in a ironic way

Abled people seem to think that most people’s problems can be solved by just having a little confidence.

It’s ironic that they think that, because the best way to completely destroy someone’s confidence is to give them oversimplified advice, which they do all the time. When you give someone oversimplified advice, you make it possible for them to do it wrong while technically doing exactly what you say.

For example, imagine that you struggle to make friends. Someone gives you oversimplified advice like “talk to people”. You take the advice and try to meet people by saying hi to random strangers. It doesn’t work, because most people don’t like random strangers approaching them. However, you followed the advice exactly, and you’ve probably seen plenty of characters on TV who have no trouble meeting people that way. You try the advice again by starting a conversation with your classmates at school. But because you don’t actually know what to say to them, it just ends up being an awkward, forced conversation that doesn’t lead anywhere. Eventually, you start to think, “I’m doing exactly what I’m supposed to do and it just keeps blowing up in my face. There must be something wrong with me.”

If you really want someone to have confidence, the best thing you can do is believe them when they say that they can’t do something, and either explain to them step by step how to do it or help them find an alternative that they can do. If you do that, they’ll think, “I can’t do this the exact way that other people do, but that’s okay. There are other ways to do it.”

anonymous asked:

idk i've said 'i wouldn't know' or things like 'dont ask me' in a completely sarcastic and ironic way and i'm american

Americans its ur time to shine, plz confirm 

*dabs* is a really powerful action that conveys many emotions i really cant wait until dabbing irl falls out of fashion so i can start using it “ironically” in the same way i use swag now

anonymous asked:

Hey, I'm someone considering joining this group for the first time as Queen Ismaire, but I was just wondering... Since you seem to have so many headcannons surrounding your character's relationship with her... What would happen if I suddenly jumped in with a queen who doesn't exactly fit your idea of her? I wouldn't want to upset what's already been established. I could just pick someone else if it would be too much trouble. I'm also considering Myhrr, Neimi, or Natasha.

ooc; Man, I wish I could answer this on private but–if one ever goes through my backlog of Ismaire/Gerik, you’ll find it tagged with ‘#self indulgent bullshit’. Because it’s mostly that. A late-night shower-thought of a crack-ship that I suddenly had way too many feels for. That thing you said ironically and then kept saying and somehow stopped saying ironically. It’s less ‘established’ and more ‘Gerik-mun is a filthy badger with thirst’, ha ha.

What would happen–as with any headcanon-ing in FERP where an untaken muse is involved–is that previously existing HCs would be re-negotiated or rescinded as discussed. Which is something I knew would be a possibility and am willing to do with you (as any of us would be)!

tl;dr - we’d be happy to have you as any of the above. ;O Niche characters are cool to play.

If you find Jesus’s response offensive, please at least consider this: If someone says to you, “The main problem in your life is not what’s happened to you, not what people have done to you; your main problem is the way you’ve responded to that”—ironically, that’s empowering. Why? Because you can’t do very much about what’s happened to you or about what other people are doing—but you can do something about yourself. When the Bible talks about sin it is not just referring to the bad things we do. It’s not just lying or lust or whatever the case may be—it is ignoring God in the world he has made; it’s rebelling against him by living without reference to him. It’s saying, “I will decide exactly how I live my life.” And Jesus says that is our main problem.
—  “Deeper Healing” Tim Keller

Fanon Lotor be like

i am not even sorry just take this

I am so afraid that I am going to waste so much of my life being sad when I should be living. And not just living, but living vibrantly and loudly. I want to read more, travel more, learn more and talk to more people without feeling held back by the confines of my body. I no longer want to feel like I am drowning, sinking, falling or being swallowed up whole by something monstrous. I want to feel alive, lovely and brilliant, even for a moment

Are you Kidding Me

Okay so I was messing around with a scenario generator. Where you input characters and it comes out with a scenario. So for fun I put in Bugs and Daffy as the two characters and of course the first thing to pop up was…

wOw

WOW

This is scenario is just too preposterous. 

Like, that’s never gonna happen.

Why would-

Either of them

Ever 

Dress in drag. 

Nope.

You’re drunk, scenario generator.

 It is so obviously so out of character that these two would dress in drag together. 

A Reminder:

cis ≠ transphobic

straight ≠ homophobic

white ≠ racist

male ≠ sexist

able bodied/minded ≠ ableist 

being any of these does not make you a bad person, don’t ever let tumblr tell you that who you are is a bad thing. lets spread love instead of hate alright? ♥