inadequacy

7 Tips for Overcoming Feelings of Inadequacy

1. Remind yourself that you are not who other people think or say you are.

2. Remind yourself that everybody makes mistakes at times, has areas of weakness, and things they want to change.

3. Remind yourself of ways in which you’ve grown and changed with time. You’re not who you once were - so celebrate how far you’ve come.

4. Also, the ending isn’t written and the future isn’t fixed. You’re free to change your image, and an old identity.

5. Identify the lies you have believed about yourself – and work on changing them so they’re more accurate and true. Also, don’t reinforce those lies by acting like you think they’re true.

6. Remember that your feelings are not the same as facts. Don’t live based on your feelings … as that will keep you trapped.

7. Hang out with those who see, and who appreciate, your worth. And take their words to heart, and let them help to build you up.

The Wounded Moon

Moon in Aries: Feels ill equipped for the world. A temperamental, abandoned child. There is often a fight for survival, a fanatic charge by a screaming inner child who has been lacerated and left here. Suffers migraines. Coping mechanisms may not be developed, the individual may constantly lapse into the framework of the abandoned or bruised child during times of stress or
heavy emotions. 

Moon in Taurus: Strongly fears being abandoned, and despite giving an aura of calm, the insides resemble quicksand. Can privately binge, over indulge, and self destruct. Feels easily rundown or catches colds easily. Struggles letting go of anything with their emotional investment. Can be haunted by memories.

Moon in Gemini: Emotions are too confusing and complex to be made sense of. The emotional nature can feel like a personality of its own. It’s hard because the individual just wants somebody to teach them how to feel and what to do. Inner needs change rapidly. The individual neglects their own emotional needs, often invalidating their authenticity 

Moon in Cancer: Fears of being left are consuming. The emotional reactivity, fears, and demands of the inner child express the individual’s deep feelings of inadequacy regarding their own sensitivity. The individual leaves claw marks on anybody who tries to leave 

Moon in Leo: The devouring needs of the inner child charter relationships. The individual is drawn to the comfort of unconditional love, safety, and validation that was denied as a child. Severely wounded by invalidation, they search for a mother figure everywhere they go. Reacts dramatically, but fails at explaining themselves leaving people unsure of how to help 

Moon in Virgo: The temperament is a battlefield and the nervous system is in overdrive. During times of distress, the reflex is to withdraw and martyr themselves. Their agitation can be unpredictable. Emotional distress manifests through physical and digestive changes and lack of wellbeing. 

Moon in Libra: Emotional needs are disregarded and ignored. Often the individual feels that their own traumas and experiences are less valid than others. The hollowness inside could swallow the universe. Requires a very close relationship with the mother and becomes severely wounded if this is not actualised. 

Moon in Scorpio: Emotional experiences are intense and lonely. The inner child is screaming, self destructing, and demanding answers for its isolated existence. Pelvic cramps with no organic causation. Early betrayals and traumas run into deep ledges of the psyche and can rule the individual’s whole emotional life and responsiveness as an adult. 

Moon in Sagittarius: The feeling of being lost can become consuming. This can generate a powerful need to control, or be in control. Feelings of escapism infuse with rage and cause severe reactivity. The individual can struggle managing substance misuse. The moon is sentimental and fixed, the moon wants safety and security and time away to be held and nurtured. Sagittarius desires the opposite. Two conflicting needs collide. There is no safe place. 

Moon in Capricorn: Afraid to ask, the individual secretly longs for comfort and guidance. There is a frightened child in the body of a full grown adult. The individual is wounded by their lost childhood. The world feels hostile and unwelcoming, cold and unforgiving. 

Moon in Aquarius: Feelings are intense and unforgiving, the individual feels compelled to distance themselves from emotions to restrict them from becoming ultimately consuming. The condition of human existence is devastating. During severe emotional torment, the Lunar Aquarius can experience complete numbness and the sense of exit from their own bodies. 

Moon in Pisces: Loneliness is exaggerated here. An emotional compass without any direction, feelings take on a life of their own. All life, love, and suffering is born and dies here. Spiritually insatiable, can devote themselves to any guide, creed, or guru that seems to offer salvation. 

-C.

7 Tips for Overcoming Feelings of Inadequacy

1. Remind yourself that you are not who other people think or say you are.

2. Remind yourself that everybody makes mistakes at times, has areas of weakness, and things they want to change.

3. Remind yourself of ways in which you’ve grown and changed with time. You’re not who you once were - so celebrate how far you’ve come.

4. Also, the ending isn’t written and the future isn’t fixed. You’re free to change your image, and an old identity.

5. Identify the lies you have believed about yourself – and work on changing them so they’re more accurate and true. Also, don’t reinforce those lies by acting like you think they’re true.

6. Remember that your feelings are not the same as facts. Don’t live based on your feelings … as that will keep you trapped.

7. Hang out with those who see, and who appreciate, your worth. And take their words to heart, and let them help to build you up.

