should be developed further before we get to HTTYD 2 for the transition to occur seamlessly. 

Either by seeing an unpleasant violent event happen that goes poorly… or seeing more peaceful events happen that go splendidly… can Hiccup become in tune with his beliefs by HTTYD 2 times. This way, Hiccup gets steered more towards the ideology he stands so firmly with in HTTYD 2 (to the point it’s impractical). If Hiccup tries to do something very violent and fails, he’ll remember his successful peaceful acts like convincing Stoick to befriend dragons. Then he’ll steer toward doing things like that by HTTYD 2 times. Or, if Hiccup does another peaceful, diplomatic act and it works, then that would reinforce his ideology that peace is the way to go. Anyone can be changed to be peaceful, so he believes.

We could maybe say that RTTE is helping that ideological path already. It all depends on their follow-up with Viggo events from S4′s finale. Hiccup might see how Viggo and Ryker’s violent antagonism led to unfortunate ends, and Hiccup emotionally might want to steer clear from doing anything like that himself. I don’t think the writers will go that way, but technically, it could be one way to reinforce the ideology he embraces by HTTYD 2.

So personally I think the ideal characterization to focus on for Hiccup is showing a little bit of his hesitance to enter Adult Land (thus showing his lack of confidence in himself being chief)… but also develop where he is confident. Hiccup needs to demonstrate confidence not in violent situations, but in diplomatic and peaceful ones, to seamlessly transition from RTTE to HTTYD 2. These situations ideally should to be extreme enough that Hiccup would prefer diplomatic conversation even above practical self-defense measures.

But even if the story doesn’t fill in all those gaps explicitly for us by S6′s conclusion, it’s probably going to be easy enough for us fans to interpret the material and fill in the gaps logically ourselves.

Creation

There are eyes in the air, amidst the pacing clouds. They are Ziggy eyes in the tiger striped sky.  He sees what we create on the barren landscape below.

A stage is raised, an alien gazebo of stone. It is already cracking in the heat of its own creation. Shadows are already dancing here behind the invisible curtains.

A coin, golden, fades in, center stage. It grows into a cauled fetus, curled gathering unto itself its own warmth, in a repetitive cycle of heatwave. The fetus continues its strange self-builder’s path to what we commonly call ‘adulthood’, his caul transformed into a modern sort of clothing. He lies still, still curled, curled tightly, as we all do.

Ziggy names him Danny.

Danny is like the statue of an angel with no wings at its own grave, until his eyes open, flickering. He has a frightening face, a crazed expression.

He stands, and his hair is now flame. Dancing.

Set to a crouch at the edge of the stage, Danny hops off. He kneels, scooping some of the grey dust of the world into his hand. He climbs back onto the stage. Danny lifts his shirt, and touches a bit of the dust to his chest, leaving an ugly smear.

“There’s razors in my bed,” Danny whispers. And sure enough, center stage there is a keen and cruel and crude athame. He grabs it quick quick quick, and stabs where he was stained. As he pulls the blade slowly across, he passes out.

Ziggy blinks.

From the unconscious form of Danny, from his violent wound, thousands of tiny black orbs float up and away.

Each one reflects the flame and the eyes. The tigers.

A few dozen of these orbs stop, hover, and transform, snakelike, dropping into women in black robes, black hair. They are near-duplicates of each other, strange sisters. They are Kimmy Robertson. They are Victoria Jackson. They are Susan Ballion.

Danny wakes up. The screaming face! He stands, and sees the hell of women down there. He shouts out to them.

“There’s murder in the air!”

The stage is set on fire, collapsing. The world is set on fire, collapsing.

The smoke and flame turn into the clouds and the sky. Tigers pace up there. Eyes open.

Ziggy blinks. He sees what we create on the barren landscape below. A stage is raised.

It is just another day.

I really wish people explored the neglect Bill experiences at the hands of his parents more often. We have scenes like this:

In those days his mom and dad had also been bookends on the couch, but he and George had been the books. Bill had tried to be a book between them while they were watching TV since George’s death, but it was cold work. They sent the cold out from both directions and Bill’s defroster was simply not big enough to cope with it. He had to leave because that kind of cold always froze his cheeks and made his eyes water.

