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Why Your MBTI Type is Attractive

ESTP: You ooze tactile, and touch, something about your very down to earth and hands on persona is so tantalizing, you’re so full of passion and willpower, it’s hard not to find you sexy at all.

ISTP: Enigmatic, Aloof, brooding, with a low-key childlike humor is very intriguing you’re hard to miss, and something about your handiwork is beyond magnetizing, You’re an old soul and child in one.

ESFP: You are radiant, glowing with excitement and vivacity. Your inner strength and pure willpower are unbelievably attractive and admirable, you have this earthy, “I know what I’m doing” vibe.

ISFP: Your shyness hides this intense need for physical action and connection. Your independence and ethereal mystery create this atmosphere of depth and raw love of pleasure. You breathe sex appeal.

ESTJ: You have a commanding presence, something strong and secure and people wish they could handle anything thrown at them the may you do, you’re in control, and it’s hard to miss you with all that confidence.

ISTJ: You have a natural rhythm and go with your own flow, it’s insanely intoxicating. You have an air of structure and intensity, you’re willpower is undeniable, and your thoughts are like wildfire.

ESFJ: You are warmth, and generosity, something about your need for beauty and harmony is beyond desirable. You create a haven of light and love and are so sensual it’s beyond sexy.

ISFJ: Your discreet charm, and smitten smile is beyond attractive, you are tender hearted, but have this hidden strength that others can feel. They love your shelter and you radiate this intense love of sensuality.

ENTJ: you are usually perceived as confident in your thoughts and actions, you know what you’re doing and go into it without questioning, you’re calculated, and usually quite charismatic.

INTJ: You’re meticulous and observant, you work hard and play harder and people love that mystery of your very detached presence, something about you is both fully present and other worldly.

ENTP: You’re witty, charismatic, and novel. You’re like a flame and people are drawn to you. You have a sharp and piercing humor that is so magnetizing. You know how to persuade and are usually very smooth.

INTP: you’re lowkey, dreamy and so interesting. Something about your independence and aloofness is so interesting and people want to know the way you’re thinking, or what you’re thinking about at all.

ENFP: You radiate positivity, charm and electricity, your youthful need for adventure and possibility are contagious and you are so magnetic and sensational because of it.

INFP: You feel so deeply and ardently, you get swept into a dream world that others only wish they can touch. You’re full of romance, and saccharine that so many people feel drawn to your vulnerability.

ENFJ: You’re a warm, and uplifting spirit. Like the sun, you radiate certainty in yourself and something about your devotion to those you love is so incredibly attractive, you can’t be missed.

INFJ: You have a natural refinement and elegance to you, you have a beautiful presence of peace and wisdom and mystery. People want to know what you know, they want to get into your head.

mbti types as people I’ve met

entp:

  • probably invented multitasking
  • really awkward social butterfly
  • the kind of person that watches 10 series at the same fucking time
  • cute nerd
  • can be suprisingly stubborn

isfj:

  • either a hufflepuff or a slytherin
  • *has cheated on a test once and never did it again because they felt so bad about it* 
  • phlegmatic
  • so many gay ships
  • you know you fucked up when they’re really angry at you

estp:

  • the most chill person you’ll ever meet
  • looks flawless even when they’re not trying
  • “I am the best” - they’re goddamn right
  • softie on the inside
  • basically Tony Stark

infj:

  • pretty awkward for someone with auxiliary fe
  • kind of bitter and done with life
  • intense stare
  • they go from “nice to meet you” to “your parents were abusive which resulted in you having no confidence in your abilities” real fast
  • they have more secrets than I have daily thoughts about killing myself and that is impressive

intp:

  • more intelligent than most people give them credit for
  • actual sinnamon roll
  • you’re dead the second they start scheming against you
  • they secretly crave affection
  • likes to tease their friends

estj:

  • damn they really do like screaming at other people when they’re pissed
  • really good at telling stories
  • even better at organizing parties
  • genuinely wants to help you
  • don’t really give a fuck about rules

esfj:

  • pretty shy at first
  • have a hard time with reserved people
  • a bitch for gossip
  • respected by most people, even the ones who dislike them
  • stubborn as shit

entj:

