Since I write a lot of little stories with characters that use they/them pronouns I have run into a problem. The distinction between an individual person and a group can be difficult to discern when you use they/them. We’ve mostly all had this problem before either in writing or in talking, though there’s not much to do when you’re speaking.
While I was writing about celestial beings, which is what I write the most about and they all use they/them pronouns, I began to capatalize They/Them for indiviuals. It’s not new to do this when it comes to higher beings. In Christianity they refer to their god with capatalized He/Him pronouns out of respect. For my work it’s always been less out of respect and more for distinction. No one would question it in my stories because they’re gods but it got me thinking, could I use this in all my work even if they were non-celestial beings? Something that would be specific to the capatalized They/Them pronouns is that it would confirm that yes, these are the person’s pronouns. For characters where you just don’t know their pronouns and/or gender yet, lowercase they/them are still used.
Would this confuse too many people? Could this be easily taught and learned?
People who don’t use they/them pronouns have a hard time understanding them. It frustrates me when I hear that it'not gramatically correct. It shouldn’t be my job to educate them or make things easier for them. This could be something that many could be opposed to but for those who don’t use they/them and have a grasp on them it could be something that becomes popular outside of the LGBTQIA community. I am all for normalizing they/them pronouns. I am all for normalizing nonbinary and transgender people.
BUT it’s never my focus to cater to everyone else. My community comes first and this is for my community and not them. This would be to help us but it has a promising effect for those who are not in our community. I want to know what you guys think about this. Tell me your thoughts. Express concerns. If you don’t use they/them pronouns yourself then I would appreciate if you didn’t directly comment on this for now but express yourselves in your tags 💛💛
A little brief summary:
They/Them- characters who are confirmed for using they/them pronouns.
they/them- a group or a character who’s pronouns and/or gender are not known.