Things I want white mentally ill people to acknowledge (that is if they genuinely care about wanting to be allies. Those that are blatantly racist will ignore this regardless of what I say, lol): 

  • yes, mental illness can and does affect everyone. but no, the way mental illness is diagnosed and treated does not fall along equal lines. like physical health and physical medical care, it is delineated by race, class, and gender, which means people of color, particularly working-class people of color, have the least access to mental health care and resources. 
  • yes, ableism is a problem, and we need to avoid it at all costs, but calling out and criticizing racism is not ableist. assuming that all people of color are neurotypical is both racist AND ableist. finally, using mental illness as an excuse to be racist is rife with ableism itself because you posit that mentally ill people are inherently going to be bigoted (and you also ignore the intersection of race and mental health). 
  • on that note, using your mental illness and past traumatic experiences as political currency is awful, especially when you’re using it to justify your own racism. people of color making jokes about white people is not ableist. people of color refusing to engage with your racism is not ableist. people of color calling you out for your racism is not ableist. people of color using terms that are specific to their racial/ethnic groups is not ableist. people of color prioritizing each other is not ableist. finally, pretending that only white people can be victims of trauma is incredibly racist. 
  • acknowledge that because of white supremacy, people of color are at a higher risk for mental illness and trauma while also contending with little to no federal help or attention and with under-diagnosis. acknowledge that culturally and racially specific programs for mental health are necessary because the way kids of color deal with mental health is very different from how white kids deal with it. culture is very much a part of mental health and mental illness. 
  • sociological and academic terms like “white guilt”, “white sociopathy”, “white anxiety”, and “white delusion” are NOT ableist terms. those are very specific terms used to describe systemic phenomenon - that white people do not see people of color as human, and thus are unable to empathize with us, they project their own guilt onto us in often violent ways, and they manifest their inherent hatred and fear of us in violent ways. you cannot be a good racial ally if you hate these terms or think that they don’t apply to you. i hate to break it to you, but they apply to all white people. 
  • on that note, but opening your mouth and screaming “ableist! this information is inaccessible!” the minute a woman of color uses specific sociological terms to describe racism is fraught with racialized misogyny. women of color have to do far more to succeed in academic spaces whereas white people, and yes even white mentally ill people, don’t have to contend with those obstacles. and obviously rhetoric should be accessible - that is absolutely right - but blaming women of color for using terms that rich white neurotypical men came up with and popularized is ridiculous. especially because women of color are not taken seriously whether they’re being angry and “unacademic” or whether they’re being academic and “pretentious”. 
  • if you don’t see the trauma enacted by white supremacy as an actual form of trauma, you’re racist. things like weathering and intergenerational trauma exist and those are specific forms of trauma caused by RACISM. 
  • cry-typing when you’re called out for being racist, saying that you don’t have the “spoons” to talk about or learn about racism, saying that posts about racism cause you “anxiety” or “trigger” you, blatantly ignoring vile acts of racism because “um sweetie i don’t have to discuss this because my mental health is more important than your marginalization”, “being racist is my coping mechanism” or contrasting and juxtaposing yourself as “fragile/naive/soft/innocent/gentle” against “mean/aggressive/snobby/pretentious/scary” people of color is incredibly racist. white people have been conceptualizing people of color as scary and brutal and aggressive for centuries. congratulations on reinforcing your own racist socialization by dressing it up with some faux-progressive sjw mental health rhetoric! 

#NoDAPL marches and other protests set for DC, LA and NYC this weekend

  • On Friday, activists across the country will begin protesting and rallying in Washington, D.C., to “demand that indigenous rights be respected” over the construction of the Dakota Access pipeline on the Standing Rock Sioux Reservation.
  • Other activists will also be marching and rallying for and against other causes in Washington, D.C., Los Angeles and New York City. Here’s what is happening this weekend:

Los Angeles

#NoDAPL #NoKXL National March
Friday, March 10, 11 a.m. to 5 p.m. PST, Pershing Square

Trump is taking away the peoples victories against these deadly pipelines!
Disregarding the sovereignty of Native People and the safety of the fresh water for millions of people.

We are calling for all the environmental organizations and individuals to help bring out the masses and demonstrate our opposition to both of these pipelines and the censoring of climate change facts.

