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I was in my youth and my family was striving hard to convince me to marry but I refused. A woman came to me and said: ‘O Abū Uthmān, indeed I am infatuated with you. I ask you, by Allāh, to marry me.’ So I went to her father, who was poor, and he married her to me and he was very happy with that. When she entered upon me I saw her and she was cross-eyed, cripple, and deformed. Due to her love for me she would prevent me from going out so I would sit with her to soothe her heart and I didn’t display to her any aversion, yet it was as if I was burning due to the aversion which I had for her. I remained like this for fifteen years until she passed away. There is none of my actions that I hope to preserve more than my (action of) preservation of her heart.
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Abū Uthmān Sa’îd bin Ismâ’îl An-Naysabūrī (d. 290 AH)

Sayd Al-Khātir pg. 132
Translated by Raha ibn Donald Batts

The Wife Searching for a Righteous Husband

Just as a husband should look for a righteous wife, so too should a woman look to choose a righteous husband. Abu Hurairah reported that the Messenger of Allaah (ﷺ)  said: “If someone should come to you whose religion and character you are pleased with, marry (your daughter) off to him. If you do not do so, there will be mischief in the land and widespread corruption.” [1]

Based on this, we see that the firm foundation that a potential couple should base their selection of one another should be that of: Religion and Character. This is what will bring about a correct and proper upbringing for children.

On the wedding night when the groom consummates the marriage, it is recommended for him to say: “O Allaah, I ask you for her good and the good that she was molded upon” whilst placing his hand upon her head. He should also pray two rak’aat with her. [2]

[1] Reported by At-Tirmidhee (1085) from the narration of Abu Haatim Al-Muznee, and he said: “This is a hasan ghareeb hadeeth.” Abu Haatim Al-Muznee was a Companion. No other hadeeth is known to have been reported by him on the Prophet except this hadeeth. Abu Dawood also mentioned it in al-Maraaseel (224) but according to him, Abu Haatim Al-Muznee is a Taabi’ee. The hadeeth also has a supporting witness in the hadeeth of Abu Hurairah with the wording: “If someone whose religion and character you are pleased with proposes marriage to you (i.e. your daughter), then marry (her) off to him. If you fail to do so, there will be mischief in the land and widespread corruption.” [Reported by At-Tirmidhee (1084) and Ibn Maajah (1967)]

[2] Reported by Al-Haakim in al-Mustadrak (2/202, no. 2757); ‘Abdullaah bin ‘Amr reported that Allaah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said: “If one of you obtains a slave-girl or a wife or a riding beast, he should take hold of her forelock, supplicate for blessings and say: ‘O Allaah, I ask You for her good and the good that she was molded upon. And I seek refuge in You from her evil and the evil that she was molded upon.” Al-Haakim authenticated it and Adh-Dhahabee agreed.

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A Muslim-owned restaurant is hosting free Christmas dinners for the homeless

  • Shish Restaurant, a Muslim-owned Turkish eatery in London, posted a flyer on their door promoting a free three-course Christmas dinner for the homeless and eldery.
  • “No one eats alone on Christmas Day,” the flyer said. “We are here to sit with you.”
  • According to BuzzFeed News, the restaurant staffers’ mission was simple: They just wanted to help people.
  • “We’re just helping people,” Hasan Masud, an employee at Shish, told BuzzFeed News. “Lots of people stay home alone for Christmas … They don’t need to. They can come here and have some fun.” Read more

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