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إن أهل الجنة إذا دخلوا الجنة
و لم يجدوا أصحابهم
الذين كانوا معهم على خير في الدنيا
فإنهم يسائلون عنهم رب العزة ، ويقولون:

When people enter Paradise and don’t see their friends who were with them in this world, they will ask Allah:

” يارب لنا إخوان كانوا يصلون معنا و يصومون معنا لم نراهم.“

“Oh Lord, we do not see our brothers with whom we used to pray and fast with.”

فيقول الله جل و علا:

So Allah will say:

“اذهبوا للنار و أخرجوا من كان في قلبه مثقال ذرة من إيمان.”

“Go to the fire and take them out even if they had an atom of faith in their hearts.”

و قال الحسن البصري - رحمه الله -
[ استكثروا من الأصدقاء المؤمنين فإن لهم شفاعة يوم القيامة.]

Hasan Al Basri (R.A) said:

“Increase in making friends who are believers as they will intercede for you on the Day of Judgement.”

الصديق الوفي هو من يمشي بك إلى الجنة.

A loyal friend is he who walks with you to Paradise.

قال ابن الجوزي رحمه الله:

Ibn Al Jowzi (R.A) said:

“إن لم تجدوني في الجنة بينكم فاسألوا عني فقولوا:
يا ربنا عبدك فلان كان يذكرنا بك!!!”

“If you do not find me amongst you in Paradise, then ask for me and say: Oh our Lord, so and so servant of yours used to remind us about you.”

وأنا أسألكم إن لم تجدوني بينكم في الجنة
فاسألوا عني.. لعلي ذكرتكم بالله ولو لمرة واحدة.

Therefore I ask you, if you don’t find me amongst you in Paradise, then ask for me. Even if I’ve mentioned Allah to you only once.

My ustadha said something really beautiful today. She said, “When you’re doing assignments on your laptops you can sometimes make errors, so to get rid of them you press the backspace. It would be as if you never made that error in the first place. And there’s no limit. No limit to how many times you can press it.

Repentance is just like that.

There’s no limit to how many times you can repent. And the most beautiful thing about repentance is that, just like the backspace, repentance erases your sins so that you have a clean slate again.”

America will not be destroyed by undocumented immigrants, same-sex marriage, Muslims, atheists, or abortion, but rather by unreasonable fears, unbridled hatred, divisive politics, deliberate misinformation, and a gullible populace.
—  Laura C. Keeling
Muḥammad ʿAlī's advice to his daughters

The following incident took place when Muḥammad ʿAlī’s daughters arrived at his home wearing clothes that were not modest. Here is the story as told by one of his daughters:

When we finally arrived, the chauffeur escorted my younger sister, Laila, and me up to my father’s suite. As usual, he was hiding behind the door waiting to scare us. We exchanged many hugs and kisses as we could possibly give in one day.

My father took a good look at us. Then he sat me down on his lap and said something that I will never forget. He looked me straight in the eyes and said:

“Hana, everything that God made valuable in the world is covered and hard to get to. Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find gold? Way down in the mine, covered over with layers and layers of rock. You’ve got to work hard to get to them.”

He looked at me with serious eyes, (and said):

“Your body is sacred. You’re far more precious than diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too.”

— Taken from the book: More Than A Hero: Muḥammad ʿAlī’s Life Lessons Through His Daughter’s Eyes

How To Maintain Your Wife’s Privacy From Your Family Members
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1. Request your family not to enter your wife’s room unless she approves, for example, when she is lying down or if she has closed the door. (Note; every jealous husband should at least have a lock on his bedroom door!)

2. Ask your brothers not to hover outside her bedroom door.

3. No one should rummage through her cupboard or handbag unless she approves.

4. She should not be ‘deliberately’ overheard when she is talking on the phone.

5. If she has gone somewhere with your permission, everyone else in the house need not now where she has gone and for how long.

6. Her laundry should not be hung in a place where your male relatives can see her personal garments.

7. Sometimes, she should be allowed to eat her meals in privacy with you, where she will be comfortable. Note that scholars opine that the husband cannot force his wife to have all her meals with her in-laws…

8. Lastly, do not reveal her secrets or personal affairs to your family members. If they ask too many questions, make it politely clear that this kind of inquisitive behaviour is not right.

[Traversing The Highs And Lows Of Muslim Marriage, by Sadaf Farooqi, p. 72]

Tips For Parents
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Tip #10: Build a Masjid in your home

Delegate a room, part of the basement or the living room as the home Masjid. You can do this for less than $25.

Make this Masjid entirely the responsibility of the kids. Get the eldest to be in charge and to delegate responsibilities for younger siblings. Responsibilities include keeping the Masjid clean, waking people up for Fajr, calling the Adhan, etc.