And this:

Bill thought back-thought desperately hard. What Richie had just said had made him feel better about George’s death for the first time in months, but there was a part of him which insisted with quiet firmness that he was not supposed to feel better. Of course it was your fault, that part of him insisted; not entirely, maybe, but at least partly.

If not, how come there’s that cold place on the couch between your mother and father? If not, how come no one ever says anything at the supper table anymore? Now it’s just knives and forks rattling until you can’t take it anymore and ask if you can be eh-eh-eh-excused, please.

It was as if he were the ghost, a presence that spoke and moved but was not quite heard or seen, a thing vaguely sensed but still not accepted as real.

He did not like the thought that he was to blame, but the only alternative he could think of to explain their behavior was much worse: that all the love and attention his parents had given him before had somehow been the result of George’s presence, and with George gone there was nothing for him… and all of that had happened at random, for no reason at all. And if you put your ear to that door, you could hear the winds of madness blowing outside.

And it affects him well into adulthood, where he finally acknowledges that what his parents did to him was wrong: 

“He thrusts his fists against the posts and still insists he sees the ghosts!” Bill thundered. He advanced on the George-thing. “You’re no ghost! George knows I didn’t mean for him to die! My folks were wrong! They took it out on me and that was wrong! Do you hear me?”

His parents treated him horribly. He’d just lost his brother and they neglected him to the point where he thought his brother was the only reason they’d ever shown him any love. He continued to blame himself for Georgie’s death well into adulthood, because of his parents, because they made him feel that way. What they did to him was horrible and deserves more recognition. 

5 Reasons Why You Should Watch Heneral Luna. 

I bought tickets with the 50% discount. I watched it twice because it’s awesome. 

1. Cinematography. In the movie, the time when Luna’s mother visits him, they reminisce the old times when Luna was still a kid and it was a continuous shot of one era to another, from his childhood to his adulthood. Now having watched Pinoy movies, there has never been a shot like that, if ever there was, it wasn’t successfully delivered, then there’s this movie, and they did it perfectly! 

2. The Script (no, not the band -.-) 

 “Para kayong mga birhen na naniniwala sa pag- ibig ng isang puta!“ 

“Arestuhin nyo na, nauubusan na ako ng Ingles tangina naman!”

“MGA TRAYDOR!!! DUWAG!!” -Heneral Luna

3. John Arcilla. Why is he only given a main role just now? This country is too busy casting tisoys as pinoys and painting mestizas to look dark. They chose the perfect guy to play the part,  I’m glad Daniel Padilla wasn’t considered. 

4. The Sad Reality.  “Mga kapatid, mayroon tayong mas malaking kaaway kaysa sa mga Amerikano—ang ating sarili.” A Filipino’s death by a fellow Filipino. How could you?

5. 50% Discount. Even if it’s worth 250.00 I think I’d still buy tickets because it’s worth it *trumpets*

 Hey Star Cinema, I want my money back. 

ok so i have another hal jordan-related hc and this one is a bit personal and might be projecting on my part so feel free to disregard this completely but i hc hal to have ADHD (the impulsive type)

“but using willpower requires a lot of focus!!! same with flying!!!” true true but the thing is?? when hal gives a shit, he has enough willpower to actually keep his mind on the task. but what is even more important is that both of those activities come to hal NATURALLY, he has automatized ringslinging and flying, you can esp see that when it comes to using ring – his constructs are instinctual, he never puts much thought into what hes about to create, whatever is on his mind works (he thinks ‘i need to punch that guy’ he creates boxing gloves etc). its all natural to him so he doesnt actually need to concentrate, it happens to him bc flying/using ring is just?? his second nature

now when it comes to just normal life… he can’t handle reading long texts, always claims that its just “boring” but its not, he just cant focus for long enough, his eyes skip around and he gives up easily. he doesnt like watching movies (unless theyre about a subject that fascinates him, then focusing gets easier – FOR EXAMPLE: TOP GUN). internet and mobile apps are a huge blessing for him, twitter is his favorite form of social media

he just says things without thinking them over, which makes others perceive him as brash and kind of a dick, when in reality, hal just doesn’t have that much of a restraint, he doesn’t pay attention to the words that are coming out of his mouth, he often says things only to say them, it’s like he has to be talking (which annoys his Brooding Superhero Pals)

