in terms of their relationship

abuse is addictive due to brain’s hormonal response to extreme stimuli and it’s still not the victim’s fault if they crave abuse or feel restless and anxious without it, it does not mean they wanted it or deserved it, they’ve been hurt so much their brain is damaged by it, nobody on this planet consents to brain damage or wants to cope with feeling absolutely dreadful all the time and craving pain so much while feeling guilty and ashamed for feeling it, it takes ages to stabilize and have your brain hormones regulated properly again but it can and will happen so just keep hanging in there, you are healing all the time no matter what you do

i forgot to mention what I love most about ragnarok: that rangarok took all of the character assassination bullshit from the dark world and age of ultron and turned it on its ass.

dark world implies loki killed his father to take the crown? ragnarok makes loki a blassé and nonviolent leader that just dropped his dad off at a nursing home. GOD OF MISCHIEF. not god of death or god of pain and suffering. MISCHIEF. 100% the most in-character Loki Thing he’s done since the first thor movie. not only that but not for one second does thor ever think loki capable of killing their father. because he isn’t.

the dark world makes thor say a bunch of horrible and damaging things to loki? ragnarok has him still struggle with it but legitimately come to rational terms with everything enough to show their disfunctional but ultimately loving relationship.

age of ultron creates the dumbest romantic trope in the history of man between natasha and bruce? ragnarok makes so much fun of it to the point where it’s shown to be as ridiculous as it is.

the dark world AND age of ultron make thor this broody and unfunny mythical being? ragnarok fuckin made sure that was no longer the case because what makes thor so wonderful is his moral compass, aloofness, and kindness.

they literally fixed the infinity gauntlet plot hole in 0.0002 seconds. this movie took everything wrong with the MCU and fuckin fixed it

god, what a movie

let’s talk about a ptsd thing that’s called sense of foreshortened future. i don’t see anyone ever talking about it here and i think that it’s important that people know that what they experience is nothing but another symptom of their mental illness.

So what is it?

Basically, sense of foreshortened future is a feeling or a belief that for some reason you won’t have a long and fullfilling life. You feel like you will die soon – or sooner than expected – and therefore you shouldn’t make any long-term plans. You try to avoid long-term relationships, you don’t have any career plans, reaching your birthday - hell, sometimes even managing to surivive the week surprises you. 

You feel like you’ll never have a normal life because you’re not only broken beyond repair but also can’t trust anyone anymore. It is an incredibly depressing feeling that makes you feel like there’s no point in… anything, really? Every activity becomes dull and pointless and you don’t know what drags you though life at this point.

I know it won;t make the feeling go away but I want you to know that this feeling is NOT a reflection of reality. You’re not broken beyond repair and you will have a normal happy life if you work on your recovery. making plans is not pointless. You deserve to be happy and you will be happy. Don’t let PTSD and its symptoms convince you otherwise.

“but is it still abuse if the abuser doesn’t seem to realize he’s doing it?”

YES IT IS.
Abuse is defined by the pain and trauma victims go thru, your suffering and fear don’t go down one bit because “abuser may not be aware of what they’re doing”, actually, it goes up! Being tortured by someone who doesn’t care enough to even freaking realize they’re damaging you is much more dehumanizing and emotionally taxing than at least knowing the abuser’s intention clearly and that they’re achieving exactly what they want to achieve. Being lost about abuser’s intentions adds on to the trauma!

It doesn’t matter if they meant to do it or not (in most cases they absolutely meant it or didn’t actually give a shit if they’re hurting you or not as long as they get what they want). Staying safe from this person is important. Stopping the abuse and preventing any future abuse is important. Healing is important. Label the abuser with whatever you need that helps you to heal. Forget abuser’s side of the story and focus on yours. What they agree or disagree, what they’re aware or aren’t aware isn’t nearly as important as stopping that person from harming you, and preventing them from hurting you ever again.

the boy who lived

after you’ve been in abusive situation long term you have no idea how much stress and burden it’s inflicting into your life, it becomes normal that your biggest worry is anticipating your abuser’s mood and actions, and not your own life and your own achievements.It becomes normal to dread what they’re going to think or say about you, what they’re going to do if you take a step outside of what they allow you to do. Always feeling trapped and suffocating becomes the new normal, wanting to get away and not knowing from what becomes just “life” and it’s impossible to even imagine how your life would look like if you were free. Abusers can make freedom seem scary, wrong, even stupid, as if you don’t deserve it, as if everything you would do on your own, from your own will, is silly, dumb and wrong, like a free will of your own is a ridiculous thing for you to have. Like you don’t deserve it. Even when it’s your first human right.

