is there a way to deal with him when he does this

anonymous asked:

So last week I was in math class right with this guy I hate. He's misogynistic and he sucks. I didn't think I could dislike any more than I already did. I was wrong. I was talking about civil war with my friend and this boy stands up and says "Tony Stark is to blame for everything, he's the worst character in the MCU and he's killed so many people. He never even apologized."

ahhh, well my friend, I have to deal with two boys a little like that too. one of them is a creep, and one of them is an anti.

for the creep, I have a firmly established rule that he is not to come within touching distance of me. if he breaks that rule, then I kick him up the ass.
he does not tend to break that rule. I do not hold back, and I tend to look murderous af when at school, so I feel he may be slightly terrified of me.
good. that is what we want.

for the anti, it tends to be at lunch when he says his shit. or at least, the one time he dared to in front of me.
he… may have been stabbed with a plastic fork. very lightly. but he did not say anything again.

summary: in most cases, solve your conflict in a professional, adult way. in rare cases, if the subject is being a creep/ a persistent asshole- impale them.

littlewing56  asked:

Any advice on how to deal with failure? College is kicking my butt at the moment and any advice would be helpful. By the way you did an amazing job on voices for BOTW, I can't wait to see what you do in the future!

Let me tell you something about failure.

Way more often than it should, failure manages to convince us that we aren’t something. Not that we aren’t enough, mind you, but simply that we just aren’t.

This isn’t true. Failure at singing a song does not mean you aren’t a singer; failure to climax doesn’t mean you aren’t a good lover. Failing a test does not mean you aren’t a proper student, and failure did not make Nikola Tesla “not an inventor”; rather, it taught him all the different ways that would not result in what he was going for, leading him ever closer to finding the way(s) that would.

When we fail, we are given an opportunity to reflect and pore back through our actions and decisions. We have the chance to try and figure out what went wrong, or what we might have done that wasn’t as effective as we thought, or even what we did that hurt our efforts more than it helped. It is the ultimate reminder to review our process, because it’s sometimes harder when we succeed to remind ourselves to go back and identify what contributed to that success.

Failure is incredible, because it is the single easiest way in the world to make new friends. Nowhere in life is there an easier starting topic of conversation than going to someone who you feel is doing well at the thing you failed at, and asking them to help you figure out what to do.

Can you imagine? Regardless of how well you know this person, you’ve already made them feel important and valuable by asking for their assistance, and in turn you’re giving yourself the chance to improve instead of simply giving up. And further still, you’ve already established a common interest that you both share and can grow at together! What ridiculous efficiency!

In voiceover especially, this kind of connection is essential, because often when we ‘fail’ we are given absolutely no further information on the degree to which we did not succeed. Of those 20 auditions I never heard back from, I have no idea whether I missed the mark completely, if I submitted a strong take but just happened to not be the subjectively ‘best’ choice, or if something happened that was completely unrelated to the audition but nevertheless had an impact on my chances. And despite not having this knowledge, I must push myself to learn by any means necessary; I must move beyond the sting of rejection and refocus on further bettering my chances at accomplishment.

Make no mistake; failure fucking sucks. But it’s not devoid of success, and it most certainly does not represent a complete waste of effort and time (unless we allow it to be). How we deal with failure is very telling of how we will deal with a lot of situations in life where the problem we’re dealing with is not as simple as we want it to be; it’s up to you to determine how much you want those moments to play an important role in your development and path to success.

Monsta X Personality Reference for Fanfiction Writers

disclaimer: these could be completely off because obviously I don’t know the guys personally but this is just my assessment of their personalities from being supporting them since No Mercy and writing about them for a while :D

