islamic engagement

I think it’s ridiculous how much hate Sana is getting for unfriending Yousef. Personally, I think she had every right to do so, she is a practicing Muslim girl and in Islam, engaging in a relationship with a non-Muslim male is prohibited. Sana’s just following her religion like why does everyone have to be like “wow unfriending him was too far” “she shouldn’t have” but why should she have not? How is it a step too far if it satisfies her, her god and her religion?

We have to remember that this season revolves around a Muslim girl and through this we get an insight into what it’s really like being a Muslim teenager. It’s not fun and games when it comes to dating/falling in love etc. This in many cases is in fact the reality. Sana’s only trying to do what’s best for everyone. She shouldn’t have to give up her religion for a boy. Also this is no hate towards Yousef because I completely adore him, I just think the hate towards Sana is unfair.

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US Muslims Noticed Something Missing From Trump's Speech — Themselves
President Donald Trump's speech on Islam delivered in Saudi Arabia wasn't as bad as some American Muslims had expected, but it's not likely to win them over. 'It was definitely awkward.'
By Hannah Allam

In the week before President Donald Trump’s Islam-focused speech in Saudi Arabia, American Muslims collectively cringed over the big question: Just how bad could it be?

Not as bad as imagined, it turns out, but still unimpressive.

US Muslims said Trump’s address Sunday at a summit in Riyadh was remarkable mainly for its blandness – shopworn lines about good versus evil from a president who once blamed his Saudi hosts for 9/11, who floated the idea of shutting down mosques, and who said, “I think Islam hates us.”

American Muslims also noted a glaring omission in the half-hour speech: themselves. There was no acknowledgment of the contributions of the athletes, doctors, actors and tech entrepreneurs who are among more than 3.3 million Muslims living in the United States.

“You don’t mention them once in your entire speech?” said Adnan Zulfiqar, a Philadelphia-based Truman National Security Project fellow who studies foreign policy in the Muslim world. “What that tells me is that Trump’s conception of America is not only Muslim-free but, in many respects, minority-free. He easily engages with Islam as a foreign ‘other,’ as opposed to Islam and Muslims as part of the American fabric.”

Trump, a day after a lavish royal welcome that was scrubbed of women and protesters, waxed poetic about standing together against the killing of innocents and the oppression of women. Trump said he hadn’t come to lecture (though he did) and said he was interested only in gradual reforms, not interventions – a reassuring message for authoritarian Arab allies such as Saudi Arabia, Egypt and Jordan.

Trump ditched his base’s preferred terminology of “radical Islamic terrorism” and, in most places, used less inflammatory terms such as “radicalism” and “extremism.” It was the kind of language Trump used to attack his predecessor President Barack Obama for using.

“We welcome President Trump’s recognition of Islam as ‘one of the world’s great faiths,’ but that recognition does not wipe out years of well-documented anti-Islam animus,” Nihad Awad, executive director of the Council On American-Islamic Relations, said in a statement. “The president should also recognize the contributions American Muslims make – and have made for generations - to the betterment of our nation.”

To many US Muslims, the about-face showed that Trump considers the faith of 1.7 billion people as just another negotiable, his public stances on Islam changing whichever way the wind – or a $110 billion weapons deal – blows. He bashed Islam in front of anti-immigrant US voters he needed to win the election; he embraced Islam in front of Middle Eastern autocrats whose help he needs on counterterrorism and trade issues.

“Trump doesn’t have any inhibitions in terms of exaggerations, so he laid it on thick,” Zulfiqar said. “But in a room full of a lot of autocrats, exaggeration plays incredibly well. So, while he’s heaping praise on them and their potential and accomplishments, he can sneak in ‘Islamic terrorism’ and nobody even cares.”

Trump’s muted speech stood in contrast to the rest of his over-the-top visit to the kingdom, his first overseas travel as president and a closely watched – and mocked – event for American Muslims.

Much of the color from his trip spread in memes and gifs, the disjointed scenes conjuring a dystopian Arabian Nights. There’s Trump, bouncing along during a traditional sword dance. There’s White House strategist Steve Bannon, who’s long spewed anti-Muslim venom, looking ill at ease in a swarm of men in traditional Saudi thobes and headdresses. And there’s Trump again, this time in a golf cart with the Saudi king, headed to a Toby Keith concert.

It became a cliché to say, “You can’t make this stuff up.”

“It was weird. It felt strangely like an echo of the Bush era, where most of our foreign policy was determined by the economic interests of the defense industry. The sword dance kind of brought that back for me,” said Shayan Ghajar, an Iranian-American agricultural researcher in Virginia.

