impressing people

anonymous asked:

She says she is Shia and she lives in the US (immigrant?). So my guess is that she's from a Persian/Iranian background. Really "white" is such a broad racial concept that she actually fits the category. They are both ethnically and linguistically related to Europeans, albeit distantly. It's no more stupid than "black" referring to sub-Saharan Africans, Afro-Latino, Afro-Caribbean, and African-American people. My impression is she's in there to point out how blackout/whiteout are ridiculous.

Nah it says that she’s Iraqi. 

I don’t think blackout is ridiculous AT ALL. It’s a harmless form of self-love. Black people deserve to love themselves and see that they are loved. Other races could find other days to be all happy about their race. Blackout is meant for black people to express themselves in the form of looking at each other and not at celebrities. It’s for them to be happy about their skin tone and race, not about exclusionary sentiments. Whiteout could have happened any other day but some people decided that self love was too much for black people. 

Blackout is about positivity and black self love. 

How To Be Awesome at Networking (For Extroverts and Introverts Alike)

At the risk of sounding off as a gab-exhausted, horn-blowing egotist, I have but a confession to make: I am really good at networking. Like, scary good at it. I have the ability to connect with almost anyone, from anywhere, of any race, creed, religion or age, and it’s been this way for a long as I can remember.

I certainly have my faults when it comes to creating lasting relationships, and not everyone in my past has been my biggest fan, however I haven’t let this hinder me from creating a powerful social and professional network in my short lifetime. As a child I had to adapt at times to rapidly changing social situations. I was constantly pushed out of my comfort zone and was forced to make new friends often, not for professional reasons at all, but merely as a means of survival. I quickly learned how to make lasting impressions with people and to this day, I still remain in contact with people from my childhood.

I’ve used this as a platform in my early career to begin building a solid professional network. As you may know, networking is generally accepted as crucial to your career as maintaining an updated resume/portfolio and acing your performance reviews. I’d like to share some things I’ve found to be successful for me while trying to navigate something that can feel so unnatural and disingenuous to most people.


Assume you can learn something from everyone.

Everyone knows something you don’t. Probably more than just one thing. With this attitude, coupled with a penchant for listening and a courageous ability to keep a conversation going, you will be astounded at what people will tell you. I don’t even mean this in a vulture-like nature; people generally like to share information and anecdotes with people they are even slightly comfortable with. It doesn’t matter if they are younger than you, elderly, or speak an entirely different language. Everyone’s experience is totally unique, and that’s amazing in itself.

Ask sincere questions, not only because you’re curious, but because you care about the answer. Listen to the trials and tribulations of other people. Everyone is fighting some sort of battle in their own life, and that information may not ever come up in conversation, but thinking about it in this way makes your connections more sincere, caring and fullfilling. By doing this, it has taught me that I can learn from everyone else’s experiences in some regard, whether that’s how to successfully complete a task or how to address emotional distress in others.

What does this have to do with networking you ask? Networking gets a bad rap because it’s often thought of as insincere, self fulfilling and a bit shallow. It doesn’t have to be, and the best connections and referrals will usually come from people who know and trust you. You may even stumble upon finding a great mentor-mentee relationship in this fashion.


Not everyone will want to connect with you.

There are 8 billion of us on this rock known as Earth. Not to state the obvious, but there are literally billions of chances to connect with others. Who cares if one person isn’t your biggest fan? This sounds simple, but honestly it took me years to get over the fact that I couldn’t be friends with everyone I met. I always felt like I was fun, smart, loving and full of things to offer other people. Not everyone else saw it the same way.

Part of being good at networking is being selective of who you choose to get to know. Generally speaking, if you’re at a networking event it’s a good idea to target people who are going to be most relevant to whatever your end goal is. If you want to gain a new client, target business owners and company leaders. If you want to expand your skill set, talk to people who have been in your shoes in the past.

This sounds contradictory to the “Learn Something From Everyone” point I just made, but an unfortunate truth of our existence is that we only have so much time and energy. While I would certainly love to take the time to get to know everyone personally at a networking event, the reality is that I just can’t. Be selective and choose wisely, and don’t sweat it if some people aren’t keen on your efforts. They probably don’t matter anyway, and it’s useless trying to make them see why you matter.


Cold emailing can actually work, but do it wisely.

I landed my first big freelance client this way. I was reading an article about Pittsburgh startups to keep an eye on in the upcoming year and I decided, what the heck, I’ll email them all and see what comes of it.

I wasn’t just sending my resume through the tubes, though, I was being resourceful about how I went about it. I used LinkedIn to find out who was in charge of the marketing efforts of these organizations and sent my message to them directly. I explained briefly what I did, how it could benefit them, and a link to (not an attachment of — don’t clutter someone’s inbox) of my portfolio and resume. A few of them responded back, and I ended up working consistently with one of them.