justice league meetings are usually a torture to him, which is why he spends most of them playing on phone

the often “huh–? sry i wasnt listening” are mistaken for another sign of his arrogance AND YEAH HES ARROGANT but he doesnt listen to people because he thinks they arent worth listening to, he just tunes out of conversations a lot, sometimes he just sits there while batman is monologuing or something, words just become a weird mess in his ears and WELL, nobody can tell hes looking down to check his twitter if hes wearing that green mask

honestly hal having adhd explains a LOT of his actions… and i also think he was diagnosed with it as a kid, just when adhd was becoming a Thing in the child psychology. and his mom would use it as an argument as to why hal cant go to air force (”you can’t be a pilot with adhd!!”), which made hal REALLY UPSET FOR A WHILE THERE… but then his resolute 11 yrs old self decided to screw this and become pilot anyways… bc he has that much WILL

alice-c-anna  asked:

I agree. More hcs on other characters besides the Pevensies. Hmm, let's see. What's some headcanons on Digory and Polly?

I’M ALWAYS A SLUT FOR DIGORY AND POLLY HEADCANONS.

- if you don’t think that they had a thing for each other, then you’re lying
- they were that typical old married couple type, even when they were younger
- their crushes developed at a different times, though
- digory started to like polly sometime after their tween years, when he started to see girls as more than just friends
- polly didn’t know when she started to like digory but she knew that she didn’t realize it until after they both had to move away from each other for their university studies
- neither admitted their feelings for each other, though, afraid the other didn’t return the feeling
- they were able to remain the best of friends, however
- they would send each other a letter every day when they were off in their studies
- and spend their holidays together
- when digory inherited the family mansion, he invited polly and her family over to the countryside for holidays
- there, polly would meet digory’s younger cousin, the future mrs. macready
- digory and polly’s friendship remained strong throughout their adulthood, even as digory continued his studies to become a professor and polly went off to explore the world as a pilot in the royal air force
- when they were older, they would constantly visit each other and visit old friends together
- digory has quickly sent a telegram to polly when the pevensie children had told him that they’d visited narnia
- polly had been unable to meet the pevensies at that time but had spent several hours with digory in deep conversation speaking about narnia
- they were both ecstatic to be able to return to narnia even though it meant that they had to die before they could go
- they had both been flattered to be crowned king and queen of narnia alongside the pevensies and eustace and jill but refused
- it was an honor that they didn’t feel they deserved
- after some insistence, they accepted the titles but only the titles
- they didn’t feel themselves fit to rule
- it was in aslan’s country that the two confessed their love for each other
- nobody else was surprised it
- they were only surprised that it hadn’t happened earlier
- the two lived happily together, going through different ponds in the wood between worlds
- discovering new worlds together as they had half a century before

anonymous asked:

I feel sooo ashamed to ask this, but I've never read the HP books, just see the movies.. so i wanna ask how are Draco and Harry, physically and personality, like the most canon definition¿¿

While i strongly advise you to read the books, i’ve done my best in describing them. I’m no writer but here it goes.

Draco is described as lean and slender, he’s taller than Harry and has a pale complexion. He has sharp facial features with a fine bone structure. Harry describes him pointy, especially his chin. His hair is described as sleek and silver blonde, in Hogwarts he slicked it back. He has grey eyes that Harry regarded as cold. He blushes in pink rather than red. He’s said to look just like his father. He has the dark mark on his left arm, and might have some scarring on his chest from the Sectumsempra incident in 6th year.
Draco is haughty and arrogant, he’s described as being narcissistic and spoiled, he likes being the centre of attention and before sixth year he liked to brag about his family and their assets. He can be quite spiteful and snappish. He’s clever, creative and cunning. He’s quite stubborn and passionate. He’s also good at compermentalizing his emotions, as he’s a succesful occlumens. Draco’s morally dubious, while he joined the death eaters willingly, he didn’t have it in himself to actually go through with it. He was quite disturbed by the real violence Voldemort spread in his house and he was unable to murder Dumbledore, even at the risk of his parents. He also didn’t identify Harry in the manor, even if he could have gained Voldemorts forgiveness and rewards for his family. He’s incredibly loyal towards his family and has a good relationship with both his parents. Despite being shown as treating his friends as body guards and minions, Draco actually cares for them and has a sense of loyalty to them. While he’s very self preservinf refuses to leave the fiendfyre before the golden trio takes Goyle as well. He’s said to be a better man after the war, who raised his son as a kinder person and didn’t teach him the muggle hating bigotry, along with Astoria.

