interesting articles

The way pop culture suggests an aversion to Courtney Love’s drug-addled mythology while espousing Cobain’s martyrdom, the way some communities shit on Lana Del Rey’s “aesthetic sadness” while simultaneously espousing emo bands fronted by men– it’s not to say that any of these genres, digressions, or affinities necessarily deserve respect, but there is a schism and a definite, unfair gender binary that favors troubled men over troubled women–and their right to be troubled. Men who grapple with issues that coincide with art and fame are canonized in death; women who do the same are made lesser, somehow, by their own unequivocal loss.
Small Ways To Improve Your Life
  • make your bed to immediately make your room look more put together
  • water first, then coffee or tea
  • pray or meditate, even just for ten minutes, to set the tone for your day
  • browse the news headlines ( & read the articles that interest you when you’ve got time)
  • wear something you feel b o m b in
  • listen to music while doing your daily activities-commuting, cleaning, cooking, exercising
  • smile at at least two people
  • smile at YOURSELF
  • call or message someone you love
  • eat food that makes you feel radiant
  • make lists of things you need to accomplish for the day
  • stretch for 10 minutes
  • record in your phone the positive thoughts you have so you can remember them
  • carry water with you (always always always)
  • shut off your phone for an hour and have some ME time
  • take a hot shower or bath at the end of a stressful day
  • try to make plans to spend time with someone at least once a week
  • think about 3 things you are grateful for at the end of each day
  • do something calming, relaxing, and non-electronic 30 minutes before you sleep
  • sleep pants-less
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The Myth of the Barter Economy
Adam Smith said that quid-pro-quo exchange systems preceded economies based on currency, but there’s no evidence that he was right.
By Ilana E. Strauss

Imagine life before money. Say, you made bread but you needed meat. But what if the town butcher didn’t want your bread? You’d have to find someone who did, trading until you eventually got some meat. You can see how this gets incredibly complicated and inefficient, which is why humans invented money: to make it easier to exchange goods. Right? This historical world of barter sounds quite inconvenient. It also may be completely made up.

The man who arguably founded modern economic theory, the 18th-century Scottish philosopher Adam Smith, popularized the idea that barter was a precursor to money. In The Wealth of Nations, he describes an imaginary scenario in which a baker living before the invention of money wanted a butcher’s meat but had nothing the butcher wanted.“No exchange can, in this case, be made between them,” Smith wrote.

This sort of scenario was so undesirable that societies must have created money to facilitate trade, argues Smith. Aristotle had similar ideas, and they’re by now a fixture in just about every introductory economics textbook. “In simple, early economies, people engaged in barter,” reads one. (“The American Indian with a pony to dispose of had to wait until he met another Indian who wanted a pony and at the same time was able and willing to give for it a blanket or other commodity that he himself desired,” read an earlier one.)

But various anthropologists have pointed out that this barter economy has never been witnessed as researchers have traveled to undeveloped parts of the globe. “No example of a barter economy, pure and simple, has ever been described, let alone the emergence from it of money,” wrote the Cambridge anthropology professor Caroline Humphrey in a 1985 paper. “All available ethnography suggests that there never has been such a thing.” Humphrey isn’t alone. Other academics, including the French sociologist Marcel Mauss, and the Cambridge political economist Geoffrey Ingham have long espoused similar arguments.

When barter has appeared, it wasn’t as part of a purely barter economy, and money didn’t emerge from it—rather, it emerged from money. After Rome fell, for instance, Europeans used barter as a substitute for the Roman currency people had gotten used to. “In most of the cases we know about, [barter] takes place between people who are familiar with the use of money, but for one reason or another, don’t have a lot of it around,” explains David Graeber, an anthropology professor at the London School of Economics.

So if barter never existed, what did? Anthropologists describe a wide variety of methods of exchange—none of which are of the “two-cows-for-10-bushels-of-wheat” variety.

That post about people making sure they don’t ONLY use their friends to vent negativity to has SO many shitty responses, some people called it “problematic”.

And it’s like… It’s not saying don’t be sad, it’s not saying don’t vent… It’s saying don’t ONLY use those people for that purpose? That they are people too and if all you literally EVER do is say negative shit to them and can’t make time to see how they are or say a single nice thing to them… Then they will start to feel negative about you?

It’s not “mean” or “problematic”, if anything it doesn’t go far enough. If that is the way you treat someone then you are using them and, like, fucking stop?

