is talking about breastfeeding

copper-to-steel  asked:

I hope this doesn't sound rude, but what is your eating/movement like - your body is rad given you've had two kids! I have two little girls (2 and 4), and I'm only two years younger than you, but I still have stretchmarks, and while people say I don't look like I've had kids, you literally look like you're twenty. How do you do it!?

have one baby girl 2 years old, not 2 kids. I’m not sure if my belly skin would be ok after a second baby taking in consideration that I’m very skinny and the pressure on it is big. But even after this first child I was back in shape in like 4 months, mostly with sport, I don’t encourage diets after pregnancy especially if breastfeeding. I’m not talking about gym or complicated thing, just long walks and exercises that you can do at home, even while playing with the kids. Youtube has tons of videos like exercising while babysitting. So I think my thing is moving as much as I can, bc on the other hand I’m eating everything and anytime :)

I’m only 13 weeks but I’ve already got a little bump growing and you can kind of tell I’m preggo, and today at work this sweet little old lady notices and starts talking to me about her pregnancy and giving me advice and things.

She asks me if I’m going to breastfeed and I say that I’m going to try, and she tells me to take a washcloth and rub it over my nipples to help toughen them up because it’s going to hurt a lot. I nod along and she tells me about breastfeeding her son and it’s just a really nice conversation.

Anyway, a man is standing behind her in line and my coworker takes his check and starts cashing it while I’m still talking to the nice lady. The man gives us both mean looks but I ignore him and continue to listen to this sweet woman tell me about how she’s had four children and breastfeeding each one was different but the washcloth trick made it much easier. Finally, the man clears his throat INCREDIBLY loudly and me and the woman turn to look at him.

“I don’t really want to hear about what you’re talking about.” He says and I’m instantly embarrassed. But, without missing a beat the woman reaches out and puts her hand over mine and glares at the man over her glasses.

“Then don’t listen to other people’s conversations.” She says, and it’s so hard not to smile even though the man got really pissed off. Thank you kind little old lady, for the advice and for reminding me that there’s nothing wrong with talking about breastfeeding. It’s nothing to be ashamed of and I need to remember that.

You know, when people talk about desexualizing boobs, a lot of the talk is about breastfeeding. Which is good, because it’s an important discussion! However, that’s… not the only reason? One of the main reasons I can think of is that, like, Kids have boobs?

I started getting mine in elementary school, and my mom got me my first ‘training bra’. I hated it. I wouldn’t wear it! I’d shove it in my dresser or “lose” it all the time. Mom told me I had to wear it so that people wouldn’t stare, and I Knew, even at the time, that I was just a kid that shouldn’t have to deal with this.  I had friends with Really Big boobs in like 5th grade, and they kept getting bigger! Life was Hell for them. They were teased and harassed by adults as well as other students! In elementary AND middle school. I don’t think it’s radical for me to state that adults should not be sexualizing childrens bodies.

This post kind of got away from me, it just gets me fired up thinking about how we kind of. Make kids grow up because their bodies mature faster than their minds.

TLDR; Let’s try and desexualize boobs because Children shouldn’t have to ‘be modest’ when they didn’t choose this in the first place.

A    T O U G H    R O A D    A H E A D    -    L I F E    U P D A T E


It’s been two weeks since my last post. If you would tell me that everything will change just like that I wouldn’t believe you. Yet here we are.

The day after my last post our landlord gave us a call that he wants to meet with us as soon as possible. We were sure that he will raise the rent again which we weren’t too happy about. Me and Steph started to talk about how annoying it was to live in this house. Of course it was in perfect spot, perfect size but somehow it never was truly perfect. We finally meet up with him and to our surprise he wanted to see us just to complain about us. About the fact that we got dog (which we first asked him if it’s okay with him and he was fine with that) and that we also have another kid (what even?). He basically suggested us that he wants us out of the house. Our lease agreement was coming to the end too so we don’t have a choice but find a new home. We had a month.

You can just imagine all the tears and anger that come out of us as we are not in a position to move right now. All the stress create some problems with breastfeeding but I will talk about it in another post. It was so upsetting to us. We were supposed to enjoy our first weeks with little one not go through all of this.

Two days later my husband got opportunity of getting moved to Saint Greer Islands. It’s amazing job offer and everything he could wanted for his job. But I couldn’t imagine living so far away from our families. Then one night while feeding Fran I had this realization. Fran, Flo and Steph are my everything. Living here didn’t make us happy. And here we had a chance to change it and I was so ready to throw it away. So I woke him up and simply said “let’s do it”. 

During this two weeks that we have been away Steph traveled all the way to Saint Greer where he checked out all the houses we were interesting in. It also turns out that with all our savings and little help from family we are actually able to buy a house instead of renting which is basically our dream. 

