islam advice

إن أهل الجنة إذا دخلوا الجنة
و لم يجدوا أصحابهم
الذين كانوا معهم على خير في الدنيا
فإنهم يسائلون عنهم رب العزة ، ويقولون:

When people enter Paradise and don’t see their friends who were with them in this world, they will ask Allah:

” يارب لنا إخوان كانوا يصلون معنا و يصومون معنا لم نراهم.“

“Oh Lord, we do not see our brothers with whom we used to pray and fast with.”

فيقول الله جل و علا:

So Allah will say:

“اذهبوا للنار و أخرجوا من كان في قلبه مثقال ذرة من إيمان.”

“Go to the fire and take them out even if they had an atom of faith in their hearts.”

و قال الحسن البصري - رحمه الله -
[ استكثروا من الأصدقاء المؤمنين فإن لهم شفاعة يوم القيامة.]

Hasan Al Basri (R.A) said:

“Increase in making friends who are believers as they will intercede for you on the Day of Judgement.”

الصديق الوفي هو من يمشي بك إلى الجنة.

A loyal friend is he who walks with you to Paradise.

قال ابن الجوزي رحمه الله:

Ibn Al Jowzi (R.A) said:

“إن لم تجدوني في الجنة بينكم فاسألوا عني فقولوا:
يا ربنا عبدك فلان كان يذكرنا بك!!!”

“If you do not find me amongst you in Paradise, then ask for me and say: Oh our Lord, so and so servant of yours used to remind us about you.”

وأنا أسألكم إن لم تجدوني بينكم في الجنة
فاسألوا عني.. لعلي ذكرتكم بالله ولو لمرة واحدة.

Therefore I ask you, if you don’t find me amongst you in Paradise, then ask for me. Even if I’ve mentioned Allah to you only once.

My ustadha said something really beautiful today. She said, “When you’re doing assignments on your laptops you can sometimes make errors, so to get rid of them you press the backspace. It would be as if you never made that error in the first place. And there’s no limit. No limit to how many times you can press it.

Repentance is just like that.

There’s no limit to how many times you can repent. And the most beautiful thing about repentance is that, just like the backspace, repentance erases your sins so that you have a clean slate again.”

Muḥammad ʿAlī's advice to his daughters

The following incident took place when Muḥammad ʿAlī’s daughters arrived at his home wearing clothes that were not modest. Here is the story as told by one of his daughters:

When we finally arrived, the chauffeur escorted my younger sister, Laila, and me up to my father’s suite. As usual, he was hiding behind the door waiting to scare us. We exchanged many hugs and kisses as we could possibly give in one day.

My father took a good look at us. Then he sat me down on his lap and said something that I will never forget. He looked me straight in the eyes and said:

“Hana, everything that God made valuable in the world is covered and hard to get to. Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected. Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell. Where do you find gold? Way down in the mine, covered over with layers and layers of rock. You’ve got to work hard to get to them.”

He looked at me with serious eyes, (and said):

“Your body is sacred. You’re far more precious than diamonds and pearls, and you should be covered too.”

— Taken from the book: More Than A Hero: Muḥammad ʿAlī’s Life Lessons Through His Daughter’s Eyes

Advice To Husbands
—  A woman can feel lonely and helpless if she has no one to talk to or turn to for her to share her problems. So be by her side when she feels upset or down. Women go through many struggles and battles which she keeps a secret within herself. There may be times when she cries for no apparent reason, so be by her side and be her shoulder she can lean on.

Please note: Be aware that the evil of the deviated sect the Khawārij harms the believers first. And the views of extremists bring nothing but suffering and destruction not only to the general Muslims but also to the individual who advocates such twisted beliefs him / herself.

Those who support terrorist groups (ex. the so-called Dawlah of Islām ISIS / ISIL / Daesh, Al-Qāeda, Jabāh An-Nusrah, the Tāliban, Boko Harām, et al.) do not respect nor believe in safeguarding innocent believers from harm, they do not believe in the sanctity of the noble cities of Makkah or Madīnah, they do not uphold the covenant of protection in Western / Non-Muslim lands, and only see their actions as a means to an end. 

