islamic personality

Please read Surah Taha if you feel down. Read with its translation word to word and reflect on its meaning. You will find so much comfort in the Quran, your heart will soften with His beautiful words. Your heart will find ease only if you let it.

Muslims are not perfect. 

Some don’t fast.

Some don’t pray.

Some drink.

Some party.

Some have pre-marital sex.

Some smoke.

Some lie.

Some cheat.

Some gamble.

We all sin differently.

But will all be judged equally.

Stop the “good Muslim” vs. “bad Muslim” narrative

Accept that being Muslim means to be a work in progress.

Embrace the fact that anyone can be close to Allah.

Despite the imperfections.

THE QUEST FOR LOVE

Relationships has never been something I’m brave enough to write about, especially in public. The love between a man and a woman to me is very personal. Add religion into the equation and it just becomes very sacred to me. I do not wish to write too long, since I have classes tomorrow at 9am and it’s exactly 4.30am right now. However, I just need to let a few things off my chest because it has been bothering me for quite a while now. Also, due to my hectic schedule, this is the only time I have to write- though I swear to god I’m super sleepy right now

Before we jump into the topic, yes I am single. Have I ever been in a relationship? The answer is also yes. I know how it feels like to love and be loved the same way I know how it feels to be completely shattered. You see, different people have different definitions of love. I strongly believe that the people we fall in love with can sometimes reflect the kind of person we are. For instance, I really value religion, knowledge and ambition. Thus, if i were to marry someone, I look for someone with these exact characteristics. I want someone who has the same goals that I have. Someone who will not only fight with me to succeed in this world, but also in the hereafter. I need someone who works just as hard as I do, not someone who is always tired and only cares about sleep. No more time should be wasted with whiny and lazy ambitionless boys. If you’re serious to pursue a relationship, look for a man.

If there’s one thing a relationship has taught me, it is the importance of maturity when it comes to love. NEVER indulge in a relationship just because it’s a ‘nice’ feeling. If you want to be with someone might as well be with a person who will help bring the best out of you, spiritually, mentally and also emotionally. If the relationship you are in is leading you towards the haraam, leave. No buts. It is just the end of a toxic relationship, not the end of the world. 

By the way people, it is perfectly OKAY to be single. I have been single for over a year now, and wallahi I have never been this happy and I have been achieving so much. I always tell my friends that when you are single, you have 27 hours a day. What it essentially mean is that you’ll have more time for yourself. I know some people who can only seek comfort in the presence of their significant other. After one relationship ends they feel the need to jump into another. Chill people, chill. Take a breather. You don’t need another person to feel sufficient. Try to be comfortable and at peace with yourself with or without a relationship. You have the rest of your life to be spent with your significant other, so while you’re single, might as well really embrace/enjoy it.

Okay last point before I hit the sack, never settle. Ya Allah I can’t stress this enough. Being single is better than being with the wrong person. As they say, it’s better to wait long than marry wrong. If we dont know what we deserve, we will always settle for less. But to deserve more, we should first be more. Build your character before you choose to build a family. Study hard, learn new skills, take up a hobby, read more, travel. There’s so much that can be done when you’re single for your personal development. Take care of yourself. Your health, spirituality, intelligence, akhlak (good character) etc & inshaAllah you’ll get someone who’d do the same for you.

Jim Rohn once said, “The greatest gift you can give somebody is your own personal development. I used to say, ‘If you will take care of me, I will take care of you.’ Now I say, ‘I will take care of me for you, if you will take care of you for me”.

I know this entry is all over the place, but I’m half awake so do forgive me. I hope you find this post helpful. As for me, call me philophobic but I am personally afraid to be in a relationship again. But when the time comes, I hope the guy I end up with will be proud with the lady I have become. If you happen to read this, whoever you may be, please know that not a day passes that I don’t make do’a for you, and for us. Wherever you are in this world, I hope you are also striving to be your best self. May Allah make it easy for us to find our way to each other. See you when I see you!

Ending this cringey post with one of my favorite quotes from Rumi,

‘Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.’

Lots of love,

Aisyah

30 Days of Good Deeds for Ramadan
  1. Bake and give food to a neighbour
  2. Donate money to a charity of your choice
  3. Help your parents with some extra house work or chores
  4. Teach something beneficial to a younger sibling or younger family friend
  5. Recite, or listen to, an extra page of Quran today
  6. Donate to a food bank
  7. Choose some of your old toys or clothes that are in good condition, and bring them to a charity shop
  8. Make sure to smile at everyone today! (Smiling is sadaqa)
  9. Make a card or note to tell someone you love and appreciate them
  10. Pick up rubbish from the street and put it into the bin
  11. Look out for someone lonely at school, and make time to talk and play with them
  12. Make dua specially for someone
  13. Go a day without complaining
  14. Let someone go ahead of you in a line
  15. Reuse paper when you’re drawing, make an effort not to waste water when washing, and be sure to recycle any packaging instead of throwing in the bin
  16. Read to a younger sibling or friend
  17. Extra tasbeeh: Say alhamdulillah 100 times, and reflect on blessings in your life that make you say “alhamdulillah”
  18. Visit somebody in hospital
  19. Find opportunities to give genuine compliments throughout the day, and make someone smile
  20. Give salam to as many people as you can today!
  21. Extra tasbeeh: Say subhanallah 100 times, and reflect on the wonderful things in the world that make you say “subhanallah”
  22. Sponsor an orphan
  23. Help parents with laundry
  24. Call grandparents for a chat
  25. Lend books to a friend
  26. Pray in the mosque today
  27. Buy a gift and give it to a loved one
  28. Explain to a non Muslim friend about why we fast during Ramadan
  29. Treat an animal with extra kindness
  30. Make an effort to learn something new today