And all the Bannon memes? “Priceless,” Ghajar said with a laugh.

Sakeena Rashid, a tech developer in Ohio, was among those bracing for the worst. She recorded her reactions to Trump’s speech using images from her newly launched app, Islamoji, which sells emojis that represent the wide diversity of American Muslims.

On her Facebook page, Rashid started with an emoji of a Saudi man with a pet cheetah, a nod to the opulence of the royal welcome for Trump. Next came one of a woman in a headscarf looking skeptical as Trump talked about “friendship, hope, and love.” A pile of cash for the announcement of an arms deal.

Rashid wrapped it up with a riff on the Kermit the Frog meme, an emoji of the skullcap-wearing Kareem the Frog sipping his tea because Trump had delivered a lecture after saying he wouldn’t.

“It was definitely awkward,” Rashid said, describing the image of Trump, of all people, speaking in Saudi Arabia after a Quran recitation.

Apart from the funny emojis and memes, Rashid said, there was a line in Trump’s speech that reminded her of the seriousness beyond the spectacle. It was when Trump said that “young Muslim boys and girls should be able to grow up free from fear, safe from violence, and innocent of hatred.”

She said it instantly took her back to two weeks ago, when she was standing in a grocery store with her baby in her arms and a stranger who saw her headscarf yelled at her to go back to her country. Never mind that she’s an African-American who was born in Michigan.

Rashid, like many other American Muslims, said a half hour of conciliatory remarks wasn’t going to make up for the many years Trump has smeared Islam, such as spreading bogus claims about Muslims in New Jersey cheering when the World Trade Center collapsed on 9/11 or insinuating that ordinary Muslims could prevent terrorist attacks that even trained intelligence officers failed to spot.

That kind of rhetoric, Rashid said, contributed to an irate man feeling bold enough to loudly accost a woman shopping in public with her children.

“When Trump said that about safety for boys and girls, I was, like, does that count for American Muslims?” Rashid said. “As Muslims in the United States, we have to also feel safe and free from fear, and we don’t.”

anonymous asked:

I want to do the right thing in Islam and get engaged, But my family is against it because he is a convert. I dont know what to do

Look. I’m telling you, choose your battles.

It’s not about him being a convert. It could be anything. Fighting your parents over going to some event isn’t worth it.

People you want to get married to? I’m 50/50 on it. Most of the time, young Muslims make stupid decisions. Not because he’s a convert, but because you’re not ready. He’s not ready. You guys are idealizing things.

Then you’re going to be like: “NOT ME!! I”M DIFFERENTTT!”

Sure you are.

No matter what the reason, your parents don’t like your selection for (X, Y, Z) you need to think about things practically. Which most people don’t. You down to help them when they are the only person who is not from your culture? You ready for that? You ready for baby names? You ready with positions? Money? Where you’ll live? What are your goals, education, and career wise?

I’m going to bet you’re not. Even if this guy was the same culture, blah blah blah, young Muslims just want to play house and get some affection.

I don’t know your parents, I’m just telling you think about things before you fight with your parents. That’s all. Obviously converts get treated like garbage, and that sucks, and while my family is chill (two in-laws are converts) so I don’t get the whole thing about family blah blah, but I’m just going to underline, think about what you’re doing and don’t look for guidance from someone who is getting a 20 word question from you, I can’t help you that much from here, other than to tell you to think about it.

A girl asked Imam Suhaib Webb the same question as you. (Isn’t it funny how he’s still called a “convert” even though he’s been Muslim longer than people have been alive who talk to him? ANYWAYZ)

He said: “you only have one mom, there are plenty of fish in the sea.” The girl asked the question because she knew that Imam Suhaib converted to Islam, trying to get the answer she wanted.

Family members will object to people for lots of reasons. Objecting to converts is particularly heinous and insensitive, but that doesn’t make the underlying issues you have to deal with, and let’s say you’re Egyptian and he is too, if you don’t consider these issues, it doesn’t matter if they’re a convert or not, you have to think about the practical and you haven’t.

You’re going to say you have. Trust me, you haven’t.

Choose your battles.

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When a person loves Allah (swt), it says much more about them than any words they could possibly say. A person who loves Allah (swt) shows something about their character - that they are fearful and grateful to the Unseen; they will be true and trustworthy to you. Always look for one who has love for the deen of Allah Almighty Insha'Allah.

