It is a bond that links a Muslims to her sister regardless of geographical origins, ethnicity, skin color, hair form, eye shape, or language. It’s a bond based upon faith in Allah swt WHO is greater than all our little petty divisions.
I love you my sisters in Islam *as-salam, hugs and cheek-kisses* to you, you and you.
Since I was a teenager, I didn’t really get what I actually wanted. I was so sad on that time. I felt like Allah didn’t listen to my prayer. and most of the matters are really important to my life, in which they determine my future path.
One of it was about my education. I actually wanted to be in different area, badly. I applied for it and I prayed all nights with full of hope. I believed with high confident level that my application would be accepted. However, my application was rejected and I was offered in another area. I just accepted it… and moved on. Time goes on. I fell in love with the course and amazingly I found that, that was I what I want and I need. Alhamdulillah… That was one from my experiences…
A series of this event occurred again and again, in different matters as well. and I tried to get used to it. How bad I felt because of the deep disappointment I experienced, I always tell myself that “ALLAH knows the best”.
“0 Allah if in Your knowledge, this matter be good for my faith (Din), my livelihood and the consequences of my affairs in the world and the Hereafter, then ordain it for me and ease it for me and grant me blessing in it. But, if in Your knowledge this matter is bad for my faith, my livelihood and the consequences of my affairs in the world and the Hereafter, then turn it away from me and turn me away from it and ordain for me the good wherever it be, and cause me to be pleased with it.”
I realized now that what we actually WANT in our lives is not all actually what we NEED. I believe, if we don’t get what we want, ALLAH has planned something else better. I also get used to wait for a long time just to comprehend, analyse and get ready before I really acquire and receive what actually ALLAH has planned for me, the best for me.
“….though you dislike it, and it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know." Verse 2:216
Now, the storyboard of the story becomes clearer and I could see it how smooth ALLAH has planned the journey of my life. Subhanallah… MasyaALLAH!! I couldn’t see before as I kept complaining and comparing with others’. But now I understand. If this is the best for me, dear Allah, bless me. If this is what I need and I can handle it, ease my way. I ask from nobody but You, my Creator.
The word Islam means voluntary “Submission” or “Surrender” to the Will of God. It derives from the root word “salam,” meaning peace.
In the Quran, God defines that the only purpose for which He created mankind is to Worship Him. Islam recognizes that humankind has free choice in whether to obey or disobey God, but ultimately we will be held accountable to God in the next life for the choices that we make in this life.
God sent Prophets to teach mankind how to worship Him; starting with Adam, including Noah, Abraham, Moses, Jesus and the last of the messengers, Muhammad (peace be upon them all). The Islamic position is that all of these prophets came with the same message, that there is no deity worthy of worship except the One True God, known in Arabic as Allah.
Islam is a natural way of life that encourages one to give due attention to their relationship with God and His creation. Islam teaches that it is through the doing of good deeds and seeking the pleasure of God that souls find true happiness and peace. It is in this context that the word Islam derives from the root word “salam,” or peace.
❝And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and to be mindful of their chastity, and not to display their charms ❮in public❯ beyond what may ❮decently❯ be apparent thereof; hence, let them draw their headcoverings over their bosoms. And let them not display ❮more of❯ their charms to any but their husbands, or their fathers, or their husbands’ fathers, or their sons, or their husbands’ sons, or their brothers, or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their womenfolk, or those whom they rightfully possess, or such male attendants as are beyond all sexual desire, or children that are as yet unaware of women’s nakedness; and let them not swing their legs ❮in walking❯ so as to draw attention to their hidden charms And ❮always❯, O you believers - all of you - turn unto Allah ﷻ in repentance, so that you might attain to a happy state!❞ 【Quran 24:31】
If you look carefully at the Ayat, it clearly states that the Khumur ❪headcovers❫ should be drawn over the Juyoob ❪neck slits❫.
✷ Khumur is the plural of the Arabic word “Khimar,” which means a headcover.
✷ Juyoob is the plural of the Arabic word “Jaiyb,” which refers to the neck slit ❬of the dress❭.
Many Akhawat cover their heads with a scarf and believe that they are fulfilling the rights of Hijab, although part of their hair or body is showing, or their whole neck and chest area are exposed.