  • Okay so Shownu is slightly stiff, but not in a mean way? He’d just prefer not to talk or show much emotion, even to his close friends because he feels like he can deal with his emotions alone and doesn’t want to burden anyone. As a leader, he’s very responsible, but he’s one of those quiet leaders that watches from afar and gives silent orders but everyone respects him. He’s a shy boy and gets flustered easily but with time (and when he’s with people he knows well) he becomes more confident. He does things that make people laugh without really meaning to and he’s protective of everyone. He’s a very trustworthy person.
  • Wonho is not the type of person to lead, he’s a follower. He likes joining in on other people’s fun and sharing their happiness. He does have moments where he does speak out and lead the team, but he prefers to just follow instead as he isn’t completely confident in his decisions all the time. He has an extremely confident front and he actually is confident in himself both mentally and physically, but he does have moments where he doubts himself and he just curls up and falls into a sad ball but he never shows it to anyone. He’s a very emotional person and extremely sentimental. He loves living in the past and he’s thankful for every little thing anyone has ever done for him. He’s a big mama’s boy and would do anything for her. One of his flaws, in my opinion, is that he trusts easily; he opens up to people quickly and sometimes gets hurt in the process.
  • Minhyuk is literal sunshine. He is the happiest person and strives to make people smile. He loves attention, just like Wonho, but in a different way. Minhyuk wants people to listen to the crazy things he has to say. He’s great at MC-ing so he’s a good mood changer and can have a crowd wrapped around his little finger in no time. People are constantly drawn to him, but the thing is with Minhyuk, is that he doesn’t open up to people easily. He’s quite reserved although he’s really loud and open. It’s like he has two different personalities, his private one and the one he shows to people. He’s a very sensitive person and an over thinker although he doesn’t show it.
  • Hyungwon is quite slow with his actions and he can be lazy most of the time, but it’s not as extreme as people think. He’s actually a very responsible person and he helps bring people together. If people are fighting, Hyungwon is the perfect mediator because I feel like he’s an impartial person. He knows what’s right and what’s wrong and knows not to cross people’s lines. He’s lowkey extremely caring but doesn’t necessarily show it all the time and loves teasing those who he’s close to. He’s a silent observer in a group who doesn’t speak much but instead gets lost in his thoughts. He’s a thinker and has many opinions that he doesn’t necessarily always vocalise. 
  • Kihyun is extremely protective but he doesn’t show it. He likes bullying his friends but if someone bullies them, they better watch out from his wrath. Kihyun is a soft boy, he’s secretly an extreme romantic. He’s got a lot of dimensions to his character but he’s reserved about them and likes to put on airs that he’s a Strong Man™. He’s loves to boast and show off and it can be annoying sometimes, but it’s him lmao. He’s extremely resourceful and if he’s in a bad situation, he’s the fastest to respond and start trying to fix it. If something bad happens in his love life then he will sulk and block everyone out until someone comes and knocks him out of it. Although he is responsible, he is very dependant on other people and needs the presence of others around him.
  • Jooheon is extremely dependant on people. He needs people to take care of him and to show him affection or else he’ll probably go crazy lmao. He lives off of attention as well and loves people watching him and babying him. However, if he wants to impress people, he can put on a completely different face. And this different Jooheon also appears when he’s passionate about something. That’s his trigger, if it’s anything that has to do with his passion then he will flip. He’s an emotional  person and some could say he’s burdensome because he has to constantly share his feelings with someone, but if you treat him well he will literally fall in love right away. He’s a very creative person and like Hyungwon, he’s a thinker. He can be stubborn sometimes but he can be convinced if you just talk to him gently and with reason. He’s a very reasonable guy.
  • Okay lastly we have Changkyun who’s a really independent person. He’s the opposite of Jooheon, he loves doing things on his own. He prefers spending time alone but doesn’t mind being in other people’s company. He’s internally a cringey shy boy but he can give off a confident front even if he is nervous. He doesn’t necessarily enjoy when people help him because he thinks he can do it better himself, but he’s also always open to constructive criticism. And he loves helping people; whether it’s just a simple problem or charity work or whatever, he’ll do it. Mostly because he enjoys being thanked in the end lmao. He’s a very reliable person and if you entrust him with something, then he will do anything to get it done perfectly. He’s one of those people that you think is scattered and lost but he is very calculative and has everything organised in his brain. He’s really witty and sharp, also has very fast reflexes and quick reactions.

If anyone has anymore questions my ask box is always open :D

I’ve seen a couple of posts about the first time Kirk kisses Spock and how Spock shorts out for a second, but like what if it was the other way round

Kirk respects Spock as well as loves him and he knows how much physical contact is reserved so he tries to abide by that. Sure he hugs him and touches him sometimes (he’s a very physical person and cuddles are a big way to show affection for him) but he never kisses because kissing in Human culture is seen as a bit of a big deal. But Spock grew up on Vulcan, his knowledge of Human kisses is pretty limited (he’s seen his parents do it on occasion, but so rarely it’s hardly relevant) and he generally considers the hugs and cuddles as super intimate anyways (not to mention the whole mental link). But he does know what Amanda told him when he was little about how kisses are a way to say “I love you” so one day Jim gives him a big ol’ hug because he’s just really excited about something and in response Spock kisses him. And for a moment all Jim can do is stand there completely shocked. And then the biggest goofiest grin he’s ever given spreads across his face and Spock immediately regrets everything (but he’s secretly pleased)

pining hcs for tjeffs;

boss’ memo : alternative title: “so, he likes you. how can i tell? well–”