It’s time for the people to invest in renewable energy! Its time to respect the treaties! Its time for the people to come out in force!

Washington, D.C.

Native Nations Rise: Rise With Standing Rock
Friday, March 10, 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. EST, National Mall

The Standing Rock Sioux Tribe and indigenous grassroots leaders call on our allies across the United States and around the world to peacefully March on Washington, D.C.

We ask that you rise in solidarity with indigenous peoples across the world and demand that indigenous rights be respected. This is not about one tribe but all Native nations. 

Standing Rock and Native peoples from across Turtle will lead a march in prayer and action in Washington, D.C. on March 10, 2017.

No Nazis in D.C.: Protest Richard Spencer’s Neo-Nazi Think Tank
Saturday, March 11, 12 p.m. to 5 p.m. EST, Market Square Fountain

“Alt-right” Neo Nazi Richard Spencer recently opened an office of his white supremacist think tank the National Policy Institute in Alexandria, Virginia. We will rally together to show these nazis that they are NOT welcome in our community, that their perverted, violent racist ideology has no place in our society and that they should prepare to meet coordinated, powerful peaceful resistance should they try to operate in Washington, D.C.

Join us as we will rally in Market Square in Old Town Alexandria, right down the street from their new office building. We’re working on finalizing a program of speeches and performances from local political leaders, activists and artists. We are deeply committed to fostering intersectional resistance and an intersectional program for this event — so if you are a resident of D.C., Virginia or Maryland and are a member of a marginalized group and want to speak out against Richard Spencer, the neo-nazi “alt-right” or any other issue important in your community, please send this event a message.

District of Love March
Saturday, March 11, 10:30 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. EST,
, Emery Recreation Center

Join us on Saturday, March 11, as we march and celebrate with local artists, musicians and community members to celebrate our diverse neighborhoods. Featuring musical acts Elena y Los Fulanos, Lilo, Ethiopian Dance and many more!

The Love March seeks to support diversity and inclusion in our community. We will march on Saturday March 11 not downtown, but right through some of D.C.’s most diverse communities along Georgia Ave. NW starting at Georgia and Madison St. NW at the Emery Rec. Center and marching down to U St. ending at the African-American Civil War Memorial Site. 

We will be making pledges to support local, small, especially minority-owned businesses, connecting to local organization who already work to support diversity and inclusion in our communities and discussing the important work ahead to maintain diversity as a source of strength in D.C. and how we can make it clear to all of our neighbors that “whoever you are, wherever you’re from, we stand together as neighbors.”

Concerned Citizens For LGBT Safety and Rights
Sunday, March 12, 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. EDT, Lafayette Square

The LGBT community is very vulnerable right now. This march is to rally behind the community and promote safety for the LGBT community, as well as promote preservation of the right to live a happy life with dignity. Assembly will be at Lafayette Square right across from the White House off Pennsylvania Avenue between 15th Street, N.W. and 17th Street, N.W. at 10:00 a.m. March will begin promptly at 10:45 up to Logan Circle where a short rally will take place and information pamphlets will be available.

San Francisco

Native Nations March
Friday, March 10, 5 to 9 p.m. PST, San Francisco Federal Building

Idle No More SF Bay and tribal nations in the west are in solidarity with the Standing Rock Sioux Tribe and indigenous grassroots leaders who are calling on our allies across the United States and around the world to peacefully march for Native American rights on March 10. We ask that you rise in solidarity with the indigenous peoples of the world whose rights protect Mother Earth for the future generations of all.

The march will begin at 5:00 p.m. at the Federal Building at 7th & Mission. There will be a short rally there before the march to the Civic Center. The rally at the Civic Center will include a traditional California indigenous opening with Corrina Gould, speakers on the history of Native Americans and the federal government, Native American leaders, and others.

New York City

Women in Rebellion! To Resist is Justified! Unite to Fight Trump
Saturday, March 11, 12 to 2 p.m. EST, Herald Square

“Women Rise & Organize” intergenerational and international roundtable at 2 p.m.

Solidarity Center (147 W 24th St. between 6th and 7th Avenues). Free refreshments and child care. All genders and gender preferences are welcome. Bring your banners, signs and noise makers.