Getting Over a Broken Heart ~ The Islāmic Way

Step 1: Accepting Allāh’s Qadr

This has got to be one of the toughest tests of qadr. Love muddles your mind and when all you see are the good characteristics of someone it is difficult to see why it is not working out, especially if this is your first real love. How can this brother who is practicing his dīn, has a nice beard, soft and caring be wrong for me? How can this sister who is attractive, fun and religious not be my perfect partner?

The key concept to remember here is: you do not know someone until you have lived with them for a substantial time. Even that person does not know what they are like and how they will react in certain situations. Just because you have these elated feelings of love does not necessarily mean this is the right person. Marriage is a struggle and people develop themselves and change with the experience. Only Allāh (ﷻ) knows your compatibility, only Allāh (ﷻ) knows what situations you will face and your reactions. Only Allāh (ﷻ) knows whether or not this marriage will bring you closer to Him or distract you from the real purpose in life. It is only Allāh (ﷻ) who knows. Have trust in Allāh (ﷻ) that He has made the right choice for you. For no matter how much this person claims their love for you or vice versa, know that no one can love you as much as Allāh (ﷻ).

So firstly, make duʿāʾ to Allāh (ﷻ) to ease your pain and help you be content with His qadr. The following is my favorite ḥadīth regarding qadr as it really fills you with the awe of Allāh (ﷻ) and His infinite wisdom.

“Allāh (ﷻ) said: ‘Verily, from amongst My slaves is he whose faith cannot be rectified except by being inflicted with poverty, and were I to enrich him, it would surely corrupt him. Verily, from amongst My slaves is he whose faith cannot be rectified except by wealth and affluence, and were I to deprive him, it would surely corrupt him. Verily, from amongst My slaves is he whose faith cannot be rectified except by good health, and were I to make him sick, it would surely corrupt him. Verily, from amongst My slaves is he whose faith cannot be rectified except by disease and illness, and were I to make him healthy, it would surely corrupt him. Verily, from amongst My slaves is he who seeks worship by a certain act but I prevent that from him so that self-amazement does not enter his heart. Certainly, I run the affairs of My slaves by My Knowledge of what is in their hearts. Certainly, I am the All-Knower, All-Aware’.” [Tabarani]

Step 2: Awareness of the love-drug syndrome

An interesting study was conducted comparing drug users to people who claimed to be “madly in love”. They found that brain scans showed people who are in the first stages of love and people who are high on cocaine have the same areas of the brain stimulated while looking at a picture of their “beloved”. In other words, being in the first stage of love is similar to being high on drugs! With drugs, you are not in love with the powder itself – you are in love with the feelings that it gives you.

Similarly, the thing that we love is the special attention, the butterflies in the stomach, the acknowledgment that someone cares about us in a special way, looks at us in a special way, thinks about us in a special way – the constant day dreaming about the future and daily scenarios. So it is not that this person is perfect, it is that this person allows us to feel all these emotions which are addictive. In reality we are not in love with the person, we are in love with Love itself.

Being in love with Love explains how some people overlook major faults in their prospective spouse. I knew a practicing sister who wanted to marry someone who had a drug and alcohol problem. This was because in both cases these “faults” were discovered during the first butterfly phase of love and not before. Alhamdulilah, by the qadr of Allāh (ﷻ) the marriage did not take place, but it was due to circumstances, not because the sister had realised that they were not a suited match.

Awareness of this love-drug syndrome has two major benefits. Firstly, awareness is power and it breeds hope. Once you are aware that it is the feelings you are attached to, realise you can actually get them elsewhere.

These feelings are not specific to this one person; you will get these feelings with your new, more suitable prospective partner – the one that Allāh (ﷻ) will put into your life at the right time ʾin shāʾallāh. Love clouds your mind and makes you think that you will not find this strong love and passion with anyone else. But this is simply not true. You will find this love to be even stronger and more passionate with the right person (the one that is written for you in the Lahw al Mahfūz).

The second benefit is knowing that just like a drug-user naturally has withdrawal symptoms when they stop, you too will naturally have withdrawal symptoms, and it will be difficult. Getting over someone is emotionally painful so don’t be too hard on yourself, validate your feelings and allow yourself time to heal. Know that this is common – nearly everyone goes through heartache at some point in their lives, and eventually recover with time.

As a side point: It is not a sin to fall in love; it is a natural emotion which the human species depends on! If you did sin in the process then repent to Allāh (ﷻ), He is the Most Forgiving, Most Merciful. Love is a powerful emotion, which is why there are boundaries in Islām. If you have fallen outside those boundaries, repent and move on.

Step 3: Be proactive

Allow yourself time but also get proactive! Marriage is just one of the many aspects of your life; it is not the be all and end all of things. What are your aspirations? What do you want to achieve in your life? Write down a list of goals you want to achieve by the end of the month and get started on them right away. As Muslims, our continuous goal is striving to get closer to Allāh (ﷻ), so working on your īmān and your relationship with Allāh (ﷻ) must be included in some way. Focus your attention on moving forward rather than wasting time with something that “could have been”.