Originally posted by gravitywon


  • thomas has an almost childlike way of dealing with someone he’s got a crush on, in that he will roast them (and then will promptly scream internally and will for himself to stay quiet and leave you alone,, stop insulting your crush, thomas. they don’t come here to be burned)
    • he generally will seek out your attention through teasing (both of the making fun and the flustering type)
      • he may attempt to brag about all his prior partners to see the reaction it gets from you–he’s found that it’s best to identify someone’s motives when they’re upset, and he’d really like to know how you feel about him. he obviously doesn’t want you to dislike him either, so he does allow himself to do nice things to earn your favor,,
      • overall, he wants to know what makes you tick, so he can find his way into your heart.
    • thomas gives you strange, backhanded compliments??
      • “that shirt looks awful. here’s this one that i just happened to be carrying around that just so happens to make you look really good.”
      • it’s almost as if he’s thinking of the compliment first, and then trying to follow it up with an insult so he doesn’t seem soft…
  • if you start acting mean to him as a result of his behavior–and you’ve got every right to–it’s likely that he’s going to complain to james, who will take one look at thomas rambling about you, and will just leave to tell you himself. based on the way james says it, however, there’s a large chance that you won’t believe him.
  • one way to tell that he likes you is a sudden increase in physical contact–as if he doesn’t know what to do with himself once in your proximity and doesn’t want you to go. a gentle grasp on your elbow (he excuses this by saying it’s rude for you to leave while he’s debating), a presence leaning over you (he excuses this by mumbling something vaguely coherent into your ear).
    • another way to tell is that he’ll often be lost in his thoughts–looking off to the side with his eyebrows furrowed. he flusters whenever james snaps him out of it (which he does often. thomas likes to fantasize.)
When Your POT Doesn’t Show

How annoying, right? You drive completely out of your way for a POT date for him to completely bail. I will say though, this is a first for me but this does happen to the best of us. Here’s how to help. 

1) Try and get there first and say you need a table for one. 

When you do this, they’ll only set up a table for one, not two. Meaning, you won’t sit through your own lunch or dinner by yourself. No one would ever guess. :) If he does come, getting another table setting is no big deal. 

2) Don’t be discouraged. 

This happens to us all the time. Think positive. Today was such a beautiful day in Arizona that I actually truly enjoyed sitting outside eating my bowl of strawberries. 

3)Try and find a last minute replacement whether it be an SD or just a friend. 

I actually tried calling one of my other ones, or even a friend who lived by to come and join me las minute. “Hey, I’m actually at _______ and was thinking of you, you’re more than welcome to come join.”  

4) Make the day about you. 

After him not showing up, I browsed the mall, got a real lunch and took time for myself. I was even happier knowing I could get to go home and do extra homework I needed to make up before the break ended. 

5) Don’t put your eggs in one basket. 

When I first started SA I only wanted one guy, but then shit like this would happen and I would freak out because I needed cash. Today, wasn’t the story because I’m like eh, I have three others. (AND FELINE FELIX IS TOMORROW! :D)

6) If he contacts you…  

Finds out his friend was in a legitimate motorcycle accident. Picture included of his friend and Reverse Google Image site verified. He said he was extremely sorry and that he would make it up to me. USUALLY I wouldn’t give this guy a second blink but we have conversed, he’s very kind and respectable. He also bought me lingerie off of Yandy.com prior to meeting me. 

However, be warned if you do give a guy a second chance he may end up doing the same thing again. I’ve totally been there. If you want, tell him be better wire some money to your pay pal to make sure he’s actually going to come if you do give him a second chance. 

Hope this helps
-Samnatha N.B. (sbmisstaylor)

lmao y'all are wild. God forbid Aaron and Robert behave in ways that are very them. Just because they know communication is a problem for them, just because they know they need to work on it and have gotten better in certain ways, does NOT mean that all of a sudden when they are under extreme stress and pain that they are gonna magically be great at it and tell each other what’s going on LOL do we know the same characters? It’s quite realistic for Aaron to shut down the way he is. He is being bombarded by impossible to handle situations. He is internalizing and trying not to let anyone else deal with it. It’s quite realistic for Robert to not tell Aaron how he feels because he thinks it’ll just make things worse for Aaron, which despite what far too many of you think, he does not want to do. It’s realistic for Robert to get too drunk and let all his bottled up feelings out. It’s realistic for him to do something stupid as hell in the moment cause he’s the biggest idiot I’ve ever loved. Neither Robert or Aaron are good at coping in these situations, especially when they don’t have each other to lean on.

I’m sorry but years and years of habit doesn’t just go away. How you cope doesn’t just go away when you know it’s bad for you. I don’t see this as recycled anything. These boys don’t communicate. They have spent their entire lives being shit communicators and just because they have found someone they love and want to be better people with…does not mean that they are just gonna stop having their bad habits. That they aren’t gonna self destruct in the same way they always do.

Thief

I heard a story tonight. Sobbing girl told it to me. She was young, nice, kind and just a little bit of naive. I don’t know why she Knew certain things. I can only guess.