Just because someone is supportive doesn’t mean you should exploit that. Stay aware of your behavior, that doesn’t mean “pretend to be happy when you’re not” or “don’t go to your friend for support”, but it means be AWARE. Ask yourself questions.

-Did you say hello to your friend?

-Did you ask them how they were?

-Have you sent them a cute image, link or interesting article that reminds you of them or think they would be interested in?

-Have you let them know they are valued?

-Have you been observing if they seem tired or distressed by your conversations?

If you can’t say yes top at least one of these then stop, give your friend a break. It is ok to need support and I’m glad people have friends with massive capabilities, but they are still people and still friends.

If being told to appreciate your friend and not ONLY use them as a venting resource is “problematic” then you probably need to investigate the way you treat your friends.

21 Signs You Might Actually Be An Ambivert

1. When you’re out in the world, you’re probably not going to be starting conversations with strangers.

2. Generally, you’re always happy to meet new people, but you’ll probably be uncomfortable if you have to do it without any of your existing friends with you.

3. When a topic of interest comes up in conversation, you’re more than happy to talk in great detail about it.

4. But as soon as that’s done, you’ll happily sit listening to the conversation without saying another word.

5. Spending too much time with other people can be exhausting.

6. Your calm, controlled professional self feels like a very different person to the one your friends see.

7. Asserting yourself is tricky in many situations.

8. You can often go out and have hours of fun being the life of the party, but suddenly find that your energy has dropped, and all you really want to do is go home.

9. When you see things written about being an introvert, you start to relate…but then discover that you relate to the extrovert ones as well.

10. In fact, your friends disagreeing about whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert is probably a very good sign you’re an ambivert.

11. Small talk is something that annoys you, because while you can do it, there are instances when it feels a bit insincere.

12. Some weekends, you just need to spend some time hanging out on your own.

13. Too much time spent alone can leave you a bit downcast, however, and you’re concerned that it’s not very productive.

14. And some of the best weekends of your life have been when you didn’t go home for three days.

15. Thinking before you speak isn’t a problem for you…most of the time.

16. You have a tendency to balance out whoever you’re with – if you’re with someone loud, you’ll be quieter. If they’re quiet, you’ll compensate for that.

17. You’re known to be quite intuitive and good at picking up signals that other people can miss.

18. Often, you just find yourself observing what’s happening around you.

19. And at other times, you’ll be getting involved in the moment.

20. So in the right context, you love attention, but more often than not, you don’t want to be the person everyone is looking at.

21. So if you can’t figure out whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, maybe it’s because you’re actually an ambivert!

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self care tips for the signs
  • *check sun, moon and 6th house
  • aries: fall asleep to nature sounds, go out for a small run, make plans with a friend at least twice a week
  • taurus: change your sheets, pillowcase and duvet cover, get a calendar and highlight important events, take an instagram-worthy bath with a bath bomb
  • gemini: meditate or pray even just for ten minutes every day, read your favourite children book, wear fluffy jumpers / socks
  • cancer: eat something healthy like a piece of fresh fruit, light a candle that smells comforting, write a love letter to anyone you want
  • leo: call or text someone you love, listen to music while doing your daily activities, put on clothes that make you feel confident
  • virgo: delete unnecessary apps and photos from your phone, reorganize your bookshelves by author, colour or whatever you prefer, wash your hands with warm water and soap
  • libra: do a hair and / or face mask, make yourself a cup of tea, spend some time with your family and / or pets
  • scorpio: go to sleep around the same time every night, spritz your favourite perfume, try out a new recipe
  • sagittarius: open the windows and let fresh air in, put all scattered clothes in a loundry bin, read interesting news articles
  • capricorn: clean your room or part of your house, drink a huge glass of fresh water, sleep without pants
  • aquarius: avoid using electronic devices before bed, stretch your back and arms every day, take any medication or vitamins if you need to
  • pisces: check emails and clean up your inbox, moisturize your hands and feet, physically wrap yourself in a soft blanket
The 15 Types of Verbal Abuse in a Relationship

Originally posted by raquel-lostgirl

According to Patricia Evan’s book, The Verbally Abusive Relationship, there are 15 type of verbal abuse, which can happen within a relationship. The information below is both revealing and eye opening. Did you know that something as forgetting is a sign of abusive behavior? It demonstrates neglect, whether it is intentional or unintentional. We urge everyone to educate themselves on these next 15 harmful acts.

