Man… I really wanted to avoid discourse on this blog, but there is something I want to say that I’ve seen very little acknowledgement of. I’m not the best at words in these situations, but I’ll try my best.
I guess the frankest part of what I’m thinking is that I find the way creators are treated in this fandom, and fandoms in general as of late, incredibly frustrating. In Dre**am Da*ddy in particular it’s abysmal. Not only are people quick to jump down fanartists’ throats, but the way we treat the developers of this game is really unsettling to me. As a writer myself with friends trying to scrape by in creative careers, I don’t like how the fandom has distanced itself so far from the indie creators who put this game together to the extent that we’re treating them like this conglomeration of monsters we can harass at our leisure.
Don’t get me wrong, I understand the value of criticizing media. We should always question what we consume on some level, for the betterment of ourselves, but it’s also useful to take media to task for not reflecting our society fairly, especially in terms of who’s making it. But these ideas in practice as a form of activism is geared towards mainstream media. It’s geared toward money-filled productions fronted by hoards of privilege. Something like the Academy Awards, that simply has no excuse whatsoever to be so white, to have so infinitesimal a lens on lgbt or disabled or whatever people who exist so plainly in actual life and certainly create plenty of art about it.
However, in online fandom communities I instead see this action turned against progressive indie creators, lgbt creators and other marginalized artists, over what are essentially micro-aggressions. And I see no sense of scale at all. If anything, I see these smaller marginalized artists getting more hate, held to more impossible standards than any basic white dude creator ever does. And I tell you what, it’s really damn disheartening to see this complete lack of respect for artists in the small spaces their voices are actually heard.
like ghshdjfkf i realize that post is directed generally at “kids” but when i made it i was literally just vagueing my own past experiences. this is what i mean when i say there’s a miscommunication like, i don’t mind that it has 13k notes but at the same time i wish people understood that it wasn’t like. made to be circulated. the primary purpose of 90% of what i post on here is just to be an outlet for me and if other people relate they’re welcome to rb my stuff but it’s. frustrating. to have randos taking it as like a public declaration when it was never really meant that way. i think that’s kind of a weird thing about this website like most people with followings didn’t set out to get followings they just get forcibly made into semi-public figures and then people expect them to be polished and perfect when that was never what they set out to do
lance, after being lightly roasted by the other paladins: wow. WOW. okay. looks like none of you are invited to my birthday party anymore
hunk: wait! i thought we were going to plan your party together? we had an ocean theme and everything!
lance: shit, you’re right… hunk’s reinvited.
pidge: what?? lance you can’t keep uninviting and reinviting people to your birthday party, you’re just gonna lose track
lance: oh really? watch this - (pulling out a small notebook) - pidge, currently uninvited as of today; hunk was recently uninvited but is now reinvited - side note, ocean themed parties are amazing; allura, currently invited but she’s on thin ice; coran, well, he’s kinda permanently invited because i need at least one person to show up; lotor is invited ironically, waiting for him to rsvp so i can reject him; and finally… keith is permanently uninvited until he admits that he cares about being on the invite list
ok so what about Keith admitting to Lance that he has feelings for someone (maybe they got stranded together and were awaiting rescue and one conversation led to another and Lance started pressing Keith about Allura again, maybe Keith said there’s nothing to worry about, maybe Lance says “good, she’s too good for you anyway” as a lighthearted jab, maybe Keith admits he has feelings for someone else). and since they’re killing time Lance starts teasing Keith about it, like is it one of the alien girls we’ve met? except wait you never really talked to any of the alien girls we meet. it’s not Pidge is it? I mean that’s fine but tbh I don’t think she’d be into you unless you were a robot. and Keith just shakes his head, “it’s not a girl.”
and Lance takes a second to process and he feels a weird thump in his chest. and he says, of course that’s cool too, it doesn’t have to be a girl obviously, just as long as it’s not Hunk, it’s not Hunk right? it’d be understandable if it was, how do you think he got his nickname after all, I’m just saying Hunk’s wellbeing is my responsibility and if you ever broke his heart then I would have to fight you.
