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Vetra: Our father didn’t die. Or maybe he did, we don’t really know. He just didn’t come home. He was involved in some bad things. Bad people. And eventually it caught up to him. There was no where to run. Not like a whole new galaxy.

Ryder: Is that why you came here? 

Vetra: When you’re young and stupid, you make bad decisions. Piss off the wrong people. That sorta thing never goes away. Not for you, not for the ones you care about.

I can’t help but think there’s a hell of a story behind this vague admission from Vetra Nyx. 

By her own acknowledgement, her dad got up to bad things with bad people, and so did she. Maybe she caught herself making his mistakes, the ones that might be the end of her just like it was the end of him. Once she was embedded in the life, maybe she started to see the warning signs in her own life that he missed, or ignored, or both - and she gets scared.

But what exactly happened? What were her bad decisions? Does she have people after her for her bad decisions? She was dealing with people bad enough that when she figured out that Kesh was supplying something big in a new galaxy, far away from her bad decisions, she saw the opportunity to cut and run.

Some folks like Suvi, Gil, and Liam are here for the adventure, but Vetra tells us several times, in several different ways how she sees Andromeda as a way to start over. 

The concept stands in stark contrast to her “you play the hand you’re dealt” motto. Does she delineate between the hand she’s been dealt and the cards she pulled from the deck? Taking care of Sid was the hand she was dealt, but not the smuggling or the people she chose to work with.

Does she ever tell Ryder about what happened, you think? About the bad people and the bad decisions? Maybe it’s something that she unloads one night as Ryder and she stay up late, sharing more and more personal stories, feeling out the depths of their trust in one another. A story not told for sympathy or advice, a story just shared, a history entrusted.

Vetra Nyx - what did you get up to out there in the Milky Way?

The Eight Function Attitudes

Extraverted Sensing: Acts on concrete data from here and now. Trusts the present, then lets it go.


Introverted Sensing: Compares present facts and experiences to past experience. Trusts the past. Stores sensory data for future use.


Extraverted Intuition: Sees possibilities in the external world. Trusts flashes from the unconscious, which can then be shared with others.


Introverted Intuition: Looks at consistency of ideas and thoughts with an internal framework. Trusts flashes from the unconscious, which may be hard for others to understand.


Extraverted Thinking: Seeks logic and consistency in the outside world. Concern for external laws and rules.


Introverted Thinking: Seeks internal consistency and logic of ideas. Trusts his or her internal framework, which may be difficult to explain to others.


Extraverted Feeling: Seeks harmony with and between people in the outside world. Interpersonal and cultural values are important.


Introverted Feeling: Seeks harmony of action and thoughts with personal values. May not always articulate those values.

About Ajin and AV’s delicate feelios

I want to explain why I love Ajin because it’s quite personally important to me and while my immediate social circle has heard me talk about this quite a bit in the last few days, ya’ll haven’t. In fact, most of you probably haven’t even heard about this manga.

But to talk about it means spoiling a (fairly early) reveal of the manga. It’s not a big deal to be spoiled for it probably, but I wasn’t. So I’ll start with just the Impersonal Deets for those of you who might like to go in unspoiled.


Ajin’s premise is that of a world wherein within the last generation, humanity has discovered that there are ajin/demi-humans living among them. Demi-humans are in a lot of ways no different than regular humans, except that they can’t die. They don’t have super strength, they aren’t a different species in the sense that ajin parents have ajin children (not as far as we know, anyway), they can summon cool ghosts with limited abilities and if they die they will return to life within seconds, unharmed.

You don’t find out you are a demi-human until you die once, but demi-humans are considered nonhumans with no rights and society is quick to turn on them.

Ajin’s focus is primarily on a ruthlessly efficient exploration of the world dynamics it’s established around the powers of demi-humans and how they operate. It is really fun, because so many manga see the solution to whatever problem they set up as more strength, cooler super powers. Ajin is much more interested in playing chess with a pre-established and limited number of pieces.

