in a way this is racist and sexist

All I really need to say:


In canceling Milo’s book contract, Simon & Schuster made a business decision the same way they made a business decision when they decided to publish that man in the first place. When his comments about pedophilia/pederasty came to light, Simon & Schuster realized it would cost them more money to do business with Milo than he could earn for them. They did not finally “do the right thing” and now we know where their threshold, pun intended, lies. They were fine with his racist and xenophobic and sexist ideologies. They were fine with his transphobia, anti-Semitism and Islamophobia. They were fine with how he encourages his followers to harass women and people of color and transgender people online. Let me assure you, as someone who endured a bit of that harassment, it is breathtaking in its scope, intensity, and cruelty but hey, we must protect the freedom of speech. Certainly, Simon & Schuster was not alone in what they were willing to tolerate. A great many people were perfectly comfortable with the targets of Milo’s hateful attention until that attention hit too close to home.

Because I’ve been asked, I will not be publishing my book with Simon & Schuster now that they have dropped Milo. After I pulled my book, they changed the release date of Dangerous from March to June 13, the day my next book, Hunger, comes out. I said nothing because I was neither threatened nor concerned but it did reinforce for me that this was not a company I wanted to do business with. My protest stands. Simon & Schuster should have never enabled Milo in the first place. I see what they are willing to tolerate and I stand against all of it. Also, I’ve received far better offers for How to Be Heard from other publishers.

There are some who will spin the cancellation of this book contract as a failure of the freedom of speech but such is not the case. This is yet another example of how we are afforded the freedom of speech but there is no freedom from the consequences of what we say.

okay, the reason that I get mad and antsy about posts that are like “despite what tumblbllblblbllblblr says you can like people who are problematic :)” is that God, “problematic” is the most vague wimpy bullshit baby umbrella term in the entire world

if my friend says “he’s my problematic fav ^_^” i instantly get worried because “problematic” can mean literally ANYTHING from “said something mildly insenstive about a political issue” to “voices distaste about those gosh dang horrible Latinos coming to steal American jobs” to “sexually harassed and groped his underage fans.” what did he do? who cares! it’s insignificant enough to just shove under a single bland inoffensive word and never touch it again, i guess

you’re allowed to like famous people (or like, shows or video games or whatever) that have flaws, but you can’t just hide bad things under a single tidy little word so can absolve yourself of any guilt you get over supporting a guy who’s beaten his lover or who’s whined about how there’s no more racism in America.

stop cooing to yourself and your followers that it’s okay to like ~problematic~ things, we GET it,
nobody’s perfect, so let’s move past that. grow a fucking spine and say words like “sexist” or “bigoted” outloud. and not just in a watered down “yeah she said some bad things :(” kind of way, get MEAN about! “yeah i like her work a lot, but i hate all that bullshit racist stuff she says on her Twitter” you’re allowed to like something while being loud, vocal, and angry about how much you hate the bad parts. be mean, be unpleasant, but never just be the person who gives a pass to all the bullshit that assholes can get away with in this world just because you don’t want to feel bad for liking a tv show or celebrity

anonymous asked:

Before you defend males being witches I think you need to step back and realize why people are hesitant about involving males in witchcraft. Historically males were the ones burning and murdering females for witchcraft. It's no coincidence why women are more strongly associated with life/death, magic, etc. It's not transphobic to say this and that men deserve no acceptance in something women were persecuted (and in some areas still are). Women own witchcraft.

I’m sorry if you thought you’d be informing me of something I had no clue of,  but earnestly this whole “Women own witchcraft” is the very most idiotic, Euro centric argument I have ever heard in Witch Discourse.

You need to get off your racist, sexist high horse right this instant.

I’ve done research and experienced witchcraft in my own culture and have knowledge of the witch hunts of the 1600s. It’s not a case of “The evil males murdering women!!!” It was a case of both women and men who used their religion to murder people horrifically and senselessly out of ignorance and fear. Both genders were the perpetrators and victims, both genders were the victims. Some women are more in tune to their spirituality and open to witchcraft due to the way western culture has brought women and men act. In other cultures, men are more likely to be spiritual leaders, or it may be perfectly egalitarian. 

