independent woman


In response to anyone who thinks they have an fierce inner black woman in them and is not in fact, a black woman

See the thing about that fire and that “fierceness” is that it’s born out of our oppression, out of always being told that we are ugly, that our bodies are too fat or too muscular, that we don’t have the right kind of hair — and having to deconstruct all those things and tell ourselves that we are beautiful even though society is telling us that we are not.  

That strength is born out of always having to defend ourselves against white supremacy and anti-black-woman-patriachy. From years of not seeing ourselves represented in anything aligned with beauty, of buying products that are made to make us look like not ourselves.

So there is no way you could have an inner black woman in you. You have not experienced our struggle, you don’t know it, you haven’t lived it, and you can’t imagine it. 

See, you can’t sit with us, because we haven’t been able to sit at your table since our existence in this country. And while we were being excluded from your table we made our own, and it is fabulous and fly. And of course you now want to try and have a seat at our table, take our table, use it and ignore all the labor that went into creating THAT table.

But nah, sorry boo boo.

You ain’t never going to be us, you can try to wear your hair like us, you can try to dance like us, talk like us, wish you were us, but know this —


There is an inner beauty about a woman who believes in herself, who knows she is capable of anything she puts her mind to. There is a beauty in the strength and determination of a woman who follows her own path, who isn’t thrown off by obstacles along the way. There is a beauty about a woman whose confidence comes from experiences - who knows she can fall, pick herself up, and go on…

so with all of the misogynists in the world and everyone saying what a girl can and can’t be here is a playlist to release your inner girl power because you are fierce

Gunpowder and Lead-Miranda Lambert | Girls(Who Run the World)-Beyoncé | Two Black Cadillacs-Carrie Underwood | Work-Iggy Azalea | Hard Out Here-Lily Allen | ****Flawless-Beyoncé | Call Me When You’re Sober-Evanescence | Express Yourself-Madonna | That Don’t Impress Me Much-Shania Twain | I Will Survive-Gloria Gaynor | It’s My Life-No Doubt | Man! I Feel Like a Woman-Shania Twain | You Lie-The Band Perry | Survivor-Destiny’s Child | Keep Ya Head Up-2Pac | You Oughta Know-Alanis Morissette | Do My Thang-Miley Cyrus | Catch My Breath-Kelly Clarkson | E.V.O.L-Marina and the Diamonds | Done-The Band Perry | I Write Sins Not Sex Yeah-Mashup | Bills,Bills,Bills-Destiny’s Child | Bad Girls-M.I.A | Move-Little Mix | Really Don’t Care ft.Cher Lloyd-Demi Lovato | Fighter-Christina Aguilera | Say My Name-Destiny’s Child | Ignorance-Paramore | Lady Marmalade-Lil Kim, Maya, Christina Aguilera, and P!nk | I Don’t Care-Apocalyptica | Rolling in the Deep-Adele | Free your Mind-En Vogue | Before He Cheats-Carrie Underwood | Bubblegum Bitch-Marina and the Diamonds | Bad Reputation-Joan Jett | Salute-Little Mix


I’ve seen so many posts today like:
“The church/conservatives force women to keep their fetuses, then treat the women like crap if they do!!!!!”

Within 20 miles of my home, there are THREE homes for teen moms, and TWO homes/support centers for women/single mothers, all of which provide care and council. ALL OF WHICH ARE OPERATED BY LOCAL CHURCHES, AND DONATIONS OF CHURCH AND COMMUNITY MEMBERS.

And what have local pro-choicers/liberal “women’s rights” activists done to support these women? Nothing to support them, that’s for sure. If anything, they use these women as abortion propaganda. They point and say “See this teenage girl who isn’t going to college because she’s raising a child? IF ONLY SHE’D HAD AN ABORTION.” Instead of supporting her choice to give birth, and supporting her as a woman.