Think about it: normal humans who don’t regenerate from any injury unless they die, but WILL come back from any kind of death. How do you stop such a person and how do they make themselves harder to stop? Incapacitate them, okay. But if you injure them, can’t they then just kill themselves to recover from any injury? Knock them out then, but not too hard or they might die, and then you’re back to square one. Or tranq them, but careful not to cause an OD. Or, kill them repeatedly so they can’t move. Long enough to get them in restraints that a human can’t escape.

So then you have them, what do you do with them? What does an undying body that will regenerate any lost body parts upon death mean to what group of people? What would a government organization do with such a thing? What about a criminal one? What about a scientific one? What about a corporation?

What is the value of an undying body, and to who, how do you extract that value from it? And if YOU are unable to die, what do you do with it? Do you fight, knowing that death isn’t an option as a release from your war if you lose? Do you hide? Do you go on a power trip? Do you see more or less value in life overall?

Ajin is largely a systematic exploration of these questions and dozens of others extrapolated through a very simple premise and lived by a group of amoral and largely un-empathetic characters.

It’s terribly smart, pretty fast paced, and absolutely dedicated to its premise.

Character wise, you may care about about 3 or 4 people, as long as you aren’t bothered by No One Is Actually Very Good and Almost No One Scores Higher Than A 3.5 out of 10 On Giving A Fuck About Other Human Beings.

It actually has some of my favorite character writing ever, but I don’t have an issue with a cast of low empathy assholes.

For warnings other than that:

Bad at remembering women exist. For the majority of the manga there is Only One Actually Relevant Female Character. Weirdly also has some of the best writing I’ve ever seen for a tertiary female character. There isn’t any fanservice, the author just seems to forget women exist outside of very specific tropes, but does write those tropes well. Seems to be improving slowly. I believe in him on this front more than I believe in Kojima.

The writing in the first four chapters is Not Good. It’s very trope heavy, contrived, and nonspecific. I didn’t find it painful but I did roll my eyes a lot and it set a really low bar, haha. Then artist takes over the job of writing as well, and there is pretty immediate improvement in both art and writing over the course of the manga. Has some fantastic scenes. Possibly the best mother character I’ve ever seen?? Also has one of the best versions I’ve ever seen of a specific villain trope.

Don’t watch the anime, read the manga. It’s available legally online via Crunchyroll and Comixology.

Now if you’re like. GOSH AV, SEEMS INTERESTING, BUT IT’S WEIRD YOU HAVE SAID BASICALLY NOTHING ABOUT CHARACTERS.

Well friend that’s because Ajin also has perhaps one of my favorite protagonists of all time but I can’t tell you why without spoiling the first uuh. 17ish? Chapter of the manga. (it’s monthly so that’s about the first 3rd of what is out now).

So if you want to know more than I THINK NAGAI KEI IS THE BEST EVER AND YOU SHOULD READ HIS MANGA. Continue under the cut:

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the-organized-enfp  asked:

Hey, I probably have enfp as my type. I wonder if you could Analyze me in how far I am in each of my pros and cons of being an enfp

{ INTJ }

Sure! I visited your blog (I love it btw) and I think you’re an ENFJ because of one thing…

Originally posted by rindoukahn

THERE’S 

SO

MUCH

FE

ENFJ
Value interpersonal harmony. Will care for others long before need is articulated. Value social norms. 

This is manifested by Fe, which is Extraverted Feeling. 

Extraverted Feeling is the dominant function in ESFJs and ENFJs. It is the secondary function in ISFJs and INFJs. Extraverted Feelers tend to enjoy helping out others. They like being useful, supportive, and encouraging. 

I think your dominant function is Fe, because I noticed that you do enjoy helping out others. Your posts fit all the description of being useful, supportive and encouraging. Here’s one of your blog post that shows an excellent use of Fe.

