intp emotions

How the XNXPs I Know Deal with Negative Emotions

INTP - *Whining intensifies* 

INFP - * Cries laughing at everything that could be considered even slightly humorous and rambles incoherently* 

“HAHAHA WHHAT U TALKING BOUT QUEEN I’M NOT UPSET AT ALL LOLOLOLOL HARAMBE PEPE DOGE HAHAHA MAFUMAFU IS CUTE LOLOL I LOVE STRAWBERRIES DON’T YOU DID U SEE SHANE’S VIDEO TODAY LOLOLOLOL SHALL WE SKAATTTTEEEE I LOVE PEECHEETO-KUN I REALLY LIKE UR FRINGE CAN I LICK IT :DDDD”

ENTP - *literally dying inside* Lol have u ever touched a baby’s ear iTS SO SQUISHY EREREHEHREH  ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)  ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)  ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

ENFP-

Person: “ How is your day going, ENFP :)? I sure hope it’s great! ” 

ENFP: “STFU YOU EFFING * insert said person’s extremely sensitive insecurity here*” 

*Describes how they’d murder someone in uncomfortably graphic detail*

INTP: type questioning
  • INTP: *has a feeling*
  • INTP: fU CK MAYBE I’M NOT AN INTP???? MAYBE I’M AN INFP oh shit what if i’m an entp i liked being social that one time maybe i’m an enfp?!!1? gotta retake the tests and read over all the functions and recheck oh god what am i
  • INTP: wait but don’t intps question their type a lot? and isn't it just another sign that they’re an intp?
  • INTP:
  • INTP: oh whatever i have to check and make sure i can't be wrong about this
MBTI expectations/reality

ENFJ: Easily damaged and offended / a strong personality, hard to break.

INFJ: Very fun and open minded / secretive, a shitload of walls.

INFP: Weak and sensible / sudden unexpected heroism.

INTJ: Arrogant and somewhat proud / more insecure than they will let you know.

INTP: Low understanding of emotions / can be incredibly deep, understanding and soft.

ESFP: Self-absorbed / has a huge heart full of love. 

ISTP: Cool and confident / really awkward. 

ISFJ: Warm and welcoming / very shy. 

ISTJ: Cold hearted / can be sensitive and deeply feeling.

How to Confuse an INTP

Do it emotionally. It’s hard to confuse us logically. We can think circles around anyone. Even if something doesn’t make sense, we can usually logic our way to some sort of sensible conclusion.

But when it comes to emotions, nothing is more confusing to us. We are terrible at reading relationships that we’re in.

So, if you want to confuse an INTP, then expect us to be able to read your emotions even though your mouth is saying something different. Tell us that you really need our help and let us overextend ourselves for you, and then ask us why we didn’t just tell you that we couldn’t do the job in the first place. Believe me, we only heard that you needed our help, and how were we supposed to know that you were okay with us not burning ourselves out, too? If you don’t tell us straight up, we probably can’t figure it out.

And maybe you could tell us we’re not being emotionally open just after we’ve done everything we can for you except talk about our feelings. When it comes to feelings, we prefer actions over words. 

It’s a well-known fact that we INTPs can be pretty confusing with our odd grasp of emotions and our odd way of showing them to others. Just so you know, though, all the rest of you guys confuse us, too. 

The Effect of Emotional Abuse on Each Type: INTP

SUBMITTED by hannah-elizabeth-j

I’ve seen a few posts/requests on here about the effects of emotional abuse and the affect that it has on each Myers Briggs type so, as someone who works with a lot of domestic abuse victims I thought that I’d give my two cents worth. I wanted them to be quite detailed to give people a fair amount of information so this will be the general format; a general description of what it will look like, how this differs from similar types (ie. the ENFJ compared to the INFJ and ESFJ) and a character in fiction who acts similar to this (may not be for the same reason and I might not get one for each type but I’ll try).

INTP

There will be some variation depending on when the abuse took place in their life but there are some things that will remain the same.

