In the hard times you will learn how to survive. The really hard, rock bottom, life hurts, hard times are the ones that will teach you how capable you are. Look back on these times as lessons learned, as mountains climbed and conquered. You are stronger than you ever were, you are more capable than anything that defeated you before.
I tried that since starting college and it’s proven to transform me. I’m changing in ways I never pondered and I’m happy partly, only partly in that I still have a LOT of personal modifications to achieve.
Our dependency makes slaves out of us, especially if this dependency is a dependency of our self-esteem. If you need encouragement, praise, pats on the back from everybody, then you make everybody your judge.