and Keith just smiles and shakes his head. “relax it’s not Hunk.”
and they sort of drop it bc the conversation is getting awkward. but the silence kills Lance so he gives it another go. “It’s Coran, isn’t it?” and Keith laughs out loud at that. “I don’t blame you, I mean who can resist the accent.” and Keith is giggling now so Lance feels like his mission is accomplished (not that he had been planning to make it his mission to make Keith laugh, it’s just ever since Shiro disappeared Keith’s been even more morose than usual and Lance hates it when his friends are sad). and then it hits him: Shiro, of course it’s Shiro. and for some reason he feels sad that he figured it out, so he doesn’t say anything to Keith.
and maybe they get rescued and everything’s back to normal on the castle. except Shiro’s still gone and Lance feels like he understands Keith a little better now. like why Keith always pushes them so hard in training because he wants the team to be ready to rescue Shiro when they find him. and whenever someone reminisces about Shiro, Lance risks a glance at Keith and worries because it must be awful to lose someone you care about twice.
and maybe they finally get Shiro back and Lance finds Keith alone in the observatory room looking out at the stars. and Lance is trying to find something to say that’s supportive. “I’m happy for you.” and Keith raises an eyebrow in question so Lance continues, “that Shiro’s back.” and he pauses, because he doesn’t know if he should say it, because his chest feels tight just thinking about it, but he’s a supportive friend and he wants Keith to know that he’s there for him if he ever wants to talk so he says it. “It was Shiro you were talking about, right? That you have feelings for.”
and Keith furrows his brow, avoids Lance’s gaze, and takes a breath. and he says softly, “Shiro… Shiro’s the only family I have. He’s like a brother to me.” and then he looks Lance dead in the eyes and says, “Gross.”
and the tightness in Lance’s chest goes away and he doesn’t know why but he feels relieved. so he laughs, and he laughs. and he claps Keith on the shoulder. and when he settles down he says, “You’re wrong though, Shiro’s not your only family anymore.” and he smiles at Keith as bright as he can, “All of us on this castle, we’re all family now. Like it or not.”
and maybe Keith watches Lance’s expression a little more closely as Lance looks out at the stars, and maybe Lance doesn’t notice the way Keith is looking at him, or the way Keith’s heart jumped in his chest when Lance smiled but maybe that’s okay because it’s not important right now. Shiro’s back and their team– their family is whole again. it can wait.
because i really love headcanons for the way people hug i think theyre super cute
Craig: - The strongest, most secure hugs ever. Makes you feel like you could survive an apocalypse so long as brodad is hugging you - Does that thing where he picks you up a little when he hugs you - Somehow always smells fresh even though he’s working out always
Mat: - Firm hugs that always last a little longer than normal but never in an awkward way - Always smells like coffee and cafe pastries, even on his days off - Keeps a hand on your shoulder for a bit even after the hug is over
Damien: - Always asks if he can hug you before he hugs you, like a gentleman - Very gentle hugs, like he’s worried he’ll break you if he hugs any harder - You’d think his Victorian style clothes would be kinda stiff but theyre actually really soft to the touch
Joseph: - Either smells like fresh cookies or grill smoke, no inbetween - Gives you soft pats on the back while hugging - Jesus himself has blessed this hug probably
Brian: - A hug can’t get any softer than this - Like Craig, probably picks you up when he hugs you. Good chance of spinning in a circle if he’s really happy - The most classic Dad Smell™ of some combination of old spice, irish spring, and home depot
Robert: - Usually very short, but fulfilling hugs - Does that thing where he goes for a handshake and then pulls you into a quick hug - Gives you a really solid Two (2) pats on the back
Hugo: - Usually very gentle hugs, unless he’s super excited about something then he’ll just pick you up - Smells like old books all the time - The kind of guy that’ll hug you every time he sees you once youre close enough
(I feel like the argument stemmed from Black Hat being meaner than usual towards Flug because he’s frustrated at himself trying to understand his affectionate feelings, and Flug finally blows up about it)