  • it doesn’t matter what you’re good at, there’s always an entj who’s better at it
  • the mentor who doesn’t die
  • they will crush you if you cross a line
  • pretty laidback and chill actually
  • as stable as a rock

istj:

  • aren’t appreciated enough
  • they all have that secret inner Eddard Stark inside them
  • loyal to a fault
  • cinnamon roll
  • tough love

enfj:

  • charismatic af
  • they will tell you about their whole life in a subtle way even when though you did not ask
  • kind of clingy if they like you
  • loves going to parties
  • always perceptive about everyone but themselves

infp:

  • social justice warrior
  • kind of self destructive
  • full of love and hatred at the same time
  • they need to chill
  • “animals are better than people”

istp:

  • weird main character
  • probably smokes weed
  • that person who comes up with a plan that makes no sense whatsoever
  • I question their sanity every once in a while
  • deep and philosophical

isfp:

  • lowkey badass
  • probably artistic or good in sports
  • would probably punch you if you’re an asshole
  • Fi doms generally need to chill tbh
  • means well but handles stuff the wrong way sometimes

esfp:

  • can be so troublesome if unhealthy
  • ”I will do what I want, mom!”
  • always played outside as a kid
  • probably feels like the world treated them the wrong way
  • kinda hot though?

intj:

  • aren’t interested in many things, but when they are, then they’re really passionate about it
  • world domination is an actual goal
  • “I don’t need to feel in order to understand”
  • they will judge you for every irrational thing you do
  • sighs about your stupidity, but helps you anyway


enfp:

  • argued with their teacher at least once
  • sassy and funny
  • don’t know what to do with their life
  • can lash out on their loved ones if hurt
  • good at making friends
MBTI Types When They’re Not Thriving OR Surviving

Scl(any sort of stress/sadness)

INTJ: Super withdrawn, swings between gratification and wanting happiness, and unhealthy single-mindedness. Existential angst. Needs people’s support but rejects company. Bottles up issues and then it bursts out.

ENTJ: Prone to attack others, often over the very issues they’re insecure about. Becomes a workaholic and ignores feelings of deep dissatisfaction, or stops giving a crap about anything. 

INFJ: Despairs of all things, just can’t see The Point of it. Goes through days mechanically, without purpose. Resists all help, considering it to be probing. Can’t get anything done. 

ENFJ: Laughs a bit too loudly and smiles a bit too widely. Escapes to private places, but feels lost. Tells their problems to someone close to them, but doesn’t accept any advice.

INFP: Isolate, isolate isolate. Sees the negative in everything and can’t see others’ love/affection for them. Loses their ‘purpose’ and drive, can’t find meaning in anything. Idealizes what they can’t have. Perpetual self-pity-party. 

ENFP: Super excitable, overdoes everything. Cannot focus at all, and their own emotions/reactions are out of their control. Breaks down sobbing. Unwilling to actually move forward. 

ISFP: Mull around in their own feelings, hates the world around them, because it’s failed them. Spiraling moodiness, “what ifs,” “should’ve done this,” but no one will ever see that. They themselves won’t admit it.

ESFP: Unusually critical, closed-minded, and overly concerned with matters of appearance over substance. Terrible sense of logic, yet argumentative all the same. Delves into the physical world in order to escape their mental one. 

ISTJ: Scattered mind, unable to think coherently. Becomes judgmental and passive-aggressive. Super pessimistic, takes on a me vs. the world mentality.

ESTJ: Intensely prickly, will take offense at anything but prefers to strike first and strike hard. If you hit a nerve, they’ll cut you out of their lives (for the time being). Tries to act happy and in control, but actually really moody. 

ISFJ: Withdrawn, tries to please everyone but is really passive-aggressive about it. Takes on a martyr complex. Refuses help while throwing a pity party because “no one cares about them.” 

ESFJ: Seeks control of people and surroundings, bossy and irritable. Might manipulate others into feeling bad, too. Denies that they’re the problem. 

INTP: Makes a lot of jokes about how things aren’t okay, but aggressively resists anyone’s sincere attention. Turns flat and emotionless, takes compartmentalizing to an unhealthy extreme. 