Right now we are packing our life. It feels crazy to leave this house. It was our home. And somehow everyday it stops feeling like home. 

We are ready for this new chapter. It won’t be easy, but change is good. 

Till next time, Laurel

Road Trip - Ashton Irwin

You were sat in the passenger seat watching as your husband drove down the busy roads out of the city.

He put on the radio, music blasting loud despite your three children sleeping in the back of the car.

You, Ashton and your three girls were going camping for the weekend whilst he had time off from the band.

As a family you had always stayed at expensive hotels so you wanted to try something different whilst you could and you both decided that camping would be fun for all of you.

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Decision

I decided that I will go back to acupuncture and talk to the doctor this week about trying something for a month before deciding to stop breastfeeding.

I actually talked to my boss about it yesterday. She is all for reducing the stress around us as she is having health issues too. She implored me to really take care of myself when I need to. We will need to remind each other. It is WONDERFUL having such a supportive boss who is on my side.

anonymous asked:

Will you ever do a nsfw tmi?

Thanks, anon. I’ll address your question then use this as an opportunity to address my stance on anon questions and tmi material on my blog.

Honestly? No. I did a TMI question evening once, and it wasn’t really fun or entertaining (and I didn’t get any truly TMI questions until after the submission period ended, which made me suspicious about who was asking the questions and why).

Does that mean I won’t post tmi content ever? No but context matters. I might post my birth story to help other first-time moms-to-be who want to hear more anecdotal stories of births (I like hearing about others’ experiences). I may post about digestive issues I have if I tweak my diet to lose weight after Baby. I might post a vent about breastfeeding that talks about nipple issues in hopes someone might relate or have some suggestions. I won’t be shamed into changing my progress photo wardrobe (my undies), because someone thinks it is too revealing.

While I am not an uptight person, I have learned that for the most part the truly tmi/nsfw questions I get are for anon’s sexual gratification and not for entertainment/getting to know me/etc. I am not here for anyone’s sexual gratification. If you interpret my blog content or intentions differently, the unfollow button is always within reach.

People who follow me are more than welcome to ask me anything they’d like off of anon. If someone has a question for me that they are too shy to ask with their name showing, I don’t mind getting an anon ask or a private message. I am also happy to answer privately if that is specified in the ask. There are some truly wonderful people on Tumblr, and I like to build friendships or share my experiences if they are helpful to someone else. I also don’t want to make anyone who comes to me with a question feel uncomfortable or exposed.

For clarity, I’d also like to share what I have seen anon asks used for (and feel free to defy the odds by submitting an anon ask that doesn’t fit within any of these categories): trolling, bullying, submitting hateful messages meant to hurt someone or create drama between different people when no issue existed to start with, to ask questions for the purpose of sexual gratification. I’ve seen people in fitblr, dogblr, horsblr, etc. chased off of Tumblr, because of asshole anons like the ones I’ve just mentioned. It makes me sad, because this sometimes very dysfunctional website has some fabulous people on it and a lot of support and knowledge to offer when people are nice.

Im barbequing in the park with four girls and three guys and we are talking about childbirth and breastfeeding and vaginas and the guys are all so visibly uncomfortable im cackling

Post Partum Identity Crisis
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Doesn’t that sound dramatic? Post partum identity crisis. 

That’s how I felt for the first six months of being a new mom. The contents of my life were throw into a can, shaken up and unceremoniously dumped onto the sidewalk. I did not feel like me.

Things are great now and hindsight is 20/20, so I feel like I’m able to look back through a clear lens and process everything that happened. I’m on the other side now, the bright side, and I’ve never been happier or more fulfilled or joyous in my life. But at the beginning, my world was turned upside down. 

It wasn’t about my baby either. He’s healthy and happy and I really enjoy the time I spend with him. I love this kiddo!  But when he was first born and the duties were thankless, it was really freaking hard. And when I say hard, I don’t mean hard like before you have a kid. I’ve been told things were going to be hard my whole life. This was not the same. Raising a newborn kicked me flat on my ass and temporarily losing my sense of self was one of the worst parts.

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Just realized I never formally introduced myself to you all!

My name is Deja Elise & I’m a 20 year old SAHM. My fiancé & I have been together for almost 7 years (since freshman year of HS lol) & now we have a 2.5 month old son (Papi or KJ in my posts)

I decided I’d start blogging because I realized how much I didn’t know before I became a mother. There are so many things they don’t tell you when it comes to pregnancy, childbirth, post labor, breastfeeding & motherhood. I’m here to talk about it all! Everything from how I’m enjoying motherhood, life as a fiancé & adjusting to being a SAHM.

