we’ve been having a sharps vs flats war on this blog, and I have good news for both sides: this war is not about nothing, because sharps and flats are not the same.
I’m going to paraphrase an article from a 1930s music magazine by sid hedges:
a pianist can never play perfectly in tune. if a piano were perfectly tuned it would be possible to play upon it only in one key. this peculiarity is due to the fact the octave does does not split up in 12 equal parts–and consequently, the semitones are of varying sizes. a piano tuner has to “split the difference” between varying notes so that all of the scales sound fairly accurate. a pianist has to make one note serve for d sharp and e flat, when actually they are not the same. a violinist, making their own notes, is able to observe the proper distinction.
if you sing up the the scale of e major, you will find yourself making the d sharp (the leading tone) very sharp. if you sing up the scale of e minor, you will instinctively make your e flat very flat–considerably more so than the note on the piano.
a violinist can test the matter with the same two scales. first, they play up an e major scale, ensuring their intonation is flawless, and put a pencil mark on the fingerboard where d sharp is. next, they play a c minor scale and find that the e flat lands about a quarter of an inch below d sharp.
Arthur Aron and a few other psychologists did an experiment and the NY Times published an article about a journalist who tried it out. Basically, if you ask these 36 questions, you can almost fall in love with anyone.
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … “
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
Nadya Vessey, a competitive swimmer who’s had both legs amputated due to a birth condition, was inspired by a brief conversation she had with a child. When asked why she was removing her legs to go swimming, Vessey told the child that she was a mermaid. This got Vessey thinking and she quickly contacted Weta workshops, an award-winning design and manufacturing facility. Two years later, Weta developed a practical and beautiful mermaid tail specifically designed for Vessey.
A 17-year old missing in Helsinki HELSINKI – The Police is requesting help from the public in finding a 17-year-old girl; she went missing on September 11th in Helsinki. She was on her way from the Helsinki airport to Meilahti but never arrived at the destination. The name of the missing girl is Justyna Buzek…
James McAvoy bounds into a London hotel room in prizefighting form, sporting a tightly shorn noggin, jeans and T-shirt, and the kind of buff body definition you might expect to find on a downtime welterweight champ. I nod to the bod, and he admits, straightaway, that he’s been powerlifting in the gym on a regular basis. “It’s f***ing brilliant, I love it, man!” says the 37-year-old X-Men star, beaming. He tells me he joined forces with a professional powerlifter on the set of his last movie (the thriller Split, for Sixth Sense director M Night Shyamalan). “I never thought I would be into that s***. But it’s so much fun, really technical, and quite Zen.”
He sits down and pours himself some water. This, somewhat unusually, is our fifth encounter in as many years. Over that half-decade it has been remarkable and informative to watch McAvoy’s transformation from quip-cracking Glaswegian wiseacre (joshing about the “epic snog” he shared with Angelina Jolie on the movie Wanted) to serious London stage actor (he won an Evening Standard best actor award last year for his role in The Ruling Class) and Hollywood heavyweight — he’s got three big movies on the way, including X-Men Apocalypse, Split and a romance for German master Wim Wenders called Submergence.
Just One Word 3/9/2017: REVIEW - The only reviews in my library are those found in Tolkien Studies, and I am grateful for them when considering new books for purchase, although it take at least two years for a review to appear. Above are the first eleven glorious hardbound volumes. It now comes out in softcover.:(
This is actually fascinating? Although I disagree with her that she’s been too quick to judge Trump voters. Judge those motherfuckers.
I’ve often thought that Milwaukee’s pickings are particularly slim and I wonder what this author would have had to say about it. I don’t date online (or, like, at all) anymore, but it’s still fun to read about others’ Tinder misadventures.
Why is psychopath an ableist slur? It's not in the APA guidebook because there is too less information about psychopathy, instead of reading how the word psychopath may be used by a small number of ignorant people to call people they don't like the word, actually do research on the word itself because you and everyone who calls it a slur is assuming that this 1% of the world do not exist, I can assure you we exist and we are not at all like someone who suffers from ASPD, we don't suffer.
This (https://www.bgdblog.org/2014/01/racist-ableist-use-term-psychopath/) is a really interesting article written by a woman who’s had the word “psychopath” used against her and considers it an ableist slur. I always feel like it’s best to err on the side of caution and listen to those who call particular words slurs. No, it’s not always used as a slur, but in modern vernacular, that is how it is most commonly used (“my ex is such a psycho”, “don’t be a psycho”, etc.)
Psychopathy is a diagnosis and we do know that, but most mentally ill or neurodivergant people who are labelled “psychos” for their behaviour do not have psychopathy and the use of the word is intended to stigmatize and cause damage, making it a slur against them. If you don’t find its overuse a slur, then I’m happy for you, but others do and I will always listen to them and respect their request to call it out.
hey im interested in seeing those articles abt anti-nb intersexist medical practices. will u be posting ur links in a separate post?
there are articles I’ve posted on here before but this is usually the main one I link to
discusses development of IGM as a medical practice as an attempt to prevent homosexuality and gender ambiguity. Obviously doesn’t use the terminology of “nonbinary” since that’s a pretty modern term but the implications of eliminating androgyny and enforcing coercive binary transition are clear: https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B6ECYYil74F7UW5PRkJFbDJPTm8/view?usp=drivesdk
CW for medical abuse/IGM/transphobia/homophobia/biphobia/nonbinaryphobia/intersexism/H-slur
Our fictional universe also turns out to contain words that male authors use to describe female characters but which a woman would rarely use to describe herself or another woman. These words seem to highlight the biggest differences in how male and female authors view the world.
One key word here: interrupted. In each of our three categories (classics, popular fiction and literary fiction), male writers are at least 75% more likely to have their female characters interrupt than their male ones. Meanwhile, female authors didn’t discernibly differ in the frequency with which they have their characters of both genders interrupt.
Similarly, female authors use sob at about the same rate for their male and female characters—but male writers hardly ever use it to describe their own male characters. Male authors seem, consciously or not, to hold that if “real men don’t cry,” then “fictional men don’t sob.”