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That little Slug shit.

Also a little snip bit of how I view my White Hat and Dr. Slug’s personality’s, I love the idea that White Hat is a retired Hero who now sells goods and wares. Though back when he was a hero he didn’t pay that much concern for villains and could be quite brutal. Now comes in Dr. Slug who is a prison escapee (In prison for illegal wares, thievery, and hacking) is taken under White Hat’s wing as a form of rehab. Dr. Slug knows White Hat’s past and wants to try and get a rise out of him and break that stupid goody two shoes act he throws up. Eventually though White Hat catches on and it becomes a big game of pushing each others buttons. Until slowly but surely Dr. Slug’s metal bars start melting away and he falls for that stupid smile, and in a way helps White Hat learn to take care of himself and not just pour out his all on helping others.

signs you’re recovering from long term abuse:

  • bursts of rage, or continuous rage at what was done to you
  • desire to overpower, restrain, chain up, torture or murder your abuser
  • clarity and full belief in your perception, complete rejection of abuser’s point of view
  • no longer caring what the abuser thinks of you, knowing their opinion is worthless and filled with lies
  • cutting off abusers easily as soon as you notice they’re toxic to you
  • willingness to do whatever it takes to fight for your life
  • rage at anyone who would cause any further abuse to you
  • strong conviction that hurting you is evil, and that anyone who does hurt you should be villified for it
  • full belief that anyone who hurts you is not to be excused for their actions, not given further trust, and that they should pay for it
  • valuing your freedom of movement, freedom of mind, safety of resources and ability to survive more than any kind of uncertain hopes, promises or validation
  • unwillingness to depend on someone’s view of you, opinion of you, or affection towards you, as it could change at any second and causes instability and anxiety
  • valuing stability more than highs and lows
  • ability to detect when someone is trying to confuse you, divert your point, make you look bad with the intention of punishing or controlling you, silence you or make themselves superior to you, and reacting with rage
  • avalanche of rage at any attempt to gaslight you, not willing for one second to doubt your own memory, being completely clear that anyone who pretends they didn’t do and say things they did is lying
  • unwillingness to consider yourself less valuable or important than other humans, and getting angry whenever you’re treated in such manner
  • refusing to do as you’re told, even if it makes people angry, knowing that what you want to do is more important than what anyone else wants from you
  • owning your life for yourself and knowing nobody else has any right to it
  • anger at everyone who could have helped you while you were abused and didn’t, anger at anyone who sided with your abusers, anger at system which allowed for you to be abused for so long, anger at helplessness to change it
  • recognition of your situation and full awareness you were helpless during abuse, and that none of it is remotely your fault
  • unwillingness to pretend and act in social situations
  • unwillingness abandon your morals, feelings, opinions and personality for the sake of pretend friendships and pretend relationships, only seeking real connections that don’t require you to make yourself socially acceptable
  • distrust in anyone who you notice is demanding authority, control, abuse and exploitation of another’s life, recognizing abusers and those who abuse the power of their social or economic standing and being actively disgusted by them
  • no delusions about people “only wanting the best for you” or “only wanting to help” while they’re hurting you, rejecting all harmful and useless advice and minimization of your pain
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peter & gamora + tropes | guardians of the galaxy vol. 1 & vol. 2

“When are we gonna do something about this unspoken thing between us?”

“What unspoken thing?”

“This…Cheers”, Sam and Diane, ‘guy and a girl on a TV show who dig each other but never say it because if they do the ratings would go down’ sort of thing?”

- Conversational Troping

Alternative Gender Neutral Titles (Credit to @genderqueeries )

Mum/Dad

  • Parent; neutral, formal.
  • Per; neutral, short for parent.
  • Par; neutral, short for parent.
  • Dommy; queer, mixture of mommy and daddy (note: sounds like Dom/me, a BDSM term)
  • Maddy; queer, mixture of mummy/mommy and daddy.
  • Muddy; queer, mixture of mummy and daddy.
  • Moddy; queer, mixture of mommy and daddy.
  • Zaza; queer, based on mama and papa/dada.
  • Zither; queer, based on mother and father. (Note, zither is also the name of a musical instrument.)
  • Baba; neutral, based on mama and dada. (Note, baba means dad in some languages and grandmother in others.)
  • Nini; queer, based on the N in NB, similar to mama and papa/dada.
  • Bibi; queer, based on the B in NB, similar to mama and papa/dada.
  • Cennend; neutral, Old English (Anglo-Saxon) meaning parent.
  • Cenn; neutral, short for cennend.