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Crippling insecurities and carelessness get the better of us all, even Kings

Mars; Agitation, Aggression, Anger
  • Mars in Aries: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by control, restriction, judgement, injustice, lack of following own will, lack of sex, inadequate mental and physical stimulation
  • Mars in Taurus: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by lack of adequate rest/sleep, financial and employment pressures, over strenuous obligations, lack of creative expression
  • Mars in Gemini: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by lack of mental stimulation, boredom, lack of change, restriction, controlling relationships, frustration due to inadequate sleep or rest
  • Mars in Cancer: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by unstable family dynamics, moods of severity that have a long recovery period, lack of stability when looking into the future, internal anxieties
  • Mars in Leo: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by self contempt, lack of rewarding relationships, invalidating relationships, inadequate creative expression, lack of sex, heartbreak
  • Mars in Virgo: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by self consciousness and ricocheting defeatist thoughts, mental overload, disharmonious surroundings, lack of focus, lack of routine or employment/stability, lack of sex
  • Mars in Libra: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by inability to assert one's own needs so there is the development of irritation at others because others are seen to be selfish, injustice, unexpressed emotion
  • Mars in Scorpio: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by unconscious events, traumas and memories, feeling misunderstood or judged by people they trust, lack of alone time, restraining relationships, lack of meaningful sex, betrayal
  • Mars in Sagittarius: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by occlusion to freedom, being surveilled or scrutinised, dishonesty, lack of physical movement and fresh air, inadequate mental stimulation and boredom, control
  • Mars in Capricorn: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by unexpressed emotions and needs, feelings of inadequacy or that they have nothing to show for their work, lack of appreciation, the feeling of being stuck in a rut
  • Mars in Aquarius: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by imposed restrictions and lack of freedom, inadequate mental stimulation, generous feelings that are difficult to process suitably, controlling relationships
  • Mars in Pisces: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by feelings of being taken advantage of, passive and unexpressed feelings of frustration toward others, lack of sleep, over socialisation, constantly repairing others who won't help themselves
  • -C.
my experience with the dads

Craig: Sweet storyline of getting reacquainted and being able to take things easy

Mat: Everytime he smiles my poor little gay heart stops. 

Brian: Makes you want to throw your character off a cliff to shut them up. Protect Daisy at all cost.

Robert: you deal with your inadequacies. I’ll be right here with you

Damien: Sweet and gentle. Also Naruto fanfiction and a MCR pun.

Hugo: He called a Kid a bitch once in a parking lot, it was awesome.

Joseph: I don’t know man, it’S a homeWreck

Horrorscope

Aries reigns in on pure egocentrism to dominate and control instead of learn and understand. Instead of encouragement and genuine concern, the Aries perceives criticism and becomes overly defensive. Unwillingness to learn from experience creates continuous destructive cycles in relationships and social platforms where they are consistently inappropriate, childish, and reactive

Taurus becomes stuck in mental, emotional, and physical ruts, internalising fears and anxieties and becoming shells. Often this can be remarked as vanity or over self indulgence but the individual locks themselves away from being touched in any way, saving themselves from bad but forbidding the good, there is over obsession with appearance and image

Gemini cannot tell the truth from the lie and becomes tangled in their own web of conflicting stories, each seeming to be true at the time but diverting into more complex and manipulative avenues, using right timing silence and the gift of the gab, innocent stare, and denial of responsibility to twist the tale or perception until nobody knows what’s going on anymore

Cancer becomes consuming, devouring, and overly possessive, in some ways controlling of loved ones as a performance of protection, but trapping the individual from freedom and liberation, martyring themselves so people feel they cannot leave or guilty for their experience of life. Suffocating

Leo is manipulative with complexes and self generated inadequacies, clinging onto anybody who displays any expression of affection and restricting anybody from leaving, seeking saviours for the inner child in everybody and over dramatising emotional experience so that others display sympathy or validation

Virgo trembles between every variable and cannot take any decisive action, instead becoming a nervous, frantic wreck with little control of life or self, erratic behaviours in relationships and giving off the semblance of selfishness, too tangled in the mind to be set free, avoidant, seclusive, detached  

Libra loses any sense of identity or self, becomes absorbed and imitates into any form of company, instead of offering something genuine and personal to relationships can only offer a hollow reflection, becomes overly idealistic and dependant on partners to save or fulfil them, cannot cope with reality when these ideals or imagined futures do not exist

Scorpio becomes overly contained in the emotional experience, riding the waves of darkness into traumas they keep revisiting instead and refusing to accept, trying to forget but refusing to remember, so the darkness they deny fuels fires inside, ignites the demons resting place, and they cannot rest in the light so they are projected onto the faces they see, devils everywhere, devils they must destroy

Sagittarius becomes so trapped in their idea of truth and contained reality that outside opinion and insight is rejected, scolded at, scoffed at, the individual refuses to accept what cannot be perceived beyond eyesight, the whole world becomes a silent echo and they don’t even know they are searching for something brilliant, instead trying to fill the void with every material desire they could devour

Capricorn becomes suffocated by a harsh, unreceptive, and cold view of reality, feels iciness burn from deep inside and from the outside, and constructs a shell, a defensive mask that hides deep, needing secrets and vulnerabilities. The sterility is offsetting, the need to control becomes evident in every aspect of the individual’s life, because they cannot control the demon inside

