investing-in-yourself

Monday reminder: Don’t forget to invest into yourself before you pour out into others. Self-care is not something you should take lightly, but is something you should make and keep as a high priority.
Love yourself.
Take care of yourself.
Self-care is not selfish.

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(( The past two years have done a VERY good job of drilling one lesson into my thick skull: Life is complete and utter chaos. We have pretty much zero ultimate say over anything. Doesn’t mean you shouldn’t pick your path and aspire toward goals – that’s an absolute necessity. But don’t expect things to go the way you’ve planned.

Your deepest wish in life might be very simple, but there’s no guarantee it will ever be granted. Qualifying for the job doesn’t mean you’ll get it. Loving the crap out of someone doesn’t mean they will ever love you back. You might be perfectly capable, but absolutely [no-buts-about-it, unfairly, bafflingly] denied the opportunity.

But.

By the same token, you may discover yourself succeeding at something you never would’ve imagined. You may wake up to find yourself invested in something – or someone – you never saw coming. And sometimes, even those “lost” opportunities make their way back to us. Life is chaotic in BOTH ways.

I think we can direct our stories, plot them out, and even try to collect our own cast of characters. Certainly, in broad strokes, we shape our fates. But, in the end, I believe we have very little control over the details – no matter how dear some of those details might be. ))

Investing in yourself as a Sugar Baby!

Taking care of your mind and body is important especially when you expect men to drop thousands of dollars on you every month for the pleasure of your company! Personally before even thinking about becoming a sugar baby this year, I’ve been taking care of myself for years because appearance is very important in my line of work. Keep in mind that I’m in my late 20s so some stuff you might not even need at this point since most of you are in your late teens or early 20s. Enjoy those years haha well I can’t complain, I have a baby face ;) So here is a list of things I’ve done or I will be starting this year that keeps me looking good and feeling awesome plus it makes for a hot SB:

  1. Manicure + pedicure - I do them professionally in a salon every 3weeks.
  2. Laser hair removal - I’m doing my whole bikini and underarms right now and will start my legs in the next year..shaving is a pain and too much work..laser is painful especially the whole bikini but worth it!
  3. Removing stretch marks - I will do laser for that when I move to LA because those stupid marks on my butt are a pain in the ass for my confidence sometimes..I have awesome 34DD natural breasts but my ass needs some perfecting to be at the same level lol
  4. Removing cellulite - I just finished a 10 weeks treatment with the Velashape 2 in a beauty clinic for my thighs and butt..I think it helped although I only had a low amount of cellulite and it’s still not perfect or all gone..I think I was expecting too much of a VS model’s perfect ass haha drinking water, exercising and eating healthy plus putting firming body cream (I use an expensive one from my clinic with 10% caffeine) everyday helps plus I’ll need to do maintenance treatments every year to maintain the results.
  5. Removing spider veins on legs - I started treatments this year, it helps but spider veins are a recurring issue for women especially with age so I will have to do maintenance treatments every year but it’s very good that I started young even if I didn’t have a lot but the ones behind my knees were bothering me a lot. I have very white skin so my veins show easily haha I need to tan more!
  6. Dermabrasion - I started dermabrasion aka removing dead skin on your face this year..I used to have bad acnee when I was young but now my skin is much better although I still get occasional pimples and don’t have perfect skin without makeup.
  7. Acnee creams recommended by my dermatologist that I apply every day or 2 days - I mostly only have some redness and occasional pimples but the products help for that and to make my pores less visible.
  8. Laser eye surgery - I wear contacts and I’m thinking of doing the laser surgery but I’m not sure since lots of people have horror stories so I’m still thinking about it but being free of glasses and contacts would be awesome..I’m just scared of surgeries and try to avoid them as much as possible.
  9. Spray Tan - I don’t want skin cancer so I prefer spray tan when I need to have a nice tan although the maintenance is a pain in the butt..I sometimes do tanning creams at home since I’m pretty good at applying it but that’s annoying to maintain also.
  10. Gym membership - I started going to the gym finally this year although I have always had a pretty athletic body but since I like to eat wtv I want and I’m getting older lol I need to watch out!!
  11. Personal trainer for the gym - I’m going to get one soon so I can learn what to do to target the issues I want to work on plus it’s good to have someone to motivate you since I’m lazy lol
  12. Martial arts or self defense classes - Personally I do martial arts because it’s for my line of work but also because I love to kick ass. I took some self defense classes years ago and it was amazing..I think every woman should do that especially sex workers and SBs..I actually need to brush up on those moves especially the ones when your assailant is on top of you.
  13. Hair and eyelash extensions - I need to get new hair extensions because the hair dresser messed them up when she cut them although I basically never wear them lol too lazy to put them on every time so I’ll look into other options soon and get a SD to pay for it and for eyelash extensions. Never tried that and want to see how it will look and feel.
  14. Makeup and hair tutorials or classes - I started watching more videos on youtube to learn more tricks especially with hair since I suck but I’m getting a lot better..I might get a future SD to pay a hairstylist to show me 5-10 ways to do my hair haha.
  15. Good hair products and makeup - Start investing in good products that don’t ruin your hair and face..When you can it’s good to invest in more expensive products when they are better quality and less chemicals.
  16. Keeping your body soft like a baby’s skin - I put cream every night on my body to keep my body all smooth and soft plus to keep my boobs, stomach, thighs and ass all firm..better to start young!
  17. Facial creams - Very important to keep your face moisturized plus eye cream is always good to start young..those SDs want a baby face not a face ruined by sun and age.
  18. Drinking lots of water - You need minimum 2 liters of water everyday..I basically only drink water..no coffee or soft drinks but juices on occasion and I do love wine when I go out.
  19. Eating healthy - I need to be more disciplined for that because I like to eat wtv I want although I do eat vegetables and fruits everyday.
  20. Be happy and confident - Keep yourself healthy mentally..those men pay for no drama..I actually tried hypnotherapy by curiosity this year..only did 4 sessions to work on my self-esteem and confidence and it was pretty interesting to realize how I bring myself down sometimes.
  21. Teeth are very important! Having a nice smile attracts people including SDs! - Keep your teeth clean and white..I do my teeth cleaning every 9 months now (instead of 12) plus I bought a whitening kit made for me from my dentist to use at home although my teeth are pretty white already. I had braces when I was young so I have perfect teeth..I wear my night retainer occasionally to keep them straight and perfect. 
  22. Massages and acupuncture - I did both this year and need to start doing massages every 2 weeks for my back lol I’ll get a SD to pay for that!
  23. Investing in a new wardrobe - Dressing the part is important and you need something to wear for all those awesome dates you will be going on! Get a SD or POT to take you shopping and choose classic pieces that you will be able to mix and match and pull off multiple outfits with. If you don’t have anyone to pay for it, take some of your money and start buying some nice pieces or even just adding an accessory to your outfit might make the difference. You don’t have to buy expensive brands (wait for a SD to do that for you), until then buy pieces that are good quality and in solid neutral colors. Go for classy not trashy!
  24. Reading more about current events, finances and how to invest money but also some of those self help books. Be aware of what is going on in the world. - I need to start doing this more because I personally don’t follow the news or politics (too depressing) plus I want to learn how to manage my money. It’s always good to be able to hold a conversation with a SD especially if you go to events with him! You want to be the whole package of looks, brains and personality!!
  25. Learning new skills is important in my opinion plus it keeps you busy and SDs will be impressed by your hobbies, interests and skills. - Personally I love reading, cooking (I want to take some classes to get even better), dancing (I took a lot of different dance classes but I want to learn the waltz and other more conservative dances for black tie events), learning new languages (I speak multiple languages and it always impresses people especially in the US for some reason), etc.. With my line of work, I like to acquire new skills as often as I can so I can add them to my CV and stand out..plus it’s fun!