Sister/Brother

  • Sibling; neutral, formal.
  • Sib; neutral, short for sibling as sis and bro are short for sister and brother.
  • Sibster; queer, combination of sibling and sister.
  • Sibter; queer, combination of sibling and brother.

Aunt/Uncle

  • Pibling; neutral, your parent’s sibling.
  • Auncle; queer, combination of aunt and uncle.
  • Cousin; neutral, as sometimes people say aunt/uncle for parents’ cousins, or much older cousins.
  • Titi; neutral, from the Spanish for Aunt (Tia) and Uncle (Tio). (however, it is often a diminutive of aunt.)
  • Zizi; neutral, from the Italian for Aunt (Zia) and Uncle (Zio). (Note: zizi is also a French children’s ‘cute’ word for penis.)
  • Nini; queer, based on the N in NB, similar to Titi/Zizi.
  • Bibi; queer, based on the B in NB, similar to Titi/Zizi.
  • Untie/Unty; queer, combination of uncle and auntie/aunty

Niece/Nephew

  • Nibling; neutral, combination of niece/nephew and sibling.
  • Chibling; neutral, the children of you sibling.
  • Cousin; neutral, as sometimes people say niece/nephew for cousins’ children, or much younger cousins.
  • Sibkid; neutral, short for sibling’s kid.
  • Nephiece; queer, mixture of nephew and niece.
  • Niecew; queer, mixture of niece and nephew.
  • Nieph; queer, mixture of niece and nephew.

Daughter/Son

  • Child; neutral, formal.
  • Offspring; neutral, formal.
  • Sprog; neutral, informal.
  • Oldest; neutral, refers to age instead of sex/gender.
  • Youngest; neutral, refers to age instead of sex/gender.
  • Kid; neutral, informal.

Grandma/Grandpa

  • Grandparent; neutral, formal.
  • Grandwa; queer, based on grandma and grandpa.
  • Grandy; neutral, short for Grandparent, Grandma or Grandpa.
  • Nini; queer, based on the N in NB, similar to nana and papa.
  • Bibi; queer, based on the B in NB, similar to nana and papa.

Granddaugter/Grandson

  • Grandchild; neutral, formal.
  • Grandkid; neutral, informal.

Godmother/Godfather

  • Godparent; neutral, formal.

Goddaughter/Godson

  • Godchild; neutral, formal.
  • Godkid; neutral, informal.

Relationship Titles

Girlfriend/Boyfriend (non-serious relationship)

  • Date; neutral, the person you are dating.
  • Datefriend; neutral, the person you are dating, but fitting the boyfriend/girlfriend pattern.
  • Datemate; neutral, a rhyming version of datefriend, the person you are dating.
  • Lover; neutral, often implies sexual relationship, but simply refers to someone you love/who loves you.
  • Boifriend; queer, boi is a particular gender identity.
  • Girlboyfriend; queer, for bigender or androgynous people, or perhaps binary trans people.
  • Boygirlfriend; queer, for bigender or androgynous people, or perhaps binary trans people.
  • Paramour; neutral, someone you are having a sexual relationship with.
  • Bothfriend; queer, for bigender or androgynous people, or perhaps binary trans people.
  • Genderfriend; queer, based on boyfriend and girlfriend.
  • Sweetie; neutral, slightly cheesy.
  • Sweetheart; neutral, cheesy or old-fashioned.
  • [name]friend; queer, based on girlfriend and boyfriend.
  • Cuddle Buddy; neutral, cheesy.
  • Birlfriend; queer, mix of boyfriend and girlfriend.
  • Feyfriend; neutral, leaning towards queer.
  • Personfriend; neutral, leaning towards queer, based on boyfriend and girlfriend.
  • Enbyfriend; queer, based on boyfriend and girfriend. (note: enby comes from NB, non-binary)

