introvert mind

The highly sensitive [introverted] tend to be philosophical or spiritual in their orientation, rather than materialistic or hedonistic. They dislike small talk. They often describe themselves as creative or intuitive. They dream vividly, and can often recall their dreams the next day. They love music, nature, art, physical beauty. They feel exceptionally strong emotions–sometimes acute bouts of joy, but also sorrow, melancholy, and fear. Highly sensitive people also process information about their environments–both physical and emotional–unusually deeply. They tend to notice subtleties that others miss–another person’s shift in mood, say, or a lightbulb burning a touch too brightly.
—  Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking

Instructing an introvert to speak is as arrogant as demanding an extrovert to stop speaking. Embrace an individual for who they are; do not inflict change on a soul, do not force Chaos upon their being, allowing conflict to blossom where only peace should bloom. Love people as they are, where they are, for who they are.

21 Signs You Might Actually Be An Ambivert

1. When you’re out in the world, you’re probably not going to be starting conversations with strangers.

2. Generally, you’re always happy to meet new people, but you’ll probably be uncomfortable if you have to do it without any of your existing friends with you.

3. When a topic of interest comes up in conversation, you’re more than happy to talk in great detail about it.

4. But as soon as that’s done, you’ll happily sit listening to the conversation without saying another word.

5. Spending too much time with other people can be exhausting.

6. Your calm, controlled professional self feels like a very different person to the one your friends see.

7. Asserting yourself is tricky in many situations.

8. You can often go out and have hours of fun being the life of the party, but suddenly find that your energy has dropped, and all you really want to do is go home.

9. When you see things written about being an introvert, you start to relate…but then discover that you relate to the extrovert ones as well.

10. In fact, your friends disagreeing about whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert is probably a very good sign you’re an ambivert.

11. Small talk is something that annoys you, because while you can do it, there are instances when it feels a bit insincere.

12. Some weekends, you just need to spend some time hanging out on your own.

13. Too much time spent alone can leave you a bit downcast, however, and you’re concerned that it’s not very productive.

14. And some of the best weekends of your life have been when you didn’t go home for three days.

15. Thinking before you speak isn’t a problem for you…most of the time.

16. You have a tendency to balance out whoever you’re with – if you’re with someone loud, you’ll be quieter. If they’re quiet, you’ll compensate for that.

17. You’re known to be quite intuitive and good at picking up signals that other people can miss.

18. Often, you just find yourself observing what’s happening around you.

19. And at other times, you’ll be getting involved in the moment.

20. So in the right context, you love attention, but more often than not, you don’t want to be the person everyone is looking at.

21. So if you can’t figure out whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, maybe it’s because you’re actually an ambivert!