Okay so, INTP’s lead with Ti. This means that during the abuse an INTP will often detach themselves from the situation and by doing so allow themselves to get through it. Unlike the Te doms however, they do not compartmentalize, in that they will not get through a day of school or work only to fall apart at times when they are alone. Instead they will learn to detach themselves at all times meaning that when they are in the situation they will often not truly ‘feel’ it. This can also manifest itself in excessive alcohol or drug use as this does technically distance someone from the reality of their home life, but it is far less common in INTP’s than ISTP’s.

This means that during the time of the abuse they will be even more introverted and removed from reality than a healthy INTP would be. They will remove themselves in any way they can, excessive reading, watching TV or playing video games is common, anything that means they can for want of a better phrase ‘enter another world.’ To others they will often come across as cold or anti-social as they are placing so much emphasis on not feeling what is happening. This will lead to an underdeveloped Fe and if the abuse goes on for a long time this will lead to a resentment of Fe not only in themselves but in other people. They tend to go into a judgmental mode when others seem to be leading with Fe or at least those who hold ethics over what is logically consistency.

The thing about this however is that it can easily create a negative cycle. What an abusive person wants is to cut you off from other people and by the INTP behaving in this way it becomes hard for them to form strong or deep relationships with other people anyway. They become closed off, spend more time with the abuser and therefore get even more closed off.

So, in short, the main way that abuse will affect an INTP will be that they cling onto their Ti with everything they have; their other functions are of course utilized but they are underdeveloped and extremely limited.

Once they are out of the abusive situation they tend to go into a shock mode, meaning they do everything they used to do into day-to-day life and keep to their usual routine (Si) but they tend to do so with a blank mind. Next comes the Fe, often a grip. This will take a few weeks/months to get to but when it hits, it hits hard. They’ve got however many months or years of actually connecting to the lower function on a serious level as well as dealing with what happened to them.

While this does happen for most Ti doms within the first few months, some don’t accept this. They stay in the over powered Ti state, the issue with this is that (particularly if the abuser was in their life for years) the only way to truly get better from anything is to fall apart first so you can put yourself  back together, something that can be a bit challenging  for Ti doms to get themselves to do. 

INTP vs. ISTP

  • When going through the abuse, the INTP will appear to be more closed off, because Ne as a function is less focused on engaging with the external environment than Se so even though the types will often feel the same amount of detachment, the ISTP will appear to others to be more grounded
  • If either type tries to please the abuser (which most people of every type do in some way) they tend to do it in different ways, the ISTP will often make themselves look perfect (more so if it is a partner, not a parent) they will stay in good shape, look presentable and beautiful etc. an INTP will tend to focus more on making themselves seem what they define as ‘interesting’ or ‘deep’ (this is their interpretations of it, however, this is not to say that they will end up being this way, in fact, they rarely are as  they are not in a stable state to truly be this way)
  • Issues such as eating disorders and problems of over indulging the senses are more common and last longer in the ISTP than the INTP

INTP vs. ENTP

  • The ENTP will simple not seem nearly as removed from people as the INTP when the abuse is happening, they are not necessarily using their Fe functionally, but others tend to see them as far less cold and removed
  • The ENTP won’t experience a Fe grip
  • When going through the abuse the INTP will stay reserved, the ENTP will tend to go from one extreme to the other. They will go out for days even weeks on end, stay in crowds, go to parties and then spend the next few days somewhere they can be alone, phone off, not speaking.

I have honestly really really struggled and failed to think of a fictional character that applies in this situation but I couldn’t think of one. If anyone can think of one please mention it.

This for the other types will be coming soon. If there are any further questions I’d be happy to answer (send them to me not this blog).

The Types React to Trump’s win

ESTJ: Dismayed at seeing people of their ethnic group vote for him on TV

ISTJ: Profound sense of shame 

ISFJ: *cries for the safety of their friends*

ESFJ: *Announces will to help anyone who need it*

ISTP: Exhaustedly shakes their head at all the stupid

ESTP: Jokes about hoping for an assassination

ESFP: Packs bags to move abroad

ISFP: *speechless from the horrificness off it all* *in a glass case of emotion*

INFP: Unfollow me if you had any hand in this!