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“Somos las nietas de todas las brujas que nunca pudiste quemar” // “We’re the granddaughters of all the witches you never managed to burn at the stake”

Diseñado y distribuido por la Organización Autónoma de Mujeres y el Colectivo de Mujeres Libertarias Las Imillas, ambas agrupaciones de Cochabamba, Bolivia // Designed and distributed by the Autonomous Organization of Women and the anarchist women’s collective Las Imillas, both of which are based in Cochabamba, Bolivia

Paredes que Hablan // Walls that Talk

La Paz, Bolivia

Foto por La nepantlerA // Photo taken by La nepantlerA


Spring Break 2017

In a continued effort to spend time together and focus on each other, we spent our time away from school in Gulf Shores, AL. Although it was a little early for the season, the beach was beautiful and there was enough fun to find!

With an original plan to leave on a Wednesday and return Sunday, our excitement for the adventure was too much and we left Tuesday evening after we each finished work. Again the plan was to take turns catching some sleep overnight as each of us took turns driving, but with no other distractions we laughed and shared stories, made plans and sang favorite songs.

Another goal was to stay away from franchise and fast food-style restaurants. Our first exposure to family-owned cooking was an all-night place in West Point, Mississippi. It’s one of those places where the menu has too many choices for anything to be any good (lol) but at 3:00 in the morning anything tastes okay. However, after arriving in Gulf Shores, we were encouraged to eat at various places. Two of our favorites were Tin Top Restaurant in Bon Secour (right between Foley and GS) and Bahama Bob’s on the beach. Seafood, of course, is the main dish for that area and delicious everywhere we tried it.

The nightlife was good, as well. First we tried The Hangout on Gulf Shores Beach at the suggestion of a couple of friends back home. Neither of us enjoyed it, although we met an awesome couple who were on their “Make It or Break It” Tour. It was one of a series of trips to refresh and salvage their marriage. We’re still friends with Kandi today. And their marriage is going well. Our favorite night, though, was the Friday night trip over to Pensacola at the Cabaret! “Stardust Girl,” as we called her, made sure everyone - individually! - got dusted several times throughout the night with her glitter and dance. You can see her reaching for me as she keeps Jacob moving to the 2:00 am beat!

By far, though, the best experience was simply sitting on the beach. Sand all around us and in everything we took onto the beach with us (phones, bluetooth speakers, clothes and snacks). Sun that heated our bodies but also seemed to warm our spirits. And although it was cold, the Water made us playful; a personality trait we’d each let slip months ago. We spent time walking, talking, looking at buildings and the pier, and meeting random people. And holding hands. Jacob has never been comfortable with public displays of affection no matter how minor I’ve thought them to be. But at times on this trip he would let his protective anxiety give way to letting me find his hand as we walked. And for the times he didn’t feel comfortable with PDA, he made up when we were alone together.

Once again with an original plan to drive back on Sunday, we again took control of our time. I sent an email to my students and contacted both the college where I teach and the psychiatric inpatient facility where I practice. Jacob contacted his workplace and sent an email to his own professors. With that done, we stayed another night and enjoyed what we realized that Sunday evening had been the best of the four days we laid on the beach! The most relaxing, the warmest spring heat, the quietest day of the four.

24 hours later, we re-entered life and waited to see how the time away from everyone else in our lives would affect us. Could we overcome the mistrust and misuse of the relationship? Would depression, anxiety, and paranoia return to plague us? Or could we find a way to start fresh without the feeling we were giving up and starting over?

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Need U — All Parts

Originally posted by wonhontology

Warning!: [NSFW]; this series contains many, very sexual parts. More than most series I write. This series is about a Sugar Daddy (a rich older man who lavishes gifts on a young woman in return for her company or sexual favors) and Sugar Baby The younger recipient of interest from a sugar daddy, especially financial and romantic in an intergenerational relationship). If you are uncomfortable with any of these, I advise you not to read.

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Part Four

Part Five

Part Six

Happy International Muslim Women's Day!

We are a strong, resilient and radically vulnerable bunch. Despite having our bodies and identities treated as a political battlefield between orientalist white saviours and misogynistic Muslim men, we are often the most politically active and the first to work towards defending and strengthening our communities. Many of us have underwent trauma, whether it be intracommunity issues intergenerational trauma or institutional racism and Islamophobia and yet we will exist, thrive and prosper.