She spoke of happier times, when she was seeing someone, nice boy with sharp mind and quick fingers when it came to programming. He would compliment her hair, her eyes, her laugh. It felt nice.

She can’t see him now. Not after he bound her, after he stole the keys of the archive where she worked and open the doors. Those doors. They should not be opened. She doesn’t know why he did it. Or rather she does, just not what was Their side of the deal.

He wormed his way into her soul, demanded a place in her heart and stole her True Name from her lips.

She is gonna die, she knows this. But still she won’t look for him

“It was my fault, I should have protected those Names.”


She disappeared soon after, I don’t know which boy she was talking about. She didn’t say me his nickname, or what he looked like. But he is there. Somewhere

I will remember you Nom de plum
I will remember you Lucy Jackson
Till next name comes to my lips

[x]

That Connection [5/6]

Pairing: Steve Rogers x Tech!Reader

Warning: Swearing, angst (come on guys it wouldn’t be me if there wasn’t a little drama in this) and umm sassy, witty, playful banter.

A/N: I did this in a POV type of way from Steve, just so you can see what he deals with as well. This is a spin off of Criminal Minds Penelope x Morgan relationship, only they end up together at the end. haha. There will only be like 5 or 6 parts to this at the most. Hope you enjoy, let me know if you want to be tagged.

You being the tech analysis for the Avengers, you’re at their call 24/7 specially when they take off on missions. You have a great relationship with the whole team, but the playful, witty banter you have with Steve is next level, your his favorite girl and he’s your blue eyed god. Little does he realize you’re harboring a deep, brooding love for him, now if only he returned the same feelings.

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“What’s that?” Nat peeks at Steve’s phone.

“Nosey.” Steve smirks at her, pulling his phone close to his chest.

“What are you hiding Rogers?” Wanda grins at him, moving closer.

“What is with you two? Is nothing private in this place?” He laughs, folding his arms over his chest, his phone stashed under his arm.

“You share everything with Y/N, don’t love us the same?” Nat smirks at him.

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Ok but just think about how much healthier the way that Sanvers deals with problems is than Karamel. When Maggie lied to Alex, she didn’t expect forgiveness. She didn’t make excuses. They had an actual, adult conversation about their problem and discussed the root of it. When Mon El lied to Kara, he expected her to forgive him. He expected ‘sorry’ to make up for everything. He made excuses. They had no real resolution to their issue; just an uncalled for 'of course I forgive you’ scene. Sanvers deals with their problems in a mature, rational, and healthy way. Karamel does not.

How the xmen would deal with a PMSing reader

Kurt: He wouldn’t know to do so he would probably ask jubilee. Then come back in your room with ,a bright blush on his face, a box of chocolates tampons and pads. Lots of snuggles and movie watching.

Alex Summers: He would try to play it cool but would freak out because of your major mood swings. So he would wrap you up in a burrito blanket when your napping. That way you won’t blow up on anybody else and just snuggle with him.

Hank: He would just his in his lab all day leaving loving notes with different chocolates each time. Some would just be I love you and others would say I love you but your scary when your pmsing.

Charles: He’s whipped, does anything for you. Gets you tampons, chocolates. Gives you a heating pad and yogurt when your cramps arrive. Feels bad because he wants to take away your pain.

Erik: He literally rents a model and stays there when your pmsing.

Colossus: He’s so sweet he gives you kisses and cuddles with you. Runs to the store when your cramps are to much to bear to get you what you need. He comes back with like 6 different boxes of tampons and a smoothie saying it will help.

Scott Summers: He has left the building and probably won’t return until jean gives him the okay.


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Hope ya like I just couldn’t wait until I put the head cannon up so here it is.

  • what she says: I'm fine
  • what she means: okay but how many times has shiro cut lance off from making a joke? shiro, as in, lance's hero, who he looks up to, who he immediately turned to for advice when unsure what to do in the first episode? and shiro keeps cutting him off, even if it means putting a hand over his mouth or even hitting him in the shoulder. he does this consistently. does shiro just not realize how important he is to lance? how is lance handling this rejection from his childhood hero? does lance's outburst in season 2 have anything to do with the way shiro was treating him? how is lance going to deal with losing shiro a second time? i need answers, i need more development in their relationship, i need lance to be more appreciated by his team--

anonymous asked:

RFA + V and Saeran if they were datinf an MC was the type of person who casually says "I love you" to their friends but they mean it platonically? Bonus points if they say I love you direcrly to another RFA member/V/Saeran.

A/N: im pretty sure y'all have noticed but I’m the same way ^^;;; I CANT HELP IT AAAAAAAAAAA ~Admin 404

*YOOSUNG:

           -He does it too!!

