in ways that make us feel good

Thank you Claudio for making dreams come true…

It’s an absolute disgrace that you’ve been sacked 9 months after making us Premier League Champions. I feel personally devastated that you’ve had to pay the price for the absolute shite way in that this group of players have played this season. No one was expecting us to be putting forward a title defence (I was happy just to avoid relegation) but this season’s form is completely down to the players and it makes me sad that a good, dignified man has had to lose his job because of them. Just shaking my head in disbelief…


I had completely forgotten about this video I made immediately after the end of season 10, and I would never have uploaded it on YouTube if a post I saw a few days ago hadn’t reminded of it.

Now, I am not particularly good at making videos (I mostlydo it as a way to calm down when I am paricularly anxious) but I think this one might be worth watching simply because of how perfect the song I used is for Dean and Cas. It may be my favourite destiel song of all time, probably because it’s not meant to be a love song, but a prayer.

In the first part there is a person talking about their longing and need  for God, and lamenting their own unworthiness. In the second part, they somehow hear God’s reply: a declaration of omnipresent, selfless, all- encompassing, forgiving love.

I can’t help but think of the first part as Dean’s unconscious prayer to Cas - an expression of his ever present longing- and the second part as Castiel’s reply, given mostly silently, through his actions, his sacrifices and his constant presence.

It reminds me of how Castiel and Dean’s relationship, while definitely and undeniably romantic, is also somehow more than that: before becoming human love, it was the devotion of a divine creature to a human and the faith of a faithless human in an angel. The fact that now, after all these years, we can see this song also as CAS longing for Dean (praying to him) and DEAN answering tells us so much about the revolutionary nature of this untold love story: an angel who is devout to a human and has faith in him, and a man that loves an angel with a kind of love that goes beyond the limitations of humanity.

(Maybe I should consider doing this video in reverse?)

I hope someone enjoys it!


anonymous asked:

Dear Mikleo, what should I do? I'm dating someone who I really love and who returns my feelings, but no matter what I do, I never feel like I'm good enough and like I'm only letting them down. Even though they've said that isn't true, I still somehow feel this way constantly. I won't let my low self-esteem ruin my relationship, but I really always have this voice in the back of my head telling me I'm not good enough and it leads to other depressing thoughts.. I'm not sure how to make it go away.

     It’s… Honestly never an easy thing, being filled with doubts about yourself. They say you’re your own worst critic and I’d be inclined to agree even as a Seraph. Even I used to be ridiculously hard on myself, pushing myself to be better than I was physically capable of at the time. It gets easier to silence the doubts over time.

     To push away those doubts isn’t something that happens over night usually, though. It’s… More of a repetitive process of reminding yourself of your worth at regular intervals; and believe me you’re worth so much whether you realize it or not. Every human in this world touches the lives of another in positive ways all the time. Without you, that touch is gone. 

     In other words, you’re an irreplaceable person with things to do, and that makes you special. You’re going to help shape people’s very lives just by doing what you do.

     When the voice surfaces, maybe it’ll seem silly, but honestly tell it to shut up. Affirm your worth; affirm to yourself that you do good things and that you do what you can in your life. If you feel like you’re not doing enough, step it up so you can acknowledge your efforts. If you’re already worked to the bone, acknowledge that and know that it’s all important.

     It’s not a one-step cure, but if you keep reminding yourself of your worth and you really believe in it and want to believe in it, it’ll get better sooner. Have faith in that, and have faith in your partner to tell you the truth of their feelings. They wouldn’t be with you if they didn’t believe in you and care about you. 


The easiest part of manipulating others is to remember that what people really want, strangely, is to please you.

People want to help. They want to know they have been useful to you in some way and crave the satisfaction of knowing you are grateful for their ‘good deed’.

That’s why it’s important to single someone out, make out as if you need THEIR help and no one else can assist in the same way they can. This makes the person feel special, wanted and needed.

They’ll be willing to help if you act as if they are important.

And then, praise them. Like a dog. If they know they have been useful they feel good about it, and want to do it again.