Be careful about this, however, because it definitely can backfire. Some people may not appreciate being stalked via LinkedIn (weird, I know. Since they have a profile on a professional social network and all.) It’s important not to come off as self-fulfilling, but rather how are you going to benefit this organization? Do some research about the company, and be genuinely interested in it. And of course, produce stellar work and maintain a great working relationship to the best of your ability. This is also how you can get referred, and have reviews written of your work.


Get yourself out there. Literally. Go outside.

I had a profound attitude shift when I stopped thinking of local events as things I could do for fun in my spare time and instead starting thinking of them as grounds for meeting other professionals in my city.

Fun events that don’t even seem like networking events are a prime example. Let’s say you decide to attend something like a wine-tasting tour (which, by the way, I highly recommend you do at some point between now and death.) People attending this sort of event will come from all walks of life, and many various industries. Usually if you’re attempting to provide a service to someone, it’s a good idea to start your search outside of your industry. Go to something fun, and make it a point to talk to a stranger. It might feel weird, but most people are cool about it and will talk back. Even if nothing professional envelopes out of it, you might just meet a new friend instead.

Also, do volunteer work! The benefits of this are multi-fold. First, you get to fill a real gap for an organization and make a real difference in the life of someone else. Also, you get to go to some pretty cool events for free. I started volunteering with an arts organization that allowed me to work on a holiday event for them, as well as attend a jazz music fest which was really stellar. It just so happened that at one of these events, I talked to the director of the center who let me know that they were currently seeking a designer on a freelance basis. I started working with them the following week.

Volunteering is also a great add to your resume. It shows that you have interests in growth outside of work and the drive to make it happen. It also can allow you to get a feel for an industry outside of your own. Craigslist is a good starting place for this, however there’s also a ton of websites dedicated to doing volunteer work. Check out WWOOF, an international organization that places volunteers with organic farms worldwide in exchange for free housing.


Become social media savvy.

This is a big one, yet so many people are totally unwilling and uninterested in participating online in social media. I get it, Facebook is a breeding ground for ridiculous posts and opinions and keeping up with content creation can be daunting for someone who’s already up to their eyeballs with work to get done. I had a conversation with one of my best friends recently about this, though, and we agreed that social media participation is, at this point in the human timeline, not just expected, but rather critical.

Facebook is, however, amazing in the way that for the first time in history humans can individually connect with any brand, anywhere, at any time and with ease. This is powerful and can be harnessed to your advantage. Using hashtags to propel your personal brand is a good way to reach outside of your established network. It’s also a good way to connect with other people in your field who may be able to share some insight. This applies to Twitter and Instagram as well.

Being plugged-in to social media will also help you stay on the curve of the most current trends and techniques in your field. It may also provide some much needed inspiration when you need it the most.

While it’s pretty apparent that your public content should be curated to best represent yourself (so leave off the questionable pictures from that dinner party three years ago,) recruiters on Reddit have noted in their AMAs that candidates who don’t have social media profiles at all are viewed as more questionable than their connected counter-parts. This makes total sense when you think about it; if someone doesn’t have an online identity at all in this day and age, it suggests that they have something to hide. This isn’t fair, but it’s just the way humans think.

After a long Twitter hiatus I recently rebranded myself and created an entirely new account dedicated solely to things in my professional sphere, and I’m glad I did. It’s given me insight into the field, connected me with other designers and art directors, and given me a platform to share with potential clients who want to know what makes me tick.


Go confidently in the direction of your goals.

Rome wasn’t built in a day. This is especially true for building a network. It’s intimidating to many people because sometimes it’s hard to decipher where to start.

Don’t think about it too much. Just get out there. Talk to someone. It might feel weird and unnatural at first but you will find that it snowballs after a bit. You will find that many, many people are more willing to help you than you think. And you will find that things are usually not as difficult to achieve as they seem in the beginning. Taking just one step in the direction you want to move is as imperative as taking the last step to reaching the destination.


Lastly, as an endpoint, I’d like to clarify some differences in approach depending on whether you consider yourself an extrovert, an introvert, or a combination of both (in fact, most people are.)

Introversion in it’s truest form can be a hinderance to the core foundation of networking: the conversation. I would encourage those who feel a bit more inwardly directed to take a leap of faith, along with a deep breath, and start with a simple “hello.” Getting your body close enough to another human to even begin talking to them is a good starting point, seriously. Most people are more open to your advances than you think. Don’t think so hard about how to keep the conversation going. Let it go. Elsa style. (I’m sorry for that reference.) This is something that gets easier with experience, just like anything else in life. You may even go as far to call yourself slightly extroverted afterwards — from the privacy and comfort of your own space, that is. Plus, other introverts that want to connect with you but don’t know how will be thankful you made the first move.