Step 4: Move on

In the spirit of being proactive, the last stage is to actively open your heart and mind to someone else. This could be difficult, as naturally comparisons will creep in, but again realise the fact that it has not worked out means that Allāh (ﷻ) has someone better suited for you. As illustrated in the famous ḥadīth of the birds:

“If you depend on Allāh with due reliance, He would certainly give you provision as He gives it the birds who go forth hungry in the morning and return with a full belly at dusk.” [Tirmidhī]

Allāh (ﷻ) will provide for you but you have to get up and get moving again. Just like the birds, go out and seek. Make the effort on your part and leave the rest to Allāh (ﷻ) and His infinite wisdom.

Advice To Husbands
—  A woman can feel lonely and helpless if she has no one to talk to or turn to for her to share her problems. So be by her side when she feels upset or down. Women go through many struggles and battles which she keeps a secret within herself. There may be times when she cries for no apparent reason, so be by her side and be her shoulder she can lean on.
🗨Dua Of The Angry Mother‼️

• Shaykh Al-Kalbaani, former Imam of the Ka'bah, at a conference in London told this story:

When he was young, he was a very naughty boy. He would make his mother angry.
But his mother, May Allah bless her, was a very righteous woman and she knew the power of Dua. She made it her habit that, in her anger at him, she would say this Du'a:

“May Allah guide YOU! And make you the IMAM of the Ka'bah!”

Imam Al-Kalbani told us,
“So Allah answered her du'a and I went on to become the Imam of the Ka'bah!”
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✨SubhanAllah!!✨
Never underestimate the power of dua and the dua of the parent is not rejected, so make a good dua!

"I told you so..."
'Abul-Abbās Mūsā Richardson
"I told you so..."

Short clip with a tremendous benefit: Is saying “I told you so…” after someone falls into error (even though you had advised them against it) a good thing?

from the Jumu’ah khutbah: “The Garden That Burned Down” by Moosaa Richardson (حفظه الله)

قَالَ أَوْسَطُهُمْ أَلَمْ أَقُل لَّكُمْ لَوْلَا تُسَبِّحُونَ - 68:28

The best among them said: “Did I not tell you: why do you not say: Insha’ Allah (If Allah will).” (Surah al-Qalam 68:28)

Before you “share” your good news, consider this:
You know that feeling when something amazing happens to you and you can’t wait to share it with the world? Learn to wait. Here’s why:
1. When any good news came to the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) or if a calamity had been averted, he would immediately fall in prostration (sajdatul shukr) and thank Allah for it. This is a beautiful sunnah that should be practiced all the time and not just for major occasions like graduations, new homes, etc.
2. Take a few moments to really deeply say al hamdulila from the depths of your heart. That will be a form of maintaining that blessing as Allah will see your sincere gratitude.
3. Some of the scholars say that one of the reasons Allah did not allow Zakariyya (alayhis salam) to speak for 3 days except for words of praise was to bestow a greater appreciation of the blessing upon him. Al Baghawi (ra) said that is because sometimes when you speak about your blessings to others immediately, you lose yourself in your excitement.
So from now on when something good happens to you, hold off on the phone call, text, email, or status. Say takbeer, go into prostration, say subhana rabbi al a’ala the way you do in your prostration in prayer, AND add a personal note of dua and thanks to Allah from the depths of your heart before you rise.
—  Sh. Omar Suleiman

Please note: Be aware that the evil of the deviated sect the Khawārij harms the believers first. And the views of extremists bring nothing but suffering and destruction not only to the general Muslims but also to the individual who advocates such twisted beliefs him / herself.

Those who support terrorist groups (ex. the so-called Dawlah of Islām ISIS / ISIL / Daesh, Al-Qāeda, Jabāh An-Nusrah, the Tāliban, Boko Harām, et al.) do not respect nor believe in safeguarding innocent believers from harm, they do not believe in the sanctity of the noble cities of Makkah or Madīnah, they do not uphold the covenant of protection in Western / Non-Muslim lands, and only see their actions as a means to an end. 

May Allāh ﷻ protect the Muslims worldwide, may He guide us to the Straight Path and keep us firm upon Tawheed and the Sunnah of our beloved Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ), and may He destroy the Khawārij, Ameen.

You Are His Place of Security
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“Oh my sister, you are tranquility for your husband, he lives under your warm embrace, seeks safety and relief from you, confides in you his secret and he forgets his worries once he reaches the door. So live with in him in tranquility.”

  • Badr bin Ali Al-Utaybee, 20 Pieces Of Advice To My Sister Before Her Marriage (p.152)