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hello, people! summer break just started for me and i’m so excited for what’s to come! i figured that making a masterpost would make it official and also would give everyone some ideas how to spend it fruitfully!! let’s begin fellas :’)

- the day school ends -

  • aka the day when you realize that you have days and days ahead of you and don’t know where to start
  • deep clean your room – this will give you he feeling that summer has actually begun and plus you now have a clean room haha
  • make a new playlist (a big one, okay?) – these are super fun to make and also summer does deserve some new funky and sporty songs in its bag
  • relax – go pamper yourself; get that double scoop ice-cream, go to spa, maybe get your nails and hair done. you have survived till summer break and you deserve this!
  • try to sort out your tasks and assignments into your planner – I know this can be tough, especially at the start when holidays have just begun; but try to at least plan out for the next week or two. maybe you want to work on that essay or write out those notes – planning will def help you to feel organized and get back your life in place.

- the following weeks -

  • gET THAT SHIT DONE NOW!!! SERIOUSLY DO IT!! DON’T PUT IT OFF TILL THE LAST WEEK!!! DO IT FAM, DO IT!!! (im low-key saving your butts with this tip, please listen to me) – write out those essays till they are perfect, solve that problem set till its ingrained in your brain, do your readings and write those notes. do it!!
  • combine that shit with fun stuff (see below) don’t burn yourself out please. and most importantly do not stress!!!11!!!!!
  • connect with people. call that friend you forgot about and that aunt who has been asking you over for dinner for ages. summer gives you the time to rekindle your relationships and seriously though, connecting with people will make your life much happier.
  • get a new hobby!! do you draw? paint? write? whatever you do – start doing it. use that time which you spend on the internet in exploring your passions and finding your interests.
  • seriously though, do that work first.

- some (fun) stuff to do in summer -

  • clean your closet (do it mate)
  • compliment people more
  • smile at strangers often
  • vlog your days. maybe start a YouTube channel for this?
  • revamp your blog
  • learn coding and revamp that shitty theme of yours (this applies for me, chill)
  • keep a gratitude journal
  • go a week without any social media (this will be hard, but try it!!)
  • go hiking or cycling with a friend
  • read 7-8 books or as many books as you please
  • have a do nothing day - treat yourself love!
  • learn a new kind of dance - this is really fun, i promise
  • go a whole day with any technology
  • do a 30 day challenge!!
  • seek out an interesting article to read everyday
  • go camping in the hills
  • have a bonfire!! roast marshmallows (or burn old notes lmao)
  • learn to knit/sew
  • save up!! (…they blow it all in a single day? lmao don’t though)
  • star gazing on a clear night!!
  • talk till dawn about random shit with a random person
  • a no makeup day – let your skin breathe
  • go on a family trip!
  • visit a sanctuary or a zoo with a younger sibling or smol kids
  • there are endless possibilities!! these are just some to get you started!!

- the last few days -

  • yo remember you still have winter break to come this year!! don’t be sad, fam!!
  • have a dance party in your room with your favourite music on (bc you only live once)
  • check and recheck if you got all that work done (if you didn’t, rip you haha)
  • check your school’s site for new updates and stuff (I bet you don’t do this though)
  • annnnd then enjoy your last day!! trust me - you’re going to have an amazing term ahead of this!!

Hope this helps! + you can always send me requests for masterposts since my ask box is always open! (´。• ᵕ •。`) ♡

Love, Taylor xo

Over tumbling and sprightly guitar picking, Styles details the tumult and potency of young love, fleshing out his lead vocals with simple harmonies and startling background runs. He shows off his impressive range on the song’s final chorus, straining expertly to sing, “Sweet creature, sweet creature/ When I run out of rope, you bring me home.”
Hauntingly Beautiful & Sad Music Has the Power To Lift Your Emotions

An investigation led by psychologists at the universities of Kent and Limerick has revealed that “beautiful but sad” music has the power to make unhappy people feel better. The study was titled “Listening to sad music in adverse situations: How music selection strategies relate to self-regulatory goals, listening effects and mood enhancement” and was published in Psychology of Music. So what exactly is it about brooding melodies and siren-like symphonies à la Lana Del Rey, which makes us feel better?

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