Tonight, two of my close friends married each other, Alhamdulillah. I asked the groom, “How do you feel?” He replied, “I can’t tell if I’m walking on the floor or on clouds :D”

May Allah fill their marriage in this life and the Hereafter with all that is good, and give them protection and strength against all that is bad. And may He help them fulfill their rights upon one another, and help them grow together into incredible individuals and incredible Muslims. Ameen!

Please keep them in your dua :)

blackshikamaru  asked:

hi! my character is a black man converting to islam. hes engaged to another (black) muslim girl, although this isnt the reason hes converting. he sees it as the right path. is there anything specific i should keep in mind w a black muslim convert?

Black Muslim Converts - Perspective on Black Americans

I think you are on the right track with this, pretty much. The majority of African-American Muslims I know - in my friend circle and in my family - are very practicing and wouldn’t want their daughter to marry someone unless he was definitely interested in converting. One thing I would keep in mind is that converting is not easy. It doesn’t end at the actual declaration of faith, of the initial moment of joy from the witnesses as they embrace their new brother or sister in faith and ask them if they want to change their name or if there is any other help they need.

It is a hard road. My mother’s family was very accepting, and on the whole, I’ve seen that African-American parents and family are very loving and understanding about Islam, particularly since a lot of them had it in their roots or have family members who have always given a good example to them. But there are those who sadly aren’t. Issues with family is something that any convert can face and something you should keep in mind - even on small things like repeatedly telling a family member you no longer eat pork or don’t feel comfortable with something that you used to do before you were Muslim.

Another issue converts face is learning about their faith and assimilating into it; particularly when you’re African-American and have to face racism and prejudice from other Muslims. This is a sad fact of life that has been brought into Islam - which always preaches equality and universal love - by culture and that learned distaste for particular skin colors and stereotypes associated with that particular race or ethnicity.

I’d definitely recommend trying to find someone who has experienced that as a beta reader to tell you more about the particular struggles an African-American convert in particular might face while trying to find their place in their community. To be clear: not everyone goes through this. I also don’t want this to be twisted into a, “See! Muslims are bad and racist!” We have racist people, like everyone else. This is not a problem of faith, but a problem of certain people bringing their own issues and misconceptions into their community of faith.

I am glad to mention that we have a lot of support and forming organizations to help converts and keep them feeling positive and supported through this new change in their life. A lot of converts might find African-American masjids and communities, as well, and be able to find more sustenance and understanding in the changes and issues they particularly face there.

I hope this helps and isn’t too confusing!

-Mod Kaye

Long time between engagement and Nikah is a FREE TICKET to commit zina openly
Most people who are engaged hold hands, kiss, commit zina and they also do abortion bcoz we live in a highly sexual society; its the duty of the parents to do the nikah soon after their children love each other,to make things easier for them..Studies, building homes ,not enough money is not an excuse to continue a HARAAM relationship…there is no difference between a bf/gf relationship and an engagement if the time to NIKAH is long
Be single or do nikah soon after engagement
BEING ENGAGED DOES NOT MEAN U R IN A HALAAL RELATIONSHIP;he/she is still ur non mehram

anonymous asked:

my friend is currently engaged in islamic studies and is doing gender studies at the same time as she believes that the two will help in addressing gender relations but her family are trying to talk her out of it as they deem gender studies useless. they want her to get involved in sciences but this is her passion. do you think there is a need for gender studies in our community? and do you think she should forget about it?

You realize that her family is saying this because they want her to get a job, right?

This is something that annoys us about our generation. Let’s take a second to evaluate our parents:

Many of our parents left their countries of origin, where their families, friends, and loved ones all lived, where they grew up, where they were raised, and came to America to get punched in the face everyday and then fight, tooth-and-nail to get work, and they always came with some awkward (and oddly specific) amount of money [“I came with seventeen dollars and forty-six cents!”], so that they could get a better life for their children.

Meanwhile, we freak out when someone is sitting in “our” seat in class, and yet we don’t want to understand our parents. 

Look, your friend’s parents want to ensure their daughter is going to be able to feed herself. And let me tell you, Islamic studies is probably not going to do it, and as someone who has studied liberal artsy stuff, gender studies isn’t either.

So, instead of making this about what does the community value or not value, maybe we should try and understand why our parents are worried about us. To make this about the relative value of certain subjects, I think is a waste of time, this is about your friend’s parents’ worrying about their daughter, not the relative merit of gender studies.

I think to pose the question this way is to put the parents in an unduly difficult position. They want their daughter to be taken care of, they’re not evil, because even my parents were worried about what I was studying, it’s not evil, it’s fear, and I’m not going to fuel an argument (does our community need gender studies/etc etc) that is posed from a position of misunderstanding.