Sending out love to every single babe who follows me, who doesn’t follow, who’s loud, who’s quiet, who continues to push boundaries and kick major ass in life. you’re all beautiful, you matter and i’m proud of you. ♀#internationalwomensday
“While Outlander is a brilliant period show, Claire represents so many qualities of a 20th-century modern-day woman, someone who is forging her own path, fighting for what she believes, and doing so with integrity,” Balfe said in a statement to press Monday. Elaborating exclusively to Vanity Fair, she added, “Right now it’s a very important time to stand up and voice our beliefs and reiterate that we are 50 percent of the population … that we have a voice and we need to use it. Even though Claire is a woman from the 40s, I think that she does have a resonance today. We need to stand up for our b e l i e f s and our r i g h t s , and I think she embodies that kind of spirit.”
“…getting to play Claire was an absolute dream. She is strong-willed and, not perfect, but a survivor and a fighter, and I think that is such a great place to go to in your work every day—to play someone who has such resilience. It can only make you feel better about everything in your life. I feel very grateful to be able to go to work every day and play her.”
~ Caitriona Balfe on Why Outlander’s Caitriona Balfe Hopes Women Take a Cue from Claire Fraser, Vanity Fair
i work at a daycare/day camp thing with six and seven year olds
-*points to my ring* are you married?
me: how to i explain that i am 16 and im dating a piece of shit
-“are you a boy or a girl?”
me: what makes you think im a boy or a girl?
kid: you have short hair!
me: girls can have short hair!
me internally: gender is an illusion my children
-*kid pickpockets the radio from my coworkers pocket and presses the button* “can we order pizza?”
-me: our craft today is making snakes out of paper!
kid: CAN MINE BE POISONOUS
other kid: can it bite me i want to go home
other other kid: i got bit by a python once
other other other kid: yeah sure craig
-i herd the kids outside and they all hang out by the door waiting to go inside. when i ask them why they say that its hot out. its only 84 degrees
-me, to my coworker: oh i get off in ten minutes
ten minutes later: “REY IS LEAVING EVERYONE TACKLE HER OR HIM” (they didn’t believe me when i told them i was a ‘girl’ so now use “her or him” when referring to me. i dont correct them because they are on the right track)
First everybody complained about us “not having hair”
Then when we “got hair” y'all complained about us wearing weave
Now that black women are going natural and using neat products to maintain their natural hair, y'all complain that you’re “sick of all these Shea Butter bitches” and this “sudden, obviously fake black pride”
So after much thought and deep contemplation my only conclusion is
FUCK ALL you bigoted ankh niggas who think “the black wombman” should be chaste while you got 7 kids with six different mothers, FUCK ALL you barbershop “I only date white/light skin girls” ass niggas with your weak ass fades, FUCK ALL you white fuckboys who chase after girls with fake lips breasts and asses but call black women “hoes” for having that shit naturally, FUCK ALL you asian/hispanic fuckboys who want to sleep with black/dark girls but would never even think about bringing one home to your family because we’re not “good enough” for you, FUCK ALL you fake AllLivesMatter feminists who stan for Taylor Swift and her basic lanky ass or yell “Vote Hillary” but went mum’s the word as a 14-year old black child was dragged across the pavement by her HAIR since it’s “not really hers anyway so it probably doesn’t even hurt that bad”, just 100% royally and sincerely FUCK ALL YALL because you never once gave a damn about black women but at the same time wanna police our hair and bodies and self-conduct when you yourselves ain’t shit never was shit and never will be shit
This post came about after watching Louise Pentland’s video on it which you can watch here. also happy international women’s day to all my lovely lil ladies
It wasn’t until I watched Louise’s video that I realised how much I apologise for myself. I apologise for the state of my hair, I apologise for not looking my best, I apologise if someone bumps into me, I apologise is my handwriting’s a little messier than usual, I apologise for my anxiety - that I have little to no control over, I apologise for taking up space; I apologise for everything, really.
I say things like ‘I’m sorry if I’m being annoying’ or ‘I’m sorry you had to deal with me like that’ or ‘I’m sorry that my hair’s a mess’ or ‘I’m sorry I talk too much’ or ‘I’m sorry I rambled’ or ‘I’m sorry I’m me’ or ‘I’m sorry I laugh too loud’. I apologise for everything.
I’ve conditioned myself to apologise for me. My entire existence, I have apologised for. A lot of you probably do the same and it’s something that we really need to stop.
You don’t need to apologise for how you look, you don’t need to justify an outfit you’re wearing, you don’t need to apologise for your anxiety or if you have spots, you don’t need to apologise if you ran out the house without make up on or your hair up, you don’t need to apologise if you get excited about something and talk a lot, you don’t need to apologise for asking questions…
Stop apologising for yourself.
You are this incredibly unique person, you have so much potential inside you. Stars burn bright behind your eyes and fire floods your veins. So stop apologising for yourself. You deserve to treat yourself better. You deserve to hold your head up and say, ‘Yeah I got out of bed and I might not look like Kylie Jenner but I’m me and that’s okay. I’m not going to apologise for that.’ instead of ‘Oh I’m sorry I look a mess… slept in today’. No. You deserve to live a life without apologising for things like that. You deserve to live a life where you can be you and look how you look and you deserve to be okay with that.
Um can we all recognize that there is a clear hierarchy in the natural hair community that is dictated by anti-blackness? Notice how many notes a picture of a woman with 3a-c hair, or even 4a hair gets vs a pic with 4b/c hair. Curly trumps kinky every time. Not only that, but there is an unhealthy obsession with “long” natural hair. The bigger the better. Remember in grade school when girls with short hair would be called “ball headed”? That short snap of hair is associated with blackness, with ugliness, with not being feminine. We’d rather be Pocahontas. We’d rather be Alicia Keys. Elongating gels, methods to stretch hair, obsessions with growth rate, all rooted in our fears of looking too black with our natural hair. Fight me if you want, but examine yourself first.