(If there are grammar errors or if it’s scattered, forgive me I’m very tired as I write this xD)
After struggling with my exhaustion, I got out of bed for what I knew was going to be a long morning. After putting my feet on the floor, I immediately got a text from my friend/coworker at the parish saying that she needed me downstairs ASAP to help her set up for the parent-student retreat we were putting on. I showered faster than I ever have, brushed my teeth, and threw on the closest items of clothing I could find.
I ran downstairs and was immediately tasked with helping heat up the food for the day. After I had done that I ran to the church, waited for the announcements and final blessing, and went into ministry-mode.
I have committed disgusting sexual acts (i.e. depraved fetish stuff) in the past. I need to confess my sins but how specific do I need to be? Surely the priest will know it's me confessing it, right? I don't think I'd be able to show my face again at church if I have to go into detail about the shameful things I've done. Too humiliating. I guess the priest isn't supposed to judge or something but he's still human and there's no way he wouldn't.
First of all, it’s important to remember that during confession, the priest is acting ‘in persona christi’ - in the person of Christ - so you’re not confessing to the priest but to Christ.
Secondly, God already knows what you’ve done. Confession isn’t about admitting sins to God; he already knows them. It’s about reconciliation and penance. The fact that you feel like the shame is too great is a good indication that you’re truly sorry.
Thirdly, don’t worry. The priest has heard it all. You might think what you’re going to confess is shocking and horrifying to him, but it’s not. Priests hear dozens of confessions every week, and you’d be surprised at what other people are confessing.
Fourthly, in regards to specificness. You have to confess kind and number. The kind of sin and the number of times you engaged in it. Don’t be completely vague i.e. “I’ve engaged in promiscuity” but don’t describe the sexual acts in detail either. Perhaps “I’ve engaged in sexual fetishes with [women/men] X amount of times” would be best. Now, if those fetishes are homosexual or incestuous, you will have to confess that too, because it changes the kind of sin.
Good luck and remember, better to get it off your chest and be reconciled with God than to live with it silently in shame.
Plenty of second- and third-tier executive appointments left in the federal government. He’s also a lawyer so a judicial appointment is feasible too. Supreme Court Justice Chris Christie?
I kinda think he’s fucked for at least 4-8 years? Maybe if Kushner’s new property is an 8x8 box in leavenworth he has a chance, but as long as JK’s slithering in the back somewhere I think Christie’s persona non-grata. The best thing he can do is pony up to whoever’s making a push in 2022 and hope that the Republican establishment will forgive him his trespasses. I could see him as a federal judge god damn it, but he’ll never achieve the power the type of guy who cheers for the Cowboys even though he’s from Jersey, wants in his life, and I can take some solace in that.
According to the Catholic Church: priests can absolve you of your sins, you can work off our sins in purgatory, and you can buy your way into heaven (via indulgences). If all of this is true, then the crucifixion of Christ was unnecessary. How can so many Catholics claim to be Christians when the single most significant event in Christianity is unnecessary to them? There are soo many issues I have with Catholicism, but that's one that I never hear people talk about.
I can see why this would be a problem for you given the way that you’ve phrased it. However, there are a few errors in your understanding of the Catholic faith that I would LOVE to shed some light on.
First of all, you said “Priests can absolve you of your sins.” This, however, is not at all what the Catholic Church teaches. When a Catholic goes to confession they are absolved of their sins, yes, but it is not the priest who is absolving those sins. When in confession, the priest is in persona Christi which means that they are acting in the person of Christ, or acting on behalf of Christ. A priest isn’t granted magical powers of forgiveness through their vocation, but is a minister for Christ and forgives just as Christ asked and gave his apostles the ability to forgive sins in His name (John 20:23). Additionally, in the prayer of absolution, or the prayer of forgiveness, the priest specifically recognizes the the power of the death and resurrection of Christ as the means by which the penitent’s sins are forgiven, not simply by the power of the priest. You can read more about reconciliation and the absolution prayer here.
Secondly, one does not simply “work off their sins in purgatory” like you said. One can only enter purgatory if they are in a state of grace – they have not been living a tremendously sinful life and they can just go to purgatory and expect it all to be gone. In this life, Catholics and Christians are expected to work out their salvation in fear and trembling (Philippians 2:12). One can’t live a terribly sinful life with no desire for Christ and then assume that all of it will be melted away in Purgatory. That’s not what Catholics believe. A good analogy for purgatory is a fence. When we sin, we put a nail in the fence. When we are forgiven by Christ, the nail is taken out, but the hole in the fence remains. Purgatory is a place where all of the holes in the fence are repaired so we can be perfected and cleansed for an eternal life with Christ. We must ask the forgiveness of Christ and then be purified in purgatory.
Finally, you can definitely not buy your way into Heaven. Indulgences are not allowed to be sold. Although they were in the middle ages, the Pope strictly condemned it shortly after. An indulgence, by definition, is “a remission before God of the temporal punishment due to sins whose guilt has already been forgiven, which the faithful Christian who is duly disposed gains under certain defined conditions through the Church’s help when, as a minister of redemption, she dispenses and applies with authority the treasury of the satisfactions won by Christ and the saints.” It is necessary that one asks for forgiveness of their sins, by the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ, before they can be relieved of the temporal punishment (purgatory) by an indulgence. Indulgences DO NOT forgive sins, or give someone a “ticket” to Heaven or out of Hell. You can read more about indulgences here.
I hope this information has been a little helpful and brought some clarity to you! I am praying for you!