INFP Life: The Bonfire and the Therapy Session

Hey guys,

Well I finally got to go to an official bonfire for fall that I wanted. (Yes, it was on my Fall Bucket List lol) and I had a great time. I was unaware that there would be over 20 people there, *ahem* a little awkward since I really was only expecting 6-8, but oh well it turned out good.
BUT, it never fails, whether it’s someone my age or older, I almost always 99% of the time, end of either trying to help solve someone’s problem, or being their therapist and listening ear. This night was no, different as I was taken aside and a good friend of mine opened up to me about her issues and family life. Mind you this  person is at least 20 years older than me. However I listened and gave the comfort that was needed. Not that I am complaining at all, because after the tears and the talk in the cold and away form the others, I could tell she felt better and was more at ease. I just find it funny that whenever I go to these large events with many people, I end up being someone’s therapist somehow.

Shortly after that, I was pulled aside by yet another person and fellow Introvert, who was having a very hard time dealing with the amount of people, and was very uncomfortable. So I stuck close to her and I could see very well she was grateful as her more extroverted friend had long gone and found friends to talk to, leaving her alone. Overall it was very fun, but I just end up being the inevitable INFP Therapist.

Can anyone relate? I hope everyone out there is having a great weekend!

INFPs are the ones who...

-Won’t break a class rule but would start a revolution
-Listen for hours, even when they know that person wouldn’t let them talk for five minutes
-Always look out for the misfits and the loners
-Do their English homework, “just for fun”
-Will wait up all night just to say good night to someone
-Remember the little things people tell them like their favorite book or their best memory
-Always say thank you to waiters and janitors
-Cry when the dog dies in movies
-Write their feelings out on paper before they can find the words in their mouths to explain them
-Sit in their rooms, late at night in the dark, crying silently because they don’t want to wake anyone up
-Who apologize to the person who ran into them
-Can never pretend that they don’t care because they’ll end up crying or angry

I always spend too much time walking home. I guess I just love to think. Or more the fact I love to appreciate. Appreciate the world and it’s color and beauty. Or maybe just how the ground feels when my foot hits it. Either or I love to spend as long as I can walking home slowly. If I could I would just stand in one spot appreciating everything that isn’t human
—  Coral-Vellichor
INFP Problems #1
  • INFP:*Is comfortable enough with a person to start speaking about their life*
  • INFP:*Talks for 10 minutes straight*
  • INFP inside:*Halfway through their rant* Oh no what if I'm boring this person... what if they don't care, what if they think I'm annoying?
  • INFP:So anyway... what do you think? *nervous laugh*
  • INFP inside:Please don't hate me.

Person: No I’ve never had a conversation with myself. I’ve never reviewed conversations in my head to form replies that I should have in the original conversation. I don’t have imaginary conversations with real or fictitious people

INFP: Okay…that sounds fake but okay

All introverts share a common need: time spent alone in order to recharge, reflect, and decompress. So deep is the need in the INFP and INFJ that if neglected, they begin to experience lethargy - a fogging of the mind, if you will. If forced to socialize for extended periods, they might even suffer anxiety that could blossom into full fledged panic attacks. Solitude is their sanctuary, a place they can enjoy their own thoughts without the clutter of stimulation from the outside world.

INFJ + INFP: Being Alone Together, MBTIPopCulture

Wow. This is so, so true. I’m an INFJ, and I’ve experienced that “foggy” lethargy after just 5 minutes of socializing before. I’ve also had those scary anxiety attacks from prolonged “people exposure” when I was at university, and other people were simply unavoidable (i.e. roommates, AKA introvert poison). Interesting that it’s possible for all introverts; I thought it might be just an INFJ thing. Glad we’re not alone. Introverts unite!