I wish to marry this guy but the problems is; I’m somali and he’s palestinian and my parents told me specifically they’d never accept the marriage based on the fact that he isn’t somali. Would it be haram for me to marry him without the permission of a wali if their reasoning is un-islamic?
You need to work with your parents more, don’t rush into things. Take time. You’re talking about nuclear options way too fast. Chillax.
But, I’m going to tell you this: don’t think you’re just going to teach him to say kulaha and run off into the sunset.
Intercultural marriages take work and take effort and you need to work out yourselves, what are you willing to learn? Is he going to learn Somali? You going to learn Arabic?
Intercultural marriages require work, and I feel like when it is just you two, it’s wonderful, but as time goes on, you have to ask yourself: are you the type of person who needs to be surrounded by your culture? Because you’ll feel at home at those Somali gatherings but he’ll be alone. Same thing when you hang out with the Palestinian aunties.
Are you ready for the garbage you’re going to get from his family? Is he ready for the garbage he’s going to get from yours?
Make sure you have your mind in order before going forward. Marriage isn’t a joke.
And don’t run off without your parents so quick. I don’t care how long you’ve been talking. Keep trying.