Saying that women own witchcraft because men in their culture fucked shit up for witches is essentially saying that atheists and pagans alone own witchcraft because Christians fucked shit up for witches. 

Saying that women own witchcraft is like saying that poc own witchcraft because of imperialism’s damage to poc’s culture. 

Saying that women own witchcraft is like saying that only people born to witch families own witchcraft.

Inherently, all people, males included, have the same amount of spiritual potential and energy. The way some people’s witchcraft works is recognizing that we are all witches, we are all beings with energies and spirituality and we choose to develop and partake in our own. Blocking off half the population for crimes they did not commit is disgusting.

Not to mention how GODDAMN RACIST THIS IS!

I come from Miami, and in Miami I’ve experienced a lot of the Santeria culture. Here, people mostly talk about it when there’s dead chickens washing up on shores after sacrifices or when dead animals are dropped off in bags at the courthouse, and I’m going to assume that you think witchcraft is revamped spells from the 1600s where animal bones are cutely replaced with some other herb followed by crystals sitting on the shelf.

However..

Santería is a culture of witches. Santería is very valid witchcraft, it is sometimes bloody and not cute and not adapted to Western Culture but that is the goddamn point. There are males that practice witchcraft in this culture, in fact leaders of all genders.

Native Indigenous culture have had Shamanism and related spiritualistic religions, there are so many tribes where witchcraft comes in the forms of women, men and non binary people such as the complex Two Spirit identity doing rituals, sacrifices, meditations… witchcraft is the practice of magick, and guess who practices magick?

These babies! See the things in grey! Those are called non western civilizations! Theses are places where thousands of individual communities exist, all with their own religions and native cultures! And most of them have all practiced some form of magick! Both men and women and non binary people!

If you’re a crystal witch, male or female or nonbinary Shamans probably made or sold you your crystals. Your lore could be from a Jewish Rabbi, of Jewish Mysticism. Or the Muslim intertwining of pagan and occultism. Or it could be the literal God Of Witchcraft, Thoth, in Egyptian culture. It could be an Alchemist, such as Gilles de Rais or Heinrich Cornelius Agrippa, all males murdered for their practicing witchcraft. The masks and skulls bought may very well be from Ghana tribes that were used as Talismans, or certain artifacts and rituals may come from Benin, West African tribes and communities. 

You do not, never have, never will own witchcraft. No one ever will. And if you think men should be excluded, then only female, magick inherited African tribes victim to imperialism should own witchcraft.

Thank you for reading, and fuck Euro Centric supremacy.

making it clear:

i do not support or defend the racist or sexist ideas and actions of the founding fathers. in fact, i do not support or defend most of the things that the founding fathers did and believed. period. when i say i love them, i am talking about the way the characters are portrayed in hamilton the musical. i love the way the characters are portrayed. i love the actors who portray the characters. i do not, at all, believe that the founding fathers were good people with good morals. and i would never, ever, ever defend someone who owned other human beings and thought it was okay. i love the characters and the way they are portrayed, not the actual people. 

OKAY SUPERCORP/KARAMEL RANT

**Please read** This all really needs to be said. However, before I go further I want you all to understand that this isn’t meant to be a hate paragraph or to purposefully put those who like Mon-El and/or Karamel down. At this point, all the disagreeing and fighting will do nothing. So I’m asking kindly that if you’re going to add something to this post- that it is filled with positive intent. 

 Anyhow, to my point:

I do watch Supergirl by the way, but I truly believe this concerns a wide variety of people. Whether you’re a fan of The 100, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, The Walking Dead, or just a person living your life… All I hope is that we all try to grasp the reality of what is truly going on. Now I will centralize this long rant towards Supergirl however. For those of you who don’t know what is going on there is a conflict between fans who ship this character, Mon-El, together with Supergirl/Kara and fans who ship Lena Luthor with Supergirl/Kara. Now, in my humble opinion, the big issue isn’t about straight v.s lgbt people and I will go on about that later… but the fact that she is with someone like Mon-El. Now what do I mean by ‘someone like Mon-El’… before certain people get mad I want to emphasize that I’m simply pointing out what happened in the show. 

This is long as hell just fyi.

