What's the difference between 'experiencing' and 'feeling' race or gender? Womanhood, according to the majority of the world's population, is having a vagina. Being a woman is therefore, largely not a feeling or a choice. It's a biological reality in the same way that having dark skin is. Similarly, being black is having dark skin. But this is different in other cultures. For the example, northern Sudanese don't identify as black. But this small population doesn't make 'black' a self identify.