infp-problems

INFPs are the ones who...

-Won’t break a class rule but would start a revolution
-Listen for hours, even when they know that person wouldn’t let them talk for five minutes
-Always look out for the misfits and the loners
-Do their English homework, “just for fun”
-Will wait up all night just to say good night to someone
-Remember the little things people tell them like their favorite book or their best memory
-Always say thank you to waiters and janitors
-Cry when the dog dies in movies
-Write their feelings out on paper before they can find the words in their mouths to explain them
-Sit in their rooms, late at night in the dark, crying silently because they don’t want to wake anyone up
-Who apologize to the person who ran into them
-Can never pretend that they don’t care because they’ll end up crying or angry

INFPs ARE NOT SAD, OKAY

I’ve let this go on for too long.

INFPs did not invent sadness, nor do they cry all the time. INFPs are bodies of hope in spite of the sadness around them. I like to think that they invented hope and optimism, because despite the horrible things they know of ourselves, they believe the best about others.

Maybe INFPs are fragile for good reason. Don’t you think that a ripe apple tree in the middle of a rotten orchard would tend to be a little distraught sometimes? The world is an ugly place. Guess what? Despite all of this, the stereotyped cry-baby of the MBTI would go there to the end for people they’ve never met.

INFPs did not invent sadness. They invented hope.

INFP Problems #1
  • INFP: *Is comfortable enough with a person to start speaking about their life*
  • INFP: *Talks for 10 minutes straight*
  • INFP inside: *Halfway through their rant* Oh no what if I'm boring this person... what if they don't care, what if they think I'm annoying?
  • INFP: So anyway... what do you think? *nervous laugh*
  • INFP inside: Please don't hate me.
INFPs in relationships

Strengths:

- Very caring and attentive to partner’s needs and emotions

- Will notice the small things their partner does for them, and thank them constantly

- Usually do not have irrational or unrealistic standards for their partners

- Forgiving

- Will constantly leave small notes, gifts, and other tokens of appreciation for their partner

- If the INFP is not constantly complimenting you once they get to know you in a relationship, something is wrong

- Will spend every waking moment trying to build their partner’s confidence and happiness

- Love deeply and without restraints


Weaknesses:

- Constantly needs reassurance that partner is still interested in them

- Reads too deeply into small things, like partner not responding to a text, or falling asleep before they say good night, etc.

- Has strong difficulties facing conflict or admitting to having negative feelings

- Does not like to ask for help, even when they need it

- Can become awkward in situation they do not know well

- Build their partner up to something they are not and romanticize bad parts of their relationship, or pretend they don’t exist

- Can become downright cruel in fights or breakups

- Loyal to a fault

INFP Functions: Pros and Cons

Or at least, in my experience.

Fi —
Pros: Able to understand/sympathize well with pretty much anyone’s experiences and feelings
Cons: Difficulty showing affection/emotion; because of strong awareness of personal feelings, emotions can be magnified 1000% and made super complicated but they’re really not and ugh

Ne —
Pros: Able to see an individual or situation from all sides and angles, which pretty much guarantees a fresh perspective
Cons: Easily distracted easily distracted can’t focus on anything ever it’s terrible. No. Just no.

Si —
Pros: Remembering little details that add to the memory, like the way it felt to hug someone
Cons: Getting nostalgic over stupid things all the ding dong time

Te —
Pros: Naturally taking charge and doing well in a leadership position when it’s something the INFP loves/knows how to do well
Cons: Speaking before thinking way too much and it’s uncomfortable