Girlfriend/Boyfriend (long-term/serious relationship)

  • Partner; neutral.
  • Significant Other; neutral, quite formal.
  • S.O.; neutral, short for significant other.
  • Other Half; neutral, informal, and implies monogamy.
  • Boifriend; queer, boi is a particular gender identity.
  • Girlboyfriend; queer, for bigender or androgynous people, or perhaps binary trans people.
  • Boygirlfriend; queer, for bigender or androgynous people, or perhaps binary trans people.
  • Paramour; neutral, someone you are having a sexual relationship with.
  • Bothfriend; queer, for bigender or androgynous people, or perhaps binary trans people.
  • Genderfriend; queer, based on boyfriend and girlfriend.
  • Sweetie; neutral, slightly cheesy.
  • Sweetheart; neutral, cheesy or old-fashioned.
  • [name]friend; queer, based on girlfriend and boyfriend.
  • Cuddle Buddy; neutral, cheesy.
  • Steady; neutral, as in “going steady” or “steady girlfriend/boyfriend”.
  • Soul Mate; neutral, slightly cheesy, implies belief in soul mates.
  • Birlfriend; queer, mix of boyfriend and girlfriend.
  • Feyfriend; neutral, leaning towards queer.
  • Personfriend; neutral, leaning towards queer, based on boyfriend and girlfriend.
  • Loveperson; neutral, a person that you love.
  • Enbyfriend; queer, based on boyfriend and girfriend (note: enby comes from NB, non-binary).
  • Epox; neutral, from the French ‘époux’ which means husband/spouse.
  • Companion; neutral, reference to Doctor Who’s companions, or Firefly’s Companions.
  • Imzadi; neutral, from Star Trek, a Betazed word similar to beloved.

Fiancée/Fiancé

  • Betrothed; neutral, formal.
  • Partner; neutral.
  • Significant Other; neutral, quite formal.
  • S.O.; neutral, short for significant other, a tad formal.
  • Other Half; neutral, informal, implies monogamy.
  • Sweetie; neutral, slightly cheesy.
  • Sweetheart; neutral, cheesy or old-fashioned.
  • Cuddle Buddy; neutral, cheesy.
  • Steady; neutral, as in “going steady” or “steady girlfriend/boyfriend”.
  • Soul Mate; neutral, slightly cheesy, implies belief in soul mates.
  • Loveperson; neutral, a person that you love.
  • Epox; neutral, from the French ‘époux’ which means husband/spouse.
  • Companion; neutral, reference to Doctor Who’s companions, or Firefly’s Companions.
  • Imzadi; neutral, from Star Trek, a Betazed word similar to beloved.

Wife/Husband

  • Spouse; neutral, formal.
  • Partner; neutral.
  • Significant Other; neutral, quite formal.
  • S.O.; neutral, short for significant other, a tad formal.
  • Other Half; neutral, informal.
  • Sweetie; neutral, slightly cheesy.
  • Sweetheart; neutral, cheesy or old-fashioned.
  • Cuddle Buddy; neutral, cheesy.
  • Steady; neutral, as in “going steady” or “steady girlfriend/boyfriend”.
  • Soul Mate; neutral, slightly cheesy, implies belief in soul mates.
  • Loveperson; neutral, a person that you love.
  • Epox; neutral, from the French ‘époux’ which means husband/spouse.
  • Companion; neutral, reference to Doctor Who’s companions, or Firefly’s Companions.
  • Imzadi; neutral, from Star Trek, a Betazed word similar to beloved.

Official Titles

Ms./Mr.

  • Mx.; queer, from mix or X as opposed to M or F.
  • M.; neutral, short for any and all titles. (note: M. is also short for Monsieur, making it masculine in French speaking countries)
  • Misc.; queer, the word miscellaneous.
  • Msr.; queer, mixture of Ms. and Mr..
  • Mq.; queer, based on the M beginning of Ms./Mr..
  • Ind.; neutral, short for Individual.

Miscellaneous Titles

Ma’am/Sir

  • Comrade; neutral, not suitable for all situations due to leftist/communist connotations.
  • Friend; neutral, very informal.
  • Citizen; neutral.
  • Tiz; neutral, short for citizen.
  • Mirdam; queer, a mix of Sir and Madam, although it still sounds similar to Madam.
  • Mistdam; queer, a mix of Mister and Madam.
  • Sir’ram; queer, a mix of Sir and Ma’am.
  • Laddam; queer, a mix of Lad and Madam.
  • Mir; queer, a mix of Sir and Madam.
  • Sir; neutral, Sir is used neutrally in the military, although this doesn’t work as well outside of that.