ENTP: Scatterbrained, cannot focus. Swings between extremes of emotions, but makes a point to show a falsely sanguine face to people. Feels like they’re crumbling from the inside. 

ISTP: Compulsive and reckless. Has a “screw this” attitude and pushes away actual problems. May or may not confide in people, but too down to take any advice. 

ESTP: Use bravado and ‘self-confidence’ to mask their insecurities. Get a rush from attention, whether it’s positive or negative, and thus seek it out. Obsessive mentality, particularly concerning negative outcomes.

Extroverted Introverts: Ten things to know

Also known as an ambivert, an extroverted introvert is someone who exhibits qualities of both introversion and extroversion.

1. Their spot on the spectrum changes with their environment.

Your ambivert friend may be loud and gregarious around their family, but quiet and thoughtful at the office. Seeing them in both situations may feel like meeting two entirely different people.

2. Talking to strangers is fine – but don’t expect them to keep it to small talk.

Although an ambivert can hold up their end of a conversation, talking about the weather will not be enough to engage them. Their social energy is limited enough that they won’t want to waste it on meaningless chatter. They will likely push the conversation into deeper territory or bow out entirely.

3. They like to be alone – they don’t like to be lonely.

There is a big difference between the two. Choosing to sit at home with a tub of ice cream and a book feels fantastic. Sitting at home because nobody called them back feels sad and lame.

4. Getting them out of the house can be a challenge.

If you catch your friend on a highly introverted day, you may just be better off leaving them at home. They might manage to be social, but they’ll just be thinking about their books and their couch the whole time.

5. If they’re new, you can find them in the back of the room.

An introverted extrovert will approach new situations with cautious excitement. If they know someone in the group, they will likely cling to them a bit as they become comfortable. If they do not, they might waver on the edge of the crowd, slowly getting used to the water rather than jumping in all at once.

6. They’re selectively social.

They don’t mean to be snobs. They just have limited social energy and prefer interacting one-on-one or in small groups. For this reason, they can only afford to invest their social time and energy in those who they feel truly connected to.

7. Making friends is easy. Keeping them is hard.

They like talking to people, but they value their alone-time, as well. This can make maintaining a friendship tricky. If your ambivert friend makes an effort to consistently invest time and energy in your friendship, be glad. You are truly special to them.

8. Their social desires change with the breeze.

They might be desperate to hang out with you on Friday, but then not answer your call on Saturday. They’re not mad at you. They’re just super comfortable in bed watching films.

9. They can talk to you for hours.

If you manage to catch them in a one-on-one situation, an extroverted introvert will just not shut up. Once their interest is engaged, there’s no stopping them.

10. Listening is great too, though.

Sometimes they want to be a part of the action, but their social energy levels are too low for them to contribute in a meaningful way. Listening allows them to get to know you without burning up their social fuel. They also know its value from their chattier moments when they are desperate for an ear.

MBTI Stereotypes VS the Types in Real Life

Stereotype ENTJ: Dominant. Efficient. Strategic and ideal leaders.

Real ENTJ: One of the few people able to actually physically frown, don’t understand how they’re “scary”

Stereotype INTJ: Evil masterminds. Smarter than you. Are the superior beings.

Real INTJ: Misplaces anything that isn’t physically attached to them, no longer able to recognize when they’re being sarcastic or serious

Stereotype ENTP: Quickest thinkers you’ll ever meet. Witty. Intellectual masters of debate.

Real ENTP: Used memes so much that they became one and are accepting of this fact, catchphrase is some version of “Well, actually–”

Stereotype INTP: In possession of more knowledge than the Internet. Reclusive geniuses. Know all, are humble.

Real INTP: Sexually attracted to science, volunteer plethora of useless facts every hour, zero spatial and social awareness

Stereotype ENFJ: Kind. Loving. Hearts of gold and wills of steel.

Real ENFJ: Will replace your mother and be okay with that, judge being judgemental of judging judgemental judgments

Stereotype INFJ: Mysterious and tricky to get to know. More unique than anyone you’ve ever met.