“Through my adolescent years I noticed that I enjoyed motivating and inspiring people, that I love self improvement and that I’m fascinated by psychology.The last couple of months I’ve been working on those topics and I really want to keep track of the things I have learned.” @r-zoet

And here’s a lovely poem from you that again shows the strong use of Fe.

“The only thing
I really want
is simply to spread happiness

Can you imagine?
Everyone being happy
living united
loving each other” @r-zoet

And the vibes you gave off are really ENFJ to me I’m sorry I just don’t know how to explain that! And I think it’s cool that you are one. I admire ENFJs a lot (having one ENFJ friend) and they’re like the kindest, the nicest, the most considerate of all Feeling types to me, even more than INFP and ENFP. 

Because the difference is whilst the other Feeling have the intention to do good, ENFJs desire to make it happen and not just for their small group of people, but for the whole world by making small changes at a time. Your blog is such a good example to show that and I think everyone should visit it. ( link ) 

I’m sorry that I couldn’t list down the pros and cons of being those two types, or how far you are being both. I lack of the knowledge and understanding to give you a comprehensive guide (but I’m super positive you’re an ENFJ from your blog and the vibes you gave off - also after asking my friends who are into MBTI.)

But to make up for it, I’ll give you list of materials you can do and learn from.

So here’s your assignment:

Then work it from there. 

Here’s the last reminder - to find other stereotypes, posts by other types relatable doesn’t make you less an ENFJ. It just makes you a human who is born with all the functions, but given a preferences in which which functions you want to use. Even if you do feel like you’re acting like an ENFP, ENTP or any other types - your preferences (in functions) remain. It’s like preferring strawberries over other fruits and eating oranges doesn’t make you less a strawberry fan, you know? 

crucialandinert  asked:

Would you want to write what happens when Richard gets there? I'm about half done unpacking

Sorry this took ages -


“Every time I’ve moved people brought pizza and beer, so.” Richard, less than half an hour after being invited, stands at the door holding out a square cardboard box and a six pack. “Here’s pizza and beer.”

“Welcome to my new abode, Richard!”

“It’s… bigger.” Richard Hendricks is not very eloquent. That is - he is eloquent, but only when angry and provoked. Then he can wield an analogy or two. Even a metaphor. But the rest of the time he seems generally bewildered by anything that involves talking.

He wanders further into the condo, until he’s standing in the middle of the boxes in the dining room/living room. He’s wearing, Jared notices, a striped sweater that brings out both his eyes and his hair. Richard can be very physically appealing, sometimes. He’s a catch.

“Yes! It is bigger than my previous condo.” Normally Jared would give Richard a tour, but half the doors are blocked by boxes, so he just lists the rooms instead. “There’s a kitchen, dining room-slash-living room, bedroom, office, bathroom, and a second bedroom.”

“A second bedroom? Looking for a roommate, there, Jared?”

“Perhaps.” he says, shrugging. He’d taken the condo because it was a solid investment, truth be told. “I haven’t ruled it out.”

Richard runs a hand over some boxes. When he speaks, he doesn’t look Jared in the eye. “D'you… do you think you and I could be roommates?”

The violence of Jared’s reaction genuinely surprises him. He can feel his response to Richard’s words right in the middle of his chest. He’s been through too much.

“No - no, Richard. That is - utterly inappropriate. I - last year I shared a living space with you out of the purest of intentions, out of solidarity, Richard, and it was exciting, yes, but it ended painfully and here I am attempting to create healthy boundaries and - and I’m doing it for you, Richard, for… for the sustainable development of our working relationship, of our interpersonal relationship, for -”

“For our interpersonal relationship, Jared?”

He watches Richard take a few steps towards him, until they’re near enough to touch. Jared thought he knew Richard, but he did not anticipated this. “Yes, Richard. Our interpersonal relationship. I - I value your friendship too much to -”

“I see the way you look at me, Jared.”