1) The way Mon-El reacts to most things is through violence. In fact, the moment he wakes up he chokes Kara. And there’s this: 

(his words in white)

And the scene where Mon-El robs Brian; using his powers for selfish reasons.

He even calls her names. And notice how he does this the moment Kara disagrees with him. A reaction that does more harm than good. On the other hand, when Kara and Lena disagree on something (in ep. 2x03) they simply talk it out. They ask questions, explain, clarify, and come to an understanding.

Now, I’m not here to say that I have NEVER agreed with anything Mon-El has said, actually I applaud him for accepting Maggie and Alex’s relationship the way he did, but that’s just the thing. The opinions/beliefs he has don’t come from himself. Most of what he thinks is based off of what he’s seen on Daxam. He really isn’t at all mature. He isn’t by any means and it’s simply the truth. Now hear me out-

This is what I mean by he isn’t mature: How many times has Kara asked him politely and specifically not to do something but without hesitation still does it? And how many times has he had to beg for forgiveness? 

In addition, he doesn’t have knowledge of what respect truly means. What’s interesting though about this scene in particular- is how it’s supposed to be a ‘funny’ scene. Mon-El’s character is written in as ‘funny’ and ‘aloof’… but it sends a poisonous message- that Kara’s feelings aren’t to be taken seriously. And this show is literally supposed to be about her. Not a guy who thinks it’s his duty to ‘defend her honor’ and then complains about it.

Now I know that this was how people on Daxam acted and their way of life was for the most part, sexist, racist, etc. But that still doesn’t give him an excuse to act the way he does. 

2) Lena herself comes from a family with twisted values as well. She is adopted into the Luthor family and has had close to no friends most of her life. And yet she’s still capable of being a perfectly decent person. 

She does save the alien population not once, but twice. So not only is Lena proved time and time again that she’s a good person, but her relationship with Kara (btw I call it a ‘relationship’ just like the writers do)… is not even close to toxic, detrimental, or abusive. It’s the complete opposite.

Protect yourself”

“I can take care of myself”

3) Being in a healthy relationship is about the effort between two willing people… at the same time, knowing your boundaries whilst encouraging one another.

4) Kara deserves someone who fully acknowledges her efforts and is grateful for them



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He asks me about you while I’m chewing a celery stalk. I shrug a little. I say I’m happy that you’re happy. My voice doesn’t shake. I sound professional and adult, like I peeled off all the parts of me that cling to you. He asks if I’m over you and I chew until my jaw hurts and I say, yeah, I think so. It doesn’t sound like a lie, even to me. It sounds like someone is shouting those words from the other end of a tunnel, like I’m not living in my throat anymore. He asks if I ever think about you. I say, well it’s hard not to when other people ask questions, ha ha. He doesn’t find that funny. I swim in the silence left over and then I catch the answer at the bottom of the pool like when I was seven and plucking river stones from murk. I say, I don’t unless something reminds me. It sounds diplomatic. Appropriate. I try to calculate the amount a normal person would think about you, dividing how much time we spent together by how much we are spending apart. In the new world, you’re not supposed to love deep, it’s creepy and offensive. People are supposed to fold in and out of your life like leaves; you’re never supposed to love hard enough that you get road rash from falling. Love doesn’t look good on Facebook, I mean. You took plenty of Instagram pictures carefully excluding me. I guess it was so when you went there would be no evidence. Nothing to delete.

He tucks his feet up. He asks how much I’m reminded of you. I blocked you on everything only to unblock you while I was drunk. I scrolled page after page thinking about how much the Internet killed love. Time was that if you were done with someone, you were done for good. The only way you could rip the wound open was by following them across countries. Snail mail doesn’t burn like seeing you happy, dancing with other girls. I’m saying the world was a worse place to be but I wouldn’t think of you as much, maybe. I say to him, ever think about how the 1950’s are super racist and sexist but people still fall for the aesthetic? He asks me what that has to do with the conversation. You would have got it. Some stuff is only pretty until you open it, like how pears go rotten once they touch air. I feel like that a lot, like my core holds onto little black seeds. And he asks me what I’m talking about. I say, oh, nothing.

LISTEN UP TUMBLR, THINGS NEED TO BE SET STRAIGHT.