This was the way of the women of Jahilliyah.
“Women in those days used to cover their heads with the Khimar, throwing its ends upon their backs. This left the neck and the upper part of the chest bare, along with the ears. Then Allah ﷻ COMMANDED them to cover those parts with the Khimar.” ﹁ Al Qurtubi ﹂
We MUST secure our scarves well around our face, covering our neck or chest area.
We MUST keep our half sleeves and capri pants for home, only visible to the women and Mahrams around us.
Tight jeans and short shirts are just NOT appropriate.
We CANNOT wear tight jeans and a short shirt, with a piece of cloth on our heads, believing this is Hijab. Nor should we wear ANYTHING else that is tight, making apparent the shape of our bodies in ANY way, EVEN IF IT IS LONG.
✴ The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ had said, ❝In later ⟨generations⟩ of my Ummah there will be women who will be dressed but naked. On top of their heads ⟨what looks⟩ like camel humps. They will not enter into paradise or ⟨even⟩ get a smell of it.❞ 〖Muslim〗
🔸 ANYTHING SEE THROUGH IS NOT HIJAB
We CANNOT use chiffon or other see through material to cover our hair and bodies.
EVERYTHING should be covered and the color of our skin should not be visible underneath the fabrics we wear.
✴ The Prophet ﷺ had once received a thick garment as a gift. He gave it to Osama ibn Zaid, who in turn gave it to his wife. When asked by the Prophet ﷺ why he did not wear it, Osama indicated that he gave it to his wife.
The Prophet then said to Osama, ❝Ask her to use a ❛Gholalah❜ under it ❪the garment❫ for I fear that it ❪the garment❫ may describe the size of her bones.❞ 〖Ahmad, Abu Dawud〗
✷ Gholalah, in Arabic, means a thick fabric worn under a dress to prevent it from allowing the shape of the body to be exposed.
🔸 HIJAB SHOULD NOT ATTRACT ATTENTION
The way we dress should not be in such a fashion that it attracts the attention of men to the our beauty.
Allah ﷻ clearly states, ❝Not to display their Zina ❪unlawful beauty❫.❞
Astaghfirullah!!! Some Hijabi Akhawat often dress in such a way that they attract MORE attention than they would if they did NOT wear Hijab!!!
How could our Zina be concealed if our dress is designed in a way that it attracts the men’s eyes to us?
❝O Nisa-An-Nabi ❮women of the Prophet ﷺ! You are not the like of any of the womenfolk. If you want to remain pious and Allah ﷻ fearing, then be not soft in your speech ❮whilst talking to men as and when required❯ lest someone whose heart is diseased ❮with hypocrisy❯ should feel inclined with desire. And ❮always❯ say words that are pure of any taint of doubt and flexibility.❞ 【Quran 33:32】
🔸 MAKEUP AND PERFUME
Wearing makeup is also part of the Zina that Allah ﷻ orders us NOT to display.
If our head and bodies are appropriately covered, yet we wear bright red lipstick or dark eyeliner… Uh sorry, that is NOT Hijab.
Also, we should keep those nice fragrances for home, between us and our husband and families. This is part of Hijab, as well… EVEN WHEN WE ARE GOING TO THE MASJID.
✴ The Prophet ﷺ had said, ❝Any woman who puts on perfume and passes by people so that they can smell her fragrance, is an adulteress.❞ 〖Nasaa’i, Tirmidhi〗
🔸 TINKLING JEWELRY AND JINGLING BRACELETS
Loud or tinkling ANYTHING, whether it is:
✷ Clip Clopping Shoes
✷ Little Bells on Clothes
You name it, if it jingles or makes noise, it is AGAINST the principles of Hijab, because it attracts attention to us.
This is what Allah ﷻ had meant when He ordered us in the above Ayat, ❝Not to strike their feet ❮on the ground❯ so as to make known what they hide of their adornments.❞
🔸 NO LAUGHING, JOKING OR HANGING OUT WITH NON-MAHRAMS
Some Akhawat assume that since we are properly covered, its okay for us to sit around and talk, laugh, joke, etc… with the men that are not Maharams.
This is NOT right, even if he a ‘Sheikh.’