Jared doesn’t know what happened to make Richard want a new place to live, but whatever it is… well. Richard Hendricks cannot cope with being told he can’t do something, to the point of forgetting about everything else. Including Jared’s boundaries. Including Jared’s feelings. Including every plea that Jared has made that Richard not behave like a reckless child.

“Richard.” When Jared speaks, his voice is low and steady. He probably sounds like he’s playing a character, but he isn’t. “Richard, I’m going to do us both a favour and forget that you just implied that you would seduce me to get my guest bedroom, if, in exchange, you leave immediately.”

anonymous asked:

Hi there! I'm really unsure if I'm an intj or an infj, could you give me any insight to how I can decide? Thanks! <3

Hello lovely!

Like I said before, I’ve personally found the best way to determine your MBTI type is taking a look at the different type’s cognitive functions and deciding which ones you relate to the most.

In your case, INTJ/INFJ, the cognitive function possibilities are:

(function descriptions taken from http://www.myersbriggs.org)

INTJ:

-Ni (introverted intuition)

Looks at consistency of ideas and thoughts with an internal framework. Trusts flashes from the unconscious, which may be hard for others to understand.

-Te (extroverted thinking)

Seeks logic and consistency in the outside world. Concern for external laws and rules.

-Fi (introverted feeling)

Seeks harmony of action and thoughts with personal values. May not always articulate those values.

-Se (extroverted sensing)

Acts on concrete data from here and now. Trusts the present, then lets it go.

INFJ:

-Ni (introverted intuition)

Looks at consistency of ideas and thoughts with an internal framework. Trusts flashes from the unconscious, which may be hard for others to understand.

-Fe (extroverted feeling)

Seeks harmony with and between people in the outside world. Interpersonal and cultural values are important.

-Ti (introverted thinking)

Seeks internal consistency and logic of ideas. Trusts his or her internal framework, which may be difficult to explain to others.

-Se (extroverted sensing)

Acts on concrete data from here and now. Trusts the present, then lets it go.

Hope this helped!

-Elena

Sometimes I think I’m crazy because I’m sad for no reason. I can still get up and go to work and uni but everything feels like a worry in my head . It’s cliche maybe to worry to much or to really overthink things but I feel like I’m constantly in overdrive thinking about things I say and how they might come across as insensitive or arrogant and it makes me feel worse. I’m trying to remember that this is positive learning ..To take into account for being more considerate in the future, and that I value my interpersonal relationships enough to want to make them better

But some days it’s really difficult. I am grateful to be in a good relationship both with my friends and romantically and I’m making work in some sort of direction but I suppose success isn’t proportionate to mental stability so whatever

The eight function attitudes

Se: Acts on concrete data from here and now. Trusts the present, then lets it go.

Si: Compares present facts and experiences to past experience. Trusts the past. Stores sensory data for future use.

 Ne: Sees possibilities in the external world. Trusts flashes from the unconscious, which can then be shared with others.

 Ni: Looks at consistency of ideas and thoughts with an internal framework. Trusts flashes from the unconscious, which may be hard for others to understand.

 Te: Seeks logic and consistency in the outside world. Concern for external laws and rules.

 Ti: Seeks internal consistency and logic of ideas. Trusts his or her internal framework, which may be difficult to explain to others.

 Fe: Seeks harmony with and between people in the outside world. Interpersonal and cultural values are important.

 Fi: Seeks harmony of action and thoughts with personal values. May not always articulate those values.

You guys ever realized that Teru is the best choice for Dimple's meat shield?

Dimple needs to find a way to perusade Mob in a pacifist (sort of) and convincing way, so he uses the people closest to Mob’s heart: the main characters respectively. Since those guys play the most important roles in Mob’s life and the ones who pretty much been with his struggles (most of it) with psychic powers and people; Reigen as his mentor, Ritsu as his brother/family, Dimple as his guide, and Teru as his friend. These people act as Mob’s support (admittedly, BIC also plays a role but it’s kinda obvious ONE made them secondary characters but they’re important nonetheless).