           -He just really loves everyone!!! except v fucking rip

           -But it does bother him a little bit when you do it

           -You’re the first person he’s truly loved in this way!!! So deep down….he kind of…only wants to hear you say it to him?

           -But NEVER makes a big deal about it! Because! FRIENDSHIP!

           -Except he does get a little protective when you say it to V

           -Because he says it back?? He gets the V is the same type of person who loves everyone but?? Don’t say it to his MC

           -Deep down he knows it’s just platonic, but V is….V

           - slight yandere yoosung?

           -Pouts whenever it happens and you have to kiss his nose so he focuses on being flustered rather than jealous

*ZEN:

           -500% all for expressing his love for you

           -Which means he’s 500% all for you expressing your love for him

           -STOP SAYING I LOVE YOU TO JUMIN

           -HE DOESN’T EVEN SAY IT BACK, MC, HE DOESN’T DESERVE YOUR BEAUTIFUL LOVE

           -Says he’s not jealous

           -Is completely jealous

           -When you tell any of the members that you love them, he’s practically sliding in front of you

           -“But…you love me most, right?”

           - no shit, sherlock

           -Not ashamed to show he’s jealous, you’re often held against his chest as he gets very animated in his arguments over you

*JAEHEE:

           -She doesn’t really… care?

           -She just thinks it’s something you say, she doesn’t think you actually mean it

           -Of course, that just depends on the situation

           -But usually, she’s aware that you say it when you’re really happy with the person!

           -Don’t worry MC, she knows when you say it to her, you absolutely mean it

           -Actually thinks it’s absolutely adorable!!!!!!

           -Loves that you care so deeply for others, and wishes she could match your passion

           -Lowkey uses the fact that you say it to others as an excuse to do it too

           -When you tell Zen you love him, she pops up and agrees

           -FEELS SO TRIUMPHANT BECAUSE SHE CAN EXPRESS HER PASSION FOR HIM ALONGSIDE YOU!!!! Y E S say it more often MC, please

*JUMIN:

           -Stop that

           -He’s very bad at expressing  emotion so he can’t really understand how you can freely say those words?

           -It took a lot of thought and understanding of himself to tell you that he loves you, but you….say it….to everyone?

           -Does that mean you don’t love him as much as he loves you?

           -PANIC

           -You have to explain that you just love your friends in a different way!!! So you do love them! Just not how you love him

           -After a while, he learns to love that you’re so loving to everyone! You’re so warm and inviting!

           -Hates when you say it to Zen though

           -Zen is a nuisance in his eyes and he hates how he gets flirty and thinks he can say it back to you

           -Immediately pulls you into a passionate kiss or holds you incredibly close, you’re his MC, he won’t let Zen send his flirty-germs your way

*SAEYOUNG:

           -He’s very insecure about himself so

           -That means he’s very insecure about why you love him

           -He’s usually okay when you tell others that you love them

           -He could tell from the very beginning that you were the type of warm, kind-hearted person to love everyone until they do you wrong

           -Tries to say he doesn’t tell everyone he loves them but you have screenshots of him telling Yoosung and Zen that he loves them

           - and possibly a video of him saying it while drunk, that he doesn’t know about yet

           -Once, when the two of you and Yoosung were hanging out, you told Yoosung that you loved him, and you totally meant it platonically, and he knew that!

           -But Yoosung is easily flustered, so he turned bright red before saying it back

           -Saeyoung immediately gets an unamused look on his face

           -He surrounds you with his hoodie, shielding you from Yoosung while he keeps the unamused look on his face, he even attempts to walk the both of you away but you kept tripping due to the fact that yoU COULDN’T SEE, SAEYOUNG, MOVE YOUR HOODIE

*V:

           -He’s the same way!!

           -Just wants everyone to know how much he loves them!!

           -Has absolutely no problem with you doing it

           -Lowkey prefers that you do it

           -Because that means he’s not the only one doing it!

           -ESPECIALLY LOVES WHEN YOU SAY IT TO ANY OF THE RFA MEMBERS

           -LIKE, YAAAAAS YOU LOVE THOSE PEOPLE, MC, ‘CAUSE I DO TOO

           -Never jealous! Like, ever! They say it back to you and he’s just like, “Hey same”

           -The two of you are literally rays of sunshine omg so cute

           -Y'all just go love everyone, it’s okay, you guys do you <3

*SAERAN:

           -WHY DO YOU SAY IT TO EVERYONE

           -WHAT ABOUT ME, MC

           -Took him A L O T of time and courage to tell you he loves you

           -What the fuck MC

           -He’s seen how bubbly you are with others, so he just kind of assumed you’re the type to tell everyone just how you feel

           -Gets a little insecure each time it happens, and you have to reinsure him that it’s okay!! You love him in a way you couldn’t love anyone else

           -500% HATES WHEN YOU SAY IT TO SAEYOUNG

           -BECAUSE SAEYOUNG SAYS IT BACK, AND WILL HUG YOU

           -LET GO OF HIS MC, IDIOT BROTHER. He’ll pull you away and hold you completely against him, shooting a h u g e death glare at his brother

           -You have to shower him in affection! Lots of kisses will take his jealousy away..after a while

Here, have some hpd Lance headcanons

Why are you doing this to us, Dorian? Well, because I’m bored af and I like to project on my faves so deal with me here for a bit.

