When you and bae are both introverts

You look at each other during a party and both want to go home and snuggle, without the rest of the exhausting people. And you sit there in silence just touching each other knowing there’s a storm of thoughts running through both your heads, but there is no need to speak. It is so refreshing to be able to escape from the noisy extroverted world with the one you love


Having nothing to add,
Nothing to say,
I stay silent.
From here I am content
To watch the world spin
In constant chatter.
One part of me wishes
I knew how
To talk mindlessly.
But I’m reminded
That someone needs
To listen to the babble.
People don’t want
To be heard:
The want to be listened to.
I don’t have to hear
What they say
To appreciate them.
And they can
Appreciate me
For listening.


Introvert or Extrovert?

This trait focuses on the ‘world’ you like to live in.

  • Introverts feel at home in their heads, extroverts feel at home in the physical world.
  • Introverts feel drained after spending time in the company of other, extroverts feel energised.
  • If you loathe small talk you are almost certainly an introvert.
  • If you do your best problem solving in your head you’re most likely an introvert. Extroverts prefer to problem solve by bouncing ideas off someone else.


I’ve been called a loner so many times I barely register it anymore. It’s always said with a negative connotation and I don't necessarily understand why that is. Yes, I prefer being by myself. I’m happy with who I am. I like reading and I like quiet places. Why is that seen as unhealthy? Just because you’re an extrovert doesn’t mean you’re better than me.
How to Care for an Introvert

1. Respect their need for privacy and to spend time on their own.

2. Be careful never to embarrass them in public.

3. When they are in a new situation, allow them to stand back, and watch what’s going on.

4. Allow them time to process what you’re asking or saying. Don’t demand an answer right away.

5. Be patient if they hesitate to find the right words – and never interrupt while they are speaking.

6. If you are going to change or cancel plans, give them plenty of prior notice.

7. Allow them to practice and perfect skills alone.

8. Correct or challenge them privately – never in front of an audience.

9. Don’t force them to hang out with a crowd of people, or expect them to amass a lot of friends. A few good friends is more comfortable for them.

10. Don’t try to turn them into an extrovert. Respect them for being exactly who they are.

You’re told that you’re in your head too much, a phrase that’s often deployed against the quiet and cerebral. Or maybe there’s another word for such people: thinkers.

As an introvert, hanging out with people drains me. After being in any kind of a social situation for an extended period of time, I need to go be alone and recharge. This even happens with people I like, friends, family, whoever it is I still am drained by people.

So if I am around someone for a long time and I’m not starting to feel tired, it means that I’ve connected with that person on a deep emotional level. It means that out of everyone I’ve ever met, they’re one of the only ones who actually replenish my energy; they don’t drain it.

That’s rare. And, to be quite honest, it’s also really scary.

That’s because it usually takes so much energy to interact with people, and when it no longer does, it means I’ve found someone truly special.