I hope you all have been enjoying my blog so far. It’s just the beginning.. ❣️

I’m… 80% stealth at work. Lately, I’ve been eating lunch with a few of my colleagues instead of alone in my basement office like my true introvert self wants. 

Today the French teacher was talking about how she’s signed up for these prenatal classes about breastfeeding, labor, etc. because she’s just about to pop out her first kid. In the middle of lunch, she got a call from the hospital to confirm her attendance and came back into the room pretty visibly upset. She kept brushing it off and then said, “I’m married to a woman, and they asked me if my husband wanted to sign up for Daddy Daycare classes while I was doing my classes.” And like immediately the other two teachers get very quiet and then start talking about how it’s sexist that there are Daddy Daycare classes because dads are parents, not babysitters, which, like, yes, that’s an issue, but it wasn’t the issue. So I talk about how it’s unacceptable that this is happening in Boston of all places, how they shouldn’t assume the gender of anyone involved in a childbirth, how of course she’s not overreacting because childbirth classes are probably vulnerable weird places and worrying about homophobia on top of that won’t help anything, etc. And everyone just sort of stared… and the French teacher looked a little calmer but also just kept staring at me. 

The space between ally and community is weird sometimes. Part of me wanted to be like, “That is fucked up, and I can empathize because I too have experienced fucked up medical providers in very similar ways.”  And I would’ve if it had just been the French teacher and me, but it would’ve been too awkward with the other teachers there.

Idk… I gotta get better at navigating this insider/outsider space more gracefully before I get to grad school. It’s gonna end up being my career, pretty much.

anonymous asked:

So not a Gen fan (don't hate her either) but I do wanna make a point about the breastfeeding. Alcohol transfers very little to the milk and what little gets in there leaves very quickly. The two hour rule is very outdated. As long as you can drive you can feed and that's mainly so you don't hurt them by mishandling. However even if she was too drunk to directly breastfeed most women pump if they breastfeed so they have a supply in case they're going to be away. Just thought I'd pass the info on.

I’d like to point out that I don’t hate her either, I truly just dislike her and won’t post something out of hate. 

I did point out in my response how we don’t know if she had pumped beforehand because it could very well have happened. Here’s where I got my information about drinking and breastfeeding. I also talked to my daughter’s pediatrician when she was a baby (she’s now 7) and honestly you’re going to get mixed opinions from every source. Some doctors say go for it whereas others tell you every scary story known to man (trust me when I say they will make your skin crawl). I personally didn’t drink at all until I stopped breastfeeding but that was my choice, just like it’s a choice for Gen and Danneel. No matter where this kind of topic goes there’s going to be a lot of opinions, that’s for sure.

But thank you for the information, nonnie! 

anonymous asked:

has she ever mentioned how long she breastfeeds for? just curiousity

Well, technically Cortese has never mentioned breastfeeding, it’s always Jared that talks about her doing that. He likes to mention how Cortese is up with the baby and she does most of the work because he’s lacking the right equipment. If she is breastfeeding, I have no idea how long she’d do it for, but I don’t think she actually is. I think they’re going the formula route but say she’s breastfeeding because people look highly on that and it gives her a good opportunity to promote her super mama status.

Now, before people have a bitch fit, not all women promote that their breastfeeding ways and do keep it private. That doesn’t excuse the fact that JARED, her HUSBAND, likes to talk about how she’s always breastfeeding and she likes to talk about chugging caffeine and drinking alcohol. 

this week on My Dash is Full of Bad Discourse:

claiming terfs are exposing minors to porn by having icons that are vulvas or uteruses. unable to explain how uteruses are pornographic, nor able to explain how a vulva outside any context is not simply just anatomy, especially if it’s drawn. also, consistent use of the word vagina instead of the word they mean, which is vulva. everyone ignores my great joke that my icon is a picture of my pussy, which it is. I get an anon that tells me my icon creeps them out, but I think it’s unrelated.

someone makes a post that says terfs aren’t against ddlg, but delete it when two million people reblog it with “?” attached 

I read yet again that there aren’t two sexes because intersex people exists.  

coming up next week Probably:

someone saying breastfeeding a baby with your super sexy boobs is just like jacking it in public once again, cause that hasn’t been around in awhile. maybe with added discourse of  talking about breastfeeding on tumblr is exposing minors to porn, which would be a fun twist

I get called a terf for getting about 100 likes on drunk shitpost that says “your dad sucks, not even his satisfactory grilling saves him”

Wife and Child PT.5

This one’s really cute, just a warning. I’m really excited about this one. Last Chapter, Ao3

“Gail, wanna talk about what’s been on your mind lately?” Holly soothingly asked as she ran her fingers through the blondes hair.