  • You know how he’s constantly flirting, right? He does that even if he’s not interested. It’s one of the easiest ways to get attention. He doesn’t care if it’s a stranger or someone he knows, he just feels good when he gets a little bit of attention, doesn’t matter if the attention is positive or negative.
  • He’s used to make flashy appearances and acts pretty overexcited around people because he’s desperate to make a good impression and make people think he’s like, super cool and funny because that means people will like him, right?? But he feels bad about it when he’s alone because he thinks he’s… Too Much™.
  • When he first met Pidge and she ignored him and Hunk, Lance thought he had left a bad impression. He spent a whole week in a pretty bad mood because he genuinely thought the reason Pidge avoided them was because she hated him.
  • He trusts people he just met way too easily. If they seem to like him, he will trust them right away because hey, they’re nice and they acknowledge him so. He also has a tendency to overshare.
  • He needs constant attention and reassurance but he also feels that it’s something he has to earn so he really never asks for it. Not directly at least. If he tries to get it his way and people act annoyed by it, he will immediately shut down.
  • He really likes Shiro, but feels like he never acknowledges him, which makes it worse than if it was anyone else because Shiro is basically his hero??? When he feels really bad about it, he remembers that time Shiro said “That’s why we bring our sharpshooter” because that made him feel reassured even if he just acted as if he already knew.
  • He doesn’t really act like he needs extra attention because he’s used to be brushed off by everyone when he gets really loud or annoying so no one really feels the need to go out of their way to talk to him when he isolates himself, thinking he’s just sulking and it will pass. But when no one comes to ask if he’s okay and comfort him, he starts thinking no one cares about him and this eventually leads to him thinking about ways to get attention that are not the same as usual so it’s not obvious he’s kinda desperate for it. Ways such as lying about his problems and exaggerate them or getting hurt so people will worry about him.
  • And okay I know all of this is angsty so consider this too: Hunk telling the rest of the crew about Lance’s hpd and everyone making an effort to acknowledge Lance and make him feel loved and cared about. Keith being more patient around him and not brushing him off. Hunk cuddling with him when he realizes Lance is starting to isolate himself. Pidge letting him follow her around the ship and see the stuff she’s working on. Shiro praising him when he does something cool on a mission instead of ignoring his efforts in favor of complaining about him pulling a risky move. Coran sharing old anecdotes and teaching him how to play some altean games. Allura taking him shopping. Just, everyone caring about him and taking care of my boy because he really needs it.

Tom’s a real mystery of a character, there’s so much to talk about with him because there’s jut so much you have to leave up to interpretation because the show has yet to explore him yet.

But like any other theorist, i have some of my own ideas and predictions based on his character presented so far.

One of my current big ones is that I have a theory that Tom has abusive/neglectful parents.

Now this is a theory, not a fact, so it could be proven wrong depending on what happens in future episodes. It’s just me giving my own thoughts onto why Tom might be the way he is, and why he does the things he does.

Tom’s dad sounds like way too important of a character to ignore for long, he’s going to be in an episode someday, and when he does i’ll see how accurate this theory is.


So I don’t think it’s any surprise Tom has issues, he has emotional issues and social issues. He deals with anger that ties into his powers and therefore can make him dangerous and rather a bit scary…even if he is a pretty adorable character.

It’s not something he can help, it’s just something he needs to control and it’s why him taking control of his emotions is so important, cause without it he could hurt many people without meaning to.

Here’s the thing about Tom’s anger tho.

It’s hereditary.  

Tom inherited it, from his father.

This isn’t an observation either, it’s confirmed and on his personal wiki.

So these issues Tom is trying to rid himself of, he was born with them. He’s stuck dealing with something he hates and it’s not something that can be easily helped.

We know Tom hates getting angry and hurting people, and we know he’s doing his best to cure himself of these problems. But these problems he hates came from his father, his father is why he deals with this side of himself.

If you think Star’s bitterness towards her mom stinks, can you imagine how angry Tom is that he’s stuck with an illness that his father gave him? One that ruined his life and his relationship with Star?


But here’s another thing confirmed by Nefcy, “Tom doesn’t want to be like his father, he doesn’t want his anger to be his identity..”