May Allāh ﷻ protect the Muslims worldwide, may He guide us to the Straight Path and keep us firm upon Tawheed and the Sunnah of our beloved Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ), and may He destroy the Khawārij, Ameen.

You Are His Place of Security
— 

“Oh my sister, you are tranquility for your husband, he lives under your warm embrace, seeks safety and relief from you, confides in you his secret and he forgets his worries once he reaches the door. So live with in him in tranquility.”

  • Badr bin Ali Al-Utaybee, 20 Pieces Of Advice To My Sister Before Her Marriage (p.152)
You should have a tender heart.

Al-Qasim bin Muhammad said: “We were on a journey with Ibn al-Mubarak, and I was always asking myself: what is so special about this man that he is so famous? If he prays, so do we. If he fasts, so do we. If he fights, so do we. If he makes Hajj, so do we.

One night, we spent the night in a house travelling on the way to Sham. The lamp went out, and some of us woke up. So, he took the lamp outside to light it, and stayed outside for a while. When he came back in with the lamp, I caught a glimpse of Ibn al-Mubarak’s face, and saw that his beard was wet with his tears. I said to myself: “This fear of Allah is what has made this man better than us. When the lamp went out and we were in darkness, he remembered the Day of Resurrection.””

‘Sifat as-Safwah’ (2/330)

spiritual Advice from different Ulama:

Seyid Ali al-Qadhi:
You will never reach any spiritual level if you have haq owing to someone, until you fulfil it.

Sh. Nukhudaki:
Never leave Salat al-Layl and enhancing your taqwa and self-restraint.

Sh. Kampani:
Always keep regular time for your seclusion, and whenever you are in gatherings try to be like you are in seclusion.

Seyid Ahmad Karbalai:
Absolute concentration should be on the Imam of your time (a.a.f.), and doing tawassul to him, with reciting dua Faraj, and dua of ‘Allahuma 'arrifni nafsak…..“

Sh. Bahari:
The most comprehensive advice I can give is that you avoid sin. If you work on this you will reach the loftiest of stations. If you do sin, quickly repent and seek forgiveness.

Mulla Husainquli Hamadani:
Self-monitoring means to never be inattentive of the presence of the Almighty.

Sh. Mehdi Naraqi:
A human body is material and finite, but its soul is eternal. If you uphold it with good Akhlaq it will have everlasting happiness, and if you pollute it with vices it will endure ongoing punishment.

Sh. Baydabadi:
My dear, be aware, and not lost, know yourself, and dont be a showoff, because knowing yourself is knowing your Lord, and showing off takes you away.

Sh. Muhammad Taqi Amuli:
Never leave prayer on its time. Have good manners to everyone, and stay away from haram income.

Sh. Kohestani:
If knowledge is the criterion, Satan is the most knowledgeable of us. It is practicing that is the criterion.

Mirza Qasim Gargari Jalfa`i:
The most important element of spiritual progress and true perfection, after obeying God, is serving people.

Allamah Tabatabai:
Neglecting repentance, and postponing it is a sin in itself, and this sin continues to repeat every instant.

Imam Khomeini:
If a soul is not disciplined and purified from corrupt features knowledge will have no effect in it.

Mirza Ali Akbar Marandi:
Take utmost care of your mother. Never let her be upset or discontent with you, or else you will never succeed in this world or in the hereafter.

Sh. Behjat:
Only one piece of advice is enough, and that is God sees you in every state you are in.

Sh. Hasanzade Amuli:
There is nothing more important than self-discipline.

8 Ways On How To Win The Heart Of Your Wife

How to win the heart of your wife:

1. Give your wife lots of compliments.

2. Simply look in her eyes, listen and acknowledge her.

3. Never compare her to anyone to get her to change.

4. Tell your wife you love her daily. Learn to express it in different ways. being intimate is a mans way to tell his wife he loves her, do it in a different way. Just by helping her around the house, you show you love her.