In light of my post trying to spread some harmless positivity towards white, straight, and male groups, and the hate I’m getting over it, I feel this needs to be said.

EVERYONE HAS PROBLEMS. YOUR RACE, YOUR GENDER, AND YOUR SEXUALITY DOES NOT MAKE YOUR PROBLEMS ANY LESS THAN SOMEONE ELSE WHO HAS DIFFERENT RACE, GENDER AND SEXUALITY.

  • WHITES HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE PROUD OF THEMSELVES AND THEIR CULTURE AS MUCH AS NON-WHITES
  • STRAIGHTS HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO HAVE PRIDE AS NON-STRAIGHTS.
  • MEN HAVE JUST AS MANY RIGHTS AS WOMEN.

If you’ve caught yourself saying any of the following, please reconsider your life choices:

  • “All white/straight/male people should die.”
  • “Women deserve equal rights!” “Oh but she shouldn’t be punished so harshly for x crime because she’s not a man.”
  • “Men can’t be raped/women can’t be racist.”
  • “Black people/non-white people can’t be racist.” “You can’t be racist to white people.”
  • “You can’t be sexist to men.”
  • “Straight people don’t matter.”
  • “Your opinion doesn’t matter because you’re white/straight/a male”

If you have said any of these things, I hate to break it to you buddy, but you’re either Racist, Sexist/Misogynist, or Heterophobic (for lack of a better word). 

Lets stop this toxic mind set. Equality is not thinking this way about anyone.

  • “I hate black people” VS “I hate white people.”
  • “I hate gay people” VS “I hate straight people.”
  • “I hate men” VS “I hate women.”

THEY ARE THE SAME FUCKING THING. ONE THING IS NOT OKAY TO SAY AND THE OTHER NOT OKAY TO SAY. THEY ARE BOTH NOT OKAY TO SAY. YOU SHOULDN’T SAY THIS AT ALL. PERIOD.

  • Don’t shit on people for spreading black/non-white positivity
  • Don’t shit on people for spreading gay/non-straight positivity
  • Don’t shit on people for spreading female positivity

BUT ALSO DON’T

  • Don’t shit on people for spreading white positivity
  • Don’t shit on people for spreading straight positivity
  • Don’t shit on people for spreading male positivity

There is no excuse for this toxic behavior. If you can’t grasp that NONE of this is okay, then you have a serious problem. 

You are the problem.

It’s not that fucking hard to learn how to be nice to each other. You wanna be equal? Start by stopping hate based on these things.

And one last note, I don’t care who they are, or what they’ve said. Under no circumstances is it ever okay to tell someone to kill themselves for voicing an opinion. IT IS NEVER OKAY TO TELL ANOTHER LIVING BREATHING HUMAN BEING TO GO KILL THEMSELVES OR TO MAKE DEATH THREATS TO THEM JUST BECAUSE YOU DO NOT AGREE WITH THEM.

Wake the fuck up.

AND A DISCLAIMER: THIS IS NOT MEANT TO PUT ANYONE DOWN. IF YOU FIND YOURSELF OFFENDED BY IT, RETHINK YOUR OFFENCE AND TRY AGAIN. IF ANYTHING THIS IS TO EDUCATE PEOPLE.

“You can’t be racist to white people!”

You’re right.  But.

That is only one of the sociological definitions of [x]ism (let’s stick with race).  You’re pretty much explicitly describing ideological racism.

You’ll note that even this definition has a qualifier.  But in reality it’s only one of a variety of definitions of racism in sociology.  As you might expect, even within the generalized field of “sociology” people disagree with that definition.

The sociological definitions are stipulative definitions, ones that only hold true in some contexts and is false in others.  When you’re discussing society as a whole, institutions of power, and history you’re probably right.

But outside of that context, like when you’re dealing with individuals, the general definition of racism applies.

Notice that this isn’t referring to power structures, societies, or anything of the sort.  This is referring to the individual, which is within the realm of Psychology, not sociology.  The sociological definition doesn’t apply.

Since we’re not using universal definitions, let’s go with the Psychological definition of racism.  For the uninitiated, Sociology is the “child” of psychology, the same that physics is the “child” of math.  Sociology can talk about topics and discover things that psychology doesn’t focus on or deal with, but it cannot directly contradict it.  Sociology is a manifestation of Psychology, not an equal to.