This Arc is important in portraying Mob’s growth, ONE did say that Mob is truly weak and that he’s lucky to have strong people support him (both literally and figuratively). It also parallels Hanazawa, LOL, and a bit of Mogami arcs. The TeruMob rematch, Dimple being Mob’s enemy, and the latter being in a situation where he can’t rely on anyone.

Teru’s role significantly became major currently compared to other arcs. His only vital roles was in Hanazawa arc, Infiltration arc, and CLAW arc. He played a minor role in Separation arc. Maybe this arc shows Teru’s importance to Mob and his growth and perhaps character development.

Now this’ll show if Mob has truly grown; on will he be able to handle the situation on his own. If he had grown, he won’t be persuaded by the people he cared about through feelings of guilt and being left out of the group and continues to keep his ground.

Like I said, Dimple needs a meat shield because he can’t risk talking Mob vis-a-vis else he’ll be exorcised (a coward, that booger is). And the best choice is someone close to his heart (thus brainwashing Tsubomi, Reigen, and Ritsu), because Mob values interpersonal relationships more than anything and these people are very influential to him. If they would ever going ruin their relationship with him because of his actions, Mob will attempt to fix this. However, there is a possibility Mob is going to use brute force, he needs someone who can go toe on toe with Mob but simultaneously close to him and very persuasive.

Reigen’s out of the question, since he can’t fight for shit and when he talked to Mob it didn’t work. Using Tsubomi will cause Mob to explode. The same applies to Ritsu, and he’s not even on Mob’s level. If the latter would ever hurt his brother, Dimple won’t be able to reason with Mob and he’s out. So, Dimple’s last resort and only choice is Teru; powerful? Yes. Close to Mob? Yes. Does Mob rely on him? Yes. Since fightingTeru won’t trigger Mob’s 100% quickly; he’ll try to snap him out of it first, giving Dimple many opportunities to convert Mob. If Teru would ever lose to Mob (I doubt Mob is going to fight him tbh), Dimple can twist Mob’s guilt to dissuade him on opposing him.

If Mob has truly grown, he won’t fight Teru. Nor get convinced. Will he be break when the people he cares about turns against him and be swept away? Or will he be strong, and remain frigid like a rock in the middle of a powerful river? Will Mob be strong enough to stand alone? Or would he crave being one with the crowd, thus being convinced?

ONE-sensei is truly amazing at giving hints and plot factors. I can’t wait for the next chapter!

i feel like a lot of times when desirability gets brought up as a point of conversation it gets interpreted as boiled down to an individual experience or merely abt the frequency with which culturally ugly folks have sex, or the access to sex partners we have which, sure, is a part of the conversation but it is not THE conversation, and this becomes a very easy way for folks to shut the conversation down, by framing us as somehow ungrateful or greedy or demanding or entitled.

but our desire and desirability is not just about who we do or want to have sex with, or who or how often people want to have sex with us. it informs how we treat people in the larger world

i went out with a friend who is a woman and also fat a few weeks ago. the person behind the counter was a very thin gay man who, i felt, was visibly and obviously made uncomfortable or disgusted by my size and actively avoided making eye contact with me, or looking at me at all. because my fatness has trained me to gauge other peoples reactions to my body, to see where their eyes go– whether they make great efforts to avoid mine, or linger a little bit too long as they slowly read my body was silent disapproval. i notice. when we left, my friend commented on how cute and friendly he was to her, and i told her my experience with him. she was offended on my behalf and asked what i thought abt his character as a person– like if i thought he was exceptionally rude or a terrible person. i just responded that his actions were perfectly common and absolutely in line with social power. it would be easy to dismiss these encounters as individualistic and down to scenarios, but these are the structures that shape our lives. this is the way we are taught to treat those who we are taught are undesirable (even if we do, in fact, desire them), and we are supported in it.

