“Stop talking for a second and just… let me tell you something.”
I had this idea about if Keith and Lance got stranded in space and for some reason the team can’t get to them or doesn’t know where they are, and they think they’re gonna die so they finally confess to each other. 😏
But then the team finally comes and rescues them and they’re forced to actually deal with their feelings.
[image description: a graphic featuring text laid over two boxes of different shades of blue.
the first box is smaller and contains two headings, “So your buddy’‘s disabled:” followed by “How Can I Help?” in quotation marks.
the second box is larger and contains a list of five subheadings and descriptions, which are as follows:
1. Pity parties are boring. I don’t need you to tell me how awful my life must be or how sorry you are that I have to deal with it. I don’t care. I’m doing exactly the same as everyone else - managing with what I’ve got.
2. Don’t assume I’m incapable. I can still open doors for myself and hold a conversation. Even with a crutch. Blind-blowing, I know. It’s frankly a little insulting how quickly people will rush to ‘help’ me when I’m using a mobility aide. If you’re not sure, then ask first! Or alternatively, wait for me to ask you.
3. Let me grab you on the stairs. Stairs fuckin’ suck and I may have to grab something very quickly in order to avoid collapsing. Sometimes that something may be you and I am always very grateful for your presence in this situation.
4. Meet in accessible spaces. If you choose to sit somewhere I can’t get to, i.e. upstairs, then I’m left with three options: a) I kick up a fuss and make you move, b) I get hurt by forcing myself to join you, or c) I sit on my own. None of these options are ideal for any of us but they could all be avoided if you’d sat somewhere else.
5. Listen to me. My condition and how I’m feeling with it changes from day to day, and what was fine yesterday might not be today. I will always try my best to communicate what I can and can’t manage; all you need to do is keep an open mind and listen to what I’m telling you.]
Not all of these points will apply to everyone with a disability, but certainly the 1st, 2nd and 5th should apply to almost everyone. I often find that nobody really knows what to do when they discover that I’m disabled, and I’m often asked “how can I help?” but never have much of an answer, so I finally thought I’d put together a masterlist for my friends to take a look at.
Due to popular demand, I did “Pegasus” after all.
Pegasus is a genus closely related to Gryps (griffins and hippogriffs), which was once widespread across Europe and the Americas, but underwent a sharp decline following the last ice age. The most famous species, Pegasus olympius, is not actually found in Greece but in parts of Northern Europe and Russia, but was named for its resemblance to its mythical counterpart. It is about the size of a large deer and ranges in color from white to speckled grey or greyish-brown. “Pegasette” is the smallest species of Pegasus, and the only remaining in the Americas. It is a textbook case of Insular dwarfism.