Tom doesn’t want to be known for being this harsh, ruthless demon, he doesn’t want to be seen as some angry kid who cares for no one but himself. And he’s shown that on multiple occasions now,

So if Tom refuses to be identified by his illness and doesn’t want to be his father…wouldn’t this mean that it’s likely his father is identified by his own anger?

When they refer to Tom’s anger they don’t mean run of the mill average anger, they mean THIS:

So imagine something like this..or worse, coming out of a larger version of Tom.

Now imagine him acting like this front of his young son, or towards his son.

It’s no wonder why Tom’s a bit messed up isn’t it?

If he was ever treated this way by his father, then it’s no surprise as to why he refuses to turn out the same way.  He wouldn’t want to be the big, scary, horrible, demon his father was in his eyes.


and this would explain a lot about why Tom always takes his punishments.

Tom never fights back, he never excuses his actions, it’s easy for him to take the blame and accept the fact he screwed up.

Which might not seem like much, but if his father/parents blamed him and punished him for things, even things he can’t be at fault for…Then Tom easily taking punishment and accepting blame makes a lot of sense.

He’s used to it.

Heck, when Marco lashed out at him, he backed Tom into a corner. Yes, the all powerful angry demon prince was terrified of being yelled at by Marco that he backed into a corner of the room out of fear.

Not confirmed yet but- 

He might’ve been expecting to be hurt.

He lies to also avoid punishment, which is surprisingly very common from kids that come from abusive households. Tom lying might make a lot more sense if you consider how he’s usually punished back home and that he does it on instinct to protect himself.


Here’s another thing that’s interesting….Tom was the one who got himself help. He saw his anger as a problem and in response he went to find a solution. I bring this up because this means his parents didn’t play any part in finding Tom help for his anger.

So either:

A. They didn’t care about his issues and therefore didn’t try to find a solution to something they should’ve known was a problem. 

B. They’re so unaware and neglectful of their child’s problem (Which is harder to believe, because it’s inherited and they should know that) that they didn’t do anything.

Or C. They want Tom to continue this behavior and don’t find any problem with it whatsoever.

If Tom didn’t get any support from his parents to cure his illness and had to handle it all on his own then his parents aren’t doing a good job no matter which one of these they stand in.


But this idea also applies to Tom and his isolation.

Tom has no friends, he’s alone, and the closest relationships he’s presented currently are Marco and two people he hired.

He doesn’t talk about his parents, heck his parents didn’t even show up to THE BLOODMOON BALL for him. (( The Fuc-))

Tom being unsocial might make much more sense if you consider his parents might be the reason he’s uncomfortable trying to talk to people.

Heck, maybe his dad’s bad influence is what caused Tom be be considered unlikable and why people choose to stay away from him.

They assume Tom is just like his father, and they fear who he is and refuse to spend time with someone like that.

Or maybe they enjoy the dad’s tyrannical rule and power, and think Tom is weak and soft in comparison to him, so they avoid him for that reason.

(( Considering how angry the demons at the ball were with Tom’s softer changes…it makes me wonder how his kingdom really views him as their future leader.))

Tom doesn’t seem to have anyone, if he had help from his parents sooner these issues could’ve been solved way before he was 14-15.

Tom could’ve had proper guidance, friends, he wouldn’t be dealing with these issues nearly as much.

There’s so much his parents could’ve done and can still do for him and yet everything Tom has done that has helped him he’s done on his own accord.

I don’t know about Tom’s mother, but if she’s still around she’s not exactly doing much for her son’s cause.

And Tom’s dad…well, i think it’s fair to assume Tom’s dad won’t be winning any awards for parenting based on what we know about him.

If Tom hates him as a role model and is probably utterly terrified of him, I think making any assumptions about Tom being abused by his father/parents isn’t too much of a stretch.

anonymous asked:

I bet you get loads of love at first sight asks for the Skelebros but how about if it was the other way around? What if the UF, US and SF skelebro's (future) S/O was the first to get a crush on them? How would they deal with having an obviously infatuated human on their hands?

I think this is my first love at first sight ask! This is actually really cute and different~ 

Underfell 

Sans

He thinks this is all a prank and you’re being annoying. Why would anyone fall in love with him? He tells you to fuck off often, but you’re persistent. He gets extremely embarrassed when you come up to him in public, professing your love or does something that shows your obvious crush. He doesn’t like the spotlight on him like that and his friends tease him because of you. Still, he admits that you’re attractive and he has considered being a relationship with you, but he just doesn’t have feelings for you (yet). Eventually, he just accepts it as long as you don’t go overboard and offers friendship instead of a relationship, just to keep you off his back.  However, that turns into a friends with benefits kind of relationship, and he falls for you when he’s taking care of you during aftercare. 