If you want to make the statement that “white people don’t experience institutional barriers due to their race in the USA” then you’re right.  If you want to make the case that “black people cannot hold a belief or prejudice against white people based on their race” then you are demonstrably wrong.  It is entirely possible to be racist to white people.

You’re using the wrong words.  And, frankly, the way I see this phrase bantered about leads me with little more than the sense that people saying this, and things like it, are doing nothing other than assuaging their own guilt and denying the fact that they are horrible, vile, and racist/sexist/etc. people.

Client is every kind of -ist. Boss isn't having it, gets one client fired, his replacement replaced.

This happened a few weeks ago, and I’m still in awe of my boss, who made it happen. I work as a private security officer for a small but well respected company. The higher-ups are masters at getting contracted for big-name clients and they treat us employees very well.

We had been subcontracted by a larger security firm to run event security for a certain tech company’s event during a certain famous film festival. Some serious money was being thrown around to make this event happen, I was told $75k per day just to rent out the venue, $6 Million worth of equipment, the list goes on. It was a big deal. Our client’s representative, who we’ll call Paulie, was a New York native with a thick Brooklyn accent and wouldn’t have been out of place on the set of The Sopranos. He’d been flown in from his base of operations just to oversee this event. It soon became clear that he was going to cause problems. First off, the agreement between my firm and our client was to provide asset protection, meaning we were to make sure that none of the expensive, yet highly portable electronic equipment went missing. Yet as soon as we got there, Paulie decided to ignore all that and had us working the doors as glorified bouncers. All our previous instructions were to be ignored and Paulie was God. This pissed us off a bit, as we had picked our people with unobtrusive asset protection in mind, but whatever, we’re professionals and we’ll roll with it. Second, Paulie was an a**hole. Everything we did was wrong somehow, even when we did exactly what he wanted us to, we were doing it wrong. He’d berate the poor officer right in front of everyone. He’d change our instructions on a whim and get mad at us for not complying with the new instructions before everyone had a chance to be informed. Third, and arguably worst, Paulie was an -ist of every type. Racist, ageist, sexist, he was the worst. We brought in female officers and he’d inevitably stick them in the most out-of-the-way posts he could to make sure they didn’t have to interact with the tech people. Same went for every officer Paulie thought was over 35. Since we were working 12 hour shifts, we tried to rotate everybody through every post, but he’d take over the rotation and stick the “old” and female officers out of sight. It got to the point where we were seriously considering quitting the contract and we NEVER do that.

Enter my boss. Let’s call him Rick. Rick is ex military and his thing is he Gets Shit Done. Rick, like several of us, is a licensed Private Investigator as well as a Security Officer. Rick is borderline OCD when it comes to keeping records. Rick has hidden cameras. Rick wore a wire and recorded a lot of Paulie’s shit. That shit then hit the fan when Rick passed off supervision of the site to me for the day and went to a meeting with the higher-ups from my company and a conference call with the higher-ups from Paulie’s company, let’s call them D*cks and A**holes Inc, or D&A. The next afternoon, the A in D&A showed up and took Paulie into one of the rooms the tech people had been using for demos earlier that day and spent over an hour yelling at him. One of our people, a female officer with 15 years of experience, who had worked security at the freaking PENTAGON, and who had been shoved in a corner nevertheless heard the whole thing go down, as she was posted outside the door. According to her, Paulie said several stupid things, but the one that stuck out was, “These guys are weak! They’re bringing in freaking GIRLS…!” before being told to shut the hell up. Paulie was fired right there and escorted off the property. The next day, those of us who hadn’t been there to see it were told the whole story and we reveled in the fact that we wouldn’t have to deal with Paulie anymore. Morale, which had been at historically low levels, shot through the roof.

This would be a good place to stop the story, but as the infomercials say, “Wait! There’s more!”

A took over. Remember him? The A**hole in D*cks & A**holes, Inc? He was worse, in different ways. He was just as bad as Paulie, but he was much, much more subtle about it. And, I can’t stress this enough, he was an A**HOLE.

