How do you tell the difference between comp het and genuine attraction? I'm bi but sometimes I question whether I like guys or not because sometimes guys piss me off and I find that I like more girls than guys but I feel genuinely attracted to some guys???? Idk
Some signs of comphet are:
-Being with men seems like something not particularly fulfilling or enjoyable that you just have to do anyways.
-Being with men is something you don’t mind in your imagination but when it comes to real life interactions you realize being with them feels uncomfortable, dull, or just lacking any real sustainable spark.
-Thinking about being with men seems only “livable” or “survivable”
-You tend to think of ideal relationships with men as basically being completely platonic, attractionless friendships with the title of boyfriend or husband slapped on
(Example: My actual idea of a perfect husband when I thought I was straight was a man who would be my best friend and never exhibit any form of romantic/sexual attraction towards me and live in a separate house lol)
-As soon as a guy reciprocates any signs of attraction you suddenly aren’t interested or feel repulsed
-The men you imagine yourself with seem faceless, abstract, and/or unattainable while “attainable” men you could have a relationship with never seem to meet your standards
If some of these describe how you feel about men then you may be experiencing comphet. However, just feeling annoyed by how shitty men are and preferring women doesn’t necessarily mean you aren’t attracted to men. It’s okay to be bisexual with a preference. Especially when that preference stems from how terrible men can be. In the end it’s up to you to decide if what you’re feeling is genuine attraction or comphet.