INFJ: *tears our hair over the socioplitical implications and all the hate in the world*

ENFJ:  *writes an essay explaining how this happened and wha’s important now*

ENFP: *talking in their ‘serious’ voice exclusively* *Angrily Dissapointed Disbelief*

ENTP: *Apocalypse references galore* *covers dread with angry mockery*

ENTJ: “You fuckers brought this onto yourselves!” *calmly puts their investments elsewhere*

INTP: *laughts at the surreality as they struggle to process their internal screaming*

INTJ: *Obsessively watches politics videos to guage the situation* (I should probably go check on him after writing this)

How an INTJ Process a Feeling

INTJ:*feels feeling* 
INTJ:*externally, coldly regards feeling with great suspicion* 
INTJ:*examines feeling close up*
INTJ:*ponders feeling and all its implications for days, possibly making lists*
INTJ:*after coming to an understanding of feeling, allows self to feel feeling fully - usually far from any prying eyes and deep within the exoskeleton*
INTJ:*after feeling is fully felt and explored, stores feeling away neatly and categorically, for future reference via Ni and Fi*

How to Make an INTP

Now that your INTP Starter Kit has been successfully shipped (we apologize for the excessive shipping rates, your INTP can carry extreme emotional baggage if not handled properly), this instruction packet will guide you through the simple steps on how to assemble your INTP. Let’s do this!

Step One: After removing the harsh wit, werewolf blood, and kitten hair from the package, place them in the bowl with the Devil’s Chocolate Cake mix and stir until thoroughly combined. 

Step Two: Take your mixture and add precisely 10 ounces of any carbonated beverage of your choice. This will ensure that your INTP is well saturated with bubbly and toxic humor, but to inhale it through the nose will make you choke, cough, and possibly die. Please do not inhale the mixture. 

Step Three: Let the mixture rise in a room temperature place. A room too hot will make the mixture too warm (which could result in a grumpy INTP), a room too cold will result in a chill, also known as the Burrito Effect, which will permanently make your INTP wrap themselves in a blanket burrito and never leave that position. Ever.

Step Four: Once your INTP is fully risen (it will take about seventeen years), sprinkle the top with wi-fi. They love wi-fi, and will only bloom properly if given the w-fi. Don’t skip the wi-fi. 

Step Five: Stand back and watch your INTP rise from the the batter. If you have prepared it correctly, the INTP will come out pale and usually ginger. If this is not the desired INTP, go back to Step Two and only add seven ounces of carbonated beverage, which will probably result in a brown-haired INTP. 

Enjoy your INTP, and don’t forget to emotionally arm yourself for the witty comebacks and excessive sarcastic humor that they might go a little too far with. 

INTP Clichés That Don’t Apply To Me

Sci-fi: Yes, I’m an Intp. No, I don’t particularly enjoy Science Fiction.

Emotionless Robot ™: I actually have feelings. One day the level of my chill may overwhelm you, other days I’m an emotional wreck. There’s no in between. 

Bad Writers: I actually write a lot of short stories and poems and am told that I’m very good 

Calmness and Emotional Stability: I am generally a very calm person but I do argue every once in a while and am definitely not calm 24/7 (no one’s perfect) 

Don’t Read People Well: I am socially awkward and sometimes the only help I can give is explain how I see the problem and how I would overcome it. But I often give helpful advice and once I deal with my awkwardness I can read people very well and am aware of what they want. When I really care about someone I know how to help and have a lot of empathy. 

Genius and Complete Science Nerd: I love science. Biology, English and Chemistry are my favourite subjects and I honestly find them fascinating. But hey, I don’t get physics. It doesn’t make any sense. Also, science is not the only area that I find intriguing. I find many aspects of the world interesting, and what may be very INTP about me is that discovering and learning is what I’m truly living for. 

Trouble with Fe

1. You miss meaning behind about 99% of emotional communication.

2. Many people will hate you even if you’ve done nothing. Because “nothing” may have violated their Fe values.

3. You absorb people’s emotions and don’t have the tools to identify the source or to handle the disposal of them.

4. Repression of emotions is a real thing. Then it explodes in everyone’s faces.

5. Even if you grow up and identify these areas as an issue, solving them is yet another problem (INTP least likely to come equipped with tools to handle emotional problems)

6. “Emotion is seat of motivation,” and being Ti dominant means motivation is hard to come by.

Yes. I am working on all these.