Papyrus

Of course you’re in love with him! Who wouldn’t be! He finds your lovesick actions downright amusing and will toy with you, like “GO FETCH ME SOME WATER! YOU’RE IN LOVE WITH ME RIGHT?!” He takes advantage of it and make you do the worst jobs that he doesn’t want to do like paperwork and such. He wouldn’t go so far as to sending you to the  “front lines” during a scuffle, he has his honor after all. When Fell does fall in love with you, he will deny it to everyone, including himself because love is for the weak. He opens his heart when you show him that you are serious, and that you truly love him and this is not just a crush. 

Underswap

Sans

Sorry to say, but Blue doesn’t want to date you! You can still be friends though! His rejection is similar to UT! Papyrus’s rejection in the game, but he makes it up with lots of tacos and your favorite foods. You two are still good friends, but whenever you try to make a move on him, he gets sweaty and nervous and will try to change the topic. Of course, he’s flattered that you’re into him, but right now, he’s not interested. When he does fall for you, it because of your close friendship and being there when he needs you the most. 

Papyrus

Who isn’t in love with this skele? Stretch basically flirts with everyone he knows so it’s common for humans and monsters to step up and confess their love to him. He usually turns them down, including you. But you’re different from the others, you’re determined. Like Red, he keeps you around as friend, but that does not stop his flirting. Everyone ships you two together. Blue has already planned your wedding. He has a ring on his finger. How the hell did this happen.

Swapfell 

Sans

Black will tell you to leave him alone, he has work to do and doesn’t have time for your petty infatuations. But really though, he adores the attention that you give him. If you stop giving him attention, he will do reckless things to get it back like flirt with someone else just to get you jealous. Black falls for you because of your smile. He knows that he’s just leading you on and that his behavior towards you can be downright abusive, but you always greet him with a smile, so he reluctantly agrees to go on one date with you. 

Papyrus

You like him??? Why??? Rus is honestly kind of freaked out because he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings by rejecting you. So for now, he just strings you along until he can figure out how to tell you that he’s not interested in the nicest way possible. But Rus is quick to fall in love. After spending so much time with you and your constant affections, he finds that he doesn’t want to reject you.

OK BUT DOES ANYONE ELSE THINK HARRY LOOKS FUCKING HOT WHEN HE WHISTLES?!

I CAN’T BE THE ONLY ONE WHO ENJOYS THIS SO MUCH AND WATCHES VIDEOS OF HIM WHISTLING CAUSE IT’S SO FREAKING HOT IDK WHY SOMEONE TALK TO ME ABOUT THISSSS

LOOK. AT. IT.

Okay but what if instead of Emily & Winston’s first meeting having Emily being all “holy shit, a talking Gorilla”, she actually deals with it super-gracefully, and Winston compliments her on it later and asked if she believed when Tracer warned her about him, only to find out that Tracer totally forgot to mention he was a gorilla (that’s just the kind of thing she does), but Emily didn’t freak out because she knows Tracer would never put her in harm’s way for any reason. If Winston was a friend of Tracer’s, he’s a friend of Emily’s, moon-gorilla or not.

And that’s how Emily becomes the first person outside of Overwatch Winston feels comfortable talking to and inviting over. And Tracer’s so ecstatic that her best friend and girlfriend get along that they get together most holidays or any other excuse they can get.

thegaypumpingthroughyourveins  asked:

"If you manage to sexuality satisfy me 30 nights in a row, then yes, I will let you go and drop the masquerade," Grindelwald says, smiling. "If you fail, you die, and so does every single one of your Aurors. What do you think, Director Graves? Do we have a deal?"

SHIT.

||

Graves doesn’t give into the idea when it’s presented to him. It’s abhorrent, the idea of having to whore his way to freedom. But for the sake of his subordinates…

“How will I know you keep your word?”

Grindelwald’s face splits into a grin. “Every day that you do not hear me gloating about their deaths to mock your decision will be a day that you can trust my word. Besides, their deaths are entirely unnecessary. But,” he says, cupping Graves’ jaw, thumbing over his mouth, “that can change. It’s in their best interests for you to keep me occupied. It’s in *your* best interest to occupy me in a way that’s pleasurable for both of us.”

anonymous asked:

I am a half Japanese student who recently started dating a black man. My mom, who is Japanese, is racist. I told her that I'm dating a black man, and she did not take it well. It's so frustrating to deal with her racism when she has faced racism herself. How can I help her change and accept my relationship?

I’ve personally never dealt with a parent acting this way. Does your partner know your mom is anti black? You shouldn’t bring him around her without giving him the option to opt out or knowing what he’s up against. Your mom probably won’t change or maybe she’ll slowly warm up but don’t bank on it.

– Jay