Real INFJ: One way or another, embarrass themselves every single day, somehow, consistently

Stereotype ENFP: Full of life and love. Passionate lover. Always fighting for a cause.

Real ENFP: Blink abnormally fast and probably should not drink coffee ever, have to make conscious effort to not smile, should take more things more seriously

Stereotype INFP: Gifted with emotional intelligence. Spiritual and believes in the soul, the natural course of the world, and love.

Real INFP: Really good at laughing at themselves which is necessary because they f*ck up constantly

Stereotype ESTJ: Intelligent. Dependable. Productive and competent. Forward-thinkers.

Real ESTJ: Remind teachers about homework distribution and collection every single day of the week, get off on educational videos

Stereotype ISTJ: Rule-followers. Responsible. Duty drives their perfection.

Real ISTJ: Sometimes sleep over 12 cumulative hours in a day

Stereotype ESTP: Daredevil. Live life on the edge. Famous and popular.

Real ESTP: 100% of decision-making is weighing the pros, ignoring the cons, and shrugging, then doing whatever stupid thing they got dared to do

Stereotype ISTP: Cool as hell. Detached and indifferent. Smart tinkerers.

Real ISTP: Won “Most Stubborn and Silent” for Senior Superlative page in high school yearbook

Stereotype ESFJ: Genuine and affectionate. Would take care of a sick stranger if needed. Make friends everywhere they go.

Real ESFJ: Value self-worth based on quality of and feedback for homemade baked goods, the holiday season is their life source

Stereotype ISFJ: Sweet. Innocent. Fragile and caring hearts who love their friends.

Real ISFJ: Hate conflict so much that they get second-hand anxiety from watching cliché emotional plot twist movies

Stereotype ESFP: Epitome of style and fashion. Impossibly cool. At every party and loved by everyone.

Real ESFP: Physically CANNOT stop making noises and fidgeting, all storage on their phones is taken up by hundreds of selfies in various poses

Stereotype ISFP: Exceptional artists. Emotionally deep. Humanitarians and always helping the planet.

Real ISFP: Just want to become trees, don’t get why people can’t just love one another, f*cking hippies

small description of each mbti type:

istj: prefers their cat over u, secretly really romantic but wont admit it, finds moustaches/beards aesthetically pleasing

isfj: secretly a wine mom, likes to bake, lawful good

infj: probably still emo, cute but kinda avoidant, great clothing style

intj: dark and mysterious, kinda hot, always helps others

istp: loves road trips, cute and dorky, likes netflix and pranks

isfp: really weird, artistic, everyone thinks they’re adorable

infp: emo as hell, cares a lot, very deep and complex 

intp: sarcastic motherfuckers, kinda shy but probably wont admit it, awkward and cute

estp: everyone wants to have sex with them, u either love them or hate them, acts very confident

esfp: genuinely loves everyone and everything, charming, intelligent but doesn’t show it

enfp: overdramatic, too many puns, very lovable

entp: meme lord, genuinely doesn’t like people, will fight u

estj: dad friend, drinks a lot of coffee, looks angry

esfj: will bake u cookies, mom friend, too sweet

enfj: weird but charming, knows a lot more than it seems, falls in love too easily

entj: thinks they’re awesome(and they’re right), has great hair, funny sometimes

the types as things Albus Severus should've been named

I’m back after hiatus to shitpost in honor of July 31st & resurrect some old memes yay

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The Types Reacting to an Insult

Tells them to shut up: ESTP, ISTP, ESTJ, ISTJ

Backlashes with perfect comeback: ENTP, INTJ

Takes it as a personal attack: ISFP, INFP, ENTJ

Apologizes for some reason: ISFJ, INFJ, ENFJ,

Will probably cry: ESFJ, ESFP, ENFP

Laughs and agrees: INTP

Unexpected Aspects of the Types

ENFP: They actually crave schedules and structure like nobodies business, if and only if it revolves around their passions. 

INFP: The “manic pixie dream girl” stigma is so wrong. 90% of them are more along the lines of “embittered memelords” with a splash of off-beat and sensible fashion. 

INTP: They’re actually excellent in social situations that they throw themselves into. Your odd aggressiveness and shouting is amusing and weirdly charismatic. 