5. Never criticize her or make fun when getting intimate.

6. Be supportive of her choices and ideas.

7. Learn to apologize.

8. Help her around the house and with the kids.

Before you “share” your good news, consider this:
You know that feeling when something amazing happens to you and you can’t wait to share it with the world? Learn to wait. Here’s why:
1. When any good news came to the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) or if a calamity had been averted, he would immediately fall in prostration (sajdatul shukr) and thank Allah for it. This is a beautiful sunnah that should be practiced all the time and not just for major occasions like graduations, new homes, etc.
2. Take a few moments to really deeply say al hamdulila from the depths of your heart. That will be a form of maintaining that blessing as Allah will see your sincere gratitude.
3. Some of the scholars say that one of the reasons Allah did not allow Zakariyya (alayhis salam) to speak for 3 days except for words of praise was to bestow a greater appreciation of the blessing upon him. Al Baghawi (ra) said that is because sometimes when you speak about your blessings to others immediately, you lose yourself in your excitement.
So from now on when something good happens to you, hold off on the phone call, text, email, or status. Say takbeer, go into prostration, say subhana rabbi al a’ala the way you do in your prostration in prayer, AND add a personal note of dua and thanks to Allah from the depths of your heart before you rise.
—  Sh. Omar Suleiman

Recite Quran and reflect on it everyday. <3 Here are some tips: 

  • Set aside a few minutes everyday for the Quran
  • Set yourself a goal: recite (with meaning) a min of let’s say 5 verses everyday (it doesn’t have to be a large amount at all)
  • Get yourself your very own Quran with translation if you want. Make it yours, make it personal, make it pretty. It’ll make you want to reflect more, and love it more. Just like in English class we put so many stickies in it, highlight important quotes, analyze them, let’s do the same and better for this Holy book. :) 
    • Eg: Sahih International English Translation with arabic Quran
    • Use highlighters, make a key (eg. blue: signs of Allah, pink: duas)
    • Use stickies to mark parts you love…. & so on.
  • Tips for reflecting: relate the verses to YOU, to your life. Make a separate journal if you want where you analyze the verses and reflect. Write on the margins important things. 
  • Listen to the moving recitation by a Qari if you have time. 

Please feel free list anymore tips below! 

THE VIRTUE OF TAKING THE FIRST OPPORTUNITY TO GET MARRIED.

Al Imaam ibn Baz (rahimahullah) was asked about delaying marriage due to certain reasons, from them: an individual’s (male or female)  job, their social and financial circumstances and studies.

The answer:

What is required is to take the first opportunity to get married. The youth (young man & women) should not delay marriage for the reason of studies.

And the young women should not delay marriage for the reason of studies, as marriage does not prevent anything from that. And it is possible for the young man to get married and preserve his religion, his manners and lower his gaze and at the same time he continues to study.

And likewise for the young women, when Allah makes it easy for her a compatible match, she should hasten to get married even if she is still studying. All of this does not prevent (marriage).

So what is required is to take the first opportunity and to agree to marriage if a compatible person proposes. And studies does not prevent that.

And if a part of the studies was left out, then that’s still ok. What’s important is that you learn that which makes you know your religion. And the rest is a (extra) benefit.

And in marriage there are numerous advantages, especially in this time (we are in), and due to the harm that’s upon the young women and men in delaying it.

Therefore, what is required upon all young men and all young women is to take the first opportunity to get married when a compatible proposer is made possible for a woman.

And when a good woman is made possible for the young man, he should take this opportunity, acting upon the saying of the noble Messenger (upon him be the salaah and salaam) is the authentic Hadith:

“O youth, those who are able amongst you to get married; then he should marry; for indeed it is better in lowering the gaze, and more preserving for the private parts, and whoever is unable, then he should fast, for indeed it is a shield for him” [Agreed upon].

And this includes both the young men and women, and it is not specific to the men, but it is general for both, as both of them are in need of getting married. We ask Allah guidance for everyone.

Narrated by Al-Bukhari in the Book of marriage, chapter (The saying of the Prophet (sallaAllahu alayhi wa sallam:

“Whoever is able amongst you to get married then he shall get married) [#5065].

And Muslim in the Book of marriage. Chapter (Recommendation to get married for the one whose soul desires it) [#1400].

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[1] رواه البخاري في (النكاح)، باب (قول النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم: “من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج “)، برقم: 5065، ومسلم في (النكاح)، باب (استحباب النكاح لمن تاقت نفسه إليه)، برقم: 1400.

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