Harry has untidy, messy jet black hair that is untameable and sticks up at the back. He has a thin face and almond shaped bright green eyes, he wears charcoal colored round rimmed glasses. He was decribed as small skinny with knobbly knees and in his Hogwarts years, due to his malnourishment as a child. He grows up to be as tall as his father, and James is described as tall relatively often. In the Malfoy manor scene is DH, Harry describes Draco as slightly taller than himself. His lightning bolt scar is in the middle of his forehead, his hair usually covers his scar. There is a scar that reads “I must not tell lies.” on his right hand, they show up white on his skin when he makes a fist. He has an oval shaped burn mark on his chest and possibly a straight cut scar on his arm. He’s said to look exactly like his father but with his mothers eyes.
Harry is very brave, loyal and courageous. He’s strong willed and stands up for himself quite often. He has a great ability to love, he’s selfless and proctective of people he loves. While he can be quite vengeful when riled up, he’s also quite forgiving when it comes to it. He can also be hot-tempered and impulsive and he’s quite sassy and sarcastic at times. He’s smart and better at practical magic than theoretical. He generally doesn’t like the attention his fame brings him and wants to have quiet, normal life. He often tries to do things on his own rather than ask for help and feels severe regret over people who got hurt in order to help him. He also feels guilty because of the deaths from the war. The war and his childhood, causes him to show depression and PTSD symptoms at times, i imagine this would continue through his adulthood as well.

I can honestly wax poetics about the both them and go in to detail character analysis until the morning but it’s getting pretty late as it is. I hope this was helpful!

Robert Pershing Wadlow (February 22, 1918 – July 15, 1940) also known as the Alton Giant and the Giant of Illinois, is the tallest person in history for whom there is irrefutable evidence. The Alton and Illinois monikers reflect the fact that he was born and grew up in Alton, Illinois.

Wadlow reached 2.72 m in height and weighed 199 kg at his death at age 22. His great size and his continued growth in adulthood were due to hyperplasia of his pituitary gland, which results in an abnormally high level of human growth hormone. He showed no indication of an end to his growth even at the time of his death.

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Theory of ANSWERS: NAT,Bethany,lesli

Lesli COULD BE BETHANY. She lived in Bethany’s room and they made a point to introduce us to Bethany’s roommate already and that was Rhonda. I understand her roommate could have changed but meeting her would have been completely pointless if we were just going to find out that Lesli was Bethany’s “roommate.”

I have been theorizing for ages that Bethany young was the girl who Ali pushed down the stairs at that frat party in the flashback, an incident that Cece Drake was blamed for, meaning that Bethany believed Cece Drake pushed her. The girl who was pushed down the stairs was a RED HEAD, we do not know Lesli’s age, but we do know that Bethany was a few years older than the girls; her presence at a frat party makes sense at her age. The girl who was pushed down the stairs was a red head like Lesli. I theorize that Cece Drake spent time in Radley and we KNOW she at least visited. I believe Bethany thought Cece was Ali and that Cece did this deliberately to get answers; Bethany would not speak to the girl who shoved her down the stairs.

Cece could have made a plan with Lesli/Bethany to take down “Cece Drake” who was the real Alison DiLaurentis. Remember we heard Bethany’s tape in which she said “she’s not the only one who can make plans!” This, by the way could be a twist on the twin theory. My other theories include Bethany being Toby’s fraternal twin (still possible). I also theorize that Cece AS ALI, maybe even in an Ali mask, which I believe she could have worn when she spent time with Bethany, helped Jessica DiLaurentis kill Marion cavanaugh, and that Cece knew wilden and was able to get him to cover this up. Bethany/ Lesli was the fragile patient who saw all this. When the death was ruled a suicide, Cece brainwashed Bethany to believe that Marion’s death was ONLY Jessica’s fault and that she was there to try to stop her. She also could have convinced Bethany that “Cece Drake” (Ali) was involved, so Bethany would hate Ali even more.