ENTP: You’ll have to murder them a thousand times before they’ll admit that they actually DO crave harmony and peace more than chaos; Debate and verbal jousting (and memes) is just their way of getting there. 

ENFJ: The worst time management skills. Worse than all of the P’s put together, bar none. You got stars in your eyes and not a single “no” in your throats and it often leaves you ragged busybodies from over committing yourselves. 

INFJ: Despite their ‘mysterious and secretive nature’ stigma, if you engage them in a deep conversation about their passions, 9 times out of 10 they will splay their soul to you even though you met 5 minutes ago at a college party.

ISFJ: They’re known for being the kindly, grandmotherly type that just wants the best for their friends, but the flip side is they’re all basic bitches that secretly crave being a tool. They’re usually just too nice to go Full Douche™, praise the Lord. 

ESFJ: Despite being known as the social butterfly, the Fe and Si combination sometimes makes for an extremely judgmental, polarizing, and single-minded personality, and can seem like the most socially inept/oblivious person in the room. 

ESTJ: Weirdly enough, more often than not, they’re one of the most socially graceful and self-aware people in the room. That, or they’re utterly cringeworthy. Not really any in between. Just don’t get them started on politics (I’m begging you). 

ISTJ: Despite the ‘emotionless Traditionalist™ robot’ stigma, although they can’t offer consistent emotional output, all of the ones I’ve met are some of the most emotionally stable, mature, and available people I’ve ever met. 

ENTJ: Your responsible, efficient, and commanding CEO of a friend is actually the biggest procrastinator in the game, bar none. It’s hidden under a few hundred layers of self-confidence, but they need the stress of the last minute to feel anything in this world. 

INTJ: Massive internal war between fearless, emotionless sociopathy, and caring so deeply for a select few people that they’d give up every ambition to follow them to the ends of the earth without a single plan. TL;DR, their black and icy hearts are secretly hearts of gold and they absolutely abhor that about themselves. 

ESFP: Your favorite quick-talking, loud-mouthed, social explosion with all the friends is probably pretty lonely on the inside. Almost every ESFP I’ve met has huge commitment issues (big and pretty accurate stereotype), but few people realize it usually comes from self-knowledge of their sporadic nature, and they keep people at an emotional distance as a result, so they don’t end up getting hurt. Advice: letting people in and trying to make it work is infinitely better than loneliness in a crowd. 

ISFP: The EXTJ’s WISH they could be as soul-crushingly terrifying as your favorite superwholockian, equestrian painter friend when somebody’s crossed their family or friends. 

ESTP: The “sex, drugs, drinking, and more sex” cliche with ESTP’s is so dumb because literally every ESTP I know doesn’t care about alcohol or sex more than any other person I’ve met, but they ARE infinitely more obsessed with ultimate frisbee and bridge jumping. 

ISTP: The calm, rational, logical side of Ti is thrown completely out of the driver’s side window when they’re behind the wheel, because these hoes have the worst road rage I’ve ever seen, without exception.

The MBTI types as people in fiction

ESTJ: basically Dolores Umbridge
ISTJ: average dad
ESTP: fuckboy (very hot)
ISTP: fearless girl with stereotypical boy traits
ESFJ: mother of the hero
ISFJ: innocent cute girl (falls in love with ENTP)
ESFP: funny guy
ISFP: Harry Potter (probably innocent person until destiny tells him/her she’s the hero of the story)
ENTJ: evil mastermind who wants to rule the world
INTJ: narcisst, probably also the bad guy
ENTP: psychopath
INTP: Sherlock
ENFJ: flawless hero
INFJ: Jesus
ENFP: the hippie friend with good advice
INFP: misunderstood girl in her own dreamworld

Unmentioned MBTI Traits

ISFJs are incredibly resilient: never back them into a corner, the aggressor won’t come back as the same person. Able to withstand some serious damage. ISFJs are not beings made of sunshine and tissue paper.


ESFJs possess an unwavering vision: once an ESFJ is set on a particular path, they are not coming back until their purpose is fulfilled.
 Even if the earth itself needed to be moved out of the way, they will accomplish their goal.

