Call Me By My Name Ch. 9 & 10

Rating: Mature

Category: F/F

Fandom: Supergirl (TV 2015)

Relationships:  Kara Danvers/Cat Grant

Additional Tags: Secret Identity, Boss/Employee Relationship, Age Difference, Pre-Relationship, Unresolved Sexual Tension, Beach Holidays

Chapter 9: Please, Kara  and  Chapter 10: Into the Light

Summary: For once, Cat needs Supergirl more than she needs Kara. But Cat doesn’t know if she’ll ever see either of them again.

Notes: Well, this is the end. Thanks to all my readers for coming along for the ride. Thank you too for your lovely comments and kudos.

I don’t have the words to express how grateful I am to my editor @kara-lesbihonest. I probably wouldn’t have continued this fic beyond Chapter 3 without their encouragement and feedback so ya’ll should be thankful too.

And my #stealthvag squad! How I love you, you wonderful, sinful, inspirational fuckers. This one’s for you.

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It was a moment that would forever be imprinted on Kara: the sharpness of Cat’s nails digging into her back, the throbbing heat of Cat against her leg, and the sight of those beautiful lips forming her name. She heard the dip and hiss of every note as it left Cat’s mouth: the lightly aspirated ‘k’, the rolling liquid ‘r’, the soft vibration of the vowels. In the air was the raw earthy scent of moss and the metallic tang of lightning. The familiar scent of Cat’s perfume - iris, cedar and sandalwood with a hint of vetiver - and the fainter aroma of Cat’s rain-soaked hair; they surrounded her, conquered her, a promise finally fulfilled.

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Chapter 1 here

Intimacy is often times mistaken as physical closeness alone: hugging, cuddling, kissing, sex. However, if there is no emotional intimacy (as in emotional relating) and a feeling of safety in a relationship, then physical intimacy can only go that far. In order to truly open up to a partner and go deep we need to feel safe and be able to share emotional intimacy, our fears, mistakes, and pains and receive each other with compassion and empathy. For many people physical intimacy comes easier than emotional intimacy. For others it is the other way around. Often times people avoid emotional intimacy by focusing on physical intimacy, using sex to buffer up their vulnerability.

In order to be emotionally intimate with a partner we need to be able to be intimate with ourselves, feeling our vulnerability without judgment and developing healthy self-love. If we are not comfortable with our own vulnerability, we cannot receive the vulnerability of another person fully and emotional intimacy is blocked. No matter how hot the sex and how great physical intimacy is, if we don’t develop or have emotional intimacy and the safety to express ourselves that way, a relationship can go only so far.

We need safety and healthy boundaries in order to establish intimacy on all levels. This safety is more than just feeling “secure” and boundaries don’t mean rejection or avoidance. It is about taking care of ourselves. Our body gives us constantly clues about what is safe for us and what is not. The more we are in touch with our bodies, the more we can receive these messages which also puts us in touch with our vulnerability. It’s important to listen to these bodily sensations which go deeper than just sexual feelings. Most often they are buried under layers of “armor”. It’s easy to rationalize these deeper sensations away, judging ourselves for not opening up when it doesn’t feel safe. Don’t listen to the mind, trust your body and don’t judge yourself for however you feel.

Emotional intimacy goes hand in hand with trust, knowing that we can be completely ourselves with all our vulnerability and always be received with compassion and empathy in a safe container by a partner. But before we can receive another person like that ourselves, or even express ourselves that way, we must be able to be compassionate with ourselves and love ourselves, the dark and light, neither inflating or diminishing ourselves.

Otherwise we will keep looking for the illusory partner, who never comes and whom we want to be a certain way, when in fact this is what we need to give to ourselves first. Sometimes we’re looking for a “saviour” in a partner unconsciously but it is a projection of what we have denied or avoided to give ourselves: healthy self-love, vulnerability and inner safety, being comfortable just being with ourselves. Before we can develop deeper trust with a partner, we need to be able to trust ourselves and the deeper clues our bodies are giving us.
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Bernhard Guenther

“Intimacy is no purely physical… it’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul.“