It’s easy to think that extroverted people have the advantage with building a network. The reality is that they don’t. Extroverts can have a tendency to bubble-over with enthusiasm and have troubling reigning in their truest selves, which is great and I don’t mean to kill your vibes, but it can also lead to anxiety, too many unorganized prospects to follow up with, as well too much talking and not enough listening. It’s important that you take the time to hone in the right people, ask pertinent questions of them and truly listen and be invested in their answers. I used to, and sometimes still do, feel a need to canvas a room and get to know everyone on a general basis. It’s what personally makes me comfortable in social interaction. I’ve learned that this is a flawed approach. You can’t be everything to everyone.

Whether or not you like a big network of people surrounding you or you prefer the solid relationships you have with just a few, there is no right or wrong here. Everyone is different and when we embrace our preferences instead of altering them to suite what we think works, that is when we are most successful.

/googles how much distance a Horse can travel in one day.

/stares at how little that is in my state

…Wtf how are the guys gonna get anywhere and head into different COUNTRIES wtf.

…wait.

/scrolls map out and starts comparing European countries’ sizes.

Hahahaha right the USA is just ridiculously fucking large.

jonesashcroft asked:

5, Dan/Jones

Oh, brilliant, this fits an idea I’ve been kicking around for a while actually. Dan/Jones, Things you didn’t say at all

~*~

Dan didn’t ask questions.

He’d learned over the years that it was best not to; questions led to explanations, and when those explanations were coming from the idiots at SugaRape it was probably best to continue in ignorance. Even worse, asking questions gave the impression that people could then ask him questions in return. Dan couldn’t stand that.

Living with Jones didn’t make his no-questions policy harder, as such. It just made it different.

Dan didn’t ask the DJ why he still put up with him, for example, though that was mostly just self preservation. Even after so long- especially after so long- there was a nagging terror at the back of his mind that Jones would realise how useless he was and just drop him without a second thought. So that was the first, and the most important, of the things he left unsaid.

He saw a lot of stuff while living in the House of Jones. Some of it was amazing- some might even say beautiful. Often he would wake up in the mornings to find the walls a different colour, a paint-stained Jones wandering cheerily past, and the world would look a little brighter. But he didn’t know how to react to situations like that- he never had- so he’d left that unsaid as well, and hoped that Jones would notice the extra sugar in his tea.

Once he’d come back from work early to find Jones pressed up against a wall, another man’s hand down the front of his trousers and a stream of gasps and moans fluttering from his lips. Dan had turned and left before either man could see. And he had said nothing. Two weeks later, when the bruises shone harsh and painful on the younger man’s skin, Dan hadn’t asked, but his hands curled into fists of their own accord.

The silence was deafening. Dan began to understand why Jones needed his music.

He still didn’t understand why, on the rare occasions that the DJ actually slept, he did so wrapped around a pillow like his life, his very being, depended on holding on. Sometimes he wished he did. Sometimes he wished Jones would spend his evenings curled up to him instead. Either way, he didn’t say.

After the incident- Dan refused to call it anything else, and he was sick of hearing the words ‘suicide’ and ‘therapist’ hidden behind closing doors when he knew it had been nothing more than an act of sudden desperation- he had stayed silent when Jones had finally come to see him. With the others there was at least something to say, even if it was just an insult. Jones was different. He was like an assault on Dan’s senses.

It was too much.

He allowed Jones’ presence to overwhelm him. Hands slid into long hair, clutched at torn shirts, tugged and moved and grasped until there was nothing else. Dan’s lips searched out every inch of skin they could reach, pressing burning declarations against the younger man’s neck in the hopes they would convey the things he wasn’t able to.

He didn’t tell Jones he was okay. He didn’t tell him that he was sorry, or that he was going to make things right for them. He didn’t tell the younger man about his plans to quit from SugaRape, to start again.

He didn’t tell him that he loved him.

The tears trickling onto his shoulder told him that Jones understood all the same.

Chick Flicks to Watch On a Girls Sleep Over

How many times have we stayed home instead of going to that night club everyone has been talking about JUST because the weather decided to be a bitch?

Right! We’ve got a solution! 

PAJAMA PARTIES!



Who doesn’t like them? They’re the best way to spend a rainy night! And a great opportunity to bond with friends and luckly to make them talk about their crushes!

So gather the nail varnishes, the blankets and pillows and some candy! We’ve made a list of chick flicks to have a perfect girl night! 