INTPs are cautious empaths: once an INTP finally settles down with a person they trust you can see the raw concern for you and those around them.


ENTPs are ravaging flames: unpredictable yet capable of a nurturing warmth, possess flickering moments of interest always on the verge of being extinguished.


ISTJs truly understand themselves and others: they do not need to tout their accomplishments for the world to see, they know their worth, even if no one else can readily recognize it.

ESTJs seek peace: often their blunt and meticulous lifestyle stems from a desire for inner and outer harmony.


INFPs are not to be underestimated: regardless of how dreamlike an INFP may seem like, they are fueled by a unquenchable sense of purpose. Standing between an INFP and their objective is dangerous, even if you are trying to save them from themselves.


ENFPs are fickle yet genuine people: ENFPs can whisk you away in an instant and provide a life changing experience. They can just as easily drop you flat leaving you to pick up the mess in their wake.


ISFPs see the beauty and terror the future hold: able to paint a comprehensive picture of what lies ahead is not easy. The unique way an ISFP issues a beautifully cryptic forewarning should be taken with hesitance, but odds are life is as just off-kilter and fascinating the ISFP portrays.


ESFPs are always searching for significance: significance can be a meaningful connection, a sense of purpose, or putting the silent pieces of the world together in a multitude of ways so that this life makes sense.


INTJs lack a certain degree of object 
permanence: always misplacing things is a humorous trait for such a self-sufficient kind of person. If not monitored, this can translate onto relationships in their life as well.

ENTJs mean well: wrapped up in their own minds, they may not always say the appropriate phrase, but that does not invalidate their sentiments.


ISTPs are softer than anyone would like to admit: ISTPs don’t take every word said to heart, but a few nasty words from a person the ISTP valued can shatter their sense of self in an instant.


ESTPs probably understand you more than they let on: not always able to put their ideas into words, ESTPs have a firm grasp of what kind of people are allowed in their life.

INFJs are unbelievably stubborn: getting an INFJ to shift their worldview or opinions of another is nigh impossible. No matter how necessary for their own well-being it may be to adapt.


ENFJs are both simple and complex: capable of plunging the depths of another person as quickly as they keep every word shallow and meaningless, understanding an ENFJ is no simple feat.

little things that remind me of the mbti types

enfp: curiousity, bright eyes, sunflowers, artsy aesthetic pictures, sudden laughter, looking someone in the eye, concert tickets, glitter, feeling at home, fresh smells

enfj: campfire, picking out what to wear somewhere, long rants about things you care about, post-it notes, little smiles, encouraging words, compassion, mood swings, neon lights

esfp: new videos of your favourite youtubers, picnics, shivers, acoustic guitars, realising that you are in love, little notes scribbled onto paper, plants

esfj: waking up knowing that the day will be great, getting to know new people better, polaroids, colourful notebooks, the sea, talking to your best friend about things you can’t talk about with anybody else

infj: astronomy, lilac sky, wanting to know the reason for something so badly, holding in tears while smiling, maps of places you want to visit, book piles, late night conversations

infp: sketchbooks, self-made playlists, hopes for the future, reading a book for the hundreth time, obsessing about something, caring too much, finally finding someone who understands

isfj: galleries, cycling through the city late at night, nostalgia, “the one song”, the moon, suddenly being overwhelmed with emotion, buying yourself new flowers to place next to your desk, enjoying the first minutes of the day in bed

isfp: reassuring words, making your hair look perfect, little poems, waterfalls, lace, loving your friends more than anything, wanderlust, smell of roses

intj: reading a book while being on a social event, raised eyebrows, quick thoughts, structures, skyscrapers, an empty street at night, crystals, wit and sarcasm, cold evenings, eye bags, forgetting about your surroundings

intp: spending hours on wikipedia, always looking for the right answer, dusk, petrichor, cold air, first days of winter, everything finally making sense, writing ideas down, searching for the right words, being really passionate about something

istj: postcards, rings, flea markets, rivers, city trips, black and white photographs, to-do lists, gentle nods, taking someone’s hand, everything working out how you thought it would

istp: graffiti, holograms, city’s at night, rollercoasters, electric guitars, black holes, connecting two ideas

estj: ancient ruines, sculptures, skylines, first snow, justice, the feeling of doing the right thing, glory, hard work

estp: loyality, glass figures, blizzards, cold colours, paradox

entj: smokings, black grids, power, mansions, the sounds of high heels clicking, assuring yourself that you are going to suceed, having the perfect plan, standing on top of a skyscraper, tension, galas, freshly printed magazines

entp: excitement, knowing that you can’t stop now, i-don’t-care-but-i-do, smirks, waiting for people to reply, eyes widening, “what if…”