Allah ﷻ had said in the above Ayat, ❝Then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire, but speak in an honorable manner.❞
So talk to non-Maharam ONLY when there is a specific need, in a manner that is not necessarily rude, polite yet firm.
🔸 LOWERING OUR GAZE
Allah ﷻ orders us to, ❝Lower your gaze,❞ in the above Ayat.
Because a single ‘look’ often says more than a thousand words. Even if we are properly covered, keep those eyes down, conducting ourselves with ‘Hayaa’ and avoid ‘Fitnah.’
🔸 CHATTING ON THE INTERNET OR PHONE IS NOT PART OF HIJAB
SPEAKING WITH NON-MAHRAMS IS WRONG, EVEN IF IT IS THROUGH THE INTERNET OR TELEPHONE.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS, “WE’RE JUST FRIENDS.”
Due to these virtual relationships, there are TOO many stories of illicit relationships, fornications, broken homes, extramarital affairs and runaway brides to even mention. That is why in Islam anything that leads to Haram is also Haram.
❝And do not come close to adultery: Verily, it is a shameful ❮deed❯ and an act evil, opening the road ❮to many other evils❯.❞ 【Quran 17:32】
🔸 BE CAREFUL, EVEN IN THE WAY WE WALK
Remember, we are not a runway models displaying the latest fashions. We must remain conscious to walk with modesty and Hayaa. In this way, we demand to be respected.
✴ The Prophet ﷺ had said, ❝There are two types of the people of Hell that I have not seen yet… Women who are clothed yet naked, walking with an enticing gait.❞ 〖Muslim〗
🔸 DO NOT SHAKE HANDS WITH NON-MAHRAMS
This is part of Hijab, as well. It is NOT permissible for us to shake hands with a non-Mahram.
✴ The Prophet ﷺ had said, ❝For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than to touch a woman who is not permissible for him.❞ 〖At Tabaraani, Sahih by Al Albaani〗
NO, it is NOT rude to refuse to shake hands with non-Muslims. Politely explain that it is simply a part of our religion. They be very understanding.
🔸 STAY AWAY FROM THE AREAS DESIGNATED ONLY FOR MEN
Many Akhawat enter the Masjid through the entrance designated strictly for men, or stand idly in the hallways or near places where there is a chance of unnecessary mixing with the Ikhwan.
For what reason?
Do we not have a separate entrance for ourselves?
Why do you think Allah ﷻ ordained the Hijab in the first place?
Hijab was ordered to assist us in avoiding Fitnah, by reducing temptation and separating the genders.
✴ The Prophet ﷺ had said to the women, on his way out of the Masjid, when he saw men and women mixing together on their way home, ❝Give way ❪walk to the sides❫, as it is not appropriate for you to walk in the middle the road.❞ Thereafter, the women would walk so close to the wall that their dresses would get caught on it. 〖Abu Dawud〗
🔸 HIJAB INCLUDES CONCEALING OUR AKHAWAT
Although some of us wear Hijab ourselves, we forget that we CANNOT talk about another sister and her beauty in front of our own husbands, brothers, etc…
Remember, part of our Hijab is to cover our Akhawat’s Awrah, as well.
✴ The Prophet ﷺ had said, ❝No woman should mix with a woman and describe her to her husband so that it is as if he can see her.❞ 〖Muslim〗
May Allah ﷻ guide and bless us with the TRUE understanding of His Deen and keep us on His Straight Path. Ameen Summa Ameen Ya Rabbul A'alaameen… X💗
When the term Jihad is mentioned in conversation or in any other situation, people especially in the west automatically misunderstand it as fighting in a war or going to war (which is another topic of discussion and which term needs its own clarification.) But Islamically, there is so much more to the meaning of Jihad. Jihad means to strive; strive in every way possible to become a better person. This Ayah from the Qur’an personally speaks to me because it helps me understand that Islam is a way of life. Islam is not only completing my mandatory prayers and fasts, but it is striving to perfect my character, control my anger, donate and help the needy without worrying as to whether or not my own sustenance will decrease, respect my parents, finish my education regardless of how difficult the content might be, etc. This is the bigger picture of Jihad. This is the meaning of Jihad. - Ronya