there was a time recently when i was struggling with hearing abt my queer male friends’ sex and dating lives. i dont want to struggle with it, and i want to be there for my friends. i have been trying to figure out where these feelings come from and how there can be space for all of our feelings and experiences. what i have realized is that it isn’t just about hearing how many people someone goes home with from a bar, or what kind of attention another gets on sex and dating apps that i don’t. while those things hurt as a stark reminder of our different experiences and the ways that we are differently (and, in my case, less) valued in queer community. it is also that they can disappear whenever this becomes a bigger aspect of their lives, that our friendship remains dependent on the ebb and flow of their sexual capital, where mine remains stagnant. this is a way that desirability politics are replicated in intimate relationships– a phrase i use intentionally to highlight the intimacy of friendships. where i make efforts (and sometimes, too, fail) at treating my friends like lovers as a political act to disrupt the hierarchy of romance in our lives on principle, in many ways it also because these are the relationships that sustain me where i cannot count on a lover, or even the potential of one, to in the same ways. i also do not believe that this is specific to queer male relationships and they are not the only context in which i have felt this particular kind of abandonment in the name of sex or love. and to a certain extent i have been guilty of this myself at times, for i am not above replicating these hierarchies, these politics, as much as i try to be conscious of them. the fact remains that these structures of desire inform how we treat even those most valuable to us.

regardless of who are or wanting to have sex with– or if we want to have a sex with– sexuality remains an undercurrent how we value and honor people and are treated in the larger world. this is where the focal point of conversations about desirability should be. it remains important to me to interrogate desire– not to then become attracted to everyone, but to be aware of what powers are informing my desire and what i am upholding with my desire– but also so that culturally ugly folks who remain publicly and visibly undesired can still receive the justice of interpersonal value and appreciation.

anonymous asked:

I am very new to writing and literature thing (My calling has always been Psychology until a sudden change of heart for fiction writing). I just seem to really struggle with creating a character voice, in my dialog. Do you have any tips to help give my characters their own voice?

Put that interest in psychology to good use! One of the most useful tools in your writer’s toolbox when it comes to writing in someone else’s voice is understanding how the mind works. 

For example, someone who comes from a more unstable background - for example, someone who didn’t have a good family environment as a kid, who moved around a lot and never had a strong support system - is going to be on the lookout for risks regardless of the environment they’re in. 

They are less likely to be able to easily connect with other people, and when they do make connections they’re still going to emphasize self-reliance over asking for help or working as a part of a team. In terms of the way they speak - whether out loud or in their own head - they’re going to be a lot more likely to hold back their opinions, insecurities, fears - even their positive emotions. 

On the flip side, a character from a very secure environment may be a bit more open and honest with their feelings, and expect others to be completely open with them. They will probably look for commonalities - things they can use to make a connection - rather than things that may indicate risk or danger. They’re going to take security for granted, and will likely place security lower in their list of priorities than relationship-building with others. 

To use yet another HP example, consider the differences between Harry and Ron. Harry is honestly surprised when people want to build relationships, whereas relationships are natural for Ron. Harry places a stronger value on interpersonal relationships (having had no experience with them prior to heading to Hogwarts) while Ron takes these kinds of relationships for granted and often places a stronger value on fame or notoriety (as a result of being the youngest son in a fairly accomplished family). 

You can see a lot of this in the way they act and interact with one another. Harry has a snarky sense of humor, whereas Ron is a bit more blunt. Ron also openly teases as a way of showing friendship (”Ah, two Neptunes. ‘Tis a sure sign that a midget in glasses is being born,”) but it would be fairly shocking to see Harry making this kind of joke. Makes sense, as Harry would be a bit more worried about potentially alienating people.

Oh look at that, I wrote an essay again :) 

art goals
  • makes viewers gay
  • forces viewers to confront the gender binary personally 
  • makes viewers value interpersonal intimacy
  • entices viewers to fight the establishment, systematic corruption, and j.k. rowling