King/Queen

  • Monarch; neutral.
  • Ruler; neutral.
  • Sovereign; neutral.
  • Your Majesty; neutral, a way of addressing royalty.
  • Quing; queer, mix of King and Queen.
  • Caln; queer, created word based on the K/Q sound of King and Queen.

Prince/Princess

  • Prin; queer, based on the Prince/ss ending.
  • Prinxe; queer, based on the Prince/ss ending.
  • Princet; queer, based on the Prince/ss ending.
  • Princette; queer, based on the Prince/ss ending.
  • Princev; queer, based on the Prince/ss ending.
  • Princen; queer, based on the Prince/ss ending.
  • Princus; queer, based on the Prince/ss ending.
  • Your Highness; neutral, a way of addressing royalty.
  • Heir; neutral, refers to future monarchy.
  • Princex; queer, based on the Prince/ss ending, POC-coined and POC exclusive.

Lord/Lady

  • Lairde; queer, based on the sound of La in Lady and rd in Lord.
  • Layde; queer, based on the sound of La in Lady and rd in Lord.
  • Ruler; neutral.
  • Liege; neutral, term of address for a Lord/Lady.
  • Sovereign; neutral.
  • Suzerain; neutral, a feudal equivalent of Lord/Lady.
  • Potentate; neutral, a Latin word for someone in power.

Khal/Khaleesi (A Song of Ice and Fire / Game of Thrones)

  • Khalsine; queer.
  • Khalse; queer.
  • Khalof; neutral, created by David J Peterson who developed the Dothraki for the show.

God/Goddess

  • God; neutral.
  • Goddex; queer, based on the God/dess ending.
  • Goddette; queer, based on the God/ess ending.
  • Goddeq; queer, based on the God/ess ending.
  • Deity; neutral, another word meaning god.

Boy/Girl

  • Kid; neutral.
  • Enby; queer, from the sound of NB, non-binary.
  • Neut; neutral, short for neutal.
  • Newt; neutral, variation of neut.
  • Null; queer, refering to someone whose gender is ‘null’.
  • Gul; queer, a mixture of boy and girl.

Fanboy/Fangirl

  • Fanenby; queer, using enby as a replacement for boy/girl.
  • Fanby; queer, a mixture of fanboy/fangirl and enby.


ORIGINAL PAGE

I think all of us who went thru long term abuse we were unable to escape from had to tear out pieces of ourselves, of our mental health, physical health, emotional health, our integrity, our personality, our life, just to stay alive, we had to trade parts of ourselves for our life and that is not something you ever forget or recover from.

25 Relationship Quotes to Get You Through a Breakup

No matter who ended it, why it fell apart, or how long ago it was, getting through the aftermath of a relationship is never an easy task. As you feel the waves of emotions from sadness to anger to relief while your heart heals, let these encouraging words give you the dose of inspiration you need.


For seeing the bright side

“To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose is the next best." 

– William Makepeace Thackeray



For remembering the bigger picture

"I mean, if the relationship can’t survive the long term, why on earth would it be worth my time and energy for the short term?" 

– Nicholas Sparks, author



For why you have to cry sometimes

"Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either." 

– Golda Meir, politician



For getting through the rough days

"Hearts live by being wounded." 

– Oscar Wilde, playwright



For valuing patience

"Only time can heal his heart, just as only time can heal his broken arms and legs." 

– Miss Piggy, Muppet



For savoring the transformation

"The dreams break into a million tiny pieces. The dream dies. Which leaves you with a choice: you can settle for reality, or you can go off, like a fool, and dream another dream.”

– Nora Ephron, author



For relishing the good times

“The hottest love has the coldest end." 

– Socrates, philosopher



For the motivation to move on

"No matter how hard your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief." 

— Faraaz Kazi



For finding the humor

"I never hated a man enough to give his diamonds back." 

— Zsa Zsa Gabor, actress



For packing away the tissues

"Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional." 

— M. Kathleen Casey, politician



For prioritizing your strength

"You can only lose what you cling to." 

— Buddha



For the good moments to come

"In the process of letting go you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself." 