Things the Types Need to Hear

ESFP: Look, I get it, you leave people in the dust because you know how crazy and all over the place your life can be and you’re also crazy scared to let somebody in just to have it end up with you accidentally leaving them and both of you getting hurt, but emotional intimacy and real depth in friendships are 100% worth it in the end and it’s the struggle and fight of a lifetime to keep them in your life, but it’s also the greatest gift and you can’t keep denying yourself that intimacy and friendship. 

ISFP: I know you have a lot of great desires and wonderful dreams and they might seem too far off and too crazy and too beautiful to come true, but you have them for a reason, and you gotta stop paralyzing yourself with fear and take that first step and throw yourself into the unknown, and that’s the scariest part, I know, but we both know you’re braver than you look, and that your passion can make it happen. 

ENFP: I know that the moment you hit an obstacle or two when you first start working towards that far off dream, it’s scary and it makes you want to crumble and run away to a new thing like you think you always do, but don’t! You’re miles more tenacious and capable than you give yourself credit for and you’ve got to discipline yourself and trust that your talents and optimism can and will propel you through whatever is keeping you from your goals. 

INFP: I know it’s hard to feel understood and it’s easy to let yourself become bitter by the ways of the world or whatever’s happening, but closing yourself off to others isn’t going to save you the pain. You have a natural capacity to understand others that’s hard for the other types to grasp and when you stop yourself from using that talent, or use it for selfish reasons, you’re doing yourself a massive injustice. 

ESTP: Listen, I totally get that the world is full of fun and interesting things and you want to experience them all, but you’ve got to remember that for a lot of the people that come along with you, they’re there to experience YOU as much as they’re there for the thing itself. Don’t let yourself forget that half the fun of anything is who you’re doing it with. 

ISTP: I know you generally don’t mean to yell or be rude when your irritated and that it’s really just a passing thing and you don’t generally care all that much, but just apologize to people after you’ve calmed down! Explain it to them and that you don’t mean it! Admit to yourself that you care enough about them to try to make amends, even when you’re just being a little crotchety; it means a lot to the feelers lol. 

ENTP: You’re a genuinely fun person to be around and you usually rack up a reputation for that, but just because you’re funny and witty and damn smart doesn’t mean you don’t have feelings and problems that need to be externalized, and trust me, the right people will be more than willing to talk about what’s really happening in your life one minute and go back to elaborate jokes the next without a problem. Don’t stunt your emotional growth for the sake of brevity. 

INTP: It’s okay to not know what to do in an emotional situation. Like, it’s genuinely okay. If somebody’s opening up to you, half the time your presence and you listening is 95% of what they need in that moment. Don’t avoid the situations just because it causes writer’s block emotionally. Emotional availability comes with experience. You’ll learn. Just, be your goofy self and the rest will come with time. 

ENFJ: You’ve got to realize that although holding yourself to such a high standard is noble and praiseworthy, that it sometimes eclipses your ability to be a good friend when that was the goal in the first place. You’re human and can’t do everything for your friends that you’d want to be able to do when they need help, and profusely apologizing and beating yourself up for it just shifts the focus off of helping your friend and turns it to you. Accept your humanity, and just do what you can. They appreciate the help, I promise. 

INFJ: I know you have a tendency to feel misunderstood and want people to show you that they love you and care about you, but you don’t get to say you’re fine AND disappear on people. Either say you’re not okay and pull back, or say you’re okay and stick around long enough for somebody to see through the BS. In my experience, y'all have a habit of making things a self-fulfilling prophecy, and that doesn’t do you any good! Be forward, be honest, and just be vulnerable; they care more than you convince yourself they do. 