He tried to get me fired for talking to the client, the tech company’s people. The event was winding down by this point, and I had asked the guy in charge of the tech people a question about continuing security needs. Turns out, the tech company was taking their stuff out of the demo rooms and therefore wouldn’t need those rooms secured anymore, so we didn’t need an officer for that post anymore. A was livid that I had spoken to the client without his say-so and that I had “cost us THOUSANDS!” by so doing, which was total bullshit. A went to Rick and yelled at him about it, too. Rick, however, had my back and just shrugged the whole thing off.

This is going long, so I’ll sum up. Rick was eventually forced to employ the same tactics he had used against Paulie and another conference call was made. Turns out, D&A had been bought out by another company, and since A was a founder, he didn’t get fired, but he did get sent home and yet another guy from the bigger company was flown out to oversee the last few days. That guy was pretty cool and we had no further problems.

The icing on the cake is that the tech company had seen all the bullshit my people had been put through and had been impressed with us. We’ve been asked to provide security services for their next event.

if jk rowling wanted me to like snape she should’ve given him a better redemption arc than “i wanted to bang your mom”

🕊💙🕯🔮❤️🕯💙🕯❤️🔮🕯💙🕊

🕊Emoji Protection Spell🕊

❌Keep all bigotry at bay❌
🚫May hateful eyes look away🚫

❤️May love speak louder, today❤️
✂️May homophobia stay away 📌

🕯May acceptance light our way🕯
🚷May racists live in shame🎯

🕵May sexists be put on display👠
💋Make them known, make them pay💄

👹May those who stigmatize💩
👀Feel watched by knowing eyes👺

🙊May transphobes be silent👂
💯May us witches remain resilient🔥

🕸May bigots be exposed and caught🕸
🕷May us witches feel strong and fear not🕷

(I purposely used a lot of red to enhance the power of this protection spell)

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anonymous asked:

Can you fill me on what happened with jontron??? I'm really confused?

Hoo boy, anon, let’s get this shitshow a-rollin’

So once again, the malignant, tumor-like growth on the lower back of YouTube’s body, aka JonTron, has been really throwing himself into the fire more and more as of late, and while many people (like myself) aren’t really surprised that he is still as awful of a person as he’s always been, many people are shocked and appalled at just how much worse it’s gotten.

Here’s a quick recap of all the gross things he’s said thus far:

And that’s just the receipts that I, personally, can pull for you at the moment, dear anon. However, if anyone else has things to add onto this list, please, by all means, make this a masterpost of why JonTron is awful.

anonymous asked:

Is there a word for people who are abusive only some of the time? Like as long as you don't show as being part of a certain group?

“Abusive.”

Well, depending on what groups you’re talking about, maybe “bigoted” or “racist/sexist/homophobic/ableist/etc.” would fit, but there’s a larger point I want to make:

A person who abuses others gets no bonus points or special status just because they aren’t always abusive.  “He only gets that way when he’s stressed out.”  Well, no shit, very few people lash out when they’re happy, but the measure of a person is being decent all the time.  Including when it’s difficult, including when you feel like shit, including with people you don’t like, including with people who aren’t doing what you want.

(Decent doesn’t mean nice, and merely being grouchy isn’t abusive.  But if an act is abusive, it’s abusive no matter what emotional state the abuser is in.)

Also: if you’re constantly having to hide your true self around someone to be safe, or constantly micromanaging your words and actions to keep them happy, that means that they are constantly abusing you.  They may not be yelling or hitting, but they’re still controlling you with the thought that they might start at any moment.

Someone who only abuses you when you displease them is abusive.  That’s the word for it.

I swear to god some of y’all are driving me up the walls like

Do you understand that it is okay to enjoy something and still recognize that it has issues?

Like look, I fucking love The Raven Cycle. Amazing books. 20/10. Definitely a favorite series of mine. But they have racist and sexist stuff in them! And that is bad and inexcusable! I’m not going to deny the mistreatment of Henry and basically all the women just because I like the books. 

SJM’s books are problematic. There is no way around it. You are still totally allowed to think they’re the best series ever, the only people who are going to try and stop you are assholes, but you have to acknowledge the flaws! Because they exist! Trying to defend the way SJM treats her minority characters and her lack of diversity does not make you a better fan, it just makes you seem ignorant. 