THE BREAKFAST CLUB, 1985

"Spend a little more time trying to make something of yourself and a little less time trying to impress people."









CAN’T BUY ME LOVE, 1987

"I don’t care too much for money, money can’t buy me love."










DIRTY DANCING, 1987

"Most of all, I’m scared of walking out of this room and never feeling the rest of my whole life the way I feel when I’m with you."








DEAD POETS SOCIETY, 1985

"No matter what anybody tells you, words and ideas can change the world."






HEATHERS, 1988

"The extreme always seems to make an impression."










PRETTY IN PINK, 1986

"I live to like you, and I can’t like you anymore."










SIXTEEN CANDLES, 1984

"If this guy can’t see in you all the beautiful and wonderful things that I see, then he’s got the problem."











THE OUTSIDERS, 1983

"Hate to tell you this buddy, but you have to wear clothes to work. There’s a law or something."










CLUELESS, 1995

"Searching for a boy in high school is as useless as searching for meaning in a Pauly Shore movie."








PRETTY WOMAN, 1990

"People put you down enough, you start to believe it."








ROMEO + JULIET, 1996

"Did my heart love ‘til now? Forswear its sight. For I never saw true beauty ‘til this night."














10 THINGS I HATE ABOUT YOU, 1999

"But mostly, I hate the way I don’t hate you, not even close, not even a little bit, not even at all."












BREAKFAST AT TIFFANIE’S, 1961

People do fall in love, people do belong to each other, because that’s the only chance anybody’s got for real happiness.”












THE NOTEBOOK, 2004

“They didn’t agree on much. In fact, they didn’t agree on anything. They fought all the time and challenged each other every day. But despite their differences, they had one important thing in common. They were crazy about each other.”










LOVE ACTUALLY, 2003

"True love lasts a lifetime"








Mamma Mia, 2008

"I don’t care if you slept with hundreds of men! You’re my mom and I love you so much!"











Here’s a whole list of rad films if you want to kick the weather in the ass! Call some friends, build a massive duvet fort and choose a couple of movies! 

I promiss you, the rain, wind or snow won’t bother you and your glittery nail polishes!


somebody tell me whether or not non-black people are allowed to say the n-word in any circumstance, even when they’re criticizing its use. 

i’m arguing with someone and i don’t even really know…i’m just basing what i think on my impression of what other people have said, but idk i don’t think i’ve ever heard anybody explicitly come out on one side or the other

musings-of-a-manic asked:

Though I'm sure you are already quite aware of this, Falkor truly is a beautiful animal. I look always look forward to hearing about his progress and seeing him, whether it be in pictures or short videos. Thanks for sharing your baby with us in this way. Sorry to bother, and I hope you have a nice day.

No, no bother at all, thank you for your message!

Honestly, before this, I hadn’t had the chance to pick out a horse that was just for myself, because it was always about whatever my mother thought would impress other people; I got to pick Mirrormere’s sire, but that was only because my mother found out he was coincidentally also fairly well regarded; before that she was trying to force me to breed my mare Arwen to her poorly conformed uncle (because she’d heard someone talking about liking him, never mind that whatever foal they liked of his wasn’t the result of ill advised inbreeding… she actually has terrible judgement in horses which makes this very ironic…).

Getting Falkor has been really awesome, but getting a horse which is just about making me happy is a very new and weird feeling still. I love him and am thrilled to just have this chill nice chunky horse, who I’m very excited to work with, but there’s still just days where I’m just choked up with anxiety because I constantly doubt myself and feel like if my horses aren’t perfect then I’m garbage. I know it shouldn’t matter if other people love my horses because I love them, but it’s nice to get the occasional reminder that I’m not just deluded.  :)

For trueloveisunexpected

I’ve realized after some time,
that you can never fully make people
like you, and accept you
for who you are.
And some,
don’t even bother
trying to,
some don’t even
want to
get to know you,
or understand you,
for the interior
rather than the outer
parts that you show.
So stop letting yourself
get so caught up
in wanting so badly,
to impress people
who don’t deserve
your best.
You are worth, a lot.
And there will always be,
some, who are too blind
to see you for what you are.
In the end,
it won’t matter
because you do not deserve
having people in your life,
who can’t see you
for more than what
you choose to show.
—  Keen Malasarte, "This is my farewell to the friends that don’t live up to the name"
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harry stops in the pouring rain to take photos with fans and hands out cupcakes to fans out of the window of his car and buys more cupcakes for his colleagues and treats even those who disrespect his privacy with a level of understanding and respect and i’m just quite intrigued and impressed by how such a curiously unique and beautiful soul exists in the body of a 20 year old pop star that is consistently beaten and bashed by the media and the rest of the world and remains as unfalteringly calm and kind as he did when he first began