I just im queer and genderfluid so im wondering what are alternatives to the names mother and father to teach my kid one day? Like I know I want to be a parent but are there really any gender neutral paternal "titles" I guess?
There are absolutely alternatives! genderqueeries has this great list, which is a good easy place to start, but you should also consider whether using/making up your own title makes sense. I go by “baba” rather than mother/father, which generally has worked pretty well. There are challenges to using a non-traditional title, since not everyone will immediately “get” it, and some people might willfully ignore it. And inevitably between books/media/other kids your child will have to figure out what dad/mom mean and how that relates to their own family, but I do not think those challenges are insurmountable, and - at least for me - the benefits to having a title that really “fits” me outweigh the additional time/challenges that come along with it.
Mostly my advice would be, stick to something that is easy for a (young) child to say, and that feels like a good fit for you. Get some close allies on board, and try not to let titling mistakes from others outside your circle get to you too much.