There is no such thing as a perfect book or a perfect author, and the sooner we realize that and calm down enough to give creators actual constructive criticism, despite our opinion on their content, the better content is going to become overall.

i love how trump supporters use words like “special snowflake”, “feminazis” and “liberals” in such a seemingly insulting way as if those words could ever compare to the gravity of “racist” “homophobe” “bigot” “sexist” “misinformed” “foolish” “cruel”  “fascist” “nazi sympathizer” “hypocrite” “ignorant” “cheeto”

Folks often rag on TVTropes and its various imitators for being cliquish and badly organised, but I’m inclined to think their real crime is the work they’ve done to popularise the notion of “subverting” tropes - i.e., the notion that if you want to defy a trope, all you need to do is identify its most salient features, then do the exact opposite.

This idea has wormed its way into a great deal of online media analysis, particularly when it comes to discussion of racism and sexism in media; how often do you see a book or a film roundly praised for “subverting” this or that problematic trope?

The trouble is, that doesn’t actually work.

Most of the time, the exact opposite of a sexist or racist trope is merely another sexist or racist trope.

It’s insidious like that.

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If I say something racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic etc or discriminate: Please tell me, and whats wrong with what I said so I can learn and grow from my mistake.

If I tag you in a tag game: It is totally up to you if you want to do it or not

If you want to unfollow me: Just do it, I won’t get offended

If you want to block me: Just do it, I wont get offended.

I use bro, dude, man, girl, gurl, bruh, woman, lady, mate and more all gender neutrally: but if I call you any of these and it makes you uncomfortable, please tell me and I will change it.

Trigger Warnings: If you have a trigger, please tell me (send an ask or message me privately) and I will try my hardest to tag any posts.
I’ll use food as an example to show you how I tag my posts. #food tw, #tw food, #tw. I already tag people with #body image tw and a few others that don’t come up very often, like abuse, death, knife, guns and food.

If I reblog something that wasn’t meant for me: Please let me know. Also by this I mean if I reblog a post about bpd, it wasn’t created for me to reblog as I don’t have bpd.

If you think that there should be something one this list: Please tell me as I want you to be comfortable and different people have different experiences meaning that they each have different things that make them uncomfortable.

A little side note: I edit this post a lot, I re-word stuff and add more to the list as well as other things. So please, every once and a while have a look to see if I’ve adding things. Also if the link in my description isn’t working, direct message me straight away please.

You being comfortable is very very important to me, do not be scared to tell me or do something that will make you feel better.

Ilvermorny Headcanon Train! *toot toot*
  • On 4th of July, despite the teachers’ many attempts to prevent it, there’s no stopping the fireworks. Students casting fireworks everywhere (and I do mean EVERYWHERE) as they zoom around on broomsticks, the more experienced students creating complex fireworks that look like creatures (dragons, phoenixes, etc.), and the houses competing to see who can make better fireworks (every year Thunderbird wins, because they have a reputation to uphold. How can they lose when their house mascot is a bird that literally creates thunder in the sky?).
  • Thunderbirds and Horned Serpents getting along really well. They both enjoy reading (Thunderbirds more for the imaginary adventure, Horned Serpents more for the mental stimulation), and with the Horned Serpent’s vast amount of knowledge they’re very handy to have around when the Thunderbird decides to go adventuring. Also, they love coming up with crazy theories intermingling the Horned Serpent’s known facts and the Thunderbird’s wild imagination. 
  • Since Wampus represents the body, they are huge activists on transgender rights and body positivity. Being comfortable with your body is very important to them. On that note, not all Wampuses are athletic, but they don’t let their lack of athleticism prevent them from being total badasses. You can’t ever use their weight against them, because their determination and confidence will prove you wrong. 
  • You think Thunderbirds and Wampuses have a rivalry? Ha, yeah right. The real rivalry is between Pukwudgie and Horned Serpent. Both houses are known for their excelling students, and thus they are often competing to see which is the smarter house. Science fairs are like battlefields, exam days are thick with tension, and lord help us if there’s any trivia games. They often have duels just to see who knows the most complex spells. 
  • Instead of owls Ilvermorny uses hawks and eagles, but let’s be honest here, they’re hardly used. Why send a hawk when you can literally just write a Email or something? Students at Ilvermorny are not above No-Maj technology. 
  • Pukwudgies will laugh in your face if you ever compare them to Hufflepuff. You do realize their house mascot is known for poisoning people with darts, right? And just because they represent heart doesn’t mean they’re nice and gentle. It just means they wear their hearts on their sleeves, and for some that means angry outbursts, mean tempers and heated arguments. And some believe tough love is a necessary part of healing.   
  • Don’t ever be racist or sexist around a Wampus, you’ll end up with a bloody nose. 
  • Cranberry pie is served EVERYDAY, much to everyone’s amusement.
  • Pukwudies get special treatment from the goblins themselves, though the goblins fiercely deny it.   
  • If you think Hogwart’s feasts are amazing, try visiting Ilvermony during Thanksgiving. Pukwudgies have their hands full with easing stomach aches as students eat way more than they should. 
  • Since Wampuses get hurt a lot they often turn to Pukwudgies for help, and thus there is often strong, loyal friendships between the two houses. Pukwugies often fuss over the Wampuses taking better care of themselves (because they act like their bodies are impenetrable) and the Wampuses will DESTROY anyone who messes with their nerds. They are like a support system for each other. More often than not you can not find one without the other.   