Ok so I’m going to stop here because this post is freaking long lol I’ll add more if I think about something else but just remember that you are selling a product which is yourself and you need to stand out! Being a SB is not just about looking pretty..you have to be interesting too! I see a lot of SD’s profiles that mention personality and not just looks. So take care of yourself mentally and physically :) You got to invest in yourself (the product) to make money..that’s how marketing and business work and it’s the same with sugar dating! Pay your bills and then use some of that allowance on bettering yourself to catch an even bigger fish (or whale lol)!! Go get them girls! xoxo

Moon Signs:

Aries: Always active, bold, and alive - absolutely can’t stand to be bored. You are prone to letting insecurity take over your life, making you race around - desperate to accomplish. You can heal quickly from emotional hurts and recover your energy quickly when faced with crisis. You are quick to temper and it’s pretty violent but burns out quickly. You tend to enjoy conflict, maybe even viewing life as a battle. In the moment defines your way of living yet you may not trust yourself to make immediate decisions.

Taurus: Material and financial security is important to you. You trust what you can touch and have issues with the abstract, this means you may invest too much of yourself into material objects. You are prone to becoming bored or deadlocked. Self-worth and insecurity are issues for you. For these reasons you often stay too long in relationships that are going nowhere. Earth and nature feel like home to you; your home, which you center around comfort, is filled with earthy elements, tile, flowers, etc. Sensual and loving, you attract others and know how to give them what they want.

Gemini: Communication is the most important thing to you. You may be prone to deluding yourself or suppressing your true emotions, often not letting yourself truly feel them but release them, an odd paradox so like a Gemini. You have a lot of emotions but always know how to express them due to Mercury’s gift of eloquence. Interpreting the emotions of others is a gift of yours yet you often miss their deeper drives, desires, and goals. Be careful of taking things at face value. You may be afraid of emotional or romantic intensity.