— Deepak Chopra



For the nudge to pull the plug

"You’ve gotta know when it’s time to turn the page.”

— Tori Amos, singer-songwriter



For a lesson in love

“Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energy moving forward together towards an answer.”

— Denis Waitley, motivational speaker



For unfriending on Facebook

“The most difficult aspect of moving on is accepting that the other person already did." 

— Faraaz Kazi, author



For remembering you’re not alone

"I think every girl has that a guy she has trouble letting go of." 

— Rashida Jones, actress



For new beginnings

"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need." 

– Lao Tzu, philosopher



For the best that’s yet to come

"Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny." 

— Steve Maraboli, author



For living in the moment

"Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure." 

— Oprah Winfrey



For improving your odds

"The best skill at cards is knowing when to discard." 

— Baltasar Gracián, philosopher



For being thankful for love

"Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart" 

— Washington Irving, author



For being openhearted

"When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us" 

— Alexander Graham Bell, inventor



For the upcoming rainbow

"Life always waits for some crisis to occur before revealing itself at its most brilliant.”

— Paulo Coelho, author



For never settling

“Never love anybody that treats you like you’re ordinary.”

— Oscar Wilde, playwright


For appreciating the bittersweet

“The saddest thing about love, Joe, is that not only the love cannot last forever, but even the heartbreak is soon forgotten.”   

― William Faulkner, author 

also noah fence but why do we as a fanbase sleep on catfa and joe johnston so much?? like okay i know catws was a work of art and we all thank the russo’s for that, but catfa was such a beautiful film, it was so full of heart, it connected us with these characters from the get go. catws was so impactful because we knew already how much bucky meant to steve, we knew how deep and significant that bond was, we knew everything that steve had lost to get to this point, and we knew all of that because of the story joe put onto our screens in catfa and i just think it deserves more love than we give it

Living in the same place as a toxic person, especially toxic family member, is exhausting and damaging full time, not only while they’re abusing you directly, but at every moment because you just know they want to hurt you and even while they’re not doing it, you know they’re planning to, and you have no idea what to expect and when it will happen and how big the damage is going to be, being kept in uncertainty and constant expectation of abuse can drive you insane. It’s actually worse when they’re temporarily nice because you don’t even know what to make of it, it gets harder and harder to call them out or confront them, especially if they use fake niceness to manipulate others’ general opinion of them and to invalidate your claims of abuse. So even if the abuse is rare and the rest of the time they somewhat leave you alone or play nice, stress and anxiety is full time, incapability to stop or even voice their actions gets worse and piles up until you feel helpless and like you’re somehow in the wrong and accusing the abuser wont get you anywhere but makes you look bad instead. 

Living in these conditions long term will fundamentally change your own perception of yourself, and the sense of your own importance and value, often it will result in trauma as well. Just knowing that you’re in environment that continually allows someone to hurt you, and even supports it, forces you to accept that the world considers hurting you something that is natural and normal and should be done. How wouldn’t that cause anxiety and feelings of unsafety and abandonment and of low self worth? It’s fucking terrifying you mean so little to this world they would have you destroyed just because someone felt like destroying you. 

Inner Demon

Sun in the 8th (or Leo in the 8th house cusp): The will, that brilliant and majestic will. That will that is equally driven toward self destruction, the will that is relentless about fighting for the right to live. The individual bonds with lovers so profusely that they imbibe the purpose of their lover as part of their own

Moon in the 8th (or Cancer on the 8th house cusp): The inner demon waits and expresses through emotional energy, deceiving the individual into believing they are at hostage to these wild emotions. Through the ego-loss of the 8th, the individual can separate the self from the emotion, understanding emotion as transforming, insightful experience and not the captor 

Mercury in the 8th (or Gemini/Virgo on the 8th cusp): The demon resting in the mind, crawling into thoughts to contaminate them, easily destroying others with words. The individual may identify these thoughts as part of themselves. Realising the inner monologue is separate from the self deflates these mental experiences opens the door of free flowing intuition from the unconscious

Venus in the 8th (or Taurus/Libra on the 8th house cusp): The demon is projected onto lovers, the demon waits in the heart’s desire, its compulsion its consumption, can harmonise the forces of light and dark. They can sensitively draw lovers into a magic cauldron of sexual experience, revealing everything including soul 