O Allah, accept from us our good deeds… Ameen

Things about prayer that I should have learnt a long time ago: 

1. God doesn’t need your prayers. The prayers are for you. Why? Because praying five times a day isn’t merely a pointless ritual; it establishes a routine, a sort of rhythm to your life. It is the one part of your to-do list that you get to check off, even if the rest of your work is unfinished. 

2. Don’t expect some sort of enlightening experience when you pray after a long time. I think that’s what I found most disheartening about prayer, that I didn’t feel a ray of light enter my heart, that I didn’t feel cleansed when I prayed after a long time. Prayer does feel nice, but the “cleansing” the “enlightening” comes after a while and it comes from within. It comes with the stuff you do along with prayer. It comes from the effort you put in to becoming a good person and into becoming conscious of God. 

3. Beating yourself up about missing prayer disheartens you more. Beating yourself up in general is disheartening. Take it easy on yourself. 

4. You’ll never expect it, but one day you’ll be crying in sujood and it isn’t because you’re weak it’s because you’re taking a step towards being stronger. Don’t be afraid to cry in prayer. It’s nice to feel yourself humbled towards God. You don’t have to cry in front of anyone else, but you can sob your heart out in front of God and that’s perfectly okay. 

5. That discomfort you feel about having missed a prayer, is something that you should address. Don’t brush it off. If you brush it off once, you’ll do it again. Go pray. It really is good for you. 

Honestly not reciting the Quran on a daily basis screws you over so bad. You become incapable of regulating your emotions. Everything in life is just a blur. Like a slow motion movie where your mind is constantly demanding a fast paced life. Just a reminder, to myself first and foremost, please recite Quran. Pray. Make Dua. Do some Dhikr. For the sake of your emotional, spiritual, psychological and physical health, remember Him.

You believe in a god?

Well, that’s chill. 
I might not agree, but I support your right to your own beliefs. 
You want to go to church every holiday, or every Sunday, or even every day?
That’s chill too man.  I mean, do what you want in your time. 
You want to follow the rules of your religion-not do certain things/do other stuff?
Alright man, follow whatever code/law/moral-religious-personal rules you want to. 

BUT IF YOU TRY TO TELL ME OR ANYONE ELSE THAT WE HAVE TO BELIEVE IN YOUR GOD, YOUR RELIGIOUS BELIEFS/RULES, OR PARTICIPATE IN ANYTHING THAT IS BASED OFF OF YOUR RELIGION THEN I WILL GO ON A VERY VERY LONG RANT. 

Bonus- If you try to say your god needs to be in public schools and or that the reason *insert bad societal thing* is because your god isnt in schools, I will also go off on an extremely lengthy rant. 

Thank you, this has been a PSA. 

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BEFORE YOU FLIP TABLES

Yesterday was the perfect example of a bad day for me. It was one of those days where nothing just seems to work, you forget everything, you lose stuff, everything goes out of hand, and just as you thought the day couldn’t possibly get worse, something else comes up. Let’s not go into details, suffice it to say the day was just horrendous.

I did, however try my best to stay positive. Told my friend Jaido who was with me that day everything that happened since morning. After hearing me rant about my miserable Sunday, she suddenly lit up- which definitely was a strange reflex. Uhm, hello, why are you happy over my suffering? Her answer was life-changing. She answered, “because your suffering means better things are coming!!!”

That positivity was so admirable MashaAllah. Her words instantly made me feel better. It was somewhat magical because I could have sworn I felt like trash two seconds before. The amount of faith she has for God is so profound. Another lesson I learnt that day was, sometimes we focus too much on the problem, we become somewhat blind towards the blessings existing concurrently. Allah says in the Quran, with hardship comes ease. WITH and not AFTER. SubhanAllah, Jaido was definitely a blessing. She was simply heaven-sent. I’m so fortunate to have such optimistic friends who knows just the right things to say when I’m at my lowest.

When He removes something in your possession it is only in order to empty your hands for an even greater gift. - Ibn Qayyim

So if you’re having one of those days, remember, BETTER THINGS ARE COMING!

*cues “Jason Mraz - Life is Wonderful” in the background*

Love, light and laughter,
Aisyah Shakirah


(Shots taken that very day at Masjid Wilayah by @atiq259 on instagram)