Cancer: Home, family, and security - these are the most important things in your life. You are strong and dependable, a motherly figure to those around you. Despite the strong emotions that Cancer is associated with, you may try to hide your fear and doubts. You may hoard items of sentimental value, reluctant to ever let go - this hoarding may seep into other parts of your life, so be careful. You like to create - perhaps painting or drawing, cooking, or knitting or sewing. Down to earth, homey things are very important to you. 

Leo: Center of the universe, right here. Drama and control are your needs. But you certainly aren’t petty or greedy. You are as warm as the sun, generous and loving at your core. You just need a lot of love and affection in return - and you’re damn well going to get it. Be careful though, you can be manipulated easily by flattery. You can be addicting, your view of the world is so positive and intense, you feel so much joy for even the smallest of things. Loyalty and trust are above all else in your book.

Virgo: Shy, quiet and practical, you really don’t enjoy a lot of attention. You are a hard worker and seek success but never acclaim - you want your work to speak for itself. You want to be loved yet you can’t stand to let anyone do something for you. You especially hate to be cared for and for this reason may try to distance yourself in love. A detail-oriented perfectionist, it can be hard for you to ever feel you’ve truly succeeded and often beat yourself over terribly small things. You are a very attentive friend and lover, taking great care of those you love, making sure to do little things to brighten their day.

Libra: Fights, discord, and unfairness truly upset you at your core. You will do absolutely everything you can to maintain balance as a natural diplomat. You may struggle with outright displays of emotion, really intensity of any kind may disturb you. This can really cause issues for you as you simply cannot handle any sort of disorder; your desire to please everyone restricts you as you take it so seriously. You need social security, a partner, a designated place in your social circle or the hierarchy. You are a social creature and extremely lovable due to your care.

Scorpio: You may keep to yourself, even attempting to hide your emotions, but at your core you are passionate and intense. Yet you feel secure in these deep feelings, you are not afraid of them, you just prefer to hold your cards close to your chest. You have the enviable ability to sit back and draw what you want to you despite your ability to go after what you want. You are a deeply emotional person, prone to hurt. You often brood or seek small forms of revenge. You have to trust someone wholly and fully before opening up to them. You need deep, profound, almost painful relationships in your life.

Sagittarius: A natural philosopher and thinker forever seeking something new. Learning is important to you. You simply must have a cause, mission, or goal at all times. Religion is often very important to you and you are very involved no matter what your belief system is, but you are never rigid in your beliefs. You enjoy gambling, the rush of it, or any other risk-taking activity - you need a thrill of some kind. Optimistic and faithful, your gift of hope is remarkable.

Capricorn: You want to feel useful, in control, and successful and these strong desires rule your life. You have such high aspirations that you often feel unloved and inferior, especially due to your need for outside approval. You have deep and passionate feelings yet you can feel shy about expressing them, emotions may even make you feel weak. You may come off as uptight, reserved, or cold due to your reluctance to display emotion. It feels good to you to be needed. Discipline and respect are very important to you.

Aquarius: You need freedom above all else. You try to rise above negativity and can sometimes be intolerant of the emotions of others. You may ignore your emotional needs and natural responses or analyze them so closely that you become detached from them completely. You are usually cold and distant even in your most intimate relationships. You value your individuality and don’t follow trends and the like. Because you try to shut down your emotions so often you may be emotionally immature. Intimacy scares you.

Pisces: You may feel like a fish out of water in society. You are prone to escapist behaviors as you find the world so harsh. You have a vibrant imagination in which you try to hide. You are a selfless, loving person who seeks to help those less fortunate than you. You take on other people’s emotions due to your intense sympathy which may lead you to seek unhealthy outlets. You are extremely creative but may struggle to channel this talent. It’s important that you focus on the positive in life and avoid negativity.

Invest in yourself and watch yourself grow :))

TO ANYONE WITH PARENTS/FAMILY MEMBERS WHO PUT YOU DOWN FOR BEING UPSET ABOUT ZAYN:

When you invest yourself in something over a number of years and a major piece of it falls away, it’s going to hurt. And you have every right to hurt over it. 

Please, don’t let them get to you. You aren’t wrong for feeling this. And you sure as heck aren’t alone.

“I choose you, Riley, and I really want you to choose me.”

“I do… I always did.”

“I like you, Josh. It’s you I like.”

“I like you, too.”

Invest in yourself in 2016.
—  you’re worth it
7 Things You Should Never Be Ashamed Of

1. Listening to your intuition.

2. Respecting and standing up for yourself.

3. Making your own choices/ living your own life.

4. Taking time for yourself/ investing in self care.

5. Feeling and respecting your own emotions.

6. Following your heart, and Investing in your dreams.

7. Letting go of the past (that’s not who you are today.)

Things Worthy Of Investment:
  • a hobby
  • adventures
  • traveling to new places
  • things that make you happy
  • different types of food
  • new experiences  
  • education
  • yourself