Do Aces feel a need to come out to friends and/or family ? I realized only recently that I was ace, but being a straight cis white dude it’s very easy to hide and play it as if I didn’t want any strings at the moment... Do most Aces come out ?
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That’s actually an interesting question. I don’t know if aces feel like they need to come out any more than anyone else. I think all lgbt+ people have their own ideas about coming out. Some people do, others don’t. Some poor folk are forced out. :(
Personally, I’m in a grey area of being ‘out’. Mostly because I don’t want to have to explain asexuality to my fairly traditionally minded family. Like, I have subtle ace merch like a ‘Nah’ shirt, an ace ring, and an ace pin, but the only person I’m actually ‘out’ to is my little sister because she already knew what asexuality was so I didn’t have to explain it to her. Also, I’ve talked about not wanting to get married or have kids so much that my parents don’t even mention boys or anything to me anymore.
What I’m getting at is, you don’t have to come out to anyone if you don’t feel like it. Or you can tell everyone! The only thing that matters is your safety and how you feel.