It’d been a week since they laid everything out and Holly gave Gail the choice to stay or leave. She still had yet to get an answer but Gail had changed, she’d seemed more at ease, and had gotten more affectionate. Gail had begun to shyly kiss her cheek randomly, play with her hair when she laid in her lap, and she’d caught the blonde more times than once checking her out. It was really nice to have those small things again, whether or not Gail did it with years of familiarity or brand new curiosity, it was her Gail none the less. Nine months was far too long to not have her wife’s touch, her wanting, loving blue gaze on her, so Holly wasn’t going to complain. Instead she was going to bask in it. She was going to soak in every moment while she had it, for she didn’t know if it was going to be taken away from her again.

“Nothing. Why do you ask?” Gail wondered around the string in her mouth.

“You’re eating your hoodie string, and you’ve been sleeping with the blanket in your mouth. Which means you’re upset.” She continued to play with the dark blonde strands of her wife’s hair, trying to pry as little as possible. She didn’t want to set Gail off, make her run and hide like she used to do. “Is. Is it about last week?”

True Holly understood that she couldn’t expect Gail to stay because of some ring around her neck, some words she didn’t remember saying, but it hurt to give her that option. To open the door and tell her wife that if she didn’t chose her than she’d have to leave. It killed her. Especially that Gail seemed to be standing in the doorway, watching in the house and playing along, almost like she was getting a taste of their life before she ultimately took that step out the door and out of their cozy home.

Gail immediately shook her head in protest. “No.”

“Then what is it? Maybe I can help.”

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AJ Cook on the Doctors June 8th, 2016

It’s a clip from her last appearance that they saved for this episode. She talked about breastfeeding and wanted to know whether or not it was okay to drink alcohol and/or coffee 

calidotheprophet  asked:

Hi, I feel superconflicted, cause like, on one hand, I get the whole free the nipple thing, cause it helps stop the slutshaming which is super good, but on the other hand I don't want to see anyone's nipple, or ass, or genitals, cause I'm prude and asexual, so everytime I do see either of them I kinda look away or scroll past it and I don't know, maybe that's internalized misogony, and I don't mean it like that, but I'm thinking what if it is, and I should just look at it anyway

A few thoughts:

Nipples shouldn’t be compared to genitals. Seeing a flash of someone’s nipple while breastfeeding, for instance, is not at all like seeing someone without their underwear on. 

You’re not a prude for not wanting to see someone’s naked or partially naked body. Everyone has the right to decide for themselves what they’re comfortable with at any given time. 

That said, it would be rude to ask a parent breastfeeding their child to stop just because you’re uncomfortable with how their baby is fed. There is nothing sexual about breastfeeding an infant, and if someone views it that way it’s because of what they are bringing to the situation, not the situation itself. 

When we’re not talking about breastfeeding, but rather freeing the nipple in order to break down sexist stereotypes about typically female bodies and the sexualization of typically female bodies, our discomfort may partially be internalized misogyny. The voice that tells us that women are sluts for baring their chests the way that men do and that being topless is an inherently sexual act. I think it’s important to address and modify that way of thinking, and seeing non-sexual images of breasts of people of all genders is one way of doing that, but it’s not the only way. 

Don’t feel like you have to or that you should look at images that make you uncomfortable. Try to analyse why you feel that way, but don’t feel bad for being uncomfortable with nudity. 

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So how do communities with limited electricity and running water in Ethiopia reduce infant mortality and dramatically improve newborn and maternal health?  With a system designed by Ethiopians for Ethiopia, and a lot of amazingly dedicated health extension workers and volunteers. (The tier system is explained in the first picture.) I’m obviously no expert, but from what I could tell the nonprofit funding worked precisely because it was helping people execute their vision, rather than trying to impose a strategy upon them.

Today, I visited a health center and then a health outpost, a small structure with no electricity serving a community of around 5,000. The Outpost (picture two) was staffed by two women who can do everything from treat malaria to deliver babies. They have a detailed and systematic approach (those files in picture three contain information about every family in their area), but they rely on the volunteer Women’s Health Care Army to provide education, prenatal care, and family planning assistance, among many other things, to every family in the area. It was fascinating to start my journey at a facility that can do Caesarean sections and then follow the health care system into individual residences, where a woman can talk directly to someone she trusts about prenatal vitamins, contraception, and breastfeeding. 

The health challenges here in Ethiopia are massive, obviously, but these volunteers are a big part of the reason that Ethiopia’s infant and maternal mortality rates are dropping so dramatically.

You’ll meet several of them in a forthcoming video, but I just wanted to share the amazingness of today’s experience.