Mars in the 8th (or Aries/Scorpio on the 8th house cusp): The rage, the carnal urges, the desire to consume. The swords for invisible battle are raised, but in this the individual accomplishes great feats in the material world, especially in terms of relationships. The intuition is focused toward exhuming connections with other people, settling for nothing less than magnificent 

Jupiter in the 8th (or Sagittarius/Pisces on the 8th house cusp): The desire to know, to have the answer, to relentlessly pursuit spiritual desires in the material world. The inner world is a portal to the ravaged and raised guru. Intuition conduits through the higher mind directly from the underworld, ready to cultivate the purest wisdom  

Saturn in the 8th (or Capricorn/Aquarius on the 8th house cusp): The ego, it’s grip on the self and its refusal to let go. The fears of relenting and giving into insanity. Vulnerability, letting go, and trusting the universe with its astral body is the place where the individual can master both worlds. Intuitive capacities can be mindfully developed and primed

Uranus in the 8th (or Aquarius on the 8th house cusp): The tendency to hold onto lost life, lost circumstances, lost loves, and lost lifestyles. The overturn of change is tremendous, when the person submits they can experience multiple lives and conscious experiences that become purely elevating, facilitating bursts of ingenious psychic activity  

Neptune in the 8th (or Pisces on the 8th house  cusp): The desire to seduce the feeling of death, of seeing how far they can go teasing the ledges of consciousness. It’s about extracting wisdom, healing, and peace through the quality of these experiences rather than destructing through quantity escapism. This sense of elevation they experience must be transmuted into everyday life  

Pluto in the 8th (or Scorpio in the 8th house cusp): The allure and reticence associated with union. The individual must be mindful about sharing spiritual resources with other people, they can introduce something sinister. They can live from chaos to chaos, or they can charter their sensitivity toward conscious transformation of the whole spirit, as new energy flows, perspective must become renewed

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Poly Terms

I’m trying to compile a list of terms related to polyamory for newcomers to the community and anyone else who’s interested in learning about it (I practically had a google tab open whenever I was reading about poly stuff). If you think anything should be added or changed, please let me know.

  • Bigamy: being married (in a legal sense) while already married to another person (usually illegal)
  • Bipoly: a shortened term for bisexual polyamorous
  • Closed relationship: any configuration in which partners are not allowed to seek other partners outside the configuration
  • Compersion: the opposite of jealousy; an empathetic response to a partner’s happiness with their other partner(s)
  • Hierarchical relationship: a polycule configuration in which there is a primary partnership which takes priority over one or more secondary arrangements 
  • Metamour: your partner’s partner that you are not otherwise involved with non-platonically
  • Monogamish: a term used to describe a relationship which is a closed couple most of the time, but has exceptions
  • Monogamy: the practice or state of having a non-platonic relationship with only one partner
  • Non-platonic: a relationship that has a romantic and/or sexual nature
  • Nonmonogamy: blanket term which covers several types of interpersonal relationships in which an individual forms multiple and simultaneous sexual or romantic bonds with informed consent from all involved
  • NRE: acronym for new relationship energy, the feeling of euphoria associated with the beginning of a relationship
  • Open relationship: any configuration in which partners are allowed to seek other partners
  • Polyamory spectrum: a continuum of monogamy to polyamory
  • Polyamory: the philosophy or state of being non-platonically involved with more than one person at the same time with informed consent from all involved
  • Polyandry: polygamy in which a woman has more than one husband
  • Polycule: a network of people who are involved in non-platonic relationships and their metamours
  • Polyfidelity: three or more people in a closed relationship
  • Polygamy: the practice or custom of having more than one wife or husband at the same time
  • Polygyny: polygamy in which a man has more than one wife
  • Polysexual: someone who has the capacity to be attracted to multiple genders, usually more than two (frequently confused with polyamorous)
  • Relationship orientation: a person’s identity as related to their preference for monogamy or polyamory
  • Serial monogamy: not included under the polyamory umbrella; multiple monogamous relationships one after the other
  • Swinging: a configuration in which a couple has a relationship that is open strictly for sexual flings
  • Unicorn hunters: a couple looking for a woman to be their “unicorn” (usually has a negative connotation)
  • Unicorn: a bisexual polyamorous woman who is open to forming a (usually closed) triad with an established couple; referred to as a unicorn because women as described above are extremely rare