So I’ve noticed something recently among tumblr users, especially who I assume are young. (I hope anyway.) And it’s basically boiled down to forgiveness and redemption are impossible.

Now before I get into it this isn’t directed at a single event, person, or action or anything like that, it’s just something I’ve seem multiple times over the past year on this hellsite. I haven’t been here very long in comparison to a lot of people. But I keep seeing these scenarios:

“___ did this once so they’re a hypocrite if they say ___ can’t do ___ because they did it too!”

“Just because ___ said sorry for ___ doesn’t mean they aren’t a complete piece of shit.”

“___ is horrible and you shouldn’t like them because they ___! Just because they’re trying to be a better person doesn’t mean they’re anything more than what they were!”

It’s… honestly kind of worrying. If you really think that no one’s apology or actions mean anything, how can anyone ever become a better person? Once you make a mistake you’re doomed to be terrible forever with no way to prove yourself otherwise or to right what you’ve wronged.

Obviously there are exceptions to this, especially when it comes into more personal territory like forgiving family or friends. I’m not saying that you should forgive everyone, but I do think that you should at least acknowledge when someone is trying to become a better person, or says they’re sorry for doing something wrong.

And acknowledging someone’s apology or attempts to become a better person is not the same as accepting it.

Acknowledging it is like looking at it and saying: “I see that you’re sorry and that you’re trying to be better, but I can’t trust you. I wish you the best on the path you’re taking now, and proud that you’re making efforts to change yourself, but I’m going to put distance between us.”

Accepting it is like: “I take your apology to heart, and I’m glad you said it. I’m willing to give you another chance at becoming a better person, and I’m going to be here with you along the way.”

I think why seeing this trend bothers me so much is because I was that asshole.

Now a lot of you don’t know what I was like when I was younger and I’m glad for that, but basically all you really need to know is that I come from 4chan. I was your typical troll. I made people’s daily lives worse for the fun of it. I liked doing it. There’s honestly no other way to put it. I was a jerk and I had fun being a jerk. I was racist and sexist and anti-Semitic. I was your typical 4chan piece of shit of the early 2000’s.

There are plenty of reasons why I did what I did. Coping with depression, trying to fit in, etc. But that doesn’t excuse from them, and there’s really no possible way for me to go back and apologize for every little remark I made, or every person’s day I ruined. The only way I can prove I’m better than that, that I can change, is through my actions, and to apologize whenever I happen to slip up from here on out.

But the fact that I was once a piece of shit human being, to some people, means I’m unforgivable and past redemption, and nothing I ever do will make up for what I’ve done in the past.

And when someone thinks that, or worse, verbally says it to someone who might not be as resolved to becoming a better person as I am, it can set that person right back to how they were, and you’ve lost what might have been a friend or ally, or someone who could do good in the world if someone had just given them a chance. And in doing so the only thing you have accomplished is helping the world burn.