ESFJ: I need to be straight with y'all. Learn how to talk about something other than your 4-5 current fixations. In my experience, N’s have a crazy hard time being close with you because you keep bringing the topic back to one of your current Favorite Things™, whether it be the semester abroad you just got back from or the first date that’s scheduled for two weeks from now. Expand your area of interest and you’ll find people will be much more authentic with you. 

ISFJ: You have this really amazing ability to notice the small things about people and that helps you show them you care about them in these really great and meaningful ways, but you can’t let yourself overthink the small things you notice about people. One of my good ISFJ friends started poking around trying to see if alcoholism ran in my family after noticing I’d been drinking wine a lot recently. You might have an intention to help, but overthinking/overanalyzing like that and trying to involve yourself in helping can hurt your friendships. 

ESTJ: Your presence is powerful and intense and that’s great at times, but you’ve got to let out your goofy fun side more, and hoe we’ve all seen it before, you’re a damn riot after a beer or two. People, in general, care more about fun than having every plan go right during the night/event. Be willing to be fun more, you’re so good at it. 

ISTJ: I know you get frustrated with yourself because you want to do new things and get out there and be a fun person, but the thing is, you’re so much better at being a responsible, caring person. Befriend the chaotic, crazy, lovable rascals and let them bring the fun to you (or more often than not, drag you kicking and screaming to where the fun is). 

ENTJ: Look, I’m an INTJ, so I know how hard this is to swallow, but showing you care about a person sometimes isn’t so much giving them solutions to their problems or trying to correct an issue; a lot of the other types literally just want you to listen and hear them out. And you gotta do that sometimes, babe. And shut your damn mouth while they’re telling you everything, okay? Just. Let them finish. 

INTJ: For the love of all that is holy, just cry already. Cry alone if you have to, or better yet, just go to the person you’d literally murder a thousand people for and freakin’ cry about all the crap you’ve been bottling up for the past two months and accept that you can have razor-sharp rationale and be a damn human at the same time. And just admit that you’re insecure about your relationship with that person because you care about them so much and you’re not the best at trusting people.

Myers Briggs Types by Whether You Should Fight Them

ENFJ: Fight them, when the occasion calls for it. You will win, but only if you keep your emotions out of it. Where there are emotions, they have the power.

ENFP: FOR THE LOVE OF EVERYTHING WHY WOULD YOU FIGHT THEM??? Honestly their INT-x friends will kill you anyway, so back off.

INFJ: They are so pure, sometimes you will want to fight them, just to shake things up. But they are frustratingly dense in their goodness and won’t realize what you’re doing. They will probably try to comfort you as though you are the one who was fought.

INFP: Don’t. They’re soft and smol and you will feel bad about it afterwards.

ESFJ: Don’t even–just leave them. Leave them to themselves, and the worlds they have chosen to aggressively care for.

ESFP: You will die, but it will be worth it. Someone has to fight them. Someone has to stop them. But it’s like fighting the sun, so you will definitely die.

ISFP: Why would you fight them? Like the INFJ, they will not know what you are doing. They will laugh and send you memes instead, but kindly.

ISFJ: Sometimes you will want to, but you should not. They just want to garden in one way or another, so just hand them a rake and go find yourself an ESTP.

ESTJ: Fight them. Dear God, fight them. They are combative but unimaginative, and must be crushed.

ESTP: Trust me, you’ve already fought one.

ISTP: Ehh, don’t bother. They are unreadable and elusive. They are probably causing others to lowkey suffer, but it’s just not worth your time.

ISTJ: No. Do not fight them. You will lose. They are organized, efficient, and tireless. Fighting them will end in death by a thousand precise cuts.

ENTJ: You will want to fight them, and you should. But approach with care. They are the generals of society and will destroy you and your whole family if given an opportunity. Consult an INTJ.

ENTP: They can and must be fought. Prepare yourself; they are wily and full of memes, and they play dirty. Wait for them to prematurely triumph and go in for the kill-stroke.

INTP: You will want to fight them, but you will not know how.

INTJ: You fool.