Suddenly you have them on a leash, and can work your emotional hook into them.

shymilfmarie  asked:

You're breathtaking 😍😘

Thank you so much Marie. I am loving the excitement that this journey is bringing and I have you to thank a little for helping me become confident with my physique. I am confident now but it’s been a little personal journey. Having my husband and love of my life there to always encourage me and make me feel like a princess everyday has been my inspiration. Hearing all of the compliments from Tumblrland has been good for the confidence and soul. Thank you for posting my pics and letting us meet some truly sexy people along the way. We are having a great time💋💋💋😘😘😘

anonymous asked:

Hello, I am currently in a dark place where I can not overcome my bad thoughts. I am meditating and do yoga but nothing helps my anxiety. The people I love the most are anoyed of me of being a negative person. I don't know what to do because a year ago I was the best version of myself and was happy but now I am just feeling not enough. What would you recommend ? It makes me sad to see that I could be happy but I am not.

If you have access to counselling that would be a good way to address this dark place. It is good that you practice meditation and yoga and can recognize how your mood affects the people around you. It is also good that you can recall a time where you were happy and contented.

To use mindfulness techniques to help you find your happiness again, focus on practicing compassion and compassionate action. Compassion when you are feeling so bad can be focused on your own pain. When you notice yourself feeling pain breathe into the difficult feeling and notice the thoughts that are feeding the feeling. See if the thoughts are kind, if you would not say them out loud to a friend, remind yourself that the thoughts are only thoughts, opinions, not truth. Remind yourself that you deserve kindness and respect.

For compassionate actions focus on four areas. 1. Exercise, 2. Positive interactions with others, 3. Time outdoors, 4. Stimulating mind games, like math or crossword puzzles. These are things that you do anyway, so as you practice mindfully with these actions as you do them, recognize that they help you address your mood.

Focusing on positive interactions with others will help you break the cycle of being annoyed and then having the people you care about being annoyed at you. When you are doing yoga, if you do it with others, even though you are focused on exercise, recognize that you are getting benefits from both pro-social interactions and exercise. 

If sitting meditation is extra difficult because to pervasive negative thoughts, practice walking mediation. Take your mediation outside and focus your attention on your feet as they land and leave the ground.

Even though you feel like you are not the best version of yourself now, this is an important period in your growth and learning to deal with difficult feelings. It is a time where you discover what is important to you in life. Although it feels like a step backwards, it is a step forward. You are still your best self.

anonymous asked:

Every time Fox renews a show the chances of Pitch being renewed becomes smaller. Star has been renewed & that means another space in the schedule has been filled. It doesn't look good for Pitch

That’s…not how scheduling works, nonny. But okay. I can’t make you feel any other way than how you feel? I’m not sure what I’m supposed to do here. 

If you want to feel down about Pitch’s chances, I’m not going to dissuade you, but like…for the rest of us trying to stay positive maybe go to someone else’s inbox who’s not? idk. I’ve got enough going on without people coming to me with negative emotions. 

Monday 8:27am
I woke up with you on my mind.
You called me babe last night —
my heart is still pounding.

Tuesday 10:53pm
Today I realized we won’t work.
What we are is hurting her.
And I think she matters more to me than you do.

Wednesday 11:52pm
I broke things off with you today.
She barely said a word.
I’ve never regretted anything more than this.

Thursday 4:03pm
I shouldn’t have sent that message.
You shouldn’t have been so okay with receiving it.

Friday 9:57pm
I almost messaged you today.
I didn’t.

Saturday 8:49pm
I’m walking around town in search of alcohol.
They say that liquor numbs the pain of having a broken heart.
I want to put that to the test.

Sunday 2:32am
I heard you texted a girl you’ve never spoken to before.
I wonder if it’s because you’re trying to replace me.
I can’t help but wish you weren’t.
I thought I was irreplaceable.

—  a week with you on my mind, c.j.n.
Move on, leave, run away, escape this place… but don’t forget about me, about us, about this town. Always remember where you come from so you can appreciate how far you’ve come.
—  c.j.n.