My belief in this theory is either that Cece is Charles or red coat/A who is working with Charles. If Cece is working with Charles, I think that could be Wilden. They covered up Marion’s murder to get leverage on Jessica. I also believe that Kenneth may not be Charles’s father; that could be Bethany’s father with whom Jessica had been having an affair. This would make Charles and Bethany half siblings. Cece as Ali could have planned with Charles (if she isn’t Charles) and Bethany to get revenge on the real Ali. Charles, due to his obsession with the DiLaurentis family, if Cece is not Charles, knows Cece’s real identity but kept the secret in exchange for Cece’s promise to get him out of Radley, something she promised Bethany too. Cece and Charles could have made Lesli/Bethany dye her hair blonde as part of the plan. Charles making Aria dye her hair in the dollhouse could be a clue. Cece supplied the yellow shirts and the plan was for Ali to get killed and for Charles and Bethany to live together in the dollhouse, eventually getting revenge on the other people who wronged them.

But Cece was playing both sides; Ali had a plan to fake her death and run away and she believed Cece was her friend who she could trust; Jason believed he could trust Cece too, which comes up in this theory. Cece knew that Ali was trying to find A and escape. She also knew that if Ali died, it wasn’t going to be ruled a suicide like Marion’s death; this would be murder. So she needed a suspect that wasn’t her. She liked Ali’s idea about drugging her friends and she and/or Charles would be as bitter about Jason as they were about Ali, plus he already had substance abuse problems and became someone else when he was under the influence. It was the perfect crime. Cece and Jason were the only NAT members/ significant others of NAT members not in Ali’s room on the night Ali disappeared. This was Jason’s club; it was his idea yet he believed that its members were doing work behind his back. This could have included Cece.

I believe this emergency NAT meeting was called BECAUSE of this plot against Alison. Everyone in the room hated her. Jason was “too messed up because of a six pack and some weed” (which is NOT enough for someone to black out an entire night). Cece likely ordered Jenna and Garrett to do this to Jason so that it looked like he had been invited to the meeting too and that it was his own fault he couldn’t make it. That way, he wouldn’t suspect that the meeting was about killing his sister. Jason once told Ali, in the Halloween episode, that if he told Ali what was on the NAT videos, he would have to KILL HER. This has to be a clue! Cece delegated tasks to NAT members because she had a LOT of work to do that night. This would finally explain why Garrett pretended to kill Ali and wanted Jenna to believe that he HAD killed her. Garrett also, on the SAME NIGHT, said that he “bailed on this messed up club.” This could be why he didn’t go through with killing her, OR, Cece could have convinced Garrett to take the blame because the person who really did it could never get caught (herself, Bethany, and/or Charles). She could have promised Garrett wouldn’t go down for it legally.
The whole NAT club has been blamed for Ali’s death in some way and we are to believe this is a coincidence when we are constantly reminded that there are NONE OF THOSE IN ROSEWOOD?

Cece and/or Charles threw the rock at Alison. Jenna said that Wilden saw Ali that night too, and Melissa made a phone call to a police officer that night; these facts support the Wilden/ Charles theory. Wilden could have taken the identity of Darren Wilden when Charles “died,” while Jason could have unknowingly taken part of Charles’s identity too because of all the lies, confusion, pain and betrayal surrounding Jason’s whole life.
I still believe Jason could have unknowingly taken on some characteristics of his long, lost imaginary/ real friend/brother. I’ve noted this could have continued into his adolescence and adulthood due to his substance abuse; he could have blackouts like Spencer. We have SEEN that he had one the night Ali went missing. I’ve always suspected there were two A teams and I think Jason is the leader of his, like he was leader of the NAT club.

Cece’s two faced ways messed the plan up, but she had a backup plan, one that Charles would not like. Cece and Jessica saw Spencer with a shovel fighting with Ali and Melissa saw this too. Charles obviously couldn’t come out as Ali’s killer, so Spencer was to be framed; Jessica wouldn’t want Jason framed even if Charles and/or Cece did. But Melissa has explained that she talked with Peter the night all of this happened, and we also saw her frantically talking to Cece. This was when Peter and Jessica made their deal; after all they agreed JASON couldn’t be blamed; he was their son, but Peter couldn’t have his other children blamed either.

