I love my child winn but I'm still not over the fact that he was caught on camera just like Lena but instead he had time to prove himself not guilty but Lena just got thrown into jail without even getting her side of the story.
mon el: a slave owner - deserves to tell his side of the story n get another chance despite already wasting 50 chances he had
winn: literally caught on camera - innocent until proven otherwise
lena: saved the entire alien population n put her evil mother in jail - should be arrested immediately n not to be trusted simply bc her last name is luthor
When you fuck up, and someone points out how you fucked up, no matter how upset you feel about it, take a step back and deal with your fuckup and your feelings separately.
Your apology should be about what you did wrong and how you plan to be better in the future. Thank them for telling you and giving you the chance to realize how messed up it was. You can say you regret your choice.
Your feelings of guilt/embarrassment/etc need to be handled s e p a r a t e l y.
Don’t demand that a person you just hurt comfort you through your feelings about the situation. Don’t expect them to immediately look past what you did - and the hurt it caused them - to reassure you and make you feel less bad about it. Definitely don’t give a half-assed or nonexistent apology and then attack them for causing you to experience a negative emotion.
Just apologize. Process your feelings about the situation separately with someone who agrees to that, who’s not involved in the situation.
And when you do, don’t make yourself out to be a victim there, either. It’s okay to say “What I did was wrong. Being told I was wrong brought up all these feelings I need to process and understand so I can be better.” You don’t have to make the people you hurt sound like bullies to justify being upset.
Enjoying some Italian white on this fine day. Lovely nose of white flowers, chamomile, golden apples, and white nut mix. Very mineral on the palate with whiffs of limestone, lemony pear, and some florals.