How To Be Attractive

 Whether you think you are ugly or attractive - you’re right. The perception we hold of ourselves dictates the way others perceive us. The vibration you give out into the universe determines who and what you attract to you. If you maintain the belief that you are ugly - you will see this manifest in your life.

Changing the perception you have of yourself is the key to changing the way others perceive you. The universe understands what state of mind you are embodying - not what you want others to think of you. If you want others to perceive you as attractive - you must first hold this perception of yourself.

Easier said than done, right? Of course, because those who consider themselves to be attractive are seen as “full of themselves”. This is an interesting saying because it illustrates the fact that these people have filled their own cups instead of seeking their fulfilment from the outside world. 

Having confidence about one’s own looks can be difficult in a world where we’re surrounded by media imposing their views on how we’re “supposed to look” to be considered attractive. I have seen that comparing myself to people in magazines, advertisements or TV shows is irrelevant.

The overwhelming majority of these people are promoted to us as the “ideal” so that we begin to doubt ourselves. This self-doubt is exploited so that companies can sell us products to look more like those considered attractive. Make-up, supplements, accessories, jewellery - these are just a few examples.

Regardless of your looks - there’s one key attribute that you must embody if you would like to feel attractive and that’s confidence. Loving yourself first signifies to the universe that you are embodying the love vibration - which you will see reflected outside of you in those you meet & how they respond to you.

The greatest way to doubt yourself is by comparison to others.

Peace & positive vibes.

The moon is a loyal companion.
It never leaves. It’s always there, watching, steadfast, knowing us in our light and dark moments, changing forever just as we do. Every day it’s a different version of itself. Sometimes weak and wan, sometimes strong and full of light. The moon understands what it means to be human.
Uncertain. Alone. Cratered by imperfections.
We must be willing to be completely ordinary people, which means accepting ourselves as we are without trying to become greater, purer, more spiritual, more insightful. If we can accept our imperfections as they are, quite ordinarily, then we can use them as part of the path. But if we try to get rid of our imperfections, then they will be enemies, obstacles on the road to our ‘self-improvement’.

Chogyam Trungpa

“And if I am a rose

I do not want a boy

Who will cut off my thorns

In the name of love.

Because I would rather wait,

Through wind and rain,

For one who

Does not wince

When he touches me;

And does not run

When my edges

Become too rough.

I would rather wait

For one

Who sits outside

During the storm

Instead of fleeing indoors

To escape the rain.

I will wait for the boy

Who is not so terrified

To love thorns,

But instead

Holds them close to his heart

And into his chest;

All the while whispering:

I love you,

I love you,

I swear it,

I do.”

—  Excerpt from a book I’ll never write #49