The only two times Iroh ever raised his voice at Zuko was in “Winter Solstice, art 2″ when Zuko was entering Fire Nation waters and asked: “Have you completely forgotten that the Firelord banished you?”; and in “Lake Laogai,” where he doesn’t allow Zuko to get a word in because of the lengths he is willing to go to restore his honor.
So basically, the only times Iroh yells at Zuko is when he could quite literally get himself killed.
I think this meta was going to be longer, and it’s not the best Iroh-mentorship meta since I’ve done a lot more since I originally made this thing, but I don’t know what to do with it, so I’m just going to post what I have.
See, it’s so old that I’m using MS Paint edited screenshots. LMAO. Good times.
Iroh’s style of mentorship is interesting. He doesn’t want Zuko to go chasing the Avatar too much, but he knows that he can’t just say “damn it Zuko, give up,” because that’s not going to be good for his nephew’s well-being. We do actually see him say something along those lines in the very first episode, but that’s mostly because Iroh doesn’t want Zuko to continue with what was at that point a snipe hunt.
That said, Iroh still tries to get Zuko to relax, and calm down. When Zuko looks like he’s becoming hopeless, he tries to raise his spirits. Occasionally. this involves going against his own beliefs or mindset by giving him hope about his honor quest, like in “The Blue Spirit.” Other times, like in “Avatar Day,” it involves trying to get Zuko on a different path–urging him to move on from his hunt for the Avatar. And again, he does it for his nephew’s well-being because he’s seeing what’s happening to Zuko because of his search and his obsession. This all comes to a head in “Lake Laogai,” when Iroh finally gives Zuko the talking to of a lifetime, barely giving his nephew a chance to speak and basically telling him that his obsessions and his inability to think things through have nearly gotten him killed on several occasions.
Having their lives saved by Zuko and returning the favor (reverse order for Sokka and Iroh).
Interestingly, for both Katara and Aang, it’s Zuko that does the saving first (in all instances). Granted, in “The Blue Spirit,” it was for more selfish reasons. It probably doesn’t mean anything but, considering how Bryke keeps going out of their way to connect all three of our central characters (Aang, Zuko, and Katara)…