It is, very complicated… Yes, he has a wife and no they do not have an open marriage. That should be the end of my statement. I’m not going to pretend that anything she’s done to him or their kids justifies my relationship with him. It just doesn’t, period.
However, I will say that she cheats, she is manipulative and conniving, she will not have sex with him, she is hateful and mean and has threatened him, their children, his family and his job (all having nothing to do with me) if he doesn’t support her financially or if he leaves her. He is afraid to lose his children and afraid for them so he stays.
Again, I say, none of this justifies my part in his life but I am still thankful to be a part of his life.