ALI escaped, but Jessica, Melissa, Charles (if he’s not Cece) and Jason didn’t know this. Cece DID. Cece had to act like she wanted Ali to escape, but really she was furious that A (Mona) ruined her grand scheme. Off to plan B it was; the B had to replace Ali in the box. When Melissa found a body looking like Ali, she buried it to protect Spencer. She told Cece this, I believe. Cece killed Bethany, “joined forces with Mona” with an ultimate plan to steal her game. I’ll add here that Lesli sounded a LOT like Bethany’s voice in the tapes when she was yelling and Mona and saying she always ruined everything. If Lesli is Bethany, Mona ruined the plan and almost got her killed! For the time being after ali escaped, Cece needed Mona, Mona was brilliant and had Ali’s bracelet. There had to be a body; Jessica BURIED ALI. Jessica was so against the exhumation of Ali’s body because she believed it could implicate HER, something she was counting on since she didn’t want anyone finding out it wasn’t Ali in the grave. After all this happened, either Bethany/Lesli escaped too, and with her newly dyed hair, became Sara Harvey, killing her to do so, OR HAVING CHARLES KILL HER. If Bethany escaped, nobody knows about it, UNLESS CHARLES DOES.

Maybe Charles found out Cece attacked Bethany and Melissa buried her and HE helped her escape, then “kidnapped her,” really getting her the hell away from all these crazy, murderous freaks. If this is right, it could be why we would feel sympathy for Charles; he was protecting his half sister who someone tried to KILL. Have we ever seen Lesli and “Sara” together? Charles could have made Bethany dye her hair red and testify against Ali as Lesli Stone, Mona’s BFF, because he wanted her locked up and ultimately kidnapped. Mona was kidnapped for ruining the initial plan; Charles probably thinks the girls ruined it too, or were involved in killing or trying to kill Bethany.

ALMOST THE WHOLE NAT CLUB IS DEAD, Jenna said everyone who saw Ali that night is “waking up dead.” Garrett strayed from the club even more by revealing what HE knew about that night. Wilden and Melissa COULD NOT HAVE THIS HAPPEN; Melissa believed she buried Ali and Wilden believed he was involved in killing her, hence his obsessive, take-charge approach towards Ali’s murder investigation. Prior to this Melissa had mentioned that she believed she shared too much with Garrett. Before Garrett died, he said he liked Spencer and she was the one he wanted to protect, but he didn’t even know what the game was. Garrett knew that Spencer was incredibly close to having that murder pinned on her. This was what he meant! If Wilden is Charles and believed Cece killed or tried to kill his sister, he would turn on Cece. He could have blackmailed Cece to help him hide all the secrets, if he ISNT really dead. I think Cece either killed wilden because otherwise she knew what he was capable of doing to her, or “KILLED WILDEN”/ helped him fake his death so he could finally get out of rosewood and get to his agenda in the dollhouse. Mona’s death was fake, maybe everyone in the dollhouse before the girls got there had faked their deaths and maybe they were all using different names; “wilden” was Charles again, Mona was Ali and Bethany was Sara. Sara being Bethany makes sense if Bethany is Toby’s twin; they’re both artistic, and this clue has been furthered by them both having freedom tattoos.

I believe the truth coming out fueled the other A team, the ones that are doing everything they’re doing because they’re terrified of these truths and they don’t want to die. This could be Melissa as Black Widow and Jason as Uber A, the last remaining member of the club he started. I want feedback so I am tagging some people then ending this list with a question mark.

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**NOTE: ALTERNATIVE THEORY WOULD BE LESLI AND BETHANY BEING TWINS. But it would mess up my Toby/Bethany twin theory unless they’re triplets. But a friend asked me questions about this theory and Lesli and Bethany being twins could explain some if Lesli is not Bethany ** *I WILL DO A SEPARATE POST TO ANSWER QUESTIONS ON THIS THEORY AND FIX ANY PLOT HOLES*

What do you think?