Aquarius becomes overly absorbed in superiorities and versions of truths and realities, exacting supremacy in conversation and validation of thought, unwilling to accept something is unknown or wrongly known, tendency to deplete the capacities of other people’s intelligence compared to their own

Pisces express the whole spectrum of human and beyond-human archetype. Ghosts and spirits stir in the unconscious, waiting to be unleashed. You cannot believe everything you feel, Pisces can make you experience heaven, hell or both at once. Remember they can wield and rule two worlds you’ve never even been to before. A a wounded pisces can cut to the spirit like a psychic surgeon, detonating somebody’s personality from the soul upward. The same tools that open the door for immense sensitivity and forgiveness become the blades turned on other people. This is why you should never wrong a pisces. You may spend centuries repairing the damage

-C.

jamesfarrrow  asked:

How would you recommend fighting the feelings of inadequacy that come from writing something fun, as opposed to someone Deep and Serious?

I don’t feel inadequate when I write things that are fun. Mostly I feel proud, because it’s much harder to write a joke that works than it is to write a profoundly beautiful sentence.

Fun is not the opposite of Deep and Serious. 

Fun can be Deep. It often is.

Fun can be Serious.

Write what you want to write. I love that I can write silly books and I can write serious books, and sometimes the things I thought were big and important don’t really register and the things I thought were funny and silly have a huge impact on people.

velvetchrysalis  asked:

Could you please write an analysis how the signs are when they go "bad" and use their assets negatively?

Aries reigns in on pure egocentrism to dominate and control instead of learn and understand. Instead of encouragement and genuine concern, the Aries perceives criticism and becomes overly defensive. Unwillingness to learn from experience creates continuous destructive cycles in relationships and social platforms where they are consistently inappropriate, childish, and reactive 

Taurus becomes stuck in mental, emotional, and physical ruts, internalising fears and anxieties and becoming shells. Often this can be remarked as vanity or over self indulgence but the individual locks themselves away from being touched in any way, saving themselves from bad but forbidding the good, there is over obsession with appearance and image 

Gemini cannot tell the truth from the lie and becomes tangled in their own web of conflicting stories, each seeming to be true at the time but diverting into more complex and manipulative avenues, using right timing silence and the gift of the gab, innocent stare, and denial of responsibility to twist the tale or perception until nobody knows what’s going on anymore 

Cancer becomes consuming, devouring, and overly possessive, in some ways controlling of loved ones as a performance of protection, but trapping the individual from freedom and liberation, martyring themselves so people feel they cannot leave or guilty for their experience of life. Suffocating 

Leo is manipulative with complexes and self generated inadequacies, clinging onto anybody who displays any expression of affection and restricting anybody from leaving, seeking saviours for the inner child in everybody and over dramatising emotional experience so that others display sympathy or validation

Virgo trembles between every variable and cannot take any decisive action, instead becoming a nervous, frantic wreck with little control of life or self, erratic behaviours in relationships and giving off the semblance of selfishness, too tangled in the mind to be set free, avoidant, seclusive, detached  

Libra loses any sense of identity or self, becomes absorbed and imitates into any form of company, instead of offering something genuine and personal to relationships can only offer a hollow reflection, becomes overly idealistic and dependant on partners to save or fulfil them, cannot cope with reality when these ideals or imagined futures do not exist 

Scorpio becomes overly contained in the emotional experience, riding the waves of darkness into traumas they keep revisiting instead and refusing to accept, trying to forget but refusing to remember, so the darkness they deny fuels fires inside, ignites the demons resting place, and they cannot rest in the light so they are projected onto the faces they see, devils everywhere, devils they must destroy 

Sagittarius becomes so trapped in their idea of truth and contained reality that outside opinion and insight is rejected, scolded at, scoffed at, the individual refuses to accept what cannot be perceived beyond eyesight, the whole world becomes a silent echo and they don’t even know they are searching for something brilliant, instead trying to fill the void with every material desire they could devour 

Capricorn becomes suffocated by a harsh, unreceptive, and cold view of reality, feels iciness burn from deep inside and from the outside, and constructs a shell, a defensive mask that hides deep, needing secrets and vulnerabilities. The sterility is offsetting, the need to control becomes evident in every aspect of the individual’s life, because they cannot control the demon inside 

Aquarius becomes overly absorbed in superiorities and versions of truths and realities, exacting supremacy in conversation and validation of thought, unwilling to accept something is unknown or wrongly known, tendency to deplete the capacities of other people’s intelligence compared to their own 

Pisces express the whole spectrum of human and beyond-human archetype. Ghosts and spirits stir in the unconscious, waiting to be unleashed. You cannot believe everything you feel, Pisces can make you experience heaven, hell or both at once. Remember they can wield and rule two worlds you’ve never even been to before. A a wounded pisces can cut to the spirit like a psychic surgeon, detonating somebody’s personality from the soul upward. The same tools that open the door for immense sensitivity and forgiveness become the blades turned on other people. This is why